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 No.2562

How do you deal with the things you've done? Whether they're largely in the past or recent, I imagine we've all done something we aren't proud of and/or regret doing. What keeps you up at night? Events that took place over 6 years ago still make me feel like a monster even if they might be considered first world problems.

 No.2563

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>>2562

My biggest regret is not asking a girl out back in year 9 (I guess that would be 9th/10th grade). It might seem petty, it's a common problem however I knew for a fact she was really into me too and yet I was too scared what my friends or people I didn't even know might think. I don't even know why since she was 8/10.

Another mistake is something I feel I might be more hated for, I fucked my best friend's (at the time) girlfriend. I've bullied people, hurt people, backstabbed people. This thread could be considered my confession but in order to spark some sort of conversation, how do you deal with shit you ain't proud of?


 No.2564

>>2562

sorry if this is sort of derailing the thread a bit, but i'd honestly like to know why people regret things they do. my only regrets are things that have gotten me into a bad situation, may soon get me into a bad situation, or have gotten me close to being in a bad situation. i just can't see how people can feel bad about something as long as they're not affected/affected positively.

as for how i cope with what regrets i have, i worry myself sick about potential consequences for a while (a few minutes to a few weeks), deal with those if and when they come, then just sort of forget about them. regret passes pretty quickly for me, and if it does stick around, it's usually just an "oh well, it happened, can't do anything about it" feeling. almost a "i deserved what i got for not thinking about consequences".

i might not be the best person to be posting in this thread


 No.2581

>>2564

Used to think the same.

Then I got drunk at a party one night and acted like a buffoon. Said some things I can't take back and made a bad impression.

Don't go to parties anymore.


 No.2583

>>2563

There's an overwhelming amount of scientific, philosophical and spiritual literature that advices accepting your actions as part of your spatio-temporal world. Easier said than done, of course.


 No.2610

>>2581

sorry, i don't see how that contradicts what I said. That caused you to be in a bad situation with potential or already done consequences. I was focusing more on the part where OP (I assume it was OP) said he had bullied, hurt, and backstabbed people.


 No.2611

>>2562

drinking, i look forward to the hangovers because it distracts me from the guilt.


 No.2616

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I just roll with it now. Whenever the thoughts surface I let them come and go. No use trying to block them or something. Granted, it's not too easy.

Before I go to sleep I listen to music and empty my head, I fall asleep in seconds.

This might help http://www.succeedsocially.com/rollwiththoughts


 No.2621

>>2564

>and if it does stick around, it's usually just an "oh well, it happened, can't do anything about it" feeling.

I try to think that too and it does help at times


 No.2626

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>What keeps me up at night.

I worry a lot about getting internships. Graphic design firms are competitive, and I sometimes feel inadequate. Naturally, I worry about whether or not I'm good enough of an artist, so I regret time not spent drawing sometimes. So when I fuck up a drawing I get really down about it. Sometimes I get upset that no matter what I do it's not good enough. I regret not making enough friends in school, or more to the point not making enough normal, well-adjusted friends. It's like I have to handle all the people I know now with kid gloves because their egos are so goddamn fragile. I'd regret being pretty caustic in my dealings with people, but at this point it's like a quarter of the people I know need a really sturdy fainting couch, so no matter what I say I'll be deemed a problem. I regret not being mean enough when my professor accused me of threatening her when I drew a bunch of knives for her drawing from observation assignment. I was harsh, but I realize if I just pushed it in the conference with the dean, I could have had her job. Although I like being not considered a school shooter anymore, I wish I could have gone a bit further, she was kind of a bitch. I regret a bit of my old relationships. Sometimes I regret not trying to be popular. I occasionally regret not working out enough, it keeps me happy.

>How do I deal with it.

Just keep moving forward, eventually you find yourself in another place. I drew cannons and bombards a few hours ago, and I'll draw a few more tonight. Later I'll do some more stuff for the drawthread on /monster/, they're really nice there. I spend enough time alone to be comfortable being alone, so getting dropped by someone for pointing out their dumb mistakes doesn't phase me.

>>2563

I'd let go of the regret about not asking her out, if you find her you can try again. I carried a torch for a very solid 6/10 with darling mannerisms in high school until I realized she's been married for a while. I'll only get a shot at her if she gets divorced.


 No.2633

>>2626

>I'd let go of the regret about not asking her out, if you find her you can try again. I carried a torch for a very solid 6/10 with darling mannerisms in high school until I realized she's been married for a while. I'll only get a shot at her if she gets divorced.

