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 No.2843

how do I talk to people?

 No.2875

Uh, I dunno, practice? Common interests?


 No.2877

>>2843

First you have to realise that social skills are like muscles, in the sense that if you train them they get "stronger" or in this better and if you don't train them, they'll get weaker.

I know this advice is given so many times but I believe it's underrated, join a gym. This is to target your self confidence, which is pretty vital if you want to start socialising and will bridge the gap between you and the people in front of you, in other words if you are comfortable enough in your self you will be much more likely to approach people.

In the gym you'll have minimal interactions but still interactions so it's progress. Also, being constantly surrounded by people is also helpful. What I think you should also do is join a club or a social group. For example cooking class or a sport which involves multiple people or I don't know, some hiking group. If you enjoy gaming, look for a gaming group etc. So like the above anon said, find a common interest.


 No.2879

I recommend this book: http://amzn.to/1EZ4qYZ

It's called "It's Not All About Me."

Essentially, it teaches you how to have good conversations and how to make people like you. It really helped me get over my social anxiety.


 No.2880

>>2879

Oh, also, it's insanely short.


 No.2888

>>2880

Found it: >>2887


 No.2900

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>>2877

I second this. I actually learned a lot of social skills from going. Asking for spots, asking to work in with people. It's great (plus you get swole m8)


 No.3053

Practice on a group of people which you find easiest to approach, examples of groups include:

>Men

>Women

>Old/young/teenagers etc..

>Children (My personal favourite, as I used to skate and had kids flock over to me so i'm good with them)

>Race

>Attractiveness

>Job or trade

I think you get the point, also you could try omegle or whatever. I don't like it myself I find it hard talking via skype and stuff like that


 No.3106

>>2843

Try talking to them.


 No.3122

>>2843

If in doubt, make a lame remark about the weather. Usually works for me.


 No.3406

Start with a greeting

"Good morning/evening/afternoon how are you doing?"

If it dies right after that and you want to continue it say something that happened recently or ask about something. Just let them talk

I usually ask them something I think they're interested in and just listen and act interested


 No.3538

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Just stop caring about what people think.

And stop trying to impress people or make them think you are "cool".

Then just work on yourself, get hobbies, get fit, be active, be inspiring, and you'll find people start approaching you and wanting to be around you.


 No.3540

>>3538

>just b urself lol :)




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