/mai/ - Waifu

>>39239

For LucinaAnon

Dude look, it isn't canon. Lucina doesn't even technically have a canon love interest, since it's up to the player and it's perfectly viable to not marry her.

Imagine if you have a 3D girlfriend or wife, and she's famous or something, and some asshole drew some picture of him fucking your wife. He'd be an ass and you'd probably not like it, but she wouldn't be cheating on you.

My waifu is often pretty sad in her source materiaal due to not having a good man with her. It tears me up pretty bad and makes me not want to watch it. I just hate seeing her so down.

I feel like I have to watch the anime to see her though.

>>39933

Can I just pop in real fast and say good choice?

Also dem double dubs!

>>39944

I know how it feels to have a hard time watching source material. Kyousuke isn't treated very well in the anime nor is the second season even very good due to the rush and switch of studio. Don't feel obligated to honestly. There's other ways to spend time with her. Writing about your relationship, watching movies, playing games, going for walks, etc. You love isn't measured by anything but how much love you have for her. How many times you watch the source doesn't matter. And even if you've only read the manga shes from or LN it doesn't mean you have to watch the anime too. I've never read the LN of Oreimo myself nor played the VN that there is since it's hard to come by and I'm not a big fan of either. It's about how much you love her not her source material.

I've been wondering this for awhile, but how do I know she would love me? The main thing in our relationship that keeps coming back is I feel like she wouldn't care about me, as she has no reason to, so that results in me just isolating myself farther from her.

I feel really awkward about asking this, but this is something that has been bugging me since the start of our relationship, and I'd really like some help with this…

I really hate the fact that I have a really hard time getting into vanilla porn, and by extent, lewds of her.

Lewds of her are, for the most part, the only vanilla thing I can really get into. But it's such a rarity that I ever pleasure myself to them, and it makes me feel guilty that I still find my more depraved fetishes more sexually attractive than her, especially when I see other anons who have given up a lot of their kinks for their waifu/husbando. A lot of it also stems from her source material in relation to what I'm into

I love her more than anything, and it kills me that I'm not the perfect husbando for her that I should be, and I have tried on numerous occasions to quit my interests entirely, but I always find myself back.

I know it's not something she would stop loving me for, but I just really feel like that someone like me shouldn't be the type of person she should have to be with, and I know it's something she would at the very lest be uncomfortable with.

>>39945

Thanks.

>>40030

I guess it really depends on what type of church you're talking about but I honestly don't think it should be much of an issue for most people. I guess it depends whether or not said church is extremely against idolism (which I'm confident waifu kind of counts) and whether or not you can reconcile that with your faith. I'd imagine people would be more concerned about her source material than anything, and even then unless they're ultra puritan or something I'm not seeing why anybody would reject you from being a pastor. And this is coming from someone who's been going back to church lately though it's mostly for family obligations more than anything.

>>40111

I thought that only applied to worshipping false gods and objects, not whatever waifuism is.

>>40071

I'm not sure about that. I just feel really awkward about adding her into those sorts of fantasies, even as an RP. I just hate the idea of attaching one of my fetishes to her, since I'm not sure if she'd be okay with that, and I'm also very hesitant due to how it could hit close to home too

On the other hand though, I have definitely toned down my interest to the point where at first I needed guro/snuff in my fantasies, but am now content with what could essentially just be light bondage and dress up RP, but still, I'm not sure

>>40092

Well, if it makes you feel batter, I'll attach myself to this post as well. I'm Remusfag, though I guess that was kinda obvious

Yeah same. Since I was a kid, I've always been interested in darker stuff that I guess foreshadowed my interests. But as I said earlier, it's toned down a lot since being with Remus, mostly because I'm not as angry anymore, and also that a lot times, certain pictures hit way too close to home regarding her, and that just makes me sick. But yeah, I have also fapped to some pretty depraved things.

I'm not sure if they really mean anything, I've been into this stuff for as long as I can remember, which makes me wonder if the idea of completely turning myself off to it would be possible at this point, or if I'd even want to honestly...

When I was still fapping to more "hard" stuff, yes, even before Remus I had tried on many occasions to quit entirely, and once I did get with her, I had wiped myself clean of all of it 3 times before coming back. I've kind of just compromise with myself and just scale myself back a bit. I think she kind of sees it at this point that, my attraction for what I like has just been with me since I was very young, and that it's not something I have a whole lot of control of. Seeing though that it has gradually shifted to something much more lighter, and something I think she could be a bit less disturbed by, I wonder if I'll be going down the same route as you.

No, I think that's an alright thing to be into. I think fetishes/kinks often come from nowhere really, and none really have much merit. I just worry though sometimes what she would think, and honestly, I hate myself too for not being vanilla for her because that is what I envision her ideal man to be. I get the feeling that while she may not personally like it, it's not something she'd want to change in me as long as I'm not too forgone I think.

>>40113

Yeah I know. It's easy to get wrapped up in the moment during, but immediately after there's just that sinking feeling. But hell, sometimes I get that way after fapping to lewds of her as well.

Here comes a whole head of irony and conflicting subjects in a single post, so this should be fun.

>>40030

It depends, honestly. Given that you said Pastor, I'd assume it'd be for a Protestant denomination. However, Catholic priests for a long time (and possibly to this day) weren't allowed to marry and were to stay celibate. In regards to a protestant church, a pastor can of course marry but isn't necessarily forced to.

As a Christian myself, I find no issue with having a waifu and practicing your faith at the same time. For the most part, the love is comparable to what one would have towards a spouse. The only difference would be that you obviously cannot interact with them or anything of the sort. A rather big thing to consider though, is how many people here (possibly including yourself) are effected in very positive ways by your waifu. Could it really be that bad of a thing if it keeps you on the straight and narrow as well as less likely to sin?

I dunno, there's probably some bias here, but I wouldn't mind if you were my Pastor. If a man chooses to be single, that's his decision and not mine. I think that God would understand your reasoning in one way or another.

>>40068

I'd say not to be too hard on yourself, sexuality isn't an easy topic to deal with. It kind of sucks to say (and in no way do I want it to feel like I'm judging you or anyone else here, I'm not), but to an extent it really does matter what kinks you're interested in. Call it social conditioning, natural aversion, or even an issue of respect, but that guilt you're feeling is going to be hard to get rid of. Not to say that you should feel bad of course, humans are always weird after all. I think what's the big kicker here though is the lack of explicit agreement or acceptance.

