>>887>Losing weightMake sure you read the /fit/ sticky so you get a good idea of how to go about this the right way. Here's a good bodyweight home workout. I'd advice you to go gym but that's up to you.
>Don't completely kill your social lifeI did this too because it seemed reasonable, but see, social skills are like muscles, in the sense that if you don't train them, they will get weaker and if you train them, they will get stronger. What ended up happening is that when I reached my goals, by that time I was pretty socially awkward because I spent so much time away from social encounters. I wouldn't even be able to stand in a shopping line without feeling awkward and knowing that I looked fucking awkward. It's fixable, but honestly took a significant effort to do.
Yes, we need to make sacrifices to reach success but do not kamikaze your social life. Lower the time you spend on it but at the very least go out at least once a week for a simple coffee with a friend.
Also, a few more things:
Do this for
you. You are proving something to
you. Not to your friends, not to your family but to yourself. You don't need external validation, not now with your current state and not later when you've improved. What you need is internal validation. As the old proverb goes "if there is no enemy within, the enemy outside can do us no harm"
Make sure to reward yourself. The reward could be something as simple as you lifting your hands up and saying "I'm awesome", or anything else that's pretty gay like that. Rewarding yourself for good behaviour will insure you repeat said behaviour and help solidify it into a habit.
Don't look down on others for not being as productive as you. Do not do this, it's not a good thing to do. Do not do that to make yourself feel better or anything. Instead be a motivator in their lives, inspire change in others by becoming and changing into the greatest you. People will see you changing your lives and be motivated to change themselves. If they need a hand, give them a few pointers and keep moving forward. Do not judge the ones that don't try to change, we're all different and they may have not reached the mental stage that you are at yet. If someone kept beating on you for not doing shit when you used to smoke weed all day, do you think that would have motivated you? It probably wouldn't have and if hypothetically it did, you wouldn't be changing yourself for the right reasons.
Finally, if you haven't already, join our /improve/ party on habitRPG. Game is good for keeping up with habits and we could advise you along the way if you stumble or need pointers.