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 No.2201

Hi folks, I've been here for a while now, and I want to ask you all something.

So.. problems. I'm 19 years old and I have let's say, a somewhat "different" face, like, I always looked like a little kid, but now my face looks very femenine (I have long hair though)

So, I walk a lot in the streets, because I like it, I walk to uni, so the problem is not all the people that stare at me, it's with the people I have to interact with (and I want to get new friends), this was a problem since my shonen (pre-teen) years, the people get "used to" my face and it was allright, yeah it still somewhat works now but:

-most guys avoid me.
-some guys always try to shit-test me, like, to prove that im tough or something.
-yeah in general guys dislike me for no reason.

I don't know if it's because I'm hetero, and I have no strange mannerisms or something, so I don't fit to their fucking stereotypes and they hate that.

So I want to have a grill friend, and friends in general but I don't know, in general guys dislike me and sometimes provoke me, so.. what can I do to avoid this?, I mean,

I want a normal life,

so should I join to some art-class or something?

Any tips to cope with people like this?

PS: yeah I don't have any friends and I don't know what to talk with grills, and I don't know how to.. like, interact with women. (I think this is what I should have to do, just get female friends) and I don't plan to cut my hair.

^Any tips when you're around women all the time?

 No.2202

>>2201
Oh,

>it's with the people I have to interact with


at uni, not in the streets (I also want to get a job…)

in most of my classes, there are like 10-15 people, and I only get along with grills.. but I dont know their world so..

 No.2207

>>2201
What about your height and posture? Walk more confident for example with longer and slower steps. Sit straight also man spread but don't aggravate it(not sure right word).

>I want a girl friend

For that, you need to be relax and not to push it. If you try hard too much, you'll act needy and no one respects that kind of attiutude..

You can join our skype group and post pic, maybe it's not bad as you think. I'll try to help if you need

 No.2210

>>2207
>What about your height and posture?
im 6'2, and I developed a good posture since I started doing body-excercises like 1 year ago (I changed my diet too), also I started to lift 3 months ago (at home), I'm relaxed when I walk, straight posture.

>For that, you need to be relax and not to push it


thank you, but my question here is.. how could I go out with my (hypothetical) grillfriend with some people shit-testing me? the problem is that I don't have friends, I mean, I know some people, I hanged out with them but theyre not friends, so I'm all alone confronting people, but I don't know how it'll be with my grill

>You can join our skype group and post pic


oh no, sorry but I'm too shy to do this. and I have poor english.

fuck I don't know what to do, I want friends to do shit with, but I have nothing in common with the people in my classes, you know, I'm wasting my youth and I want to change that…

I think I need a fucking hobbie, but here we go again with guys….

I mean, how do I break the ice with people?

 No.2213

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>>2210
>I'm too shy and bad english
My english is bad too if that's make you relax .No need to put your real pic on skype, you can send if you want when trust us. Just break your shell man. Aren't you trying to do this?

>Don't have friends

I know some people go full rage mode. But be yourself, the catch is also improve yourself.

Don't change your character for anyone. People like unique people, never forget that.
Don't try hard for jokes especially girls sense your needy attitude

When people telling you something, just listen, don't thnik about what you say. If you don't sa anything, just nod, say um-um(you know the approval voice) yeah. (of course if you agree)

Tell your ideas what people tell you, tease if you want but don't go attack mode

Don't tell your lifestory, less they know more they interest.You don't chase the animal in the cage do you?

Ask open ended questions.This means people can't answer yes or no.Also continue topic don't change topic immediatly.

I'm just dumping example dialogs(not taken anywhere, I tried and they work)

M:So how do girls meet each other
T:It was first day on the college I just she was alone so we talked and get along well.
M(to other girl):She was alone eh,so you're the quiet one in the group(smile when saying this)

tease example
M:What do you do on free times
S:Bulshit,boring and stupid stuff (she does not say that, but c'mon most of them boring and lie about it)
M:Oh part hard then haha
S:hahah what
M:we used party hard with my bros but we say those things when people askabout our free time
S:No I'm not lying(jokingly)
M:Look at your face, ahh you're bad about this don't you

Those are just examplem I've tried in real life.Don't just copy this conversetions, change it, have your style bro.

>shit test

make sure you don't act total nice guy or huy who trying to gain others approval, you'll eventually pass it.

And last thing you can do this examples bot guys and girls but when talk about girls be more sexual(I'm sure you're not creepy and know the basics)

And let us help you write your skype name, won't anything bad comes from it trust me

>yfw you don't post your skype

 No.2214

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>>2213
Okay, I just create my skype account…

>Ask open ended questions.This means people can't answer yes or no.


yeah I always forgot this

>Don't just copy this conversetions, change it, have your style bro.


thank you

>make sure you don't act total nice guy


i'm neutral, I'm pretty sure this has something to do with my appearance.

and I look for people like me, not approval.

>I'm sure you're not creepy and know the basics


k I'm not creepy but I don't know the basics.

so my skype is dugbugpud

 No.2216

>>2214
>don't know basics
baics are don't stare people I'm pretty sure you know difference about stare and eye contact

>I look for people like me

Good but try to tak everybody also make small "close friend circle". Find outcasted males and since you're improving yourself you take lead. Since you're more dominant than outcasted one he'll like you and want to hang out with you

>i'm neutral, I'm pretty sure this has something to do with my appearance

Don't think so.never make excuse for being unsuccesfull.I'm handsome but my fat short friend have lots of chicks and friends, because of his social skills.

Sent request btw



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