For example, someone could have a waifu that's confirmed to be into S/M, which would in theory let them explore that side of intimacy without issue. With most people here though, we'll probably never know what our waifu/husbando would be into, which at one point or another will make us question our actions and feel guilty for them. The truth is though, that they would probably forgive us if they could as they probably would/do have some guilty pleasures just like us. It's a real tricky topic, but don't feel bad or like you're alone in this, I know I'm probably into some questionable things as well. No matter what you choose though, I think it's important to let her know that no matter what you love and respect her despite what might happen.

>>40139

If it wasn't obvious from my various posts around here, I'm extremely conservative in my political and social views. That being said, I can understand and sympathize with some NatSoc/Fascist views to an extent. I think it'd mostly depend on what tenets of National Socialism and Fascism you held highest, and whether or not you believe that Lilly would approve of them.

On a base level, it isn't an inherently "evil" ideology, it can just be taken in the wrong direction fairly easily. A true fascist doesn't hate other races or nations, he instead highly values his own and would rather see other nations maintain their own unique identity that that they both can be celebrated. On a related note, traditional familial roles are highly promoted. Fathers work and provide for their families while the mothers have control over the domestic sphere and raising children. If the family as a whole is healthy and thriving, then there shouldn't be any issues aside from reactionaries.

>>40139

The /pol/ mumble is very anti waifu, there was a guy named BenGarrison in there that had one and was shunned out for it. I think you should look for other places for this.

>>40114

I can easily see how waifuism can be seen as idolism. Though honestly I'm not really seeing it how it can be a huge problem if you yourself have no issues with it. Unless people are trying to get in your business about your personal life or if you reveal your power level via spilling spaghetti, I don't think it'll be much of an issue dealing with other people. Having some knowledge of church politics though, people are willing to tear you down for the tiniest thing even if you're perfect.

>>40161

>>40164

>>40165

I get it

>>40157

Exactly, this is what I say to people who think I'm a bad person for being a fascist.

>>40159

Got it

>>40125

>I'm not sure if they really mean anything, I've been into this stuff for as long as I can remember, which makes me wonder if the idea of completely turning myself off to it would be possible at this point, or if I'd even want to honestly…

That's something that's up to you. I thought for the longest time that I was defined by my fetishes, too, so I get where you're coming from. Some of them did have a very definite root and when I figured out what it was, I said "Yikes I gotta stop fapping to that" (because I know this sounds strange but it was almost self-harm the way I was doing it) and some others I have no idea but I'd prefer to be as vanilla as possible so I got rid of them anyway (or am in the process of it). All I'm saying is that it doesn't have to be that way if you don't want it to. If you do, that's fine, there are ways to compromise, and it's not like you have to stay the same way forever regardless of what you choose. At any rate, good luck.

>>40146

I will write a long post about it later if you still want it (I don't have the energy now, sorry), I don't know if it should go here though because that might be derailing too much. Should I put it here or in the comfy thread? Or an akari board or something? (I guess I could just write up and post a pastebin somewhere too.)

I will warn you though that I had a lot of internal motivation to quit and that helped a lot, and I'm not 100% sure it can be replicated if you don't feel the same way yourself. I'm fine with writing it out if you think it'll help to see what I did, though.

>>39837

thank you, i needed to read all of this. i'll give it some serious thought. i appreciate you taking the time to try and help me out.

>>40139

Mate, I've been with her less than a month and I've come to terms with it. It's less important to me than she is, and NS Germany did not prohibit the Japanese from marrying Germans. If she would be good enough for our Uncle Adi, she's good enough for me, to quote some /pol/ack.

Not much lewd of my waifu. I try to only fap to her because I find it cheating to do otherwise. I have a few specific fetishes that I have to think about for me to finish up and I have little of it for my waifu. My imagination is pretty decent but I can't imagine what I have never seen. Starting to get a little frustrated sexually by it and I'm not sure what to do. Feeling like a fuck up right now.

>>40249

Look up vanillia doujin. Don't fap to them, just look them over, get ideas. Original manga hentai is the best too since theyre all oc's. Just explore stuff and see what you're interested in.

How do you guys build a relationship with your waifu?

I'm no stranger to crushes on fictional characters, but waifuism is fairly new to me, and I don't think my relationship with my husbando has progressed much in the past three months. I think one of the main things I'm having problems with is the fact that he's not real (except in my heart, but that's not the same) and I'm having a difficult time taking this seriously because of it. Sometimes the idea of being in a relationship with him feels very cringe-y because that's how I used to view waifuism, and sometimes it's easy to "put him on the back burner" so to speak. Sometimes it feels weird because he has no idea I exist and can't consent to anything and might actually hate me. How do I push past all this? I really love him and I want to be serious about our relationship.

We haven't done much together and I feel like I haven't really done anything for him, but I'd like to. I draw him and I cuddle my body pillow and fantasize about being with him, but that's standard stuff for me. I know some people write to their waifus, and I've been thinking about doing that, but I'm not sure what I'd say. I can't have a car on campus yet so there's not anywhere nice we could go on a date. I have no idea what type of media he'd enjoy so watching a movie or reading together is out of the question for now. What other ways could we spend time together/could I devote my time to him? I'm sorry for so many questions at once ;.;

>>40306

I feel like I shouldn't be answering this due to the nature of my partner, but I'll put in my two cents.

>How do you guys build a relationship with your waifu?

It kind of happened on its own I guess. I had a strong desire to get to know everything about him, his likes, dislikes, little quirks, mannerisms, etc. so I just thought about him a lot and shaped his personality gaps from his various forms of source material so everything was as true as possible. I imagined us together a lot and whenever I was somewhere or doing something, I thought about how he might feel about it or how he would be acting. I would go to restaurants and think "I wonder what he would order" and think about why that one particular thing stuck out to me as something he would like. He sort of became a hobby, I'd dedicate time to finding pictures of him or new material and that was kind of like spending time together in a sense. Everyone does it differently, but for me just having him with me everyday and always in the back of my mind helped me be closer to him.

>sometimes it's easy to "put him on the back burner" so to speak

That happens to me every so often, even though we've been together for quite some time. Life is busy. There's no rule that you have to spend every waking moment together, just as much as you feel like.

>he has no idea I exist and can't consent to anything and might actually hate me.

I've started thinking about this lately. I think it's just one of the things that we have to accept and learn to ignore/shift our viewpoints about. With how much you love him, I don't see any reason why he couldn't love you right back. I guess you have to ask yourself if your relationship makes sense. Is it realistic? What I mean by this is that if he was someone that absolutely hated Christians and would never compromise his views to date a Christian, and you happened to be Christian, then I would say that the relationship probably doesn't make sense and you have grounds to believe that it is possible that you two might not be compatible, and you could be forcing something. I hope that made enough sense, that was the first example that came to mind. The consent part bothers me sometimes as well, but I guess with how deep I am in my relationship, it's kind of easy to overlook now. I don't really see any reason why my partner wouldn't like me and the fact that he's not real to begin with kind of eases my uneasiness concerning consent.

