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 No.3545

I have like no motivation to improve myself. Like at all. Could anyone please give me a helping hand?

 No.3546

Why? It would be a waste of time.


 No.3547

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Habits > willpower > crap >motivation

Relying on feels to do something everyday is obvious in its shittiness, today you have your dog dead, tomorrow your gf breaks up with you, the day after you're too depressed to go on, for the rest of the week you're moping around.

With willpower you just order yourself to do it and do it, without thinking about wether you "feel like it" or not.

WIth habits you just do it, without spending any willpower or thinking at all.


 No.3548

k so how do I best start this so it can become a habit?


 No.3553

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Motivational music

Good sleeping pattern

Reading inspirational literature or about historical figures you wish to emulate


 No.3561

>>3548

Just keep doing whatever it is that you do and eventually it becomes a habit.

May take some days, may take some months, even may take a year. But when you're there, you're there.


 No.3621

>>3545

Motivation is not reliable. Habits on the other hand are.

How do you go about making a habit?

Start small, so small that you will 100% do it regardless of whether you are motivated or you feel like shit. So for example if I wanted to start doing 500 push ups a day, I wouldn't start on 500, I'd start on 50 a day, so 5 sets of 10 reps, very doable stuff. If even 50 a day seems too much, lower it until it doesn't seem that way anymore. Yes, your results from it will be insignificant initially, but trust me, once you start building momentum and gradually increasing the amount you do, you'll be happy you started it this way, because once you eventually reach 500 a day, it will be a habit, you won't even need motivation to do it, it'll feel instinctual and you won't make a big deal about it. Would you rather start small and 100% succeed? Or start on 500 at once and eventually burn out and possibly quit bothering? Willpower is just as useless as motivation if not used right.

Once you've start small, start gradually increasing the amount you do a day. There's a few ways you could go about doing this. One is doing 50 push ups a day for 3 days and then increasing it by 25 and so on, and another way is just increasing the amount by a small amount every day, for example an extra 8 or something a day. It doesn't really matter which way you do it, as long as you are not going up by too much too fast. So increasing by over 200 in a single week is probably not a good idea.

Before doing the above you need to find a trigger/que for each of the habits you are trying to make. Think of triggers/ques as something that will remind you to go about doing your new habit. A good trigger is an already established habit, so if for instance, breakfast, dinner, the time you wake up at, whatever other task you regularly do. Using the push ups example, each time you'd go to the toilet for whatever reason, you'd have to do 10 reps. So in this case, the act of going to the bathroom is the trigger that reminds you to do your 10 reps.

Rewarding yourself is the final thing you have to do. This is very important. Rewarding yourself is what will turn your random daily act into a habit. Your reward can be anything, whether it's something like nice food or as simple as you putting your hands in the air and saying "I'm awesome" like a faggot.

tl;dr

>Write down everything you want to do

>make those tasks so easy/small to do that you will do them regardless of whether you are motivated or feel like shit

>find some triggers

>Use said triggers to remind you to do your daily act

>Reward yourself

>Gradually but slowly increase the effort required/the amount you have to do a day

>Profit and bang bitches

The Power of Habits by Charles Duhigg explains it better than I could ever. I highly recommend you read it.

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 No.3646

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>>3621

> 500 push ups a day

Enjoy ruining your elbow joints for the rest of your life.


 No.3652

>>3646

>What is an example




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