>>828>>832I don't mean to sound bad, but no wonder you barely get invited. It isn't right, I know, but you meet every requirement to be a boring person. This isn't such a bad thing because it's not something that can't be fixed, in fact, some things you might be able to fix straight away and others might take some getting used to, but all in all, this is something that you can make right so don't sweat it man.
>Are you negative around people? Being pessimistic or talking about how bad your life is etc>Yes but luckily I am going to a therapist for this.Okay, it's good that you're going to a therapist, make sure you do that. Talking to your friends about your problems though, is something you should probably avoid at all cost. More than likely they won't be able to give you useful advice because they lack the necessary perspective or they will not know what to say to you and try to avoid you. Not to mention you might be seen as a leech, basically someone who brings negativity to an otherwise positive place and fucks up the mood. Don't be that guy Anon, stop doing this, it is going to fuck your social life over if it hasn't already. If you need to vent, come here or /adv/ to vent, don't do it to your friends, at least not until you fix your shit but even then I'd advice not doing it too much.
Try to act positive, enthusiastic and do not talk about any problems, don't share your personal life details. Make it your goal to make it appear as though you are happy and working on fixing your life. That type of attitude is contagious and most people are welcome to people who want self improvement, as long as you don't keep chanting "I swear I'm going to change" every month, you don't need to explain yourself to people.
>Do you agree with everything people say?>Yes I tend to so people won't hate me.Okay, I get the thinking here but it is one that is flawed. First of all, ironically agreeing with everything everyone always says and never having your own opinions on things will actually make people dislike you. People pleasers are boring, if you want to be boring and someone's bitch, continue sucking up to everyone. It won't make people like you, it'll do vice versa. Realise some people will dislike you for almost no reasons at all, no amount of kindness will help stop that. You might as well speak your mind and be hated and respected than be someone's bitch and still be hated.
Don't agree just for the sake of agreeing, disagree, counter argument, learn to say no. Look after yourself above all others, have your needs as a number one priority.
>Do you get visibly offended by insults/banter?>I hardly get insults/banter but yes.Learn to laugh at yourself once in a while. Learn to use self deprecating humour, as long as you don't overdo it, you should be fine. People that can take a joke are likeable and fun to be around, especially if they hit as good as they get. This one takes getting used to and will probably require that you start talking more for you to even be comfortable doing this.
>Are you quiet around people?>Yes a lot, pretty rare for me to open up to others.Being quiet is not a bad thing, heck you might be an introvert and prefer not to talk but instead listen. However, if you want to be successful with your social life, you are going to have to learn some extroverted skills like talking.
This
http://www.succeedsocially.com/ covers things like being quiet and other social problems.