No.1917[Last 50 Posts]
I'm 19 years old. I used to be very naive and shy, but I understand society and women so much better.
I used to look 4/10 due to bad harstyle and glasses but now I've better hairstyle and I switched to contacts. Even I suprised I was naturally 7.5/10 handsome guy.
In my loser day I had 2 best friends (now 3)
they are alpha but they get cheated on when they lower their guard against girls.T took a lesson from it.
I'm stil pleased they backed meup in highschool but we're living on different citiest since we start to university.
Right now I'm trying to be like them. They have always people to talk about irl, but I don't have unlike them.
Trying to /improve/ myself socially and trying have /fit/ body.
I'm turkish kebab and I wish I live n Euro countries, people in there act more nicely imo.
So /imp/s what's your story?
No.1920
I am 32 years old
Used to be absolute neckbeard
lived on a minn wage job
but then I went back2college
got a mechanical engineering degree
got a job at an aeronautics facility
met some bros there
live in Texas
and I am soon to be married
No.1921
>>1920OP here, since I start university. I having hard time getting friends.Any advice?
No.1922
>>1921What I did, though since you're in Turkey this might be different was go to bars just once in a while, or go to a shooting range, and since im a /tech/ wizard too at a job conference and eventually as I kept going there and meeting regulars I made some friends
eg go to places where there's things that interest you and you might find others
No.1923
>22
>searching for job for half a year
>have tried two different schools but cant find one that doesn't make me seriously consider suicide
>cant talk about feelings without having my family call the cops on me.
i just want a alright job and a CS degree, im not a picky man
No.1924
>>1922damn I wish I live Euro-countries. I guess I'll try to find people in college. 've firends in college but they hang out 5 guys and no girls. This destroy my swag you know what I mean
>>1923where are you from?
No.1925
>>1917Hholy shit!! Im a kebab too dude!! istersen yardımcı olabilirim
No.1926
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>>1925hangi şehir? Ben bursadanım. Klaisk /r9k/ dakiler gibitam umutsuz değilim, bahsettiğim gibi potensiyelim cidden yüksek ancak, en iyi arkadaşlarım üni'ye gittikten sonra biraz yanlız kaldım. 3. en iyi arkadşımla steamden tanıştım 1 hafta onlarda kaldım. Yani bazen çok iyi arkadaşlık yapabiliyorum.
Ama çevre yapma konusunda iyi değilim.Tavsiyeye ihtiyacım var
Resim çok alakasız :D
No.1927
>>1917Good on you dude, that you've started to work on yourself is means the hard part is already over. Learn to goal set and become goal oriented and you'll set.
>>1920TEACH ME YOUR WAYS GRANDMASTER
I'm in Texas as well, fugg this is a small world. One day I hope to get my Mech degree as well but it seems impossible to me some times.
>>1923Don't give up man, keep trying. I wish I could say more but we were all in your situation at one point.
As for me, I'm 21 living in Texas, graduated early from HS at 17 but realized I'm a crap student and dropped out of CC. Got a job around 19 as an inspector and worked my way up to better work. Currently working on my NACE CIP II cert(for coatings) which is a lot of what I've been doing lately. Also doing a Technical 2 year AAS at a local college for NDT work which I do as well, found it by coincidence since I needed more background on a specific branch of NDT and was incredibly impressed by the curriculum.
I became very goal oriented around this time last year and in the past 2 years have saved about 20k, got into guns, paid off my car, got my health up to speed, applied for school again, got a couple of certs, got raises, did lasik back to 20/20, opened and funded a personal Roth, fixed my work IRA to a more proper target date fund/only matching, in general fixed my finances.
I'm still crap about interpersonal relationships and have no gf
almost shagged a fatty but bailed the fuck out of thatI've done about half of my goals for this year already and the future has never looked brighter and clearer than it does at this moment. One of my big themes for this year is
Escape. I live with my parents but I'm getting everything ready so that if I ever feel like bolting I have everything in place to do so and won't have to wait and have something holding me back.
My biggest dream right now is to complete the Subsea Engineering program of UoH. It just seems impossible to me though so I'm trying to put it out of my head.
No.1928
>>1926Ben gaziantep.Ben de Üniversiteyi bu sene kazandım,normalde mersinliyim.Arkadaşlarımın hepsi gitti,Antepte de kimseyi tanımıyordum.Zamanla bikaç kişiyle arkadaş oldum ama bölüm sağolsun (tıp) sosyal hayatım 0. o yüzden ilk başlarda arkadaşım yok diye üzlüyordum ama sonra yalnız kalmak zorunda kaldım.
Öncelikle /improve/da olman çok güzel.Kendini geliştirmek istiyorsun.Bbunun için bir kaç blog ya da site önerebilirim. (
http://www.arcitea.com/) Anladığım kadarıyla ana sıkıntın sosyal hayat.Dediğim gibi pek tavsiye verebilecek bir durumda değilim ama denemem gerekirse:
1.Biraz 'Game' öğren.Ciddi anlamda yardımı oluyor
2.4chan veya edgy subredditler kullanıyorsan bırak,muhabbette zorlanırsın.
3.'How to win friends and influence people'ı oku.Epsilon yayınları türkçeye çevirmiş sanırım.
4.Üniversitene odaklan.Derslerine çalış.Kütüphanede,kampüste takıl.Etkinliklere git,ortak zevk sahibi olduğun insanlarla tanışabileceğin şeyler yap.Üniversite bu anlamda en iyi yer,insanlar daha rahat oluyor ve sosyalliğe daha açık oluyorlar.
5.Sporunu yap.Diyetine dikkat et.İyi görünürsen iyi de hissedersin.
Şu an için aklıma bunlar geliyor.Ben hep buralardayım :D Sorunun olursa yardımcı olmaktan memnun olurum.
Sorry for the Kebab talk guys plz no ban hurr durrr
No.1931
>>1928Öncelikle üşenmeyip yazdığın için sağol Antepli gardaşım :D
Spora 1 hafta önce başladım. Dediğim gibi zaten yakışıklıyım, ama vücutta kas yok bu yüzden 1 hafta önce spora başladım,
Adonisli bir çocuğa senin gibi kaç ayda olurum dedim 8-12 ay dedi düzenl gelirsen.Ama ilk 3 ayda baya uçuyomuşuz.
