/improve/ - Self Improvement

>>2165

>>2159

>>2170

>skype group

i can dig it

rockl_balboa

>>2662

Well put man

>>2664

Sent you an invite.

If anyone else wants to join the /improve/ skype group add: Johndoegg

We currently have around 19 people.

Mainly I want to have useful hobbies and skills and cut all the bullshit from my life. I need to work on improving my work habits. I've been reading some /min/ stuff and I want to save enough money to retire extremely early so I can spend all my time learning and improving skills and enjoying life. Socially, I don't have many friends so that's one aspect about myself that I need to improve. The problem is that I enjoy time alone so I don't feel inclined to make new friends. I've been excercising so I can feel more confident about myself.

I'm 19 years old, and have bad depression and motivational issues.

I graduated from high school by abusing all the cracks in the system, then dropped out of community college twice before getting a job at a chemical manufacturing plant. It doesn't pay shit, I make $900 a month if I'm lucky and make overtime.

Once I dropped out of school for good I felt happier than ever before but I was/am still unhappy. Right now I'm working on building good habits to try to become a more successful person. If willpower is like a muscle than I can hardly dead-lift 45 pounds, but I'm slowly making progress and getting better. Eventually I want to be able to go back to school and enjoy it, and get a certificate in network administration. After that I want to save money until I can become a landlord and own rental properties.

I browse /improve/ every time I hit my willpower limit, I'm here today because I'm burnt out from spending the last few hours cleaning the house while my parents are away. I only have a little bit more to clean until I'll be hitting a big goal of mine, then I'll try to relax and start again after a couple of hours.

>>1981

Just dive right in and make your first bow, it's really easy and you'll be happy once you do it. I make wooden swords, and after making only a few I finally made one that makes me proud every time I hold it.

>>2952

You sound like you're doing a whole lot more than I was at that age and with similar issues. You're definitely on the right track man, keep pushing.

>>2953

Thanks a lot mate, I will.

>>2952

I was in your position once. Graduated early, was on the right track, but because I had no plan or motivation I dropped out of college and took with me 2 years of my life, no degree, access to financial aid and my gpa.

Started working and have been slowly building myself back up after my fall from grace all those years ago. Certifications are basically what got me going. I'm back in school now looking at stuff I'd never thought I'd be interested in but ghosts from my past still haunt me. GPA being one

So chin down hands up nigga. Look at certifications for your line of work and go from there. If you're going to do this for real be honest and realize that you're going to need money. You have your foot in the door of an industry, see how far you can move up.

You'd be surprised how little people IRL care about moving up. That or how fearful they are about the unknown.

Long story is long, bare with me.

>at 17

>think I'm some shit

>graduating HS a year early

>taking classes at community college to skip GE classes in college

>full-ride ROTC scholarship

>eagle scout

>total qt3.14 gf who thinks I'm a boss nigga

>go to Philmont (scout camp, ITT hike around in the New Mexico forests for a week)

>adult leaders backstab me

>feelsbadman.jpg

>gf is christfag

>wants to bang but won't let herself

>too pussy to press the issue

>feel bad for not being able to get into pants of girl who so obviously wanted me

>go to college

>wasn't nearly as fit as I thought

>ROTC PT kicks my ass

>can barely keep up

>be weird asshole who didn't fit in with school culture at all

>spend too much time on halfchan

>never get enough sleep

>feel like shit constantly

>have blogger blog that no one read

>post shit about contemplating meaning of life

>someone apparently read it

>thought I was suicidal

>told school administration

>they drag me in in the middle of the night

>be idiot about it and get kicked from campus for last week of school year

>decide to leave ROTC, along with my scholarship

>about this time realize I'm trans, partially reason for leaving ROTC

>next year okay, cool roommate, do alright in classes

>third year, roommate an shit

>they get me a studio apartment on campus for no extra cost

>teim to fap

>start crossdressing privately

>also making booze in room

>>2958

(gf broke up early second semester for some stupid shit I said on facebook)

