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 No.4015

I was a failure all my life. I had bad grades in school and even worse in uni. I made hundreds of bad decisions and missed every opportunity to make my life better. And now I'm in lowest point in my life: I spent almost two years sitting at home after I graduated uni and I don't have any work for more than a year. I'm 24, I live with my parents and I have nothing to loose at this point. And I feel like this is time to change my life to the better. Two months ago died my little brother and this fact was very painful to me and after grieving some time I decided to fight my lazy self and make my life better. Of course this is not a first time I'm doing it, but this time I serious as I never was. And I already have some achievements.

- I started to do bodyweight workout and running/biking regularly. And already incorporated it in my life.

- After some time I realized that I have porn (I found that I like some shit that disgust myself) and fap addiction, so I started nofap and currently completed 24 days and looking forward.

- I realized that I need some work, so I started to search for one. I have some knowledge about programming, so I started looking for work. I created resume and already failed 3 interview (in 4 weeks). But I hope that if I gain some knowledge I will find some work.

- I realized that for many years I consumed products of modern culture that polluted my mind, corrupted my morality and clouded my perception of beauty. So I decided abandon my prevous habits and start building my new self from scratch. Films, tv, sports, imagebords (halfchan and some boards here), they all spread all this new corrupted culture in my mind. So I blocked most sites on which I wasted my time before. I downloaded anime from Studio Ghibli and I'm currently watching it on evenings, I feel like its sincerity and kindness liberates my mind. I also started to listen many classic music, especially baroque.

- I developed sleeping pattern (which I'm violating now, writing this after time I usually go to bed).

- I developed more kind attitude toward people around me, and found that many of them is better then I thought about them.

- I keep my room clean, I shave every second day.

- I found interesting courses on coursera and added them to my studying of programming.

I realized that I love nature for her beauty and I realized with shame that I ugly. That with my failures I bring sorrow to people around me I love. Death of my brother made me question myself about my qualities and my future and I found that I shitty person and if I don't change something now then rest of my life I will waste as first part. In this time I had very good days and bad days (after each interview I feel myself helpless for example), but my life overall is significantly better than before. But on bad days I can lay on my bad full day looking on the wall and fearing future. After trying some other things I decided to make this thread in which I would post my achievements and hope that when I see it on my bad days it gives me power to continue my work.

Also, I want say thanks to you all guys here, I found many tips in threads here and some of them really helped me.

 No.4016

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On this picture in orange rectangle is table which helps me keep nofap (it is hanging near my computer so I see it all the time), I make mark every evening.


 No.4020

>>4015

You're doing great OP, keep up the good work!

Is there anything you are currently struggling with that we can help you with?


 No.4022

Good man, the part about nature is really important for therapeutic value. Also, remember to talk more, even to yourself to prevent the stagnation of social skills.


 No.4029

>>4016

I dunno man, hope it works for you, but personnally I haven'T fapped in over two weeks. I keep myself busy enough for not even thinking about fapping.


 No.4032

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Thanks guys, yours words of encouragement warmed my heart.

>>4020

>Is there anything you are currently struggling with that we can help you with?

The fact that somebody read my post is already a great help, because I feel myself sort of committed to do good and fight further.

I'm currently searching for work as programmer. I have 15 bucks it's all that remained from my savings I accumulated during my previous work so I really want to find some work in near future (I live with parents but ask them for money would be painful to me, because I already eating their food). I thought about finding some basic job for newbie programmer, but somehow already more than month I can't find any with my current knowledge. So I realized that I need to lurk moar and go to web dev. I know C# core, some Microsoft technologies for creating desktop apps, but it seems like nobody is searching for newbie C# dev in my town. On every interview which I attended there were questions about college math, general comp sci, OOP, design patterns and C++. I'm not very good at all those things, because I'm newbie self-taught programmer. Of course I read about this new things all the time but it's too much for me to take so much info in near future. So I decided to learn about web dev because there is more jobs for newbie web devs and started learning about ASP.NET (MVC). But for web dev I also need to know JavaScript and all that other stuff. So this is big heap of new info I'm consuming right now. Currently I know some deal about back end (ASP.NET), but almost nothing about front end. So if someone can tell me some tips on front end development I will be very grateful. Currently I did something on codeacademy, and currently am waiting for some courses on edx. Before I start writing this post now I found this http://freecodecamp.com/ maybe someone know something about this. I'm also recently found that Linux is not so bad and became fan of manjaro, so I learned some basics about Ruby on Rails (same MVC as ASP.NET), but it seems nobody uses it anymore.

I also think that if I do not find any work as programmer, maybe I will be forced to take some other simple job to earn some money, while searching for work as programmer. Does this sounds meaningful? I worked on day-to-day work before and I remember that it takes many energy from you and in evening you are usually too tired to do some useful things. But maybe that was before and now I will be able to do work and develop myself as programmer.

>>4022

>Also, remember to talk more, even to yourself to prevent the stagnation of social skills.

This is good advice, and I talk to myself very much (sometimes I even speak something aloud and people turn and stare at me), but also I'm trying to speak half a hour on Skype with my friends every day, or bike with them on weekends. If you are pointing that I write shitty that's because I'm nonnative with English.

>>4029

I keep myself busy enough for not even thinking about fapping.

This is exactly the point. I doubt that I would be able to hold more than several day without keeping myself occupied most of the time. I did 3 faps per day on average before I started nofap so it's already achievement to me.

Also, I fell that I already know something about programming, math or physics so if anyone wants some help I can gladly help.

And there is also one tip that I discovered about a month ago. I configured my desktop to change background every 12 hours and accumulated big folder with carefully picked wallpapers (288 pics now). This is very simple thing but nonetheless it keeps please me.


 No.4046

>>4016

Anon that picture on the right seems cool, have a template?


 No.4047

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>>4046

Not OP but here you go.


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>>4047

Thanks anon. Have some doge.




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