Reddite girmiyorum
Game konusunda ise, kadınların başka insanları etrafında toplayabilen endişesiz, takmayan, lider ruhu erkek sevdiğini biliyorum.
Biraz dlaga geçemenin iyi olduğunu biliyorum, ama ezince kaçıp gittiklerini de bliyorum(teoride yanlış varsa düzelt arkadaşım görütüyor onlar söylemişti)
Üniversite konusu ise haklısın hemen eve gitmek yerine, bir çok insanla konuşabilirim.deneyeceğim bunu.
İlerde boardda yahudibook, başlığı açarım herhalde belki inanlar kendini deişre eder, orda konuşuruk.
Teori sanırım iyi çünkü verdiğim tavsiyelerle yeni tanıştığım yakın arkadşım milli oldu hemde güzel genç ve olgun bir kadınla.
20 yaşıma yanlız girmekten ve bakir girmekten korkmadan edemiyorum.
Bana günlük hayatta ne konuşuyorsan bir kaç öernek vermeni istiyorum.
sorry goys we went full kebab
Antepli ingilizce yazda igilizcemiz gelişir hem :D
No.1932
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>>1928Also I need music advice
No.1934
>>1931well its good that you know the alpha/beta social order and try to be alpha.Tthats a good start.
Your theory is very good but i then again, its a theory.You should practise these theories to get better at pickup. I say use facebook,thats one of the best ways to meet chicks in Kebabland.
Also about virginity,is overrated.Nothing changes when you become a nonvirgin,youll see when you become one.
In my daily life,actually im a big fuckup too :d but i say things about classes,say things about the people i hate with my friends,about news(ekşisözlük),and stuff.Actually i dont have so much talk with my friends bcuz i dont even like them,i just hang around with them so i wont be alone all the time.Most of my REAL friendships ended with highschool
I dont think jewbook thread will be a good idea btw
do these and youll change in time.In time youll see your errors and fix them and one day youll see a much better versşon of yourself in the mirror.Just trust in the change.I know it can be hard some times.
Well i like rap music,my taste is really original according to my friends (plebs amk)I like Lil B,Kanye West,Eminem,Macklemore and stuff.I usually just open spotify and listen some playlist.Oh and Yüzyüzeyken Knouşuruz,Son Feci Bisiklet and some indie Kebab bands are really good.U should listen to them.
I hope these r helpful.Stay strong my friend
No.1936
>>1934>practiceI'll consider it like a homework but this time I2ll make it :D
>Most of my REAL friendships ended with highschoolYerinde olmak istemezdim, nedense tanışşsak iyi arkadaş oluruz diye düşünüyorum. You've borned wrong place m8
> dont think jewbook thread will be a good idea btwStill considering it, maybe when the board become more active, maybe never
Thank you for inspring me you niggerlover :D
I'll czech this singers and bands
No.1938
>>1936Well,actually i have a great life imo.
I'm 20 years old.I started medical school in a different city.It took a lot of time till i get used to the city.
I'm constantly improving myself.I lift,read,Duolingo,Coursera,Edx,Codeacademy.I'm trying to stop masturbating and watching tv.
I really dont have much friends,and im happy about it bcuz most of the people in my faculty is really boring,lazy,average people.They dont even know why theyre here.Their 'Normal People Conversation' bores me and i dont have time for that.
I always try to be the best version of myself.I think i was a neckbeard in highschool but so many things changed since then.
Not giving a fuck and Zen philosophy (same thing imo) really helped me about this.Also the fact that we all going to die someday really comforts me.Whenever i get anxiety or something i remember that and suddenly i feel much lighter and happy.
No.1939
>>1938>Duolingo,Coursera,Edx,Codeacademynigga what?
>I'm trying to stop masturbating and watching tvUnless you addicted and overdo it there is no need to be stop
>it bcuz most of the people in my faculty is really boring,lazy,average peopleI know that feel.I'm kinda pick about friends, I just don't want to be friend someone just to be firends you know.
>I always try to be the best version of myselfTelling exacly same thing to myself, I'm glad to see my brothers /improve/ing themselves
I'll check Zen maybe I find it interesting.
Also read Nietztsce's books. I know most people reading in Turkey are leftist but he's talking about power.
Nietzce says If you approach to women bring your scoruge with you.I think his anlayzes are correct since he raised by his mom and 3 sisters
No.1940
>>1921Do you have societies at University in Turkey?
No.1942
>>1940yes but most of them very inactive
No.1956
>>1942Well the best thing for it is to start off small, with a group of only a few people. Practice socialising with them, realise and make note of any mistakes you make and the things you do well. Subconciously, this is all you need to improve.
No.1958
>>1954Born in Europe and travel there in summers.
Nobody gives a shit about your weird ass ideologies m8 stay mad :^)
No.1959
>>1956I guess I'll contact any groups in my faculty, they're despereate for attention. Still I apprecieate your help and advice thank you m8
No.1961
>>1958Thrace isn't part of Europe… at the moment.
No.1971
>>1961It's practially in Europe and I was born in switzerland
No.1981
I am a 24 year old male.
I want to make good relationships with my friends.
I want to be okay with being on my own and not having human contact.
I want to learn Japanese.
I want to learn Esperanto.
I want to learn to program in Ruby
I want to make my first bow.
I want to loose my chub and be able to see my own abs under my skin. That is my ultimate goal.
No.1983
>23
>Find a place to live in NYC (I'm moving there for a training-employment program this summer)
>The challenge there is that I will only have around 3k for the summer and won't start making my salary of around 50k till september
>finish out some classes I'm taking at the community college
>currently 5'6 162lbs
>goal weight of 155lbs
>continue going to the gym 3-4 days per week and build up my repertoire there
>quit watching porn when masturbating. I'm already a few days into that
>tfw no gf but couldn't care about that right now or possibly ever
No.1984
>>1981Esperanto is a neat idea. But, I'd recommend focusing on Japanese. Maybe try to find some free language courses at a local library or like a local japanese speaking club.
Would that help?
No.1992
>>1917I'm 19 years old and I dream of being a musician/songwriter, I don't give half a fuck if it's a childish ambition, people have done it before and people will do it again, I aim to be one of those people.
