/improve/ - Self Improvement

The only thing you can do, is like you said, jump in.

List all of your problems, like you did. Arrange them from easiest to hardest. Attack the easiest ones first.

Call up your fucking family or have your landlord fix your fucking home, for starters. That's easy-ish, compared to the others.

>>529
Most these problems you're having seem relatively easy to Google. "How to get tags in another state." "What is a credit score?" Just call your landlord. Just call your family members and ask how things are. That's a simple thing to do.

>>529
I'm sure you knew this already, but there is no easy solution to this.

The hardest part about uncomfortable situations is approaching them. You can’t stop thinking about how uncomfortable they're going to be. Even after approaching discomfort many times, I still hesitate sometimes.

But the longer you hesitate, the harder it becomes. Over-thinking creates anxiety, and anxiety prevents action.

Stop wasting time thinking, and start doing.

One of the most useful skills in my opinion is becoming comfortable with being uncomfortable.

If you learn this skill, you can master pretty much anything. You can beat procrastination, start working out, eat healthier, learn new languages, make it through hardships and challenges, do public speaking, change almost everything about you. And that’s just the start. The one limiting factor that inhibits a lot of people from achieving the strongest version of themselves, is discomfort.

>I have an issue with my home that I brought up to my landlord but they never followed up on and I haven't tried contacting them about it since
Look at this for example, we're not talking about getting shot pain here, not torturous pain, but a simple call that may take mere minutes.

Discomfort isn’t bad. It’s just not what we’re used to. And so we avoid it, but at the cost of not being able to change things, not being healthy, not being open to adventure and the chaos of raw life.

So far I am aware of two ways of becoming used to discomfort. Both of them contradict each other but both methods have their merits and both work.

>Method 1: Cold showers
Cold showers has its health benefits, it's good to know they exist but the real reason to take cold showers is because it helps you get used to being uncomfortable.

By constantly challenging ourselves with something, even if it’s as simple as taking a cold shower, we build our tolerance for discomfort. We develop a mental toughness that enables us to keep calm in times of stress, to adapt to the obstacles that life throws at us, and to fearlessly take on new challenges. Our mind is like a muscle, the more we work it out, the stronger it gets.

Here's a relevant TedTalk. To be honest the guy could have made his point in half the time, but it's still a good watch.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gb0h8ZKvJW4
There's also a thread on this here.

>Method 2: Mastering discomfort comfortably
This method contradicts the above but to each his own, find which method suits YOU.

http://zenhabits.net/discomfort/

>>529
This will be controversial. Don't do this if you have an addiction problem.

Drink alcohol and chew tobacco until you are sufficiently intoxicated. Then you go through that drawer. You read all the bills. You write a summary of the situation. I owe so and so much. It is split into these chunks.
Just acknowledging the problem will be hard, but it is the first step. You have done good, give yourself a pat on the back. Post about your achievement itt.
Take a break for a day or so, then look again at the smallest bill. Make a plan for just that bill. Pay it off. Come here again and post about your new achievement.
Finally make a plan for the remainder. It will be long term. That is ok.