>>4181
Habits. Habits build character, and a change in character drives personal transformation.
Sure, you could try pretending you are alpha, but this is cosmetic at best, and is very likely to fail, because ultimately, you didn't fix the initial problem, you just masked it. To fix the initial problem you need to hit the problem at the core, which in your case, is your character.
Obviously, you will need tools to accomplish this. So I'll provide two very effective books but keep in mind that these books will not have some magical formula that will give you a shortcut to success. No, you'll still have to take the long road but these will make it so much easier. Study and understand the concepts and then try to integrate these concepts on your mission to /improve/ment. (I recommend you read Power of Habits first and then read The Willpower Instinct straight after). One covers habit loops and the other covers willpower. Why is this necessary? Because a lot of your change will depend on your actions, and you sure as shit need to act on them. But as we all know it's hard, so these make it slightly easier since they point you in the right direction.
In regards to you being a skinny skeleton, get a copy and make a calorie counting layout. From now on, start counting your calories. If you are unsure about the exact amounts in your food, make a conservative estimate based on the ingredients. At the end of the day, count it up, and see if you reached your target. Drinks like milk, or foods like peanut butter etc can you boost you the calories to reach your daily goal in case you are drastically behind.
For gym, read the /fit/ sticky. Gym is essential, because gym not only makes you feel better, more confident but it also helps with things like depression and willpower.
I also highly recommend you start meditating, helps with anxiety and just in general fear, and will reduce your "ifs". (basic guide is linked with this post)
As for targetting you being a kissless virgin, you will need to start exposing yourself to significantly more social situations. Succeedsocially.com helps a lot with this.
The important thing is to not swamp yourself with too much shit at once. You'll only end up burning out and giving up. Start small initially and gradually increase your workload at a pace that is comfortable.