I'm trying to /imp/rove my musical abilities at the moment (right now, understanding instruments isn't nearly as much of an obstacleas the composition is proving to be, so, I mean hey, at least there's that), I've probably still got a long way to go to get good yet though, as I don't currently have enough friends (or musical friends anyhow) to form any semblance of a band, I'm going to have to do shit solo
No.1994
>19, In Uni for Comp Sci
>Fucked up really bad this semester, failing a math course
>Just wanna drop the class and redo this shit on the fall (I figured moving forward is my best option here)
>Tell Parents who think I'm perfect and that I don't have problems
>They flip shit and act like I don't care
>They think I should drop out because "I'm not mature enough for Uni" or some shit.
>They're making me speak with my prof, embarassing myself due to all of the shit I haven't done because I either didn't know how to do it, or was too stressed out to try.
>I'm pretty certain I am depressed but there's no way I could ever tell them.
>They're only concerned about the money involved here (even though they didn't give me a fucking dime)
This is why I hate people.
No.1996
23 lvl. Year ago graduated from uni (physics). I fucked up my learning process so then I have ended learning I had decent knowledge of subject I was studying but I had absolutely no connections and my future in that area looked really bad. So I freaked out, took some low wage job, broke every connection with friends and teachers form uni. I worked on night watches for 5 months and life seemed darker and darker to me. After some consideration I dropped that work (I had some money saved). And all summer and part of autumn I traveled around my country, played vidia at my parents home, read some books. I had no clues what to do next. Then I decided to start learning something which brings me some steady work. So in last November I started learning Python. It was a good decision, despite the fact that there currently very little work with Python for junior developers in my country, but I didn't realize that until I start searching work. But I learned some basic programming staff, foundations of OOP, SQL. So in the middle of February I changed language and started working with C# (there are plenty of vacancies with it and I really liked Visual Studio). I said to myself back then that in March I will start actively search for place to work. And now I feel like I have necessary knowledge to go to apply to work. So in nearest future I will start send my resume to some vacancies. And I hope there will be some interviews. This all is very scary to me and I need to find some strength in me to go through all this. This is my nearest and most important goal.
Of course I have some trouble with concentration and procrastination, but I somehow deal with them now.
No.1999
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>>1983This should help you can still be taller, lots of people say it works great
No.2009
>>1996I also worked night watch while discerning what the hell to do with my life. Glad you have momentum now, anon. that's great.
where are you from? where did you visit during these travels?
No.2014
>>1999>grow taller 4 idiotsI thought this was a total bullshit scam. Did it work for you?
No.2017
>>2009I'm from Moscow.
First place where I went was little house near the Azov sea that my uncle bought. He bought it from some people which inherited it from old women who lived and died there. So there was an old house, which my uncle want to destroy and build some more appropriate. But now old house still there. So I said to my uncle that I can try to live some time there and after that tell him how are things here. He agreed. So I spent month in little village. My house was a little shuck with one room doors 1.5 meters high, big old furnace which filled all room with smoke when I tried to heat house when I arrived. But it was summer, so I didn't need it. So next month I spend on seacoast. It was beautiful. I bought vegetables and fruits from market which was in neighbor village (it was actually little cossack stanitsa). Sea was very shallow here, so I needed to go several hundred meters into the sea to actually try to swim normally. Weather was hot all time and I tanned. Nothing really happened during this month, but it was peaceful time. I read lots of books, lived without internet and once in a week called to my parents to say that I'm alright. After that month I returned home with urge to try something else.
I have some orthodox christian friends. And one young family decided move to the countryside. They had some nice house in village in Yaroslavl region. And they always glad to have some people from city. So I called them, bought some presents for their children and arrived there. I spent week there. Helping father build extension to the house. They are good people but I'm not religious so there was some sort of tension sometimes. (They spent very long time every day praying with their children and it was time of orthodox fasting so they eat only some food). But it was interesting experience and I had some insight about family and children.
Third was some little city in prairie (population 100 000) near the river Volga. I lived with my friends' old grandma. This city is one of the most criminal places in Russia where police officially play almost no part in establishing order. Back then USSR existed this city was relatively good, but nineties killed it and all people that was capable of something lived it (this I history of most little town that are distant from center). On the day of my arriving I went to balcony to see city from some high point. And my attention draw some hobo who looked for food and some useful items in massive garbage pale which was lying near the building. From time to time he took the rest and sniffed glue from package. Such introduction to the city was very upsetting. So I spent next week walking around city, swimming in river and eating in local cheap restaurants. I met some locals in bars and we get drunk together and they told me how life looks like in that city. Long story short – life was not good. Every person in city has history of several unsuccessful businesses so most of people disappointed in everyday life. When city started to bore me I decided to go into prairie, and this was a good decision. I bought some food and water borrowed blanket and saucepan from my friends' grandma and for several days just lived in prairie near city. I found some strange peaceful hill which was not very distant from little river which was hiding in reed where I repeatedly took some water. I spent days just laying on the ground and staring in the sky, reading books from my kindle or walking some kilometers around. Things were good but nights were somewhat cold, so I started to feel myself ill on the morning of sixth day. I realized that things can go really bad if I not return back. So I walked toward big road and caught a car to the bus station. I decided to go to Moscow, because I had no intentions lay ill in this city. Trip on the bus was one of the most awful experiences in my life. I had very high temperature, I took shit every time bus stopped, some sort of hallucination chased me. But I went through it, in Moscow I went to drugstore bought some antibiotics and spent week recovering from illness.
There was some hiking with friends in the middle, but nothing particularly interesting. After all that I stayed at home for almost 6 six month already.
No.2018
>>2017sorry for all mistakes
No.2025
>>2017Very interesting story. It takes some guts to travel around like that. All these experiences seem worthy of a short story.
Я американец. Но, я учился русский язык в университете. В 2011 я был в Москве летом. Мне очень понравилось, но я знал мало русский.
В каком ужасном городе ты был на Волге? Я был Твери около трех дни. Извините мне за ошибки. Падежи трудно и я ни могу практиковать теперь.
>русский друг в /improve/ >класс No.2026
>>2014yes but since because I'm lazy ass i only get talled 4 cm so yes it's working and commentary is full of "holy shit it worked" people. they're not bots or fakes I know some of them
No.2027
>>2026>>2014Note that that happened only for 5 weeks
No.2028
>>2027>>2026>it's working>4cm tallerHoly fuck Im gonna try this shit first thing in the morning. Ill post results if this thread is still alive.
Spasiba based ruskie.