>housing does security checks on rooms

>find my stash of girl clothes

>talk to RD

>fuck up and say I'm trans

>they do another room search for some reason

>find my booze and some pocket knives

>hauled in to judicial committee

>kicked off campus, expelled at end of semester

>spend a couple days on the streets

>go back to parents house

>try to continue education through community colleges

>don't really have will to succeed

>be NEET on and off for the next few months

>realize I can do private security

>get guard card

>convince parents I need car

>get shitty $800 beater

>build some expereince with event security

>land steady employment

>now working night shift which lets me post on here through the middle of the night

>car is actually a decent car, just needed a shit ton of work

>getting it fixed up to sell

>planning on getting armed guard license

>taking classes to go into craft brewing

>haven'touched girly stuff in over a year now, but still plan to transition eventually

>overall, things are looking up

>>2959

>plan to transition

>things are looking up

Fuck, why cant you just try to be an androgynous man?

(Or just get medical testosteron, to fix your issue the other way around)

Transiostioned people always, fucking always, look like hideously mishaped caricatures of the gender they try to mimic.

No matter how hard you try, be it with makeup breasts or other shit, your hand, baonestructure and other little things will always betray your efforts.

You will look off.

Dont fucking do it.

I rather would get thrown into a random body of another race and gender, then being stiched together into one of these sad abominations that get hailed as "couragous" for giving to their lunacy in these rotten times,.

>>2959

Things I am improving/intend to improve on, in no particular order:

money situation:

>want to get started driving with postmates or grubhub for extra money

>set up an actual budget, right now I pay my bills, drink my fill, and throw the rest at my debts

Fitness:

>started running again

>need to quit smoking

>want to lose about 30-40 lbs

>trying to develop lower body and core, let upper body lose mass

Transition:

>not sure if I should go human skelington mode first so fat only grows where I need it to, or if it will redistribute on its own.

>debating with myself as to whether or not to go through a psychologist first

>think I might just be an autogynephiliac. part of me wants to hide from the answer to that question, but I know I need to face the truth

>know I'll never get that petite trap look, aiming for more womanly curves

education:

>continue with craft beer cert

>learn about the basics of running a business

>keep reading Austrian economists

Other suggestions?

>>2962

Not always. Maybe if you have some kind of stratospheric standards, but I've always considered the way t-girls look a little "off" kinda cute.

I've never thought androgynous men were very attractive at all.

Maybe if all fails, I'll have my breasts removed and take T, but I'm going with this plan until then.

>>2963

I really liked smoking, but vaping is just as good for a fraction of the price and much healthier. Give it a try if you don't really want to stop it for good, from there it will be easier to go down in nicotine levels and kick it anyway.

>>2968

Ah, and autogynephilia is the shittiest reason to transition. You're basically giving in to your lowest instincts, it's a terrible idea that will shape your life negatively for a long time, if not forever. Don't fucking do it man.

>>2964

>stratospheric standards

T-girls look abominable and that has nothing to do with high standarts.

Im not one of these delusional fucks who can only get off to 10/10 models and camwhores, its just that most men are attracted to feminimity.

Thats a thing t-girls absolutely lack, even if they try hard.

Get testestorone or just try to look androgynous. Everything else might bring you immense unhappyness and neglect by society.

(InB4 "I stand over the flat beauty standarts of society". You dont. People will rightfully treat you different and you will suffer from that.)

>I want to learn to program in Ruby

are you an hipster or something?

oh well video related :3

im 18 getting into my 19

I've took 15kg in the last two years. my social life died at the same rate. I will spent the next 3 month doing simply 4 thing. running, programming, working and reading. I still get invited to some event once a 2 week. weight loss is my only real goal. cause I know that last time I was fit, I talked to anyone and socialized.

I just discovered this board. I think i'm going to be an active user for the whole summer :3

>>3093

And the labor theory of value does? Please, tell me more about how an ideology that directly led to the deaths of tens of millions is somehow useful int he real world? Oh, and by "directly", I mean "the leaders who murdered or starved their own citizens were demonstrable adherents of marxism", as opposed to claiming that everything that isn't communism is capitalism. Go ahead.