Funnily enough I asked her out a few years ago, I thought it would at least make it easier or perhaps make me stop regretting it. She said yes but after I tried setting something up all I got was radio silence, haven't spoken to her since. I felt a little better though after explaining myself and I think she understood.

That married grill is a shame, have you told her how you felt at least?


 No.2656

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About two years ago I had a full on mental breakdown on my facebook profile, ended up breaking ties with most of my friends, had the police called on me for cyberstalking and humiliated myself in front of a large group of people. A few weeks later I was diagnosed with a psychotic disorder, and sometimes I think if had been diagnosed maybe a few months before it never would have happened. It must have been horrifying for friends to watch at the time, because it was about a week long affair of one unmedicated and oblivious schizoid with a facebook account just doing anything that felt funny or good to him with it.

Now about two years later I still live with it and have to think about it everyday, I haven't dated since it happened and have a small amount of friends. I get by, I have a job and go to school, take medication and have a passionate hobby as an outlet, which is gradually becoming a profession. When I think I might have better off if I had never done it, I also think I value the kind of happiness and optimism I've built within myself, which I wouldn't have if it didn't.

Life forgives you for mistakes in its own way, I think, but never in ways you can appreciate at the time.


 No.2657

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>>2656

>Life forgives you for mistakes in its own way, I think, but never in ways you can appreciate at the time.

Damn, that's worth a thought.


 No.2661

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>>2656

>When I think I might have better off if I had never done it, I also think I value the kind of happiness and optimism I've built within myself, which I wouldn't have if it didn't.

It's a good thought to have, if we don't make the mistakes we do then how can we even learn or build character? It's weird to think how different our lives could go if we did things differently, but would we even be the same person? Even if I do regret some things, those events are what made me who I am.

That said, does anyone else feel like they're late to everything? All my old friends from school are graduating university, getting married with their lives and I'm only just starting university this year, I feel 3-4 years behind.


 No.2668

>>2661

Yes I've always felt behind ever since my mom made me repeat the 6th grade even though I passed. The truth is that I was getting older, and she wanted to keep me dependent on her longer. My mom has even told me I don't need to work because "You can stay with mommy and be my little baby forever." My mom wants me to be a neet. Maybe the way she treats me has something to do with how much she was abused as a kid.

Perhaps my relationship with my mom has something to do with my dysfunctional taste in women. Deep down I want to be totally dominated by a women. I want her to make all the decisions in my life because I can't take care of myself. I have a self-defeating tendency which seems to be getting worse as I age. Inevitably I blow up everything good in my life because I get some sick thrill out of watching things blow up in my face.

What I regret is being so aloof in my younger years when there were ample opportunities to be under the thumb of some S type girls. Unfortunately at the time I still believed that I could be an independent man. I could still be with one of those girls right now if I had just been more humble and accepted who I am. I should have known better. I should have worked hard in school so I would have more to offer to women.

But instead of facing reality I retreated into cyberspace. But spending 8 hours a day with vidya, animu, and *chan with no exercise took it's toll on me physically and now I have severe RSI. Typing, gaming, driving, everything hurts now. With my avenues of escapism slowly disappearing I'm now trying desperately to turn things around by exercising and job hunting, because I know if I fail now all I will have to look forward to is suicide because I don't think I can handle looking at myself as a neet in the mirror a few years from now. Sorry mom.


 No.2671

>>2668

That's pretty messed up


 No.2673

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>>2668

I'm so sorry anon


 No.2676

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Whenever I think about almost literally anything I've ever done in any remotely social context in the past, there's a tangible visible reaction of cringey pain in my face (if you're in the same room as me when this happens)

It happens to me on a regular hourly or more frequent basis.

It's terrible regretting every decision you've ever made.


 No.2688

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The first and only 'relationship' I have ever had.

I was 15, she was 14. She had a boyfriend already, and all three of us were in the same Facebook chat full of people that I have now drifted away from. I'm not sure that I liked many of them in the first place, although since I had always been at schools for boys only, I was overjoyed at my first 'social' experience with girls. With whom I could meet in the flesh when the chat had its conventions in the park.

Anyway, I and this girl became closer and closer through private messaging. She learnt that I had not had my first kiss yet. Naturally, this provoked an 'awww' response, as patronising as it is cute. I slowly began to harbour feelings for her, as did she for me. She invited me to her house a few times and I gladly accepted, on the pretense that she would teach me how to kiss.

You can already tell where this is going. For a month or two, she became my first romance, which was somewhat dampened by the fact that she had a pre-existing boyfriend. It was short, but sweet - and yet bitter and sour and poisonous.