No.2029
No.2032
>>2025I have real respect for people who are trying to learn Russian. It is real challenge for everybody, even people I know who are living in Russia for many ears (some pole) still have real trouble with cases. Why were you trying to learn Russian in uni, just for the sake of it or you had some purpose?
>В каком ужасном городе ты был на Волге? Камышин. Город стоит на берегу Волги, которая достигает пяти километров в ширину в этом месте. Впечатляющее зрелище.
>русский друг в /improve/ >классthere are some american dude who were learning russian in the past and even was in Moscow and Tver, I think this fact even more impressive.
No.2034
>>1984Yeah. I have all the resources I need to learn all of it. I already taught myself Hiaragana. I just need the discipline to make myself go out and do it.
No.2036
I'm 19 years old and I used to be lazy and retarded with my decisions. I'm a kissless virgin and pretty anxious around girls and I also fucked up on my exams.
My goal is to get into one of the top tier universities in this country and to get my course, which is worth some pretty high marks, so high that if I don't put 100% effort into the next 8 weeks I won't get in.
Between Friday and Sunday alone I have to get 27 hours of study done to stay on track. Every day I have to get 7-9 hours of study done and even that is not enough when considering how much time is left. I'm tired, pretty fucking tired and life has pretty much turned into a grind. Wake up, go gym, come back, study, eat, study eat, study, study and study. Truth is if I sacrifice gym I could in theory study more and reduce the tiredness but I will also fuck over my summer prospects of gaining weight and getting stronger and thus be shyer with girls than I would be if I didn't drop it.
The bullshit thing is that this grind is just the beginning.. many more challenges await me after this, including the challenge of fixing my entire social situation.
I want to succeed and I want that course, which is why I'm going to do everything in my fucking power to get it, even if it means my life turns into nothing but a loop of study, study and study.
I-I want to make it
No.2044
>>2028>>2029I don't know your language anon, but this thrad will be alive you can be sure about that, since it's kinda dead board
No.2045
>>2036Gym makes you feel better, and boost your confdence anon. But on the other hand your studies… note that gym only 3 days iin a week and don't lose time so much
No.2047
>>2045
>Gym and boost your confdence.This is so true. I never attended gym. But I bought gantels last autumn and after several week of training with them I started feel myself 200% more alfa. I started look in eyes of girls on streets for the first time in my life.
No.2048
>>2047Wew lad I'm happy for you. Being busy with something, I mean doing something for yourself makes you feel important.
Also think about it you're rpg character. Instead of staying at same level, you're /imp/roving yourself of course you feel better.
I got stared a lot since my face is pretty gud, but I'm too pusy to talk to them.Since living in conservative area things hard, but I'll never give up
No.2054
>19 year old college student, studying computer engineering
>Some math courses not going too well, dropped, will attempt at a later date.
>Been overweight all of life, bullied for it from kindergarten through 10th grade.
>Weighed 325 pounds at the beginning of 1st college semester, last time I checked I weighed around 290-295 (in second semester) height around 6' 1"
>Wanting to get fit, lately attitude has been swaying between defiant hope in the face of all the problems that I see and despair.
>Hope doesn't tend to last long, spend most of time lambasting self, interferes with sleep most nights, so I stay up late watching feel good cartoons from my childhood (Jackie Chan and Kirby always brighten my mood)
>Don't feel like eating as often (bad sign), silver lining is weight loss even if it is not the kind I would prefer.
>Nobody seems to want to hang out with me ever, room mate left, life is practically solitary confinement, seems to me like anyone that meets eye contact either instinctively dislikes me or is scared.
>Feel like I will actually start going to the gym within the next 3 days.
>Goals
>Would like to form a family and live happily.
>Entire direct family is fat as well. Grandma went crazy before she died.
>As much as I want to make a nice family, I feel like it would be irresponsible of me to even have a chance of passing down genes for insanity, anger issues, and predisposition to obesity.
>Probably won't start a family due to that
>Legacy will have to be some grand thing
>Idealist from watching cartoons and playing video games as a kid, almost always tried to be the best person I could be.
>Realize being nice doesn't seem to change the world
>Frustration.jpg
>Once fit and somewhat wealthy (if college goes well) I will reform the third world by force if necessary, assassinating warlords and corrupt politicians. If 3rd world goes well, move to 1st world.
>I also plan on doing a lot of hiking this summer
No.2055
I'm 18 years old and I hate myself, have for longer than I can remember.
My logic for improving myself is that if you truly hate someone you don't want them to be content in their misery, in their activities that they don't like yet do anyway. You torture the fuck out of them until you either get to like them and they get to like the torture inflicted or they die.
So I've been doing a complete overhaul.
Eating better, quit drinking pop, exercising, talking to people more, better hygeine, working on quitting smoking, having a more positive outlook, getting rid of acne, dressing better, not getting so angry at everything, trying new things, everything I can to improve. It's fucking awful, but that is the point.
No.2057
>>2055
>I hate myself I believe this is the most wrong thing you are doing. Firstly nobody else would explicitly like you. So if you hate yourself (maybe you have some reasons to do this) there is no single person in the world who care about you and likes you. So for example if you die right now nobody would care. I believe you should realize that you are single unit, your mind is part of your body. If your body is weak and obese this is clearly states that your mind is corrupt, and vice versa (I mean you whole as a single human being is corrupt). So if you had such defeatist selfhate thoughts in your had you are only corrupting yourself, and make additional damage to your self esteem. I think that you should make all those things that you mentioned. But every time you are achieving something you should be more proud of yourself. If you achieve some little thing (like you are read some thin little book) you can say to yourself - I read this book. Now I can make some nice remarks on it in some conversation in future, sure it's nice thing. And with time passing you will gain more and more self esteem. You'll begin value yourself and your time. And people around you would feel it. And about your appearance, of course you should do reasonable maximum you can to look good. But to some people even this thing unavailable (physical invalids), but this is not a reason to give up. You should reconsider you goals and capabilities and working hard inside this framework. Selfhate can produce only miserable things and I think that you didn't really mean that you want to do all those things to yourself only to torture yourself. Of course you want to change and you are thinking now about time when you will achieve some things you wrote. But I tell you, this is long road and you will not make it if you will seek strength to achieve your goals in self hate and self torture. Your appearance is not some sort of a quantum state, today you are miserable and hate yourself and tomorrow you are god and whole world loves you. Nope, you should working in right direction and constantly gaining little love to yourself in process.
