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 No.4316

Should I drop out of college since I can't make friends?

What's the point of this experience if I have no one to share it with? Been here over a year now and haven't found a group of close friends like everyone else has. I've always been a very social person and being alone all the time is not fun. Almost not worth continuing.

I'm even thinking my lack of social ability will prevent me from being able to network and get a job.

What's everyone's take on this?

 No.4347

>Should I drop out of college since I can't make friends?

No, I think this would be counterproductive to your personal development and is a pretty destructive move on your part.

Not only because your education will suffer as a result but also because you are depriving yourself from an area with a lot of socializing potential. Your lack of social ability needs an arena like college for it to grow and improve. Ditching college right now would be spitting on your self improvement. You're faced with a challenge and you are choosing to flee rather than to fight it. This is not good, especially considering the importance of social skills, as you've noted.

Social skills can improve and deteriorate. They're like muscles, train them and they get stronger, neglect them and they get weaker. You leaving right now will only jeopardize them even more.

There are thousands of people in college and probably hundreds that you would get along well with. As cheesy as this advice is, you're going to have to put yourself out there if you want to meet a close group of friends. By this I mean you're going to have to join societies and attend college events. Initially you may be pretty awkward, but as time goes on, the more you expose yourself to situations like this, the more comfortable you will get and the more people you will be confident in approaching.

If you want a good resource on socializing in general, this site helped me a lot back in the day.

http://www.succeedsocially.com/


 No.4348

No you shouldnt.

Why do you think you should be like everyone else?You can have fun by yourself really easily.You shouldnt make a big deal out of "close friends".I think youre thinking about it too much.

If you want to make friends go and meet people.If you dont want thats okay to.Just do what you really want and dont get distracted by fear and anxiety.

And dont worry about the future that much.The fact that youre trying to overcome this 'problem' is a sign that youre getting better.

Btw, if youre gonna give up on the first obstacle in your goal,well,youre gonna have a bad time bro :/


 No.4377

I've had this same problem for 4 years. I have plenty of friends at home but at Uni it seems my social skills just evaporate. It's much more of a hive of social posturing than genuine bonds between people, I bet 99% of the 'close friends' you mention won't ever speak to each other again once they leave.

See it as a chance to mature and grow, you'll have time to expand your mind and improve without trying to fit in with a bunch of phoneys. Take it from a 4th year mate.




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