She was the 'emotional' type. Crying, getting 'panic attacks', cutting herself. Several times she would practically force me to stay up past one or two o'clock (casual for a night owl, but remember that back then I had school the following morning) trying to coax her out of her sorry, sobbing state. I hated this, and once when I got angry and messaged back 'I've had enough of this shit', she went mental. I would have felt naturally guilty about this act of mine, but she tried her hardest to use it to her advantage and make me feel more responsible for her sadness. She claimed that she had carved my initials into her arm when she cut herself that night after I left. That sounds bad, but it is debatably worse when I suspected it was a lie. I asked to see the scars next time I saw her, but she claimed that they were only lightly etched in and had already disappeared. Essentially, she fibbed about scarifying herself in the formation of my initials just to make me feel bad.

Thankfully, this 'relationship' faded away. Her boyfriend might never have found out, if it weren't for another female acquaintance convincing me to tell him about it months later.

I followed suit, and yet they stayed together. I got the short end of the stick for my part in the adultery and was hated for a while (although I was never beaten up; you have to remember that this guy was the same kind of submissive emo type as the girl).

I feel bad about this for several reasons:

1) I allowed myself to be manipulated.

2) I willingly entered a relationship in which the girl was cheating on her boyfriend.

3) I still feel for her in a dreamy way. She occupies many thoughts of mine that I wish she would vacate and leave me in the isolated peace that I desire.


 No.2692

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Nothing really keeps me up at night except for the dumb shit I say to my friends. I have a bad tendency of being shy and aloof when I first meet someone, and then if they're still around a month or two later, I loosen up.

But then I start saying all sorts of dumb shit and making bad jokes. Usually this drives most of them away but the friends who stick through all my bullshit get used to it. They're the friends worth keeping, and I stop saying dumb shit around them. It's like my subconscious has a two-step friend-making mechanism that I can't really control. It works out in the end but that doesn't stop me obsessing over what I said that day.

It's as if I walk down a river trying to burn every bridge I see. Only the ones made of steel are worth keeping.


 No.2706

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My parents have given me everything I could have asked for. I have a job, I live with them, I haven't cooked an actual meal in years, I don't do my own laundry... everything is done for me. If you've got responsibilities, having those taken care of for you sounds fantastic.

But I hate it.

>>2668

I can relate with this Night Owl in a sense. They don't manipulate me. But they love me to death. They do everything for me. I should be grateful, but all I can see is how I'm becoming less and less self-reliant. I want to do things for myself, but I can't. I'm trapped in this house. I can't afford to move out, or at least, pay my rent for longer than a few months. I can't cook because my parents make all the food decisions. Or at least, I tell myself that. They always ask for my input. I don't care.

I don't care about a damn thing.

I have shitty interests. Video games. Anime. Nerd shit. I don't go to movies. I don't go out and do stuff downtown. I shop with Amazon, not actual malls. I don't interact with people. I don't ask out girls... mostly. Whenever I do, I'm "a nice guy, but not their type." I'm boring. I've got nothing to offer anybody. I'm a funny, or so I'm told. I tell jokes and crack wise to hide the fact that I have no passion for anything anymore. If I could bring myself to kill myself, I would.

The only thing keeping me alive are my parents. The second they die, I do it. I'll die with them. My parents don't deserve to see their only child die. It's just a waiting game now.

I have no passion for anything. I am a waste of space. Just counting down until I can kill myself with no regrets.

(pic not related, felt like posting something)


 No.2714

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>>2692

What kind of dumb shit would you say anon?

>>2688

I'd say you got off fairly lightly, emotional teens can be trainwrecks, especially those pretending to be emo and fake cutting themselves. In my school the 'cool' thing to do was to pretend like you'd been raped, then brag about it by acting emotionally distraught, of course none of them actually had been raped and it only made things worse for those who have actually been hurt.

>>2706

As cliché as it is to say so, but have you tried talking to them? At the very least ask to have more responsibilities, start off small like doing your own laundry and moving up to cooking for yourself and your family regularly. Take control over it, buy your own food if it's possible.


 No.3183

>>2668

This post really resonates with me as my mom has fucked with my head, indirectly but fucked with it nonetheless.

