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Feeling stagnant Anonymous 03/16/15 (Mon) 00:42:51 No.1569

Hey there, /improve/, I'm currently going through a bit of a rough patch here. I'm a college student in sophomore year at a pretty good (and therefore really fucking hard) university and I'm trying to get my life on track.

I let myself go physically because classes are hard and muh STEM degree, but I'm starting to exercise again and get back in shape. I've got a pretty chill gf, we play Diablo and shit all them time and we've been dating for a year and a half now. I couldn't have found a better girlfriend one, and I'm not going to have any real debt because I'm from a poor family. I have a lot going well for me, and yet I keep having these call of the void type thoughts just like, "Hey, I should go fuck that girl over there because I can" or "Hey, I should just fucking drop out and drive my way out to Washington or Colorado ad live there and just chill all fucking day."

I can't help but wonder if when we talk, this is what I'm going to be doing for the rest of my life and I don't know if I'm ready for that kind of shit. It's that kind of thinking that makes me wonder if I'm actually stagnating where I am or if I'm just being a little bitch about it. That and I feel like I haven't learned anything since I got to the university. Classes are so hard that I basically can't get by without looking up answers from chegg and shit like that.

Any advice is appreciated, and I'm also curious how you guys keep yourselves on track for getting in shape. That's a big thing, too.

Anonymous 03/16/15 (Mon) 02:08:50 No.1572

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I'm talking out of my ass here but that's just your id trying to fuck you over. Then again, you COULD bang other chicks. Its not like you're married and wouldn't you rather that happen than your gf cheating on you with tyrone it'll happen eventually and it be you left out in the cold? Maybe it's imageboard users or maybe it's people in general but we're very self destructive. And I do not know why.

>I can't help but wonder if when we talk, this is what I'm going to be doing for the rest of my life and I don't know if I'm ready for that kind of shit. It's that kind of thinking that makes me wonder if I'm actually stagnating where I am or if I'm just being a little bitch about it.
I think it's quite good that you're questioning your circumstances. At least it seems part of you is still grounded in reality rather than completely believing the happily ever after story. Skepticism and a HEALTHY dose of it will protect you from a lot of people in the world. Especially those trying to part you from your dollars. I'll delete what I had posted here and say this, there's a lot of things out there that you can do and be a part of, you just have to stop being a pussy and go out and DO. Also have money

>That and I feel like I haven't learned anything since I got to the university.
I don't know what to tell you here. I dropped out of CC and honestly learned more about health/personalfinances/life/etc from halfchan and the internet than I ever did any "educational" institution. Granted you're in a higher level but IRL and the controlled environment that is school is p different. Mostly because you can directly apply things that you know to real problems which is very gratifying. that and libs get curbstomped by reality

You can go balls to the wall researching more about what you study in your off time but that's extremely hard to do if you're not an autist. I hate to say JES B URSELF here but really, just read stuff that relates to you regularly so that you are intimately familiar with it before you know it.

Ideally that's what one should be doing but in practice it's hard as balls. Like soda just cut out the things that waste your time. News, dumb friends, and reallocate that time accordingly. I quit playing video gamesME3's ass fucking was the straw that broke this camel's back not really though it was probably poor form, quit my anime/manga obsession, and just started to get 'real control of my life. I was tired and much in the position you are now. Afraid that that was all I would ever do. Work, anime, video games, and rot away like that. I was having a nervous breakdown almost. Crying myself to sleep wondering how I could keep at it for another 40 years. Eventually you pull yourself together becuase thats what humans do. Now, I just have my little list of things I want to do and like magic they eventually get done. No really, it takes work but whatever.

>Any advice is appreciated, and I'm also curious how you guys keep yourselves on track for getting in shape. That's a big thing, too.
I had an injury about 2 years ago that stopped my lifting dead in its tracks. I only picked up recently but with cardio and general calisthenics. I just keep plugging away at the couch to 5k chart. Seeing as how the past 2 years have been as close to hell I've ever been painwise that i can run again is so amazing to me that i just want to go back.

My advice. Get YNAB and practice budgeting. It really changes the way you think about not just money but delayed gratifcation. In fact, start learning about money NOW NOW NOW NOW. Learn about insurance, roth/401k/simple ira's. Learn why Obongo's MyRA is a complete and total joke. Learn the difference between Term and Whole life insurance, Learn about life and dental insurance. Learn about futures contracts, etfs, index funds, learn about this shit because money is probably the #1 or 2 thing that will determine your quality of life. Other is your health.

You have school and a goal, it seems you have the financial side of it under control(if you don't you best do it yesterday), you have a gf and a decent one at that….Honestly, if you're not suicidal you have it made. Just sit back and relax. Plan out a couple of paths but other than that let the chips fall where they may. Go out one night, look at the stars and really admit that one day you will die. Hell, envision yourself on your deathbed wrinkly hands and all. That day is coming a lot sooner than you think.