/improve/ - Self Improvement

Some information about me.

>No job
>No gf
>Hard to talk and get along with strangers, takes years to form a bond which would take others months
>Losing motivation to lift
>feel sad and depressed all the time
>Cant express my feelings to my friends
>My hobbies are writing and drawing but I suck at both
>I wish to be a great song writer but i'm patheic

New hobbies are a no. Not interested

get a job.

>>1710
>no job
Get a job or take steps to get a job. That means an apprenticeship or study.

>no gf
Go lift. Oh, you already lift? Then get nice clothes (check /fa/), get a good haircut (again, /fa/), get Tinder and start swiping. Practice cold-approaching chicks in the day. Consider read some game books. /pua/ has a resource sticky, or you can try some of the other game sources. like plebbit.

>losing motivation to lift
Fuck you I'd kill to be past this starting phase of lifting

>feel sad and depressed all the time
More sunlight. More socialising. More doing stuff. It's harder to be unhappy if you're successful. Force yourself to do stuff. You'll be happier for it.

>Can't express your feelings to friends
What feelings do you want to express? You're a dude. Not expressing feelings is the default, and pretty good, societally speaking. That said, learn to speak frankly. Tell your friends what you want and how they can help you. Don't just feeling-puke on them.

>I suck at my hobbies
That's fine. Practice more. Learn more. Look for community groups and hubs. I'm sure there are creative writing groups out there, or drawing circles. Join online forums for it if you have to. Set goals related to your hobbies. Read books about them. Make a concerted effort to improve in them. Don't be that writer that never writes.

>I wish to be a song writer but I'm pathetic
Firstly, a self-esteem boost is needed. Even if you suck at the moment, you need to reframe it as 'I suck at the moment, but will improve', rather than 'I'm pathetic'.
Secondly, have you considered joining a local band, or learning to sing or play an instrument yourself? That could be a way to expand your hobby base in a productive and connected manner.

>>1710
>No job
Do things that will improve your CV like maybe getting a few online courses done on stuff like working with excel etc. Volunteer or get work experience. Spam your CV to a lot of places. Get friends to recommend you to their employers.
>No gf
>feel sad and depressed all the time
If you can't be happy single, you won't be happy in a relationship. If you want to get a girlfriend so you can fill a void, I wouldn't recommend it, I'd advice you to first fill that void and then get a girlfriend. Using external validation as a source of happiness is never a good idea, because if she leaves you, you will be in rock bottom and a mess. Not to mention the fact that because you were mentally unwell when you went into the relationship, you might end up being clingy, over jealous or even fall back into depression once you get used to the relationship. Start working on yourself and your mind, continue going gym and start journalling. This link covers why I mentioned journalling: http://www.depressiontoolkit.org/takecare/journaling.asp
Also, fill your time with productive activities, this will distract you from your negative thoughts and will make you feel good.
>Can't express my feelings to my friends
In my opinion you should avoid doing this. Leave venting for your journal or on anonymous forums but not to your friends. Most people don't know how to approach a situation like yours and will get intimidated if confronted by it, or if they don't get intimidated by it, expect shitty responses like "just be happy man". More than likely they won't understand what you are going through and it will actually make you feel worse. Also, most people don't want to hang around a person that is negative, especially if they don't understand so pretend shit is fine in your life when talking to your friends. When you start recovering you will be grateful you didn't, I learned this the hard way.
>My hobbies are writing and drawing but I suck at both
>I wish to be a great song writer but i'm pathetic
Practice makes perfect. For all 3 learn the theory of how to each so your practice is efficient as opposed to just winging it and hoping you'll improve.
>Hard to talk and get along with strangers, takes years to form a bond which would take others months
succeedsocially.com is pretty useful

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