Also don't let others decide ultimate values of your achievements in the beginning. Maybe even brush your teeth regularly is hard for you and when you do it this is achievement (and this is achievement indeed).
No.2063
>>2057Not the guy you responded to, but your post made me feel a lot better. I'm assuming you're that russki from the formatting. You seem like a great guy.
No.2067
I am a 25 year old man who just want to keep going. I strongly believe improvement is something constant, should only ends when you die.
I love self help books and programmes, but habit rpg and all that stuff just isn't my thing. I have several IRL friends whom i mentor which also is a really effective way of improving yourself.
At the moment i am learning meditation and reading Feel the fear and do it anyway by suzan jeffers and King, warrior, magician, lover by Moore and Gillette (it's really good).
I used to have problems with girls because i spent my childhood on CS and WoW, but i fixed that with a mix of pua stuff and just being social.
I exercise to some extent but i know i can do more, but i lack motivation.
No.2069
>>2057>Also don't let others decide ultimate values of your achievements in the beginningOk, I'll start by disregarding your wall of text. It's actually been working pretty well for me. You don't have to like yourself to be happy Anon.
No.2071
>>2067>pua stuffCan give examples? I'm talking about your experiments which works well.
No.2075
>>2069
>You don't have to like yourself to be happy Anon.This is absolute bullshit.
No.2077
I'm 21, deal with paranoid schizoaffective disorder and dropped out of high school to deal with my mental issues. All of my friends are online and I'm overweight by a good 40 pounds and have no muscle to speak of.
I met a girl online 4 years ago and we "dated" for two. She lives in another country. When she was ready to meet in person I was dealing with my /mental/ shit, and now that I'm ready she's busy having a job. So we broke up. I still love her, but she's changed. She says she isn't happy and doesn't need to be to get done what she needs to get done. She bought a house recently and I thought it would be a perfect excuse to try to pull my shit together and convince her that we should at least give it a shot before we call it quits for good.I believe she moves in in early June, which means I have until July/August to get my ass out there. We loved each other so much, but when she moved half way across her country she started becoming distant, depressed (though she won't admit it), and I'm worried about her (She tried to kill herself before). She has a friend who more or less adopted her into their family, but aside from that all she does is work work work. When I try to talk to her she gets upset because "I'm at work and you're sitting around trying to talk to me all day but I'm busy", and she's right. I've done nothing but sit around my house from the age of 15 due to this fucking disorder and I'm tired of letting it run my life.
I'm starting to eat better, I'm gonna go outside on walks even though it terrifies me to no end, I'm going to get some kind of shitty part time job close by so I can start to save some money, I'm gonna start exercising, and I'm gonna get my GED. When I have my shit in order I'm going to have a serious talk with her about getting our relationship off the ground. She makes me happy, and I used to make her happy. I'm going to become the person I know I can be. She's all I have, I can't fuck this up. I refuse to fuck this up.
No.2078
>>2075I don't know if you can call it pua stuff, but david deangelo's deep inner game program really changed my perspective on things. It's a program that focuses alot on your inner psychology and how you can change yourself to be naturally attractive to women. Good stuff.
I've had girls tell me things like "I'm so incredibly attracted to you right now and literally had girls "swoonin" over things I've said while just being myself.
No.2095
>>2077focusing one girl=lose
trust me even if you most popular handsome of your group you lose when you take a girl too seriously. if you /improve/ your body and socailly believe me there will be lots of girls araound you
No.2097
>20 yrs old
>trying to read Russian books so I don't forget the language
>putting a lot of effort into boxing and getting fit
>I have a ton of books on my shelf which I haven`t touched in ages, so I will start reading them soon
>stopped smoking weed, and I'm becoming more confident, no longer depressed
>I feel like I'm losing one of my closest friends and the circle of friends that comes with him because I don't feel like I have anything in common with them (all they do is play video games and I feel like their personalities are fake).
I will have a busy semester starting in 2 weeks, I'm taking 3 classes with intense workload, the boxing and fit thing that I mentioned, and I have some interviews coming up so hopefully I find a job as well.
It feels good to write this down, because it makes me view my life from a different perspective, and gives me more motivation to chase my goals. thx for reading
No.2103
Im 27 years old.
Im a civil engineer. I make decent money.
I have few friends but I see them every 2-3 months. Never had much of a social life to begin with.
Never have a girlfriend. Never even kissed a grill.
I play lots of vidya.
I eat fairly good but I would like to learn to cook better.
I don't exercise. At all. Im beginning to worry about my health.
No.2104
>>2067>I strongly believe improvement is something constant, should only ends when you die.Right on. Once you have nothing to look forward to it's game over. It's a commonly accepted truth to workaholics that when they retire it's basically game over. Especially in places like steel mills where I used to work. It was explained to me that it's very common for people to die within the year of retirement if they were lifers since the mill
was their life.
>>2077I'm going to sound harsh but fuck it. You shouldn't be worried for someone who you have no commitments to. People will use and abuse you big time. Not even a misogynist thing. Unless they're you're mother(and even then) consider everyone else an enemy. Or at least neutral. From the sounds of it, she's already tired of the relationship too now that she's doing well while you are not.
I just think it's very egoistic of you to try to care about someone else's problems when you yourself are a mess.
>>2097>feel like I'm losing one of my closest friendsMore friends will come along. Accept that life is fluid and that things change. The key thing is that you keep developing. Good on you for stopping smoking. I don't care what they say, shit like that is bad for you because you get used to it to the point that you must have it. Shit, anything mind altering I don't like at all. booze, anti depressants, /pol/
although I"m too late there, etc..
Like I said, don't worry. Life moves on and time will heal all. It healed my insecurities as well as my spine so it can't all bad right?
>>2103Not that I'm one to talk but you should work on the relationships aspect of yourself. It shouldn't be that hard if you have friends, right? Means you already have a venue for which to go out and meet people. Unless your friends are socially stunted then you're fucked.
You're doing alright though man. You're supporting yourself. You have a job. You have friends and hobbies.
Honestly though, I'd probably put health above a gf. I think exercise isn't the end all be all, look around your town for physical hobbies. Hell, try boxing like
>>2097. I wish teleportation were real then we could meet up or something. That'll be the day. Although, I can't box because i had lasik and am too scurred of having my cornea rip out if i get hit in the eye and don't blink fast enough.