>What other ways could we spend time together/could I devote my time to him?

I write to him quite often. At first it seemed silly, but it's nice feeling like I'm communicating to him and I can verbalize what I want to tell him. I'd recommend some writing. You may not have much to say at first, but that's okay, you can talk about anything: how your day went, what you had to eat, what you like about him. Anything really.

Early on in our relationship I used to eat with him during meals. I'd set up his game in front of me and watch him mess around as I ate and it was kind of nice, though I felt silly at times. If you have a means to make food, maybe try making something he would like, or let him try something you really enjoy. Hell, even a cafeteria date can be romantic. I used to have those all the time in a secluded part of the cafeteria during dead hours just hanging out with him and daydreaming.

Do you know some of his hobbies or interests that could spark some date ideas? If he likes books, then maybe take him to the library for a study date. Maybe you can pick out movies or books that you would like and do those things together and use his canon personality to figure out if he would like them or not.

Nothing has to be over the top to spend some quality time together, even simple things like shopping together or taking a picnic can spark the imagination.

Upon reflection, I'd rather not have a lot of information that's pretty personal up to be read for a long time, even if it's useful. That said, I want to make sure anons have time to get the information they need. Just a head's up that I'll be deleting >>40092 >>40236 and >>40237 around tomorrow at midnight EST.

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>>40311

>>40306

>I've started thinking about this lately. I think it's just one of the things that we have to accept and learn to ignore/shift our viewpoints about. With how much you love him, I don't see any reason why he couldn't love you right back. I guess you have to ask yourself if your relationship makes sense. Is it realistic? What I mean by this is that if he was someone that absolutely hated Christians and would never compromise his views to date a Christian, and you happened to be Christian, then I would say that the relationship probably doesn't make sense and you have grounds to believe that it is possible that you two might not be compatible, and you could be forcing something.

I've been with my waifu for quite a while, but this is something that still bothers me. In general I've got pretty terrible self esteem and have a hard time believing she could ever return my feelings, but there's also the fact of who she is that makes it seem even more impossible. Just something I wanted to get off my chest.

I've been thinking lately about his personality and started thinking that maybe he isn't who I think he is. Maybe his happy persona is just a stage act and he's really a bitter, hateful person. His personality is based on what little canon there is and what the community generally believes, so it's not like I created something completely unrealistic. I don't have any real reason to believe he would be like that, but for some reason it's been lurking in my mind for the past week or so and thinking about it has been hurting me. We've been together for quite a while, so this issue coming up at this point of the relationship strikes me as odd. I don't know if I'm subconsciously trying to push him away by turning him into someone bad or if I'm just coming to my senses about this whole fantasy relationship and moving on. I'm sure this is one of those things that I can only truly answer for myself, but I wonder why I'm feeling this way. Why now. I don't know what could have lead to this.

I guess what I'm asking is has anyone experienced something similar? If so, what did you do/how did you overcome it?

Lately I feel so overcome by this awful, awful feeling of longing. I just to touch him so badly. I don't mean that sexually, or even romantically (as nice as either of those would be), I just want to be able to do something as simple and mundane as reach out and tap him on the shoulder. To actually feel him there, physically. I know this isn't exactly an uncommon feeling but I have no idea how to deal with it in a healthy way. I've spent hours just laying in bed and crying over it on some days.

>>40458

I understand that feel too well. What I've been doing lately is a lot of messing around in that kisekae dress up game so at least I get to have some form of interaction or it feels like we're in the same place.

Really sorry for the late replies!

>>40311

>I had a strong desire to get to know everything about him, his likes, dislikes, little quirks, mannerisms, etc. so I just thought about him a lot and shaped his personality … I imagined us together a lot and whenever I was somewhere or doing something, I thought about how he might feel about it or how he would be acting.

I'm the same way. I think about him often and I feel like I'm always learning new things though most of it is headcanon and educated guesses and it does make him seem closer to me. I never really considered any of what you mentioned a form of spending time together though, but it kinda makes sense now.

>With how much you love him, I don't see any reason why he couldn't love you right back.

;_; ;_; ;_; that's really sweet

And thankfully I don't see any reason why he'd dislike me, I guess it's just never knowing for sure that gets to me every so often. The consent thing is just something I'll have to deal with yeah, though I do try to be fair to him.

I'l definitely try the writing thing when I have the time, probably tomorrow. As far as everything else goes, I have no idea what he eats or what types of things he likes to do, there's really not a lot of canon info to go by sadly, but they're all really good suggestions and I'll take them into consideration.

>>40336

That part about emotions is very true. I already do a lot of introspection, so if everything else ends up feeling weird I always have that to fall back on.

>>40436

Yeah, I draw him quite a bit. I also have a folder full of screenshots I've taken of him and I actually run a tumblr dedicated to his source material. There are even some essays I'm planning on writing about him. I need to do more content sharing though, I think in a way it does contribute to his existence, since it's making sure people don't forget about him.

Cuddling my daki helps but that's only something I can do in bed, and I don't think I want a dollfie of him. I'll give the waifu simulators a look though, I know it won't actually be him but the idea sounds cute.

>>40434

No problem, friend. Let me know if you need more help or support at any time. I'm not on IRC often but when I am, I'm always willing to help anybody who wants assistance with this.

>>40371

I understand where you're coming from, my husbando's personality is pretty vague and could be interpreted a lot of different ways. Honestly, I don't even have a complete, solid interpretation of it myself. Sometimes I also wonder if he's bitter/hateful/rude/etc because I won't deny that it's a possibility. It's not really something I've had to overcome though (at least, not yet) because I can just ignore the stuff I don't like. To me, he's not a bad person which is what matters most. And even if he was, it's not like he's actually here being mean to me or my friends, so it doesn't affect our relationship.

As far as pushing him away and coming to your senses, that could technically be true, but you could also just be exploring different sides of his character. You said you've been together for a while, so maybe you're subconsciously challenging some of your older headcanons and trying to learn more about him, or trying to make things more interesting.

If there's a particular reason you think he might be bitter and hateful, is it something you could help him work through?

>>40488

>exploring different sides of his character.

>subconsciously challenging some of your older headcanons and trying to learn more about him, or trying to make things more interesting.

