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 No.4181

Ok guys, this is a board dedicated to self improvement so here I am exposing this problem.

I have a hungry skeleton physique, my personality resembles that of a girl's (like being worried with if's, I suppose this is a girl's thing), I am kissless virgin, I feel insecure all the time, my voice is weak and I stutter, I'm not comfortable with touching other people and people touching me in a friendly way. Despite all this, I'm not a faggot in the way that I'm simply not. I'm not attracted to dudes, I watch porn sometimes and it's straight porn (although I'm avoiding it now because it's not healthy and can turn into a bad addiction.) I think you get the gist.

So I have to make personality adjustments (or better said, big changes) and leave the betaness behind. I need to create a new me. How can I change myself?

You're welcome to suggest any good books that can help.

 No.4182

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>>4181

For physique you need to hit the gym and go to /fit/ for a routine.

Books on manliness i would recommend "The Way Of Men"

I don't know enough to help you on the personality adjustments.

Hope it helps.


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>>4181

Habits. Habits build character, and a change in character drives personal transformation.

Sure, you could try pretending you are alpha, but this is cosmetic at best, and is very likely to fail, because ultimately, you didn't fix the initial problem, you just masked it. To fix the initial problem you need to hit the problem at the core, which in your case, is your character.

Obviously, you will need tools to accomplish this. So I'll provide two very effective books but keep in mind that these books will not have some magical formula that will give you a shortcut to success. No, you'll still have to take the long road but these will make it so much easier. Study and understand the concepts and then try to integrate these concepts on your mission to /improve/ment. (I recommend you read Power of Habits first and then read The Willpower Instinct straight after). One covers habit loops and the other covers willpower. Why is this necessary? Because a lot of your change will depend on your actions, and you sure as shit need to act on them. But as we all know it's hard, so these make it slightly easier since they point you in the right direction.

In regards to you being a skinny skeleton, get a copy and make a calorie counting layout. From now on, start counting your calories. If you are unsure about the exact amounts in your food, make a conservative estimate based on the ingredients. At the end of the day, count it up, and see if you reached your target. Drinks like milk, or foods like peanut butter etc can you boost you the calories to reach your daily goal in case you are drastically behind.

For gym, read the /fit/ sticky. Gym is essential, because gym not only makes you feel better, more confident but it also helps with things like depression and willpower.

I also highly recommend you start meditating, helps with anxiety and just in general fear, and will reduce your "ifs". (basic guide is linked with this post)

As for targetting you being a kissless virgin, you will need to start exposing yourself to significantly more social situations. Succeedsocially.com helps a lot with this.

The important thing is to not swamp yourself with too much shit at once. You'll only end up burning out and giving up. Start small initially and gradually increase your workload at a pace that is comfortable.


 No.4188

>>4181

The way of men

The Rational Male

The way of the superior man

Everything by Evola.

These are just personnal recommendations though. By reading these, I went from beta loser to "grabbing a girl's boob by the end of the evening asking for a piece of that ass" in quite a fast time. I was also doing home trainning anyway, so I lost my weight and got in shape before reading these.

Make of that what you will.


 No.4191

Get your fucking testosterone levels checked. That's something that can be directly addressed and would help you across the board.


 No.4218

Thanks for all the advice and resources, everyone.

I'll check that meditation training. Seems promising.

I'm sharing this article from AoM which I incredibly identified with, specially on what the article's author calls post mortem rumination; when you overthink everything that you said in your last social interaction and wonder if you said or done anything wrong…

http://www.artofmanliness.com/2014/11/11/help-for-the-shy-guy-step-2-identify-the-faulty-thinking-that-leads-to-your-social-awkwardness/#postmortem


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 No.4254

Read The Ego and Its Own.


 No.4303

I'm reading TWoM, great stuff. Very easy to get into as well.




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