>4 years old

>Walk in on my mum with a man thats not my father

>walk out before I'm noticed, sit in my room and think about it

>too young to grasp this

>now 5 years old

>Parents are arguing, my mom blames my father for the relationship falling apart

>Mom throws kitchen items at my father and I leave the room bawling my eyes out, confused

>Now 7 years old and has a new step dad

>Walk in on my mom with another guy, whos not him

>Old enough to understand this is wrong, thinks back to when I walked in the first time

>It's been forever burned into my head that love is a black hole that you can't escape from without being hurt in some way

I'm now in my late teens and I can't maintain a relationship due to a fear of ending up like any of the men my mother cheated on and hurt. Never kissed a girl, never been in a long term relationship. It gets lonely, man. Real lonely. Probably not that bad of a situation I'm just mentally weak.


 No.3186

>>2616

I agree. No sense of hiding from things that 'you' have done. Embrace it. Let it flow like a river over your mind. Don't be afraid. It will end in time.


 No.3187

>>3183

I use to get like that in past relationships when I was younger from seeing my dad beat the shit out of my mom. Seeing an unknow lady on the couch with him when I was ~4yr old with him telling me it was my lost aunt. Fear of being him is what it boils down to. But I had to realize that even though I am his seed, I am unique. I have some of his traits but those traits can be acknowledge, learned from (is it a good/bad trait) and deal with it.

My best friend was beaten with her kid's tricycle by her husband who thought she was sleeping with me. It wasn't the case. She is divorce now, we have love for each other, but I cannot forget the day after that horrific event. Never.


 No.3188

Try to find an upside to it.

It used to really grind me how I felt forever on the outside looking in and didn't have the same sort of drive for normal things others had. Now I feel as though the benefit is mine. I don't have such a great need for human contact and in a way that's an extra freedom I'm afforded. I'd rather lack an innate need for that and have to learn certain social skills, rather than forever have a strong need for human contact.

Haven't kissed a girl. Also use to bother me. I'm quite glad I haven't now. I've come to treat intimacy as a sacred thing and I'm glad I didn't waste mine on some high school harlot and my homeboys are understanding enough that they haven't shittalked me once. They just get I'm my own dude and in some way understand the underlying factors. I'm very fortunate to have solid homies.

What's done is done I guess and what didn't get done has passed now. Just so long as there's something to be learned, I suppose.


 No.3191

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>>2562

I don't think I regret anything, mainly because it's useless and counter-productive. It's like past me and me are different persons, so I can laugh at him without restrain and try not to do the same mistakes as that faggot. Future me is probably going to be rather different, too. I can't wait to meet him, though I feel like he's gonna be a faggot too.

>What keeps you up at night?

Future planning, thinkgen bout nothingness, imageboard shenanigans, insulting that faggot past self


 No.3192

>>3188

I can totally relate to the first paragraph. Im my mind I see it as learning to rely on self and knowing one self. But one shouldn't seek total isolation, maybe..(living in the woods, etc)


 No.3197

Hmm. After reading a bunch of all other night owl posts, I feel that most of us have something in common. Might be totally wrong though. I would say... Lack of knowledge of oneself/love of self?

I mean that's what my issue was. I wished I loved myself more in the past. I was talking with a friend last night and realized loving yourself is something akin to a first step for independence as a human. Maybe it's because the introspection helps you find out what you like/don't like in a clearer picture.

Any other Night Owls agree or disagree? Thoughts?


 No.3198

>>3197

>loving yourself is something akin to a first step for independence as a human.

Well, at least it's one less thing to be sad or sorry about.


 No.3199

>>3198

I mean worry about.


 No.3201

>>3197

You're, arguably, describing the human condition.


 No.3223

>>3197

There are definitely things I love about myself and things I hate. Things I'd wish to change, but nobody is perfect and realizing your faults is the first step to bettering yourself.

However I wish I could open up to people more, at least I can't get hurt if nobody knows the real me right?


 No.3225

>>3223

Being hurt is part of the human experience. Embrace it and let go.


 No.3255

>>2562

I do not have a specific event I regret, rather the way I've developed to be. 2 years of painkillers (not drug abuse, I'm required to take them) have left me cold and stripped me of almost all emotions. Only the melancholia that has always been on my side stays, so I wonder what living a life like this is even worth. I can't trust, be happy, love, get angry or anything. In a sense I lost my humanity.

No idea how to deal with it though, maybe just put an end to it.


 No.3257

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>>3255

There still things to do, even when you've got no emotion.


 No.3258

>>3257

What would those things be, then?


 No.3259

>>3258

Becoming Judge Dredd?


 No.3260

>>3255

That sucks. Sounds like depression. What painkiller is it? It might just be a side effect and an SSRI or something could balance your brain.