No.2107
>>2104>2103 here, thanks for replying. I know that I should be focusing on the relationship/social aspect of myself. That always has been my weakest part of my life. Even if I hang around with people Im usually too quiet. It's like I don't really trust people (Ive never liked to talk much and say too much about myself). It is something that I have to deal with.You know that if you have been doing something for years it is really hard to change? Well, that happens to me. I need to really focus on something and be constantly remindming myself about that thing to change it.
Anyways, what are you here for anon?
No.2108
>>2107Fuck, it posted the first paragraph as a quote, i didn't meant to do that.
No.2118
>>2107I'm here because I wanted to find a group of people that for once would not berate me for trying to steer our destinies into something of value. And I want to put my money where my mouth is and do it through example. In all aspects of life.
I completely understand your sentiment. I understand it as I go through change myself. It's a hard pill to swallow but we must
ALL realize that it takes time. Time itself we do not even understand and grasp the true weight of. How can we? We, who have been pissing away hours into the night playing games, browsing useless sites, and doing nothing of meaning. How can we say that we understand what a day truly is, a week, a month, let alone a year.
To an extent we're exactly like those fat chicks that brag about dieting for a week. Not only that, but hell even the internet and its instant gratification have fucked us verily.
If any of us, you, me, this
>>2075 angry faggot, are to succeed we must understand and come terms with the fact that it will take time. Time above all will be the great healer. That we've wasted years already(unless you're a teen then fuck you), is our fault and our fault alone.
There's a quote that I read years ago that always stuck with me. "Life is the art of drawing without an eraser". Whoever we are a year from now, what we do today will affect him. I guess that's what I'd like for people to take away from it.
If you eat greasy fast food you will be bloated and shit like a sick horse.
If you borrow to pay for something you don't have money for, you're robbing your future self of money he may need.
If you waste time today then you from tomorrow will either have to make up for it or it may even be too late at that point.
Maybe I'm wrong and it's just nothing but luck but what if we were in a room full of different versions of ourselves from different ages where my inaction screwed them. How can I look them in the eye and tell them that I didn't even try?
No.2124
>>2118This guy is onto something. I imagine that if we just worked hard and turned this site into a tight community, we could achieve GREAT things.
We should go against chan culture and motivate each other! I'm thinking Skype groups, mentor programmes etc.
No.2135
>>2118This, this and this.
All those hours you push back your work by turn into days, then into weeks and soon you spend months doing nothing, constantly telling yourself that you'll start on Monday or next week when you know from experience that you won't. Days blend into each other and you realise once again, for another year in a row that you wasted another year, that you wasted an opportunity to change yourself, that if you did your work and put in the effort you would be standing today, confident and full of determination knowing that you are going to fucking make it. Instead you buckled when things got hard and pushed your goals back by months or maybe years.. now you feel weak and even more hopeless.
So many times I have welcomed a new year by telling myself that I will do this and that only to revert back to old patterns, chained by my inhibitions and stunted by my inability to face my fears, delaying the arrival of the person I could have been by another fucking year.
Before 2015 started I did my usual routine of looking back on 2014 and as usual it was nothing but a disappointment. I felt like shit as expected again but I did something different this year, I made a promise to myself, to the version of myself that wants to succeed, that 2015 will be the year. There will be no "ifs" this year because everything I say I will do I will fucking do it. Why? What makes this year so different? Because in my mind, this is it, this is the year that decides whether I'm a weak insecure boy who will live his life a failure or a strong, determined and confident man who will smash through his challenges one by one.
No.2136
>>2124As the proverb goes "birds of a feather flock together" and it just so happens everyone here wants to improve.
I think we should make a skype group.
No.2140
>>2136skype group sounds good to me, or maybe IRC channel for start (maybe this is more in chan's spirit).
No.2157
>>2136OP here,yes skypre group would be awesome
No.2159
>>1917im so in for a skype group, add me : synbitz
(madagaskar}
No.2165
>>2159sent request, note that I've never used skype
No.2170
>>2124>>2140>>2157>>2159>>2165Post skype name and I'll add you into the /improve/ skype group
No.2194
>>2170I'm so stupid I took skype name with my real name. so you guys write down I'll add :/
No.2224
No.2231
18 years old
>Finish learning web development so I can freelance
>Make enough money by August to move to Serbia from the United States
>Between then and now, acquire U.S. passport and temporary stay in Serbia
>Get teeth perfectly white
>Finish cutting by August
>Improve verbal communication skills
>Learn more Serbian
No.2232
>>2231>Make enough money by August to move to Serbia from the United StatesWhy?
No.2233
>>2232Cost of living, friends there, kind of a serbiaboo.
No.2234
>>2233To elaborate on cost of living more:
>From my calculations I can live pretty much the same lifestyle I do now on less than $1000 a month>My chosen profession, freelance web development, can be done anywhere and usually pays $60-$70 an hour>Quality of life may suffer in some areas (specifically entertainment), but I definitely have more security thereAlways planned to expat to some country since I was like 14. I feel like it's impossible to live a non "live to work" lifestyle in a western nation. I talk with people from the U.S. or Canada or UK and they essentially live to work, and their lives are consumed by it. Where as my Serbian friends are more "work to live".
No.2235
>>2234"work to live" does not seem like a good thing at all.
Well good luck, I hope you survive the next time the Balkans go apeshit on each other.
No.2259
>20
>Want to lift get ripped and get the qts
>Maybe i'll get married some day
>Probably not
No.2662
>>2135
Fucking this. If you make a habit of pushing things off into the future, you'll always push them off into the future because when the future becomes the present, there will be yet another future for you to push things off into.
If you make a habit of doing things now, you'll always do them now.
No.2664
>>2165
>>2159
>>2170
>skype group
i can dig it
rockl_balboa
No.2677
No.2678
>>2664
Sent you an invite.
If anyone else wants to join the /improve/ skype group add: Johndoegg
We currently have around 19 people.
No.2873
Mainly I want to have useful hobbies and skills and cut all the bullshit from my life. I need to work on improving my work habits. I've been reading some /min/ stuff and I want to save enough money to retire extremely early so I can spend all my time learning and improving skills and enjoying life. Socially, I don't have many friends so that's one aspect about myself that I need to improve. The problem is that I enjoy time alone so I don't feel inclined to make new friends. I've been excercising so I can feel more confident about myself.
