/kind/ - Random Acts of Kindness

I tend to argue for fun. Almost always end up playing devil's advocate with some outlandish position against people who take themselves way too seriously.

Being an "ebin troll" can be fun, cathartic, and can even give you and whichever keyboard-warrior you're arguing with some perspective.

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I don't know. I feel like keeping to myself, and dealing my problem on my own without arguing or complaining has helped me become a much stronger people.

I feel too stupid to do it.

I don't.

I'm very bad at arguing and tend to use alot of fallacies inadvertently in the past, so I try my best to avoid them now.

However, I find it fun observing people arguing instead. I learn alot more that way and understand people's train of thought better compared to if I was doing the arguing myself.

I don't argue anymore. People won't believe something they don't want to believe and if you contradict them they just get defensive.

So I listen and ask friendly questions like a police interrogator to get them to clarify their own thinking, exploring the assumptions and implications until they come to my conclusion believing it's their own.

But people say the damnedest things when they know they won't be judged and trust you won't tell anyone. My friend and I never flirt but once she blurted out if she had met me before her boyfriend back when I was single, she'd have kids with me.

Sometimes I wish I judged people so I wouldn't have to live with knowing these sorts of things.

i only argue with people so that maybe they'll stop bothering me with things i don't really care about, like /pol/shit.

I argue with people for many reasons.

I don't argue with others to prove that I am right; more often, I argue so that I can be proven wrong. I try to keep emotion away from argument, so as to keep discussions civil. However, matching wits with belief is a sport of sorts that I very much enjoy. Instead of attacking or defending an idea, I look at each argument as a sort of verbal "sparring". I don't put too much emotional stock in the ideas that I argue; in fact, I have more fun arguing in favor of concepts that I don't believe personally than ones I do.

I argue for a multitude of reasons.

One, I see logical fallacies in many arguments and I want to correct them, so they can better their argument. Two, It helps my understanding of a concept when I argue about something that I have not thought of in depth before- I have many "Eureka" moments mid-conversation. Three- it lets me see deeper into the reasoning as to why people think the way they do. Four, I want to present groups of people with dissenting opinions to detract away from an "everyone should know this, its common sense" mentality. Five, I'm a devil's advocate and love it. Six, in conversations in which I do have emotional investment in, I want to be proven wrong, but I will not surrender until I myself have conceded the argument.

I also have guidelines for arguing:

1. If the other person(s) are obviously upset, stop the argument. It's not worth burning bridges over.

2. If you are upset, leave and stop arguing. No one will argue with you then if you don't.

3.Compliment the person you argue when they make a good/difficult to refute point. (If you have to think about how to counter it, it's a good point)

4. Don't be afraid to concede. You can't win them all.

That being said, no one likes to argue with me, and I don't know why.