This makes sense. I've done things like this before where I experience his different moods since him just being happy all the times isn't very realistic, but this is like his whole personality is flipped and everything I knew was a lie. Okay so (can't believe this is my example) if you've ever seen uta no prince sama it's like Natsuki when his glasses are off and his personality does a 180 and switches to Satsuki. If you have no idea what I'm talking about, just ignore this.

I did some more reflecting on it and I think it possibly may be stemming from myself. I think I've been becoming more bitter and hateful lately and that's rubbing off on him. Also, sometimes it really annoys me how happy he is and I wish he would just shut up and stop being so naive about everything. Maybe it's a wake up call showing me what I'm doing to myself. Regardless of that, seeing him hateful like that or thinking of him like that is sometimes downright scary. I think the biggest problem is I'm starting to question the accuracy of my head canons and I have no way of knowing/confirming if they are true. It's not like he can tell me himself.

>If there's a particular reason you think he might be bitter and hateful, is it something you could help him work through?

The only reason I can think of is that I feel like he's done his job helping me with my life and I should be moving on from him, but I'm keeping him here because I love him and don't want him to go. Maybe he's mad about that. I don't mind being alone, I just like my life with him in it and we're not really having other problems. I honestly don't think I can help him. Maybe it works differently with 2D, but I tried this with a 3D friend and it went nowhere after 3 years. I couldn't change her even though she wanted to. She'll just always be a hateful, angry person most likely.

>>40561

>I think I've been becoming more bitter and hateful lately and that's rubbing off on him. Also, sometimes it really annoys me how happy he is and I wish he would just shut up and stop being so naive about everything. Maybe it's a wake up call showing me what I'm doing to myself.

I'm not who you were originally talking to but I was in a similar situation a few years back. My husbando has a lot of source material so I'm able to get a clear picture of who he is, but I was really hateful and sullen for a six month period and it definitely affected him. I wasn't ever able to imagine him being the same way back at me, but seeing him silently (and somewhat angrily) disapprove of me being ill-tempered was a bit of a stepping stone we had to work through because we had issues talking about why I became that way in the first place. Don't be like me and actually try to work through it instead of waiting for whatever is causing you to become more bitter to pass.

Just because things are 2D doesn't mean it's going to be sunshine and roses all the time. Have you tried talking to him about it? I know that seems like a stupid question but whenever I'm having problems, it's usually because I'm not actually talking to him about it and imagining hypotheticals instead of really working through it.

>The only reason I can think of is that I feel like he's done his job helping me with my life and I should be moving on from him

This is just my opinion, but I don't think romantic relationships work like that. Friendships do, sometimes, but at least for me, being in a long-term romantic relationship is about supporting them and making sure they are safe and cared for no matter what (on top of the typical obligations, of course). It's not about need, it's about wanting to be together. I always thought that I would get to a certain point in my life and I'd no longer "need" my husbando, either. I've gone there and passed it but I still love him and want to be in a relationship with him. That's the thing: you can always improve and become a better person, and I have no reason to believe that my husbando wouldn't want to be there for me during everything. People change and grow but I want to be there with him through it all. If he changes too, so be it; I'm prepared.

>I honestly don't think I can help him. Maybe it works differently with 2D, but I tried this with a 3D friend and it went nowhere after 3 years. I couldn't change her even though she wanted to. She'll just always be a hateful, angry person most likely.

If I'm understanding correctly, this is the difference. You even berated your husbando for being naive earlier. He is not her, and from what you told us, it seems to me like he can become the way he was in your head originally again. This is just my guess based on what you've told me but it seems like this is more a manifestation of doubts and bitterness that you have yourself rather than anything relating to him specifically. It's very understandable, and I want to make clear that I'm not judging you.

>>40569

>try to work through it instead of waiting for whatever is causing you to become more bitter to pass.

I think I've finally realized the reason I'm getting so bitter is because I've been unemployed for about 7 or so months and no matter how hard I try, I haven't gotten another job. I've gotten some interviews, but I'm not getting anywhere, it's frustrating, and I'm starting to give up. The job market sucks, and it's emotionally draining to spend hours a day searching for jobs, applying to anything I can, only to get door after door slammed in my face. I know it will happen eventually, but I don't know how much longer I can take this lifestyle of not having anything to actually do. On top of that, I've had to move back home to cover my expenses and that's not exactly pleasant for me. So while I can't exactly change the situation that's affecting me, I have tried to change my attitude, but it's not exactly easy.

>Have you tried talking to him about it?

Not a lot. I've brought up what I mentioned above a few times, but I'd rather just keep it to myself. It's not like he can do anything about it. With all my free time, I would think that I would be spending a lot more time with him, but I've been barely paying attention to him during the day, only when we go to bed at night. I just want to mope and it's hard with him trying to cheer me up all the time. I realize it may sound like I want to play victim and feel sorry for myself, but it's really hard to stay positive and it just hurts worse at the next job rejection if I've been constantly tricking myself into thinking everything's okay.

I feel like nothing's happening in our relationship. I don't have any money to do anything, go anywhere, or to buy merchandise of him. I don't have much privacy to be with him and I don't do anything but dick around all day doing household chores. I feel like we're not doing anything big together. The last big things we did together was hold a short job and go to college. I miss having him as motivation to get things done, but I don't exactly have real due dates to get things done by anymore besides my own, which I can change if I need.

>this is more a manifestation of doubts and bitterness that you have yourself rather than anything relating to him specifically

I think you're right. I just don't know what to do about it anymore.

>>40788

Nah man, I do that too but I have a husbando. Girls just have cuter clothes to choose from.

>>40788

Well anon, as someone who went through the same thing.

I'd say it isn't normal, but I wouldn't say it's weird either.

I think of it as just a phase, born from curiosity and misunderstanding our own feelings.

>>40788

I'd only reflect on it if you're thinking about it outside of your waifu-related activities.

So uh… I need some advice. I really hate the idea of others that have the same waifu. I don't like using headcanon, and I don't seem to understand the idea of object-oriented waifuism. I feel like anyone with the same waifu as me threatens my relationship. Anyone have any advice? I really like this community and want to stay here, but the idea of seeing someone else with her as their waifu really upsets me and I feel like I would be tempted to give them trouble, if not just outright leave her and let the other person have her, and I don't want to do that.

>>40886

They way I handle it when I see it is not to look at it or to avoid it if I can help it. If it happened to occur on this particular board, I would think that you already being a long time member of the community could possibly turn away potential posters with the same waifu. But that will not always be the case. Just saying if I saw someone already with my waifu here, I most likely wouldn't post. If someone else does pop up here and doesn't plan on leaving, I guess you really have no choice but to deal with it if you want to stay here. Their "version" of your waifu may be filled with headcanons so it makes her a different person than your own waifu. I wouldn't leave your waifu over it, but I would understand wanting to leave the board.