No.2952
I'm 19 years old, and have bad depression and motivational issues.
I graduated from high school by abusing all the cracks in the system, then dropped out of community college twice before getting a job at a chemical manufacturing plant. It doesn't pay shit, I make $900 a month if I'm lucky and make overtime.
Once I dropped out of school for good I felt happier than ever before but I was/am still unhappy. Right now I'm working on building good habits to try to become a more successful person. If willpower is like a muscle than I can hardly dead-lift 45 pounds, but I'm slowly making progress and getting better. Eventually I want to be able to go back to school and enjoy it, and get a certificate in network administration. After that I want to save money until I can become a landlord and own rental properties.
I browse /improve/ every time I hit my willpower limit, I'm here today because I'm burnt out from spending the last few hours cleaning the house while my parents are away. I only have a little bit more to clean until I'll be hitting a big goal of mine, then I'll try to relax and start again after a couple of hours.
>>1981
Just dive right in and make your first bow, it's really easy and you'll be happy once you do it. I make wooden swords, and after making only a few I finally made one that makes me proud every time I hold it.
No.2953
>>2952
You sound like you're doing a whole lot more than I was at that age and with similar issues. You're definitely on the right track man, keep pushing.
No.2955
>>2953
Thanks a lot mate, I will.
No.2956
>>2952
I was in your position once. Graduated early, was on the right track, but because I had no plan or motivation I dropped out of college and took with me 2 years of my life, no degree, access to financial aid and my gpa.
Started working and have been slowly building myself back up after my fall from grace all those years ago. Certifications are basically what got me going. I'm back in school now looking at stuff I'd never thought I'd be interested in but ghosts from my past still haunt me. GPA being one
So chin down hands up nigga. Look at certifications for your line of work and go from there. If you're going to do this for real be honest and realize that you're going to need money. You have your foot in the door of an industry, see how far you can move up.
You'd be surprised how little people IRL care about moving up. That or how fearful they are about the unknown.
No.2958
Long story is long, bare with me.
>at 17
>think I'm some shit
>graduating HS a year early
>taking classes at community college to skip GE classes in college
>full-ride ROTC scholarship
>eagle scout
>total qt3.14 gf who thinks I'm a boss nigga
>go to Philmont (scout camp, ITT hike around in the New Mexico forests for a week)
>adult leaders backstab me
>feelsbadman.jpg
>gf is christfag
>wants to bang but won't let herself
>too pussy to press the issue
>feel bad for not being able to get into pants of girl who so obviously wanted me
>go to college
>wasn't nearly as fit as I thought
>ROTC PT kicks my ass
>can barely keep up
>be weird asshole who didn't fit in with school culture at all
>spend too much time on halfchan
>never get enough sleep
>feel like shit constantly
>have blogger blog that no one read
>post shit about contemplating meaning of life
>someone apparently read it
>thought I was suicidal
>told school administration
>they drag me in in the middle of the night
>be idiot about it and get kicked from campus for last week of school year
>decide to leave ROTC, along with my scholarship
>about this time realize I'm trans, partially reason for leaving ROTC
>next year okay, cool roommate, do alright in classes
>third year, roommate an shit
>they get me a studio apartment on campus for no extra cost
>teim to fap
>start crossdressing privately
>also making booze in room
No.2959
>>2958
(gf broke up early second semester for some stupid shit I said on facebook)
>housing does security checks on rooms
>find my stash of girl clothes
>talk to RD
>fuck up and say I'm trans
>they do another room search for some reason
>find my booze and some pocket knives
>hauled in to judicial committee
>kicked off campus, expelled at end of semester
>spend a couple days on the streets
>go back to parents house
>try to continue education through community colleges
>don't really have will to succeed
>be NEET on and off for the next few months
>realize I can do private security
>get guard card
>convince parents I need car
>get shitty $800 beater
>build some expereince with event security
>land steady employment
>now working night shift which lets me post on here through the middle of the night
>car is actually a decent car, just needed a shit ton of work
>getting it fixed up to sell
>planning on getting armed guard license
>taking classes to go into craft brewing
>haven'touched girly stuff in over a year now, but still plan to transition eventually
>overall, things are looking up
No.2962
>>2959
>plan to transition
>things are looking up
Fuck, why cant you just try to be an androgynous man?
(Or just get medical testosteron, to fix your issue the other way around)
Transiostioned people always, fucking always, look like hideously mishaped caricatures of the gender they try to mimic.
No matter how hard you try, be it with makeup breasts or other shit, your hand, baonestructure and other little things will always betray your efforts.
You will look off.
Dont fucking do it.
I rather would get thrown into a random body of another race and gender, then being stiched together into one of these sad abominations that get hailed as "couragous" for giving to their lunacy in these rotten times,.
No.2963
>>2959
Things I am improving/intend to improve on, in no particular order:
money situation:
>want to get started driving with postmates or grubhub for extra money
>set up an actual budget, right now I pay my bills, drink my fill, and throw the rest at my debts
Fitness:
>started running again
>need to quit smoking
>want to lose about 30-40 lbs
>trying to develop lower body and core, let upper body lose mass
Transition:
>not sure if I should go human skelington mode first so fat only grows where I need it to, or if it will redistribute on its own.
>debating with myself as to whether or not to go through a psychologist first
>think I might just be an autogynephiliac. part of me wants to hide from the answer to that question, but I know I need to face the truth
>know I'll never get that petite trap look, aiming for more womanly curves
education:
>continue with craft beer cert
>learn about the basics of running a business
>keep reading Austrian economists
Other suggestions?
No.2964
>>2962
Not always. Maybe if you have some kind of stratospheric standards, but I've always considered the way t-girls look a little "off" kinda cute.
I've never thought androgynous men were very attractive at all.
Maybe if all fails, I'll have my breasts removed and take T, but I'm going with this plan until then.
No.2965
>>2963
Drop that Austrian shit and read some Marx instead.
No.2968
>>2963
I really liked smoking, but vaping is just as good for a fraction of the price and much healthier. Give it a try if you don't really want to stop it for good, from there it will be easier to go down in nicotine levels and kick it anyway.
No.2969
>>2968
Ah, and autogynephilia is the shittiest reason to transition. You're basically giving in to your lowest instincts, it's a terrible idea that will shape your life negatively for a long time, if not forever. Don't fucking do it man.
