/improve/ - Self Improvement

getting girls

>>301
I know how you feel man. I don't know why I haven't given up on uni already…

Unemployment.

At the moment I feel really empty. Like, I don't really enjoy anything or want to do anything anymore. I don't even have anybody to talk to, really. Most of my friends won't speak to me because either they are tired of me or they are following the whole "it's cool to ignore people" trend, which I find pretty fucking stupid.

>>366
I mean when you try to talk to people and you know they saw what you typed but they never respond. Even if you are talking directly to them. ;_;

One improvement I wish to make is to not care about others, to be honest.

Lack of discipline.

I don't know how to maintain a level of effort over a certain period of time. Diet, exercise, studying, abstaining from something, etc; it doesn't matter, I don't do it. I'm a piece of shit that will continually say, "tomorrow" or "next week, I'll fucking do it". I've been doing this for fucking four years. Each time I can picture the future a year from that point being so fucking sweet. I fail at everything, just like my mother.

2015 needs to be the year I do something. Get a girlfriend, get a job, go back to school, lose 50 pounds, learn a useful skill, fucking anything. I just need to improve myself and my life in a noticeable way.

>>376
If you get a gf you really shouldn't "fuck anything"…

procrastination.
I'm an "underachiever"

My biggest weakness is I let my emotions get the better of me. I try to be as cold and emotionless as possible in my everyday life when it comes to decisions, but it doesn't stop me spending my nights filled with anger and too stressed to work.

It would help if people weren't idiots around me, but that's life.

Self depreciation.

No matter how hard I try I will always end thinking of me as a fucking failure. Being ashamed of myself every time is also one of my biggest flaws.

I'm always the weird one, even if I'm not acting weird.
I'm always the dumb one, even if my grades says otherwise.
I'm always the unloved one, even if my parents do care about me.
And the list goes on…

Gluttony, I feel like I'm hungry all the time. Sometimes I almost think I'm addicted to fast food also. But luckily I ain't heavily obese, only got a beer gut.

well I quit marijuana about a month ago, fapping back in august, so now it's alcohol, cigarettes, and wasting time on the computer.
Also, I care too much about the opinions of people who don't care about me.

I'm too timid. I don't handle pressure very well; it stops me from thinking clearly. It also stops me from expressing genuine opinions on many subjects. I think it might just be that I've "kept my head down" for so long that I haven't had many chances to experience real opposition and so I don't know how to keep myself composed when the time comes. This has also resulted in one of my most dangerous tendencies which is to almost automatically accept or give weight to the points or evidence that somebody brings up in an argument. After the fact, I can sometimes think up counter-arguments but it's difficult even then because I'm usually still rattled a bit. I've been trying to force myself to voice my opinions (at times and places that are appropriate, not just injecting them into every conversation) and also working on building my self-confidence through personal accomplishments.

Lately I've had two primary goals: get fit and develop better studying/learning/critical thinking habits. I'm almost down to my first target weight (200lbs, down from 230lbs), I've developed noticeable muscle, and I've been maintaining a good GPA since entering university (above 3.6). I think I'm on a good track here but besides my confidence issues I think I would benefit a lot from reading more widely and getting at least somewhat familiar with more ideologies, histories, and areas of scientific study.

Just about everything in this thread applies to me.

Aside from the Chan-standard suicidal depression I don't think I can eat any vegetables. When I was tiny my mom made me super averse to ever seeing any blood so one day I decided that ketchup looks too much like blood and stopped eating it. I haven't really eaten any vegetables since then. I've tried a few times in the past couple years, mixing green onions into my ramen, eating the food I get when they fuck up the order at a fast food place, and even just eating chicken that's touched the pickle they put on your plate at sports bars, but aside from the green onions it always fucks me up to the point that I can't even swallow the food.

tl;dr: I'm a combination of that lady that only eats cheesy potatoes and that episode of The Simpsons where Lisa tries to get everybody to eat one healthy meal.

Sex, procrastination, my nihilism.

I can't stop fapping, I fucked the girl of my dreams at school and got caught, her parents transferred her to a different school. I spend my days seeing attractive people, and at one point got in a fight with her over the phone because I wanted to have relationships with other people (Purely for sex, because we can't see each other) I had a short fling with a girl, and told her all about and I have apologized many times because I feel like shit about it.

I procrastinate over everything, I've been failing my Spanish class, if I passed one test I would get a D. However I don't feel like studying, if I fail I'm removed from the class. In my English class since the teacher is a complete idiot, I don't pay attention at all and just don't do the work. This is a theme in most my classes, I'm just lazy and I feel no better than my peers which is enough to drives me to change my work habits.

Nihilism is killing me, I don't see life having a purpose. I go day to day seeing people that hate me because I'm "too smart for my own good" or "arrogant" because I can't conform to their petty ideas of fun and life. I hangout with my fringe group who are generally racist and sexist. The girl I had a fling with she's very conservative, I have a friend who's an autist and he wants to kill himself, another who never met his dad and his mother died this year. Another who was raped by her boyfriend who has cheated on her and she won't leave him. She's a beautiful girl and is being completely stupid. But all this besides the point. I don't see a point to all this. I want to leave school because I don't learn anything, I don't see a point to all this bullshit that my peers go through, and put me through. I hate it, I hate it so fucking much. Life is shit, but at least I've got a girlfriend who's loyal to me, but I still don't trust her.