>>3095

>if you don't agree with my anti-science religious beliefs you must be a commie

Grow up kid

I don't think I was handed faulty cards, but I do think I made so many stupid mistakes in my life that the mess I'm currently in could become inescapable.

My circumstances are shit and I'm pretty sure my peers and family are aware of this. They're aware that I am a loser and I can always feel a sense of pity when I talk to them.

Past 2 years I have been trying to dig myself out of the hole I've built and I'll admit, it sometimes seems like I'm only making the hole deeper. I've never viewed this as negative. I never liked playing any of my games on easy mode and all of the challenges I have add an extra level of difficulty.

No matter what happens, I am going to get out of this hole and I'm going to fucking make it. I'm going to be the person I envisioned myself to be. I am constantly changing my strategies for improvement, tweaking things, looking for new ideas, coming up with my own. And I am 100% sure I will find something that will save me and get me out of this hell.

19, USA, going for BA in computer science

want to get straight A's from this semester on

want to learn taco so i can actually talk to my family (grandparents, uncles etc., my immediate family speaks english)

want to get fit again, i did a triathlon a couple months ago but ever since have had trouble keeping up with exercising

want to stop fapping for good, been trying to quit for years and only managed 22 day streak, im super addicted

want to write music, ive played guitar for 6 years now but i still kinda suck

want to get stop being such a shy awkward mess, how do you even do this??? people always say "just put yourself out there" "just come out of your shell" if it were that simple i would be normal now

want to stop wasting so much time on the computer

want to make like-minded friends to play board games with

>>1992

same man

>>4049

>just put yourself out there

I understand this sentiment but it still fucks me off when people say this

my short-term goal right now for this month is to learn linux command line well enough to replace windows for my personal use, except for my PC gaymen. i installed Elementary OS, and I like it a lot, but apparently it is for plebs? Other than that OP I have nothing interesting to say about myself other than i am just on my computer a lot and I have no friends so I like to learn things online, from history to math to programming to economics.

16 years old

I already gave up fapping, possibly for good.

I lift, but I have trouble doing it regulary.

I know 3 languages (2 fluently, 1 not so good) and I will be learning a 4th soon.

What I want to do is start spending my free time on something good - sadly I just waste it all on the computer, because during the week because of school I have almost no time and when I do, I just want to rest. I only have time during the weekend, but for some reason I still waste it. I plan to start reading books and walking and pick up some fun and useful hobbies but I don't know what to do.

And I want to improve myself and my personality, all the time.

I'm kinda bad at social interactions but it doesn't bother me too much.

23 yo here

My goal is to try to get /fit/, I've done good on the weightloss part so far, but like everything, I kinda get bored if it isn't a little entertaining, so I though I'd mix up my trainning a little bit. I'll soon be following muay thai or another fighting sport, dunno which one. I'll start swimming too starting this week.

So that's my short-therm goal coming to a result, now if I can just keep it up, it'll be perfect.

Otherwise, I've been reading a lot, and I do recommend "The Way of Men" and "The Rational Male". I also have some others coming in the mall this week, so I'll keep on reading anyway, but I've set myself a goal to read at least 1 hour every evenings.

I just started to go out more often, as my daily life was a shit ( go to work - come home - go to sleep after doing fucking nothing, even on friday evenings).

Maybe going back to college next summer.

And finaly, learning to play music is one of my long-therm goal, eventually. I just need to buy the guitar to begin with.

>>4145

>And I want to improve myself and my personality, all the time.

Me too man

34 yo old. I'm not really shy exactly, I'm loud and funny, but I do get anxious and nervous in some situation like everyone does (speaking in front of a group, asking a girl out, etc).

I've suffered from major depression most of my life. I've been off meds for about 18 months now. Trying to /improve/ and /fit/ and /yoga/ my way into a better me. Also getting into /agdg/.

I used to be a super-weeaboo and even majored in /jap/. I'm a much more mellow weeaboo at this point. :^)

I also found out I'm 1% jewish, so I quit going to /pol/.