No.3010
>>2964
>stratospheric standards
T-girls look abominable and that has nothing to do with high standarts.
Im not one of these delusional fucks who can only get off to 10/10 models and camwhores, its just that most men are attracted to feminimity.
Thats a thing t-girls absolutely lack, even if they try hard.
Get testestorone or just try to look androgynous. Everything else might bring you immense unhappyness and neglect by society.
(InB4 "I stand over the flat beauty standarts of society". You dont. People will rightfully treat you different and you will suffer from that.)
No.3012
YouTube embed. Click thumbnail to play.
>I want to learn to program in Ruby
are you an hipster or something?
oh well video related :3
No.3013
im 18 getting into my 19
I've took 15kg in the last two years. my social life died at the same rate. I will spent the next 3 month doing simply 4 thing. running, programming, working and reading. I still get invited to some event once a 2 week. weight loss is my only real goal. cause I know that last time I was fit, I talked to anyone and socialized.
I just discovered this board. I think i'm going to be an active user for the whole summer :3
No.3073
>>2965
>pic related
>>2969
I get what you mean, but, well, shit, you think talking to a therapist about it might be able to convince me?
No.3075
>>3010
Ugly? Like Andy here?
90% of the time, if a t-girl is ugly, it's because they were ugly before transition, or are a wrinkled old prune who waited three decades too late. I'm only 21, and don't look too bad.
No.3087
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>>3086
>not historically falsifiable
>meaning you have to do it through purely logical means
>which, of course, is impossible
No.3092
>>3087
It's not impossible, but it has nothing to do with reality, therefore it's useless.
No.3095
>>3093
And the labor theory of value does? Please, tell me more about how an ideology that directly led to the deaths of tens of millions is somehow useful int he real world? Oh, and by "directly", I mean "the leaders who murdered or starved their own citizens were demonstrable adherents of marxism", as opposed to claiming that everything that isn't communism is capitalism. Go ahead.
No.3097
>>3095
>if you don't agree with my anti-science religious beliefs you must be a commie
Grow up kid
No.4043
I don't think I was handed faulty cards, but I do think I made so many stupid mistakes in my life that the mess I'm currently in could become inescapable.
My circumstances are shit and I'm pretty sure my peers and family are aware of this. They're aware that I am a loser and I can always feel a sense of pity when I talk to them.
Past 2 years I have been trying to dig myself out of the hole I've built and I'll admit, it sometimes seems like I'm only making the hole deeper. I've never viewed this as negative. I never liked playing any of my games on easy mode and all of the challenges I have add an extra level of difficulty.
No matter what happens, I am going to get out of this hole and I'm going to fucking make it. I'm going to be the person I envisioned myself to be. I am constantly changing my strategies for improvement, tweaking things, looking for new ideas, coming up with my own. And I am 100% sure I will find something that will save me and get me out of this hell.
No.4045
>>4043
Forgive the intrusion, but what circumstances, anon? Perhaps we can offer some advice. Your mindset is bang on, and as long as you know that you are taking steps towards improving your situation your sub-conscious mind will reward you with positive feels, or at the very least, increased determination.
No.4049
19, USA, going for BA in computer science
want to get straight A's from this semester on
want to learn taco so i can actually talk to my family (grandparents, uncles etc., my immediate family speaks english)
want to get fit again, i did a triathlon a couple months ago but ever since have had trouble keeping up with exercising
want to stop fapping for good, been trying to quit for years and only managed 22 day streak, im super addicted
want to write music, ive played guitar for 6 years now but i still kinda suck
want to get stop being such a shy awkward mess, how do you even do this??? people always say "just put yourself out there" "just come out of your shell" if it were that simple i would be normal now
want to stop wasting so much time on the computer
want to make like-minded friends to play board games with
>>1992
same man
No.4055
>>4049
>just put yourself out there
I understand this sentiment but it still fucks me off when people say this
No.4097
my short-term goal right now for this month is to learn linux command line well enough to replace windows for my personal use, except for my PC gaymen. i installed Elementary OS, and I like it a lot, but apparently it is for plebs? Other than that OP I have nothing interesting to say about myself other than i am just on my computer a lot and I have no friends so I like to learn things online, from history to math to programming to economics.
No.4145
16 years old
I already gave up fapping, possibly for good.
I lift, but I have trouble doing it regulary.
I know 3 languages (2 fluently, 1 not so good) and I will be learning a 4th soon.
What I want to do is start spending my free time on something good - sadly I just waste it all on the computer, because during the week because of school I have almost no time and when I do, I just want to rest. I only have time during the weekend, but for some reason I still waste it. I plan to start reading books and walking and pick up some fun and useful hobbies but I don't know what to do.
And I want to improve myself and my personality, all the time.
I'm kinda bad at social interactions but it doesn't bother me too much.
No.4172
23 yo here
My goal is to try to get /fit/, I've done good on the weightloss part so far, but like everything, I kinda get bored if it isn't a little entertaining, so I though I'd mix up my trainning a little bit. I'll soon be following muay thai or another fighting sport, dunno which one. I'll start swimming too starting this week.
So that's my short-therm goal coming to a result, now if I can just keep it up, it'll be perfect.
Otherwise, I've been reading a lot, and I do recommend "The Way of Men" and "The Rational Male". I also have some others coming in the mall this week, so I'll keep on reading anyway, but I've set myself a goal to read at least 1 hour every evenings.
I just started to go out more often, as my daily life was a shit ( go to work - come home - go to sleep after doing fucking nothing, even on friday evenings).
Maybe going back to college next summer.
And finaly, learning to play music is one of my long-therm goal, eventually. I just need to buy the guitar to begin with.
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>And I want to improve myself and my personality, all the time.
Me too man
No.4208
34 yo old. I'm not really shy exactly, I'm loud and funny, but I do get anxious and nervous in some situation like everyone does (speaking in front of a group, asking a girl out, etc).
I've suffered from major depression most of my life. I've been off meds for about 18 months now. Trying to /improve/ and /fit/ and /yoga/ my way into a better me. Also getting into /agdg/.
I used to be a super-weeaboo and even majored in /jap/. I'm a much more mellow weeaboo at this point. :^)
I also found out I'm 1% jewish, so I quit going to /pol/.