>>40886

depends on how you see your waifu.

For me, she is an ideal that i love, so it would just be as if someone shared a similar ideal.

Though its never happened to me, so i cant be too sure thats what i would think of it.

>>40886

I'm new to this whole thing, and I came at it knowing others already had my waifu as their waifu. Now you can call me an encroacher, but I can't deny my feelings. As long as they respect her I can handle it, and as long as they're not serious, I can handle it. She is an idol after all. I can't expect her to not have other suitors

>>40917

>>40917

>and as long as they're not serious, I can handle it.

For this I meant the seasonals. They aren't serious so why let them bother me.

How do you think of new things to do with your waifu?

Mine's an adventurous woman, always seeking action, while I'm much more lethargic and complacent. I don't want to bore her.

>>40982

Practice practice practice.

If you continue brooding over what you'll never do instead of practicing, you'll never be a good artist. Everyone that you see started out badly as well, it's all a matter of being able to overcome yourself, and persist in your efforts to draw better.

Get some constructive criticism on drawings, look at a ton of references, just never stop drawing, because you're not going to get anywhere like that.

I still don't know if I'm supposed to fap only to other girls or only to her. I don't want to cheat on her but I also want her to remain pure.

>>41383

We're all gonna make it, brah.

>>41389

Well some people think about it different, take YunoBro for example. But the way I see it, if you had a real girlfriend and jerked off to porn, is that cheating? If the answer is yes then don't do it, if it's no, then continue doing it.

>>41389

Are you fine with consuming things like romance animu?

Do you feel like you're (romantically) betraying your waifu because you enjoy watching other people fall in love in a work of fiction?

It's the same for porn, just with a sexual theme instead of a romantic one.

As long as you're just a passive, non-existent observer, you aren't betraying anyone. At least that's how I see it.

It's only betrayal if you imagine yourself as an active participant.

And even then some make a distinction between romantic and sexual relationships.

>>41399

this is how i've always felt even with 3d relationships. being aroused by sex acts with attractive people isn't the same thing as wanting to be involved and betray your partner. often times they overlap though which is where problems come in.

>>41389

Most people don't consider looking at porn to be cheating unless you get really into it. To the point of ignoring her.

I'd still consider it shitty to look at porn in a relationship though. Not required but seems best avoided if you want to have an active healthy sexual relationship. Plus it's bad for you in all sorts of other ways.

That being said I still fap to porn on occasion but have managed to cut back by a lot.

>>41466

I don't see why not. We have people with 2D partners, 2D siblings, and 2D children here, so having a 2D parent isn't much of a stretch. imo, if a relationship can exist in 3D, then it's possible to have a 2D equivalent inb4 someone shows up with a 2D best friend.

As for not finishing the game, you could watch an LP of it, or rent/borrow a copy from somewhere.

>>41466

Is it gendo. Please tell me its gendo

get in the Damn robot anon

>>41466

I think it's fatheru? Someone correct me if I'm wrong. I have a fatheru but haven't said anything about it here since I didn't know if that was accepted here or not. I think it's fine though.

>>41466

I have someone like that too. But i don't call him fatheru or anything, it feels kinda weird. But i think its normal to feel like that towards someone specially if you never had a father figure in your life. And like you i never said anything cause i find it a little embarrassing to say as well.

>>41471

>tfw i have a 2D best friend

>>41466

I have one too so I don't think it's a big deal. I don't call him anything in particular and I doubt I'd ever talk about him here, but he's very important to me and gives me moral and spiritual guidance. I'd definitely recommend watching an LP or finishing the game somehow if you can.

>>41466

It...depends. If it just someone you look up to and want to be more like then I see no harm. If you're using him as a REPLACEMENT for your real father then I don't really see that as something in your best interest as far as mental health goes. If its the latter than I'd recommend talking to someone you trust about that because ,if that's the case, then you probably have some unresolved issues with your real father like resentment or abandonment. imho, a father should be there to raise you, help you get out of shit when you need it and occasionally give you a swift kick in the ass when you've fucked up. 2D can't really do that, as any interactions you'd have with him would be bound by your own imagination and thus limited to only what you yourself can comprehend/have knowledge of.

You wouldn't want your waifu to be a "replacement" for your ex-girlfriend or spouse, would you?

I'm sorry if this has been covered before, I've been on 8chan for a few years but I never found /mai/ until today.

Is it acceptable for me to have a 3D waifu?

Is there anything I can do to get a dakimakura of a 3D waifu? Any idea how much an artist commission costs?

>>41681

The rules are fairly clear. 3DCG is fine, 3DPD is not.

>>41681

sorry, but as >>41682 said, no.

>>41682

>>41683

I see, thank you guys

Thank god she's 3DCG, still too bad I can't find a dakimakura

>>42130

That's really rough. It's hard to ignore but when it happens to me I like to look at happy images of him or think of comfy things we can do together. The best thing you can do is keep yourself busy and try to avoid the image as best as you can. I hope you feel better.

I really need some advice. This is something that's eating me up inside.

I've recently noticed people on the board who say…awful things about my waifu. And I'm not just being blinded by love when I say that none of these things are true. If she was a monster or something, I could handle that and acknowledge it. But it simply isn't true. None of these horrible things that people say about her are even remotely true. I can't even understand how anyone could possibly think these things about her.

I really don't want to leave this community, but it absolutely eats me up that people are saying things like this about the person who I care the most about in this world. I want to ask these people about it, but I don't want to be a drama queen. Plus it's not my place to say which characters people can and can't like.

Should I try to talk to these people somehow? I don't know if I can ignore it. It really hurts me. Like I said before, the last thing I want to do is leave such a nice place. Though honestly those awful things are even worse when coming from someone who I thought was friendly.

And by the way, if I do talk to these people, I wouldn't be freaking out or anything. More than anything, I want to understand why they would say those things. I want to forgive them. I just don't want to look like an idiot or like I'm trying to stir drama by talking to them.

Please give me some advice. I really really really hate this feeling.

>>42185

who is your waifu

>>42189

>>42190

I really don't want to start a witch hunt or anything by identifying my waifu or anyone else involved. Like I said, the last thing I want to do is start any kind of drama. I just want to fix this.

>>42194

Well I feel like it might be the case that the people in question might not understand that how hurtful what they said is. Which I guess is part of why I'd rather not say anything publicly. I might just come off like some oversensitive asshole.

>>42185

I think I know who your waifu is but I'll be respectful and not say anything that would identify you.