Now I really think my greatest weakness is a complete disliking of school.

>>376
Exactly the same problem here. I'v got an interesting solution in the works. I set a goal this last week to ban myself from YouTube/TV/ETC and I managed to last a whole four days. That sounds pathetic but for me it was an accomplishment. Now this week I'm determined to keep it up for five days at a minimum. I think if I just focus on doing it for five measly days instead of indefinitely I'll be able to pull it off. Hard to say, I'm new to the concept of self improvement.

I have no real skills and I'm very stupid. I have no motivation to do anything. I quit my soul crushing job because I felt like I was at a breaking point with it. I tried getting a real job and for the last 5 months I get nothing. I can't find anything it kills my mood. I have no idea what I even want anymore. I want to move away, but don't know how.

Procrastination and lack of will to study.

I don't fucking know how I will finish the last practice EMT exam, especially when main grader will be a massive fucking faggot who will fuck you up if he doesn't like you. And I'm sure as hell won't kiss his ass.

Im too serious, how do I into humor?

I don't know where I want to go with my life? I feel like even if I try my hardest, I'll still fail. Everything I want to do with my life, video games, comics, writing, animation, looks like absolute shit from where I'm standing today. Even though I'd want to /improve/ these things from a societal standpoint, I'd probably still fail because people wouldn't really care. If I could make care somehow, that would be great.

I also went on /pol/ way too much a year ago, and it's really infected my way of thinking about what anyone (mainly myself) is actually capable of, if that makes sense.

I need help. I was majorly cucked and i can't seem to get over it.
The bitch was showing this chad our text messages, telling him stuff I'd do over the phone or in person and the stupid shit I'd say.
No matter what it is I'm doing it always pops up in my head and it makes me want to kill them both. they don't deserve to be as happy as they make each other.
No matter how busy i make myself i still end up thinking about it, how everyone knew and kept it a secrete. I didn't mention this earlier but, the chad happened to be someone I considered a good friend. How do i stop thinking about it? Anyone else ever had to deal with something like this? Should i just kill them and then kill myself?

My biggest weakness is my self esteem and self consciousness. Always think everyone has it together except me and it lowers my self esteem.

I have no idea what I want.

I would seriously give one of my nuts and one of my eyes to figure it out (as long as not having two balls and two eyes didn't prevent me from doing it).

Serious amounts of time and money have been wasted in trying to find the answer to that question.

>>813
You should think big about what you want, and narrow it down from there. Do you want wealth? social clout? To make art? After you know the destination you can pick a path to follow based on where your talents lie.

>>806
That's heavy. I understand 100% where you're coming from and why you'd want to do that, but they aren't worth it. The old cliche about the best revenge is being successful is an appropriate one in this context.

For me my biggest weakness is pornography. I hate that watch it so much and also that so many things remind me of it. It's really getting to me and I just get low because Im so weak of will to cut it out of my life.

>>813
If you don't know what to do drive/passion wise pick anything and work by trial and error. previous life experiences are the catalysts for life direction but when you're not experiencing anything it's hard to have any direction
>>806
As another anon here said, the best revenge is great success. Get a gym membership, start meeting new people etc etc. Focus on yourself and start improving your life.

The girl sounds like a cum dumpster, why even acknowledge someone like that? You not giving a single fuck about her is probably the best thing you can do right now and probably what you should have done as soon as you found out, it'll hurt her a lot more knowing she wasn't anything to you but a sex object.

Seriously you dodged a bullet, a bad friend and a fucking whore.

>>809
will read.
>>823
>>827
Yeah, that's what I'm trying to do.

>>296
Lack of discipline. I know of my own vices but I just don't do anything about them.

>>376 also hit the nail on the head for me. My life feels pointless and empty. I need to do something great or contribute in a more meaningful way than paying taxes to an incompetent, corrupt government after working a 9 to 5 job I hate. I want a Jihad, a 4th Reich, an expedition to Mars, fucking ANYTHING to devote my life to.

social skills. knowing how to interact with people.

people ALWAYS love to push this gym shit to guys for self-improvement….why? Because exercising is fucking easy. Unless your really fucking fat or some shit, id say most guys problems are they dont know how to converse with people. they've been fucked by all the tv, video games, and porn over the years.

>>877
Honestly, gym advice is frequently given and constantly underrated for the very reason you just gave, people assume "it's fucking easy" to be the solution to their problems. They are right to a degree, only direct social contact will help with social skills.

However, clearly if the person doesn't have good social skills, they're probably also not that keen to jump into social situations. So that's where gym comes in. It makes you feel good and it makes you confident in yourself and thus give you that extra push to go and jump into a social situation.

Yes it isn't directly fixing your problem, but it will indirectly help you get from point A to B.

I'd say my fetishes and how they've developed over the years. I want to eliminate them entirely because they make it difficult to have a loving, sexual relationship with girls.

So far the only advice I've gotten to get rid of them is to do nofap/noporn and to somehow not think about them, so that's what I'm trying to do.

>>526
>Don't fall into feminine habits

Define.