 No.3261

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I often think about how much of a waste the past five years or so trying to figure out social justice and feminism only to find out that that a lot of it is nothing more than a scam. The real people doing things aren't posting stupid shit on tumblr or twitter, they're actually going out there and helping others. None of the fucking worthless buzzwords I've put in my skull has done nothing to further humanity. It's just made it easier for con artists to exploit and trick the ignorant.

I often think about how clinging onto the ends justify the means almost cost me my friendships. It's pretty easy for people to claim that it works when they can lay back on their endless wealth and connections. Doesn't nearly work as well for those of us who only have the luxury of having a few close friends.

It's frustrating seeing complete monsters get off so easily while everybody else is barely getting by living. I've spent nearly three decades on this rock and I've done absolutely shit worth anything. I just wonder what's the point of even trying to do anything worthwhile at this point? I think about how much people younger than me have accomplished so much with their lives and I'm just here wondering just what's the point?


 No.3262

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>>3261

But then I think about the fact that the reason I think about all of this is because of how I was raised. I was raised to think that I had to have been in a relationship at some point although you can say that I was in one I'm not so sure you could call it serious or else there was something wrong with me. If I didn't have any experience with relationships, I'd be screwed.

But there are plenty of people my own age who haven't been in any relationships. It may have been a choice, it may have been due to circumstances outside of their control. But are their own lives worth more or less because of their lack of romantic relationships? There are so many people out there who base their entire existence on who they're attracted to or what type of relationship they're in. It... it just seems silly now.

I'm slowly growing out of this sort of thing, but it's hard not to think about it sometimes. It's hard not to feel angry about something you thought was supposed to be "normal" and yet the truth is that the "normal" you thought wasn't really that. It's angering that all this time I could have been doing a lot more if I had just understood this simple fact.

Also... anger. Due to a lot of incidents in my life, I have grown to think that anger brought nothing but destruction. And it can if it's grown out of control. But it's normal to feel angry. Just because you feel angry doesn't mean you're a monster. It's normal to feel angry when a friend you thought was close completely disappears for a week and it turns out it was because they were with their boyfriend all this time and they never bothered to tell you. It didn't even matter if they were with their boyfriend, they could have told you that they were going off for awhile so I wouldn't be worrying myself to death.

I'm angry at myself for feeling so angry. I've just turned that anger into making myself feel worse and that hasn't done anything. Is my anger justified? Does it really matter? I can't find any reason to justify it and that makes me feel all the more horrible.


 No.3263

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>>3262

Reading that, I think that if I weren't so demonizing of my own anger maybe I'd be a little bit better off. Maybe understanding that anger in itself isn't really bad and everyone feels it. It's nothing to be ashamed of. It's how you handle the anger that is more important. I've tried to follow all sorts of bad advice about handling anger and they've only made things worse.

I thought I had gotten over it but it seems like I haven't.

Maybe one thing I can work on is my anger. Or just understanding what anger is. I know why I hate it. Maybe I shouldn't hate it... I should just accept it as a part of me. Learn not to demonize it. I've seen people use their anger to exploit others. I guess I just didn't want to turn out like that so I put all of my frustrations and anger on myself.

This should have gone in the venting thread


 No.3264

...I thought we had a venting thread.


 No.3265

>>3260

I'm taking Tilidine, so nothing too strong, yet it takes its toll on me.

I might very well be depressed, life has given me enough reasons to be. My doc has put me on opipramol, so maybe things will get better.

Maybe I should go out and try to meet some people. moved into a city far away from home to study where I don't know anyone. so far I've been living in solitude and going about my daily life. Coming to this board during sleepless nights was strangely comforting, but I'm starting to wonder if there couldn't be more.


 No.3271

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I try hard not to think about all the cringy and autistic shit I've done over the years and keep a positive attitude, I know other people will forget within a few days but I'll never be able to get rid of the memories of embarrassing myself

You can't change the past, but hindsight is 20/20


 No.3272

>20yrs ago

>playing junior high football

>offensive lineman

>ran over every play

>players on the field say they are running plays specifically for me

>kids in stands yelling I suck

>crowd laughing

>parents ashamed

>1hr game

>father tells me after the game he wanted to come on the field and whip me for embarrassing our name

>mother says she has never been that embarrassed in her life

>cried like a bitch and contemplated sucide

>Fast forward to now, made $93k last year.

>See old schoolmates who once jeered me are now drug addicts

Feels good.... until I remember that game.


 No.3276

>>3272

That's horrible. Nobody deserves something like that, I'm sorry.


 No.3278

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I had to talk my mom out of suicide. It really fucked me up.


