/improve/ - Self Improvement

>At one point should you consider moving out of your parents?

What I did was move out for a year to gain real life experience, now I am back for school. It worked great, I now have a monumentally better work ethic. I am going to move out as soon as I'm done school and I budget a good chunk of time.

>Should you enjoy it for as long as possible or leave as soon as you are able?

Some people consider not moving out as soon as you're 18 pathetic, but I enjoy my parents' company, they're able to support me, and family is all you really have.

>What would you take?

Not much. I would like to live more simply on my own. Most of my stuff is in storage. Moving is a bitch, so try for this.

>How much money would you like to have(realistically) saved?

It depends where you live. You want to have many months budgeted out (with a generous amount allocated for rent or loan payment), especially if you don't have a job lined up (which you should).

>What would be your first go to place to call home? Studio Apartment, rent house, crash at relatives on the other side of the country?

I would definitely aim for a house as soon as possible. Real Estate pays off, renting does not. Moving in with your relatives gets you nowhere, unless if you're just in a bad home situation. Also make sure you still save a lot, it's never too late to start saving for retirement.

>And for the roleplay, if you were to have to move out within a week(if in school pretend you can't pay tuition this fall) what would you do?

I would probably try to get a job as close to my degree as possible as soon as possible. I'm on my last chance here, there's nothing I could really do to get back on my feet given my current skills. I would probably never have a stable career. Have to keep trucking though.

>What was your thought process and what were the things that surprised you that you didn't prepare for?

(I answered the rest of these questions above). Nothing really surprised me, because I was without preconceptions. I wanted to find out what it was like to work and live alone, and I had my parents to back me up if I needed. (They only spotted me once.)

>>2904

there is no problem with living with your parents, if you enjoy it.

Reasons to live alone :

- escaping a broken family

- forced by college/job location

- more freedom for drugs or dating sluts

if you live with your parents, you save a ton of money. But learn the basic skills for independence : laundry, keep rooms not too messy, basic cooking…

>>2906

>Real Estate pays off, renting does not.

No doubt you can start building equity faster but it doesn't always pay off. And the commitment itself is a killer for me. Like, I can "afford" it now, maybe a few years from now, but who knows what will happen in 5.

>>2907

I'm starting to get anxious being here. It's such a safe haven to run away from it all I think it's what really holds me back. Then again, free room service. But I dunno, lately, I get annoyed by everything.

I gave myself a deadline that by 25 I should have everything set to move out. I wanted 50k in savings, an trade associate, a few higher tier certs, and a bit more work experience. So far I'm on track for them all.

Yeah, it shouldn't be looked down upon if you're not out as soon as you're 18 but I don't want to be here in my late 20's either. Eventually you HAVE to bite the bullet. I may as well do it and learn in my mid 20's rather than my early 30's.

I'm 23 and I might go to a trade school. Right after high school I went to college for 2.5 years for something I didn't like. I decided I wanted to look into trade schools for a skill;machining. Mostly CNC work from what I found

Anyway if I do go I would go from the east coast to the Midwest or Texas. I'd want to find a job right away and I'd like even more if it was in the state the school was in. It seems unrealistic to get a home an pay off the loans I have. I would like to not pay rent for a place too and the long term commitment of a home scares me.

>I went to college for 2.5 years for something I didn't like

Same, didn't even get an associate out of it due to bad grades. Right now I'm in a tech program at a local college. I'm actually considering getting a bachelor's but those bad grades are really bringing me down. Still, even if I had perfect grades I don't have the money.

Find a college and try to get an actual Associate if you can, it looks better than a certificate IMO.

Here's my plan

>have 50k saved(halfway there)

>Complete my associate and start on my bachelors

>Move out by 25

There are some minor things that I would like to have done as well by that point but these 3 bullets are basically the gist of it. I used to have, "car paid off" but I completed that awhile ago. When I think about moving out these days I have that strange sensation that you get when you realize what you want to do is completely within the realm of possibility.

Freaks me out a bit.

>>2904

I moved out shortly after I turned 25. Part of that was because I was saving rent money for a down payment on a house of my own. Another part is that I graduated from college one month before the housing crash in 2008.

But on a more serious note, my life options opened up after I moved out. If you can find affordable housing earlier, do it.

I have actually very simple reason for movies out.

A few years ago I went through a psychotic Episode.

Back then I still live with my Patents.

Once I got better I needed to get out of there because I was so messed up and it only reminded me of the shit I had to experience. By moving out I actually Learned to take care of myself and learned valuable real life skills.

I am an in an apprenticeship that pays my bills. I feel like everything was ging uphill once I move out. Best Devisen I made. Made me more reliable as a Person because I learned to live on my own and everything that come with it. Made me grow as a person

>>3221

Fucking autocorrect ruined my Post

>>3221

I still understood what you said.

But yeah, that's exactly how I imagine moving out is. A lot of responsibility but its something that will make you grow tons. Maybe I'm fetishizing it a bit. Whatever, when I move out I want to beike 99% sure I'm not coming back.

>>3221

Also, what was it like the first few months after you moved out? Is it as expensive as you thought? Do you get feels of loneliness or anything like that? Are you much better now?

Honestly as soon as possible. I'm going on 25 and still live with my mom but I just can't get the money together.

>>3221

>a psychotic Episode.

you know, I had the exact same experience.

I moved in with friends first thought:

>moved state, live with friends,

>had episode,

>moved out on my own

>became my own person, learnt my own way and grew me as a person.

what are the odds, eh?