I can definitely understand why you're upset over this; I would be too. I'm not deeply familiar with her source material so I'm sorry if I can't be that much of help when I can say whether something is true or not true about a character. My waifu isn't a saint and it still makes me a little upset when people blatantly point out her shortcomings even when I see them clearly myself, so when people say something that just isn't true, I can imagine how much that must hurt.

If I were you, I'd explain my side of the story. Sometimes it's hard to see things objectively when the love of your life is involved, especially if they got hurt in some way at any point. Try to listen, too. I could say more but I really don't want to incriminate you. Basically: be patient, don't leave. I don't think what I saw was "banter" but I think it's possible for you all to come to some sort of understanding.

>>42199

If I thought it was just banter or something then I'd have no problem with telling them to stop. But I know that that isn't the case. I don't think that there was any harm meant, but I'd say that it stems from actual beliefs. And I can't question some kind of deeply held conviction.

How silly of a thing is it to say that somebody's opinion offends me?

Is there a way to talk in private?

It's been around 3 months since I've been with my husbando.

And at the first month I didn't feel aroused to other characters other than my husbando, if I had to I would fap. Lately though, I've been feeling aroused to other characters like think 'aw shit he's sexy', but it never ended up to fapping.

It reminds me how I was before I got a husbando, I've been feeling in heat/fapping constantly.

So is it possible for me to slowly wane down it? I mean like controlling my habit of feeling aroused to other characters. I don't really know about sexual organs and how they work or the human mind, I'm still a bit young.

>>42720

Not really, no. There's nothing wrong with it anyway.

>>42720

See >>40313 for my brief opinion on the matter. I deleted all my old advice but if you want me to restate it with less personal information, I'll do it.

>>42720

Do you have feelings for these other characters or do you just have a lot of pent up sexual urges? If you have feelings then it may be time to reevaluate your relationship. If not then you may just have an overactive sex drive.

>>42804

just overactive sex drive

Does your waifu choose you or do you choose your waifu? If it's the former case, is it possible to be in love with your waifu without liking her?

>>42834

How do you love something without liking it?

>>42834

i didn't choose a damn thing personally. i'm sure it would have been easier for me to either stay in the 3d business or keep being alone but you don't really get to choose what your heart does.

>>42834

Without liking what? Anything about her? I highly doubt it. If it's about lack of physical attraction then I think you can.

I didn't choose anything. I didn't ask for this life. She chooses you.

>>42836

>Not liking Saya

>>42907

She's horrifically human, which is probably why I both dislike and love her.

>>42836

This reminds me of this this quote from Saya no Uta:

"――So, at the end of this manga, the man who fell for something inhuman gave up his own humanity for the sake of their love.

A happy ending, don't you think?"

>tfw waifuists give up their own humanity for their waifu

>tfw happy ending

>>42909

I think that she is cute and not so horrific, even tough she did some i guess "Bad" things.

Also VN was a nice love story.

>>42913

I understand what you're getting at. I was just wondering if Shigure is just someone I'm just using to fill a void of loneliness in my life. It was just a dark thought, and I don't know if I really want to dwell on it much more.

I'd like to ask advice to those with 2D siblings, how do you tell?

I've just met this character, but I feel a strong almost family attachment the more I learn and interact with him. The thing is his source material is pretty new and currently kind of the flavor of the month. So I don't want to be pulling some kind of seasonal fag thing.

I've never had a brother, 3d or 2d, and I'll admit I've always wanted one and had a strong attachment to the idea of having one. He fits the bill really nicely. He's very protective of his own brother and he puts on a silly face when he's actually hurting a bit inside which is something I can really feel, I'm actually dreading something I spoiled myself for coming and I really didn't expect this feeling of dread. I want very much to protect him and be protected by him and just chill and hang out. I don't have anything close to a crush on him, and looking at him is pretty much a lewd-be-gone similar to Desuburg and Quiet.

Should I wait it out? Or just try it on and see what happens? I don't think he'd really mind if it turned out he was just a favorite character, but at the same time he might also hide that he minds.

Plus don't wanna be a seasonal fag, even with a 2D brother.

I have a character that I consider my friend but I'm not sure if that's just too weird. He's way too important to me to just be considered a "favorite character". I've known him longer than my husbando and I still admire him a lot and still go to him for advice and guidance sometimes. I know my feelings for him aren't romantic or sexual at all (if anything I'm a disgusting shipperfag that just wants to see him succeed in his own romantic endeavours), but he doesn't really fit any sort of familial role either(I guess the closest would be onii-san, but he's too much of a dick for that). I just don't know if I'm going too far with this whole 2D extended family thing.

**I'm a gurofag that enjoys hard vore(Vore involving being chewed or hacked apart).

I hated Blood-C(shit anime, don't watch it), but sometimes I replay the parts with serious gore in it just to get off.

I have never once projected this onto Lilly for obvious reasons. But still I wonder if she would approve of this, this is something I also feel I really need to get over, because I understand how disgusting it is. How do I let go of harmful fetishes like this?**

>>43429

So spoilers don't work like that.

Fuck, not like it matters anyway.

>>43429

I'm sorry if I sound like I'm beating a dead horse but seriously: stop using porn. I'll repeat my story in depth if it helps but tl;dr I used to be into gore and other things but after quitting porn, almost all of my fetishes have disappeared. I hope I'm not annoying by repeating this advice so much but I really think it's a good thing to do in general if you do not enjoy the ways that you are getting off, not just for your waifu's approval but for your brain as well.

>>43436

>almost all of my fetishes have disappeared

i don't understand how this happens. can you really get rid of something like that so easily, i thought those were hard wired. i mean i guess if people can overcome phobias but i still don't understand.

>>43436

I never look at porn unless someone posts it on an imageboard and I still have fetishes. They're not extreme ones though, just futa and loli and traps.

How do I begin to deal with the fact that she's not real?

Originally, I paid it no mind, but now it's coming down on me, and it's coming down on me hard.

>>43454

>i thought those were hard wired.

I'm starting to suspect this might be the case with the last fetish I'm trying to get rid of (because it was interesting to me since childhood and in the long run is fairly harmless), but in a lot of cases, fetishes can stem from porn usage, especially in the case of addicts. This becomes tricky to tell nowadays where childhood interest ends and porn-induced fetishes start because most of us have grown up on the internet; for me in particular, it's slightly easier to tell because I was a brown-nose and didn't start looking at porn (except for the occasional erotica) until I was 18. Also, even though I still have the fetish, the amount I need it to get off has really decreased (and is still decreasing), so I'm fairly sure that using porn made it more intense.