 No.3279

>>3278

Holy shit, dude. I'm sorry.


 No.3281

>>3279

Thanks Night Owl, I'm usually able to get over it but whenever my mind wanders, it all comes back.


 No.3282

>be me like about 2 months ago

>gf is really stressed out about summer school and work (they were the same day for her from 8-7 mon/wed/fri)

>tell her i won't ask her for rides on her school days

>very next day i get drunk with buds

>when drunk i forget and call her

>she gives me a ride

>my drunk ass tries having sex with her that goes really really really bad

>she becomes emotionally and physically distant from me

>we break up 2 weeks later after an argument

>go through a mental breakdown and get my shit together and fix my attitude problems

>its been about a month and a half after we've broken up

>every time i see her we either hold hands or cuddle and she lets me kiss her cheek and the once and awhile "i like you" back and forth

I have no idea where this is going and i want to shoot myself over it, but i can't say i haven't been extremely productive in the last month since


 No.3284

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When I was sixteen, I got catfished. I was a bit of a social outcast, not a complete pariah, but still not part of the group, because I was always a bit of a bookie (though I hated, and still do, talking about vidya, books, etc)

Online, I made friends with broad varieties of autists and freaks, and freely spoke about everything - and in playing wow, got close to a 'female'.

I was young and impulsive, and she really liked me and I liked her back - I knew she was a she, because I had skyped with her (without webcam though) - and eventually, I sat up one night, said to myself that I would regret this but it's so fun, and was in love

Cue 1,5 years of a twisted rollercoaster of a "relationship" where all I saw of the woman whom I worshipped like a fucking idol was pictures and text, and who treated me like little more than a vent. I didn't need to force my half-autistic self into parties with people I didn't like but could nevertheless learn from (socially) and be superficial friends with. I didn't get laid in a country of sluts and teens, because I fucking loved that woman. Every night I'd sit in front of a screen and write cringeworthy stories, play vidya, and generally socialise with a faceless skype-name.

One day, after not talking to me for a week (which turned me into a nervous wreck), she said that it couldn't work out, and I fucking bawled like a babby for days. I didn't talk to anyone other htna necessity for a month.

After said month, a "friend" from a guild in WoW told me that his girlfriend had ghosted him while he was at work (after a 3-year relationship), and he told me - in case she'd cheated with anyone, or generally decieved because she was a chronic liar, which he'd always known but saw past - her skype name, which happened to be the same name I had pretty much chanted in a trance for 1,5 years.

I know that those formative years being blindly obsessed with someone else's girlfriend has made me slightly spergy. I'm by no means socially inept - I have quite a solid base of friends, and I go out regularly, like a good normie. But I can't chat up to girls at all - I simply don't get what to do - without drinking spirits = I only get laid once or twice a year when I'm drunk as fuck and in a nest of vice and debauchery.

I guess this is more of an outpour than a confession of regret - though I generally view this is as my own idiotic fault. Why the fuck did I never ever think about the stupid reasons for having to leave suddenly, only wanting to skype in the mornings and during the day, having a broken webcam for 2 years, refusing to give address to shower with gifts, never want to talk about meeting, always acting neutral in group chats (its our little secret), have convuluted excuses for fucking everything, and the list goes on.

I deal with it pretty good - the whole madness ended 3 years ago, and I can sleep pretty good at night. But I still sometimes sit up and cringe and whinge at myself for fucking myself up for life like that, and I've never told the truth about this relationship to even my closest friends - always making it seem like it was a real, physical relationship. I get the feeling they know I'm lying, and I hate myself for it, but I could never dream of admitting jacking off to stills of a woman that doesn't know me in front of a screen for years. The only person I've spoken to is the person who was living with her - and we're very close friends now, because of it. And I think he's the only one who'd ever understand what it's like to live in an illusion and never spot the warning signs for years.

I know that this issue is extremely petty, especially compared to the others here - and by all means, it's just me drooling at a screen for years. But it's nevertheless a huge fuckup that's impacted my life.


 No.3285

>tfw just dropped out of college

>tfw every sibling is successful but you're the fuckup failure who can't do anything right

wew lads

just about ready to change my name and disappear out of the shame i've caused my family

all that money wasted on me. the worst part is that i dropped it on the verge of an internship for well rooted reasons but still


 No.3298

>>3285

I dropped out twice. You're in good company.


 No.3303

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A lot of the time I post here I feel like I'm shouting into a dark abyss and hoping for some sort of response, it may take a day, it may take a month but it's a nice feeling. It makes me wonder how many /late/anons are still here with us.

