/improve/ - Self Improvement

>>1543
How often do you text her? Show a screenshot of your conversation, blurring the names of course. Then it may become clearer why this happens because just with your post alone, it's pretty hard to determine the reason especially if it's something that happens "EVERY TIME".

So post a screenshot or screenshots of your conversation with her.

>>1545
sure. fyi we were supposed to do pee stuff. give me a sec

>>1547
I realize "very good" is not the most suave thing to say in response, but it's hard when she doesn't really inspire any lust in me. She's gross looking.

I'm going to guess that these women get cold feet. Maybe it's fun to talk about doing things, but when it comes time to meet you for dirty sex, it doesn't sound as fun anymore?

Also, how do you not sound like a dicksucker when talking dirty to a girl?

I feel stupid when I try to talk dirty.

>>1549
I guess. But it's just really unreal to me how it plays out like a script. First we make plans to meet, we talk some in the intervening time, and then the day of, they stop responding to me. Every time.

I seriously start to wonder if it's some cosmic misalignment bullshit where because I'm expecting the girl to blow me off, the universe makes it so

the problem here is that you're shooting for shitty women in a shitty place, i don't know what you expect. if you're attractive you shouldn't have to resort to craiglist and actually want to go after the woman you've pictured – meet women in real life. at parties, concerts, events, etc. also check out theredpill i think that'll help you because this reeks of betabux. pce

She got cold feet, plain and simple. Maybe you didn't make her feel comfortable enough or maybe she realized she didn't want to fulfill the fantasy (probably the latter).

It's a risk when meeting up for sex and especially with out of the norm fetishes.

Don't go out looking for a girl to do this stuff with, every time I've searched for a girl with the intention of sex it's ended badly, it's almost as if they can tell.

The best thing to do is concentrate on yourself, go out as much as you can but not with the sole intention of finding a girl. If you meet someone you like, take your fucking time. They may turn out to be a stupid bint like this one. Ease yourself into the sexual stuff.

Think of all the cool shit you could do in the time you spend trying to bed these swine.

She's attractive. That's probably why you're so disappointed.

You do yourself no favours by calling her a "pig". You're just elevating her importance in your life. She isn't a "pig", she's nothing to you.

Maybe you should try to cultivate a relationship rather than go on Craigslist to fuck "pigs".

Maybe she got cold feet. Maybe she never intended to meet up, let it go to far, and was too nervous to say so. Maybe she is secretly a man pretending to be a woman on the internet

Whatever the case, no-shows and cancelled plans are just part of online dating. You've just gotta get used to it.

>>1543
OP
1.) Why do you care so much about sex? Try to establish an emotional connection with a woman. Rewards should follow. Notice how i didn't say "wine and dine her". Don't pretend to care about her feelings for a grand total of 2 hours, legitimately care about what she has to say.

2.) Referring to people as "pigs" is not praiseworthy by any stretch of the imagination. It makes you look like a narrow minded jackass that nobody sensible would want to spend any time with anyway. Fix your attitude to your fellow (wo)man.

reddit.com/r/theredpill

Read the sidebar. Apply to your life. Judge based on results.

>>1654
Legitimately caring about women outside of their fuckable holes?

Maybe if you're looking to settle down. But if you're a young man looking for a good time, fuck that.

It could be a million reasons. She might have had someone else come over, she might be insecure about looks or herself, her phone might have broken or whatever.

How you react is important. Don't let women dictate your mood or you're going to be shitty all the time. I always send out "we still good for tonight?" Style messages. women are just flakely sometimes even ones you know and have slept with a few times can all of a sudden bail. Don't assume it's because you are doing something wrong that will just make you angry.

I learned a lot of stuff from a youtube called RSD (real social dynamics) which is pua. There is a lot of fluff but a lot of core shit like dont make rejection personal find something funny about it and move on, approach as many girls as possible without thinking about rejection or outcomes. Its all free informatiom and it helped me a lot and I noticed a difference in meeting and sleeping with women. It also helps in relationships to a small degree.

>>1543

Why would you go after her if you consider her a pig?

>>1624
She's not that attractive. Average, maybe. She's clearly overweight.

>>1663
This. Rethink it. Also, my first experience was with casual sex, and it scarred me.

Please stop caring so much about sex. Masturbate and be done with it. Tell her you're very hurt that she'd stand you up, and consider cutting contact.

>>1657
This

>>1672
>Tell her you're very hurt that she'd stand you up, and consider cutting contact.

Close. Just cut contact.

Also, OP, feel free to keep trying, but don't get too invested. Keep texting to logistics only. Give her 15 minutes leeway. Don't text her with your where-are-yous. She's the one who's late; it's her responsibility to keep you informed. Then block her number and do something else. Go see a movie, go to a bar, whatever. Just make sure it's fun and something you enjoy.

This is outcome independence. You stay in control and have a good time, regardless of what others do.

>>1543
Just curious, did your conversations revolve around you wanting sex, or you wanting "her"? There is a difference.

I won't claim to be an expert, but in my experience, more than anything, women want to be lusted after. They don't necessarily see sex the same way that men do (which is to say, as a "goal"). If it was just about sex, then she might think of the encounter as two humans acting as masturbatory aides, which isn't that sexy.

You said she is "cool", but did you ever tell her she was hot? What about her is hot to you? If the answer is "nothing much" then move on.

Unfortunately, because women want to be objects of desire, some women realize the power they have over men and enjoy the attention. So, they string along random guys they meet on the internet. It happens.

>>1551
don't talk dirty over text, keep it to logistics

OP stop looking for sex with disgusting landwhales.

Don't refer to her as a pig. Makes you look extremely bitter. You were about to have sex with her, so what does that say about you?

If you weren't attracted to her, why were you trying to meet up with her? Real attraction is key. When they can *feel* that you want them, it comes naturally to you and makes them feel sexy. Otherwise it's just awkward.

>>1818
You sound real mature :3

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