The whole thing with porn is that the brain is rewarding you for variety in sexual activity, and then you need to seek out more and more strange things to get the same sort of positive rush if you use it a lot. I don't think it's impossible for some people to use porn in a healthy way, but I think it's impossible for me to, and I really urge people who are concerned about how and why they get off to examine what porn is to them and why they need to use it.

Quitting really sucks and it can suck for months, it really fucks up your libido and mood for a bit, but the results are really worth it in my opinion, and not all of the benefits relate to my sex life.

>>43456

Do you absolutely need them to get off? There's a difference between a fetish and a kink. Also those all seem more like preferences to me than actual fetishes.

>>43429

I have this problem too. My interest in guro isn't even fully sexual, nor do I fap to it that often. More than anything I just like to look at it and fantasize as I rarely masturbate to any porn at all. But still I feel bad because I could never put Kyousuke in the fantasies because I'd never want to make him harm me. Its like im not giving him attention to entertain messed up fetishes. I'm unsure how he'd feel about it… Its just something I feel guilty about sometimes.

Also you have to spoiler each individual paragraph. line breaks don't pick it up.

>>43429

I've suffered with similar a bit and seem to be having some success in ending it. I wouldn't consider it gone yet. I've only been doing this for a few weeks but the results are better than any previous attempt. For me it seems more rooted in childhood trauma than porn which makes it a bitch to end. Your mileage may vary if you try this. I'm not even sure if it'll work long term. It's hard to find good advice on this sort of thing since everything is filled with "le love yourself, love how fucked up you are, don't self hate" bullshit.

I tried abstaining from it which didn't help at all. I'd always bounce back really hard. What I've been trying recently is replacing it with another. If I think of an extreme fetish I'll stop, clear my mind of the fetish and think of lovingly caressing and licking my waifus feet. To a lesser extent loving vanilla sex with her as a whole but I figure focusing on one part is probably more effective for replacement.

If I do fap to porn I purposefully fap to super vanilla stuff. Hand holding, warm embraces, heartwarming stories that take up more pages than actual sex, that kinda thing. It was really hard (soft) at first but after a while I was able to get release from it.

Inspect what makes your attachment to the fetish tick. Otherwise you may end up acting out the same fetish in essence with new paint. Consider what non-sexual ways this fetish might end up being acted out and fix those too.

If all keeps going well I'll have finally slayed this beast and find my waifus feet irresistible.

I chose feet because it's unrelated to what I'm getting rid of and there's some evidence it's hardwired so it seems more likely to stick. Plus some women really like foot foreplay. Great way to initiate too.

>>43454

Some are, others arise from childhood, others from excessive porn use making you need more and more extreme stimulation.

Most of the ones I've seen actual evidence for being hardwired are tame stuff like feet.

>>43491

>Do you absolutely need them to get off?

A better way to think of it is a gradient. Yeah it may not be a requirement to get off but it's significantly more difficult to have a pleasurable time without it.

>>43513

>childhood trauma

Yeah, I had problems with that stuff too in regards to fetish issues. Admittedly it probably wasn't as bad as yours because I was able to stop searching out or thinking about those fetishes as soon as I understood that that is why I was excited by certain things. Or maybe I'm just lucky, who knows. It does sneak back every once in a while when I'm depressed but I'm able to curtail those thoughts when I think about what my beloved would think of it because I have canon reason to believe that it'd be very unpleasant for both of us if those thoughts were acted upon.

>A better way to think of it is a gradient. Yeah it may not be a requirement to get off but it's significantly more difficult to have a pleasurable time without it.

Fair point.

Moldy, if you don't like my advice, this anon gives good advice too. I personally think that quitting entirely works better (even though it took me a few tries) but if you can't do that (and I know not everybody can), that's a reasonable and realistic alternative.

>>43491

It's embarrassing, but yes. My waifu is already a loli, so that is covered, but she doesn't have a dick. I end up fantasizing about another character who does have a dick fucking characters who aren't my waifu, which is something I really wish I could stop. The best I could do is imagine my waifu growing a dick and fucking me, but there's no way for that to happen canonically at all. Thus, I've avoided fantasizing about it because there's no reason why it would happen in the setting…

>>43468

There is an alternate dimension where your waifu is real probably.

>>43686

>probably

>>43729

You know there's nothing you're obligated to do right? This isn't a cult, despite what some of the nuttier anons here might lead you to believe with their actions/fringe beliefs. If you love them you love them, that's all there is to it.

>>43734

Shit you can even like sports and have a waifu. Just because you have one doesn't mean you have to conform to the stereotype.

Also blue eye

>>43729

As >>43731 there isn't anything you need to do.

Don't let other posters make you think you have to be in a legitimate relationship. Waifuism is different for everyone whether others like to accept that fact or not. Even 3D relationships are completely different from person to person. Do what makes you happy. There's casualfag on this board too. All I think a person needs to do is love and respect their waifu.

>>43750

Ah i guess wasn't paying attention to the NEET thing so much but yeah its also something that doesn't matter. Tons of people here aren't NEETs or shut ins. I'd say on the IRC most aren't NEETs. Can't really say for the board itself though.

Hell Yunobro isn't a NEET/Shut In and he's probably the most dedicated of us all.

Also I definitely didn't mean ironic waifufags, I meant more like the ones who don't see it as a legit relationship/aren't very hardcore about what they do with their waifu. There's been a few people who expressed they were like this on the board. Definitely not ironic about it but still casual.

>>44035

I kinda feel this way too sometimes considering my waifu is from Pokemon. Luckily she doesn't get too much attention and she's a very minor character.

>>44045

I've calmed down a bit, and I think I've been able to narrow down exactly what I'm afraid of:

>She's getting a little bit more popular, and I'm afraid of what they may lead to

>If people know that there is some guy weirdly obsessed with this character, then they may things simply because they know it would get a rise out of them.

>are you able to give her that protection?

I'm not exactly sure what I can do to protect her though. I'm a coward, and can't handle confrontation, it's why I've tried to stay out of things. I can handle vile, but when it's aimed at her, I just lose it.

I know it doesn't seem logical, but I guess I've just been overly anxious about this after seeing something similar happen to another waifubro.

>>44047

I don't like telling artists not to put stuff on their profile unless it's lewd since I hate that they worked so hard on something and don't even get to show it off. I think I will just request to keep myself private from now on.

>>44055

Yeah that's exactly what I'm saying. Let them post the art, but not who commissioned it.