>>3261

>>3262

>>3263

This is a venting thread anon.

>I think about how much people younger than me have accomplished so much with their lives and I'm just here wondering just what's the point?

This has always bothered me and I don't even know why, there are people born 5-6 years earlier than me who seem to have had more fulfilling lives. But then I get the opportunity to do something, I was given a chance to make a lot of friends and go out partying, drinking etc. None of that made me happy and I started to miss the late nights alone, maybe it's because I'm not a big drinker or maybe it's because I never fully engaged with the people I met.

>It's how you handle the anger that is more important.

My family think I have anger issues which really confused me as I very rarely get angry (or at the least, have the energy to get angry), but then I decided to look into why they might think that. Sure I don't shout or become physical but I seem to get heated and opinionated very fast when presented with something I object to. That in itself isn't anything abnormal but I never seem to know when to stop and I'll just carry on arguing or being very hostile. Even though I'm not shouting when I'm doing it I can see how people might see it as anger.

>>3271

The only thing that keeps me going with memories like that is that I'm probably the only one who remembers them, everyone else has long since forgotten or didn't even care at the time.

>>3278

Jesus mate sorry about that.

>>3282

Maybe she'll forgive you, from what you've written it seems like she still cares.

>>3284

It's an awful feeling to fall for someone over the internet and even worse when the realization comes crashing down that it won't work. I even travelled hundreds of miles for a girl I met on WoW only for it to get all fucked up, we haven't spoken properly since then and that was 2-3 years ago now.

I don't know if any of these anons are still here but it's nice to talk anyway.


 No.3314

>>3303

Holy shit you know what we're doing great and i'm sure everything will work out

Thanks anon


 No.3319

I'm quiting my job today. Idk if I'll regret it. But, if I don't try something else then I will feel even worse


 No.3320

>>3285

I'm simultaneously quiting a job and dropping out of a masters program associated with it.

So, why'd you drop out?


 No.3329

>>3320

Just went with my gut and finally figured out that I really wasn't interested in what I was learning as opposed to believing it was an overall problem and depression. Just didn't want to be involved in corporate culture and working in an office.

No idea what I'm going to do now. I've long dreamed of going innawooods/being a vagabond but that's haphazard.

You?


 No.3336

>>2562

I backstabbed my best friend in the 6th grade. I was an awkward kid and he was my only friend. I got jealous when he began to make new friends who didn't like me I don't blame them I was awkward as fuck. So I used racist stereotypes and religious insults at him. Shit spread like wildfire in my class.

The class bully, who had picked on me most of the times, now picked on him. Worse part was when The bully and my friend were about to fighting the bathroom. He asked me to be the watch for teachers, and i stood and did nothing as the bully beat up my friend. Soon everyone was on to it. My friend had to become everyone's bitch in order not to get bullied.

He moved after that grade and so did I. None of us ever met after that.

I never forgave myself. To this day as I am in college I still dream of those times.

Sorry for the wall of text, I don't know if anyone will reply to this, I just had to tell it to someone.


 No.3337

>>3303

> It makes me wonder how many /late/anons are still here with us

New anon here. I stumbled across this board and I promise I'll be here every day.


 No.3340

YouTube embed. Click thumbnail to play.

I heavily swallow all my emotions


 No.3341

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I used to be the most cringe worthy type of person in middle school. Really feminine and I was bullied for it. Not heavily though. Snapped out of it in high school. Kissed a girl I really liked and she stopped talking to me afterwards. Now she's fat and has a different boyfriend and I wonder what could have become of that. Dated a girl in early high school, broke up with her and she started cutting herself. Thankfully that didn't become a whole ordeal. Cheated on my girlfriend with a less attractive girl I met at college. My girlfriend and I ended up getting back together after breaking up. I'm scared of ever leaving her because I'm too good at running away from situations when they get too difficult. I just choose to remove myself from it completely. Honestly, I'm a coward and I blame it on my parents not raising me how they should have and my father leaving me and not having spoken to me for around 5 years and counting.

Things suck.


 No.3342

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>>3191

>>3191

this legitimately almost had me crying because it's so stupid but so honestly true.

thank you for that, anon


 No.3344

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>>3337

Welcome aboard lad

>>3336

There'll always be someone to listen to the wall of text, even if it may seem empty here.

I have done shitty things myself to friends, people who didn't deserve anything I did, I lay awake at night thinking I'm a massive piece of shit. You can't change what you did, but you can sure as hell dedicate your life to helping others and being kind, it might not make the pain go away but even if you just make one person's life better then you're okay with me.

