/improve/ - Self Improvement

>>2403

Okay, right off the bat. You, much like all of us, suffered the special snowflake syndrome. Wherein we were told we were destined for great things, etc etc.

The reality is that we're not special and you need to realize that the world doesn't give a shit. We are expendable.

I'm going to make it short and sweet rather than go into some moronic diatribe about how we're all gunna make it bruh

Lower your expectations, because life isn't as glamorous as people would have you think.

So sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride.

>I'm not even sure I want to be in uni

>I'm easily distracted when trying to get work done.

>If I don't have class, I'll sleep in past noon.

>I have little motivation to do things anymore.

are pretty much me, although I give myself a pass on the sleeping in past noon because I work nights.

>>2404

>Lower your expectations, because life isn't as glamorous as people would have you think.

But I never thought I was special, it's just what people said. I always felt I was normal, and as such, doing something great was really just a "normal" life. That's all I really wanted, anything extra was a bonus. The worst thing about all this, to me, is letting everybody down.

If anything, I was hoping that I had a good enough head on my shoulders that I wouldn't fuck up too much along the way. But here I am, with no idea what to do to get my life in order (probably because I grew up in disorder), or how to even tell the people who care about me that I want to change it. I thought that getting up each day and going to class would be enough… it was more than most kids do, but apparently, that wasn't the case. I struggled with assignments I shouldn't have, and my grades slipped as a result.

I desperately want to enjoy the ride, but it's awfully hard when I can't even get the engines to start half the time.

>>2405

I always wanted to work nights(in some ways, I still do. I'm a night-owl at heart), because I thought it'd be cool(easy), but I've heard it can impact your social life and rates of depression are higher amongst people who work late. For that reason, I'd rather stick to a "normal" schedule, at least until I have everything in order.

>>2406

I'd say I'm just as asocial and depressed with my current schedule

meaning very

>>2406

>But I never thought I was special, it's just what people said

listen, douchenozzle, be that as it may. the mere fact that that was how you were brought up will have affected you. it's obviously affected you in college where you have no discipline or motivation.

>I was a remarkably high-achiever in HS

>but I never had to study in HS at all.

>I thought that getting up each day and going to class would be enough… it was more than most kids do

hah! your words betray your humble facade. you obviously think you're superior to the rest of the sheep. go ahead, admit it, it's quite liberation. we all have had to come to terms with our egos at some point. as cliche as it may sound you must accept your darkest and shameful self in order to move forward.

There is no shame in doing so though, if you want to experience true humility then that's what you must do.

Accept that your ego isn't allowing you to do the grunt work that is required to get anywhere in life. That's all this shit is really. Deep DEEEEEP down you(and by you I mean all of us who procrastinate and are failures) cannot accept the fact that we are just like all the other commoners who must work for what they want.

Think about it.

> if you want to experience true humility then that's what you must do.

what's the next step, anon?

>>2408

You can believe that I see myself as superior to others all you want, but that is a false assumption.

I was simply very compatible with the public school system. I took AP classes thinking they would teach me how to study, but I usually ended up skimming through my notes because I already picked up all the info in the lecture. Studying was never a skill I required, so it never was developed. I spend countless hours with textbooks trying to make sense of them in my classes - I just don't learn efficiently from them. My last Econ was one I put a ton of time into preparation for, and I was ecstaric that I got a C. I didn't even beat the average(it was a few points higher), but I was really glad I at least held my own in a higher-level econ class. That sounds awfully average to me.

I've only ever met one actually "gifted" kid. He was fucking brilliant. What people saw in me was what I had seen in this kid. I looked like I was going places, but this kid was already there.

Considering myself to be "special" would not only a blantant lie, but a disservice to those who are actually intelligent.

Sorry that I can't offer much advice op, but you're not alone. You've basically described me as well.

You've said what you should be or want to be doing, but don't do. What distracts you and wastes your time? It might help if instead of trying to gain more productive time you cut down on wasted time.

A second opinion on this would probably be better, given that I'm in a similar situation.

>>2417

>Studying was never a skill I required, so it never was developed. I spend countless hours with textbooks trying to make sense of them in my classes - I just don't learn efficiently from them

You are so far up your own asshole you don't even realize it. Look, you need to shut the fuck up and just DO. There is no "secret". Aside from maybe having an epiphany of sorts it's up to you and only you to come to terms with the fact that all that ever really stops any of us is putting in the work. But i'll indulge your stupid ass.

There ARE a few things you can do but aside from this nothing anyone says will change you unless it comes from yourself. If you want organization there is a lot of work.

1. Get paper and write down EVERYTHING you can think of that you could possibly want. Anything and everything no matter how batshit.

2. Eliminate the outlandishly impossible and categorize the rest from most wanted to least. Pick the top 5 that can be fit into the SMART method.

3. Set goals for these at yearly/5 year/10 year intervals depending on how big they are

4. Work at them and see how it works out. Reevaluate constantly.

What you really want will come out the more you do.

>I don't have a driver's license

Why don't you get of your lazy ass and get this?

>I haven't had any formal work in over 2 years

Have you even applied?

>I've never been in a relationship

You're in uni, arguably the last time you'll have as much chances as you do

>I'm either close to or failing a bunch of classes at uni, which might force me to change my major(Comp Sci)

By all means do it, not like it'll change that you're a fuckup.

>I'm not even sure I want to be in uni

Then I hope you're sure about who's footing the bill.

>I'm easily distracted when trying to get work done.

Read these two links, hopefully you'll get soemthing out of it.

http://waitbutwhy.com/2013/10/why-procrastinators-procrastinate.html

http://waitbutwhy.com/2013/11/how-to-beat-procrastination.html

>If I don't have class, I'll sleep in past noon.

So? Take it easy then.

>I have little motivation to do things anymore.

I can only offer words of advice but there are literally billions of people who would kill for your position. You're probably in a first world country, even if you're not, you're in the upper echelons already by being in uni, realize that it's VERY fucking easy to fall into the poor house even here man. It's not fun, it sucks, not having work which is fucking real these days is shit. I haven't had steady work in months because of the oil crash and it looks like i'll have to go to refinery work here very soon. That's the life of a common cog. 4 am, work for 12 hours, in fucking dangerous disgusting conditions for a few more bucks because there's either this or minimum wage. THAT'S the real harsh secret of work. There is no in between shit. This is what awaits you if you fuck up the golden goose opportunity you have.

And hey, you may say fuck office work but honestly what else is there? Traveling salesman? All you're doing is prepping for work. Why worry so much? Fail out of college, see how you fare then. Hopefully you don't have debt and MAYBE you'll have a tolerable life.

>>2426

If by fracking you mean oil then forget it, he's not going to find anything. I'm >>2421

oil went bust last november and it's fucking bad out there.

But this dude is right on.