This might be obvious, but it's become increasingly evident that momentum is essential in creating change for yourself. That's not to say you have to be on a roll 100% of the time all the time to succeed, but the more you slow down the harder it is to get

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Anonymous 11/25/15 (Wed) 05:55:17 No.4485

This might be obvious, but it's become increasingly evident that momentum is essential in creating change for yourself. That's not to say you have to be on a roll 100% of the time all the time to succeed, but the more you slow down the harder it is to get up and going again. An issue for me is when I fail substantially in some regard, it leads me to give up for a small period of time and it's as if everything gets reset. I lose any feeling of achievement that I've gained and instead feel even worse off than before I began. Binging on those toxic pleasures on days where you feel like a failure and just want a simple dopamine hit just aren't worth it. It's not easy to ignore these cravings when you have a really shitty day either, but in doing so you will set yourself apart from everyone else.

Anonymous 11/25/15 (Wed) 16:33:03 No.4487

What's your approach to changing? Habits, willpower, motivation etc

Anonymous 11/25/15 (Wed) 17:50:31 No.4489

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>>4485

100% agreed. I've only found one thing to combat this: constant meta-check-ins with myself. I do it daily.

What is a meta-check-in? I made the phrase up but I'm sure there is a better way to describe it. Basically, I just check in with myself. How am I doing? Where am I falling behind? For normies, this seems like pretty automatic behavior, but my autism/depression/whateverthefuckiswrongwithme makes this just not happen. If I let myself go, I wouldn't brush my teeth, shower, or really do more than overeat, masturbate and entertain myself on the internet.

It's something like an annual review at work. Except with myself as boss and employee. And I do it daily, in regards to every part of my life. I use an Excel sheet to track it. Yes, I'm that aspie. :^)

It's like a check list gone mad. I track things I want to do daily, weekly, monthly like checking email so I don't forget to respond to people. Check on birthdays on Facebook and make sure I tell people happy birthday. Daily push-ups, weight lifting, walking, reading, meditation, yoga, guitar, programming, drawing, AGDG, etc, etc.

Part of it is like the Seinfield "don't break the chain" motivation. Part of it is GTD. Part of it is just reminding myself what I'm working on, books I'm reading, etc. But a large part of it is exactly what you mentioned: momentum. It helps me a lot to see my momentum there in a spread sheet. To see the data. To see and celebrate when I'm doing well and to observe and correct when something falls behind.

If I don't do this, the negative thinking adds up, stacks like cord-wood in my mind. Meditation clears that out, but this meta-check-in thing keeps me on course. I have no idea how weird this is or what other people's systems are like. :/

Anonymous 11/26/15 (Thu) 18:31:37 No.4499

>>4489

This actually sounds like a good idea, mind posting some screenshots of your spreadsheet?

Anonymous 11/26/15 (Thu) 22:48:49 No.4501

>>4489

This is pretty good.

I used to do something similar. Although it wasn't as focused as yours, it was just a general type of description of the day and where I could do better, along with my thoughts on things. It was all written into a daily journal.

I think it was effective because I'd be reminded of my goals regularly, which in turn would keep the cog moving and progress moving.

I stopped about a year ago because I lost my journal and didn't get around to restarting.

After seeing your post will probably combine the journalling aspect with what you've got going, should make for a good combo.

Anonymous 11/27/15 (Fri) 08:45:32 No.4507

>>4489

>spreadsheet

I've recently started to use excel and try to track my progress and like yourself have myself put commands unto myself. What sort of sheets are you using? What do you put in those excel sheets?

I've got my main excel sheet where everything is laid down for coming weeks/month. Everyday I need to study 2 courses for my exams + 1 extra activity which doesn't take more then half an hour to complete.

My next sheet is what for extra activities I want to better myself in: this tiem around i'm trying to build up my discipline by taking cold shower. Next time I refresh my main sheet I'll do something else.

My last sheet is where I will keep my main sheet history and see what activities I have already done.