>>3340

Me too, I don't know if it's healthy or not.

>>3341

You have the opportunity to become the person your dad was not, you could make a real difference to someone one day, a difference that would let someone have a better life than you. That's possibly one of the most selfless things I can imagine, giving another person priority over your own life. Sadly I don't know how you can change for the better and to not get the urge to run away when things get difficult.


 No.3461

I loved her, but I wasnt there for her when she needed me the most.

I miss you Ariana, I'm so, so sorry


 No.3462

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I sometimes regret and beat myself up over never having friends or being a virgin but I really think I am like this because this is how I want to be.

I started doing self-improvement a while back to gain friends and become more outgoing, but every-time I get close to doing these things I fantasize about I realize I don't want them at all. The cost of feeling uncomfortable in the unknown far outweighs any experiences I might have if I go and be with people. I can motivate myself to handle fear if its something I have to do like going to class or work, but anything not required I don't go to.

I don't regret much else besides being a mean-spirited/uncaring person for a while when I was younger. Sorry for the blogging, I forced myself to post something since this board hasn't gotten any posts today.


 No.3465

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>>3462

I have to say that your experience sounds almost the same as mine. I used to have many regrets over how I once acted. However, I realized that it was time to move on, and managed to do just that. I have had depressed periods since then, and I still tend to avoid doing things I don't need to.

I made one friend in particular who I am very close with. Helped me out a lot, but I still feel very uncomfortable outside of a small comfort zone.

Sometimes I just end up acting outgoing. It's fun after a bit. Though sometimes I'll notice how I'm acting and become self conscious. Then it just goes downhill.

>>3462

This is basically a blog thread. It's here for us to whine a bit and feel better maybe.

>>3191

What a beautiful post.

>>3340

>>3344

Sometimes you can't avoid bottling things up, but to be honest, if you can, it's not so bad to just curl up and cry your eyes out. Release it all. You feel better afterwards.


 No.3525

>>3462

Sound a lot like how I used to be. Even got into personal development too. And the old guilt of past mistakes. Been there. Just forgive yourself, man. You're the only person still thinking about it.

I find that the reaction from strangers that discover you're alone is worse than actually being alone. Furthermore, I had friends growing up, couple girlfriends, etc and I felt more alone and depressed like that than I do now. In fact, I'm actually very happy now. That self-help stuff lead me to /fringe/, and I've been following both /fringe/ material and personal development for years. Stuff really works.

Big thing I learned growing up? Never follow someone else's idea of happiness or success. You must find it yourself. Always. Don't worry about the shit you can't control either, and continually try your best to solve something within your control.


 No.3540

Biggest regret I will dare not say, but it eats my mind and soul. Gonna go to therapy and hopefully get this shit sorted. I wish memory erasure would get here sooner. My lifes been nothing but shit, honestly can't recall a single moment of my life where I was happy.


 No.3568

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I am a loner as long as i can think, i never really found any friends or ppl I consider I could trust but I found a girl which seemed to be interrested in me and we started hanging out together (dont ask me how it started, i dont remember really.)

Every time I was near here I feeled calm, relaxed and something I cant even discribe, to cut a long story short:

she told me once she was lesbian and not interrested in a relationship with a guy, some time later (some weeks, maybe a month) she phoned me and told me she would love me. I dint trust here enough to make a move, so some time late she casualy mentioned she found some other guy which would make her a baby, because I didnt want to.

After that we had a litle disagreement and since then no motr contact.

Now almost a year past and I still cant forget about her, I am dreaming about her, if I let my mind wander I start imagining beeing near her, I want to forget it so badly but it seems i cant.

Sorry for the long rant, I was intending to keep it short but it seems I am to drunk and.... well never mind


 No.3653

>>3568

>you don't want a baby

>she almost cuckolds you

what did you expect? probably for the best she left you.

Forget about her, find a reliable woman (if she is plain or average looking don't let that be an issue) and see where things go.


 No.3684

>>3653

I didn't expect anything, infact was prepared to not get anything out of it / get disappointed from the start, at least I thought I was.

Wish I could just forget it.

But for some reason, I dont understand, it seems I can't.


 No.3686

>>3278

> visit my parrents, chating and catching up on whats going

> eating dinner together before going back home

> mom mentioned she wanted to kill herselff years ago and my father stoped here.

Nothing I could say, just bretended i did not hear it.

some other time she casually mentions she got an abortion before she became pregnant with me and only keep me because she didn't want to get an abortion again and insisted against my father.




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