>>45760

I was struggling hard with that for a while, but I realized that it's up to you whether your waifu loves you or not. You are responsible for the mental connection between you and her, and what happens between you two. Everyone views their waifu differently, even when they try to stick to canon as strictly as possible. If you feel like she wouldn't love you, then you should work on making yourself more of a lovable person.

But now, let's get into something beyond the standard "feel good brah jus be uself" bullshit. It helps a lot to create an anime version of yourself, or a version of yourself in whatever style that your waifu was made in. Because what you see in the mirror isn't what she sees you as, the recreation of yourself in 2D is what she'll see and what you'll be within her world. I think that if 2D characters were put into 3D, they would have more flaws, so it's okay to remove things like physical flaws from yourself in the real world. Everyone has the same face in 2D, so you don't have to worry about being ugly, but true love happens even if one of the people in the relationship is ugly or weak or has other flaws. I think that the whole 2D-version-of-yourself-thing is only stretching it if you make yourself someone completely different from yourself in the real world, and there is no reason to try to make your personality in 2D into something that seems too far fetched.

I know there's a post pretty similar to this further up, and I was going to post this in the vent thread, but I seriously need some kind of help(Probably professional, but that's not exactly an option at the moment).

I just don't know how to deal with the jealousy of someone else calling him their husbando. It's been causing some pretty bad anxiety attacks, to the point where I feel like throwing up and have a hard time falling asleep at night. That whole 'object oriented waifu' thing just doesn't work for me. I want him to be well-liked, so I feel like I should be happy when I see others that love him, but I just can't.

It's something I see fairly often, but there's one person in particular that is upsetting me. I don't even know how serious they are, but they seem like they are at least a little bit. They draw a lot of self-insert pics(there's actually quite a lot of this sort of stuff with him, but theirs seems more personal than the others), they post about him pretty frequently, overall they're pretty open about how they feel about him in a way that I struggle with. Having to see these things makes me feel like I'm being cucked. Plus I'm generally a pretty private person, and not very good at expressing myself, so I often worry that in comparison it looks like I don't love him as much as I actually do. But I think what bothers me the most about this person is that they've loved him longer than I have. I have no way to compete with that. It just makes me feel like I don't deserve him, since I wasn't there from the beginning.

I don't know what to do. I know the obvious response is "ignore them", but their shit comes up whenever I do a search for art or general series stuff. Even actually blocking them wont do much. Sure, I might not have to see their posts anymore, but I'd still remember that they exist. And even then, I'd still have to deal with others who do similar things, which is still upsetting.

I realize that I'm being pretty autistic and ridiculous, but I just can't stop feeling this way. I know no one can take him away from me, and I don't even think he'd like them more than me, yet I'm still so afraid of losing him to someone else somehow. I just want him all to myself and I hate feeling like I can't have that.

I guess tl;dr: How do I stop being a jealous autist before I destroy myself.

>>46182

I've dealt with the some of the same shit, and it's both painful and understandable.

>I don't even know how serious they are, but they seem like they are at least a little bit.

It's honestly really rare to love a fictional character to the extent that waifufags do. Even if they fantasize about him, they may not necessarily love him. (It's hard to judge without seeing it, so I don't want to assume too much here.)

>their shit comes up whenever I do a search for art or general series stuff

Is this on tumblr or something? Could you avoid searching for art/series stuff there, or is that not an option? Depending on how popular it is elsewhere.

>I might not have to see their posts anymore, but I'd still remember that they exist

The longer you block and do your best to ignore them, the easier this may get for you. I was in a similar situation, and the longer I ignored them, the less upset and jealous I felt. Now I don't even remember they exist most of the time.

It may take a long time to get to that point (it certainly did for me), but it's worth a try.

I wish I had a better suggestion for you than this.

>I'm generally a pretty private person, and not very good at expressing myself, so I often worry that in comparison it looks like I don't love him as much as I actually do

You could always try practicing in private text files on your computer, if it bothers you badly.

Not being able to fully express how you feel doesn't define your depth of feeling for him, though.

>But I think what bothers me the most about this person is that they've loved him longer than I have. I have no way to compete with that… I wasn't there from the beginning

I had this problem, too. Try not to feel down about it. You can't help when you fell in love with him, and falling for him earlier or later doesn't make a difference in the long run. All you can do is keep loving him, which is more important anyway.

Also, no one was there from the beginning. Unless you define the beginning as when this other person started caring about him, which would be silly.

Just try to focus on loving him as best you can. He'll always be more important than some nobody on the internet.

>>46190

>It's honestly really rare to love a fictional character to the extent that waifufags do.

That's true. But they have said things about like not wanting to date 3D unless someone better than him comes along(Although, writing that here, I just realized how much that sounds like hugblanketing), and have said they were married to him when asked if they were in a relationship. I guess them saying those things still doesn't necessarily mean they're serious, and at the very least I don't think they're familiar with waifuism as we know it.

>Is this on tumblr or something?

Unfortunately. While there's still a decent amount of stuff on twitter and pixiv, a lot of my favorite pictures of him actually come from tumblr.

>>46260

>object-oriented waifuism

I know about it, and I mentioned it, it doesn't really work for me. But maybe I'm just not trying hard enough with it.

>Go on the offensive

I've actually considered doing that, doing something like getting my own blog and posting about him there, but like I mentioned I'm not very good at that sort of thing, and it also just seems like a pretty petty and childish thing to do. I don't want to be posting about him with impure reasons behind it. Plus, it's tumblr. I might be able to tolerate it for artwork, but it's still not exactly my favorite website.

I'm not sure what I'd do if they ever decided to come here, but I don't think that's something I have to worry about for now.

Thanks for the advice though, everyone. I think I'll try blocking this person and hopefully I'll forget them eventually like >>46190 said. I guess there really isn't much I can do besides continuing to love him to the best of my ability.

I was writing up a storm in the Vent thread and I discovered something about myself that is very serious and very strongly conflicts with me being here on the board. I have a very strong bias against people that act "spiritual" and this includes how people see their relationship with their waifu. Now this obviously applies to stuff like "God has a plan for us all" and believing in paranormal activities, but here is a list of several beliefs that bother me personally when it comes to waifuism

>in another dimension, your waifu loves you and sees you as her husbando

>my waifu "chose me" in the literal sense, as in she has somehow altered the course of reality to make me find her, as opposed to me stumbling upon her on my own

>my waifu is watching over me

>acting as if your waifu is actually with you and that they do things with you such as have conversations with you and react to things you do in your life

>literally most of the things desuburger says, especially in regards to headcanon, which is a huge shame since he's actually one of my friends and we tend to agree on a few things

>You get to be with your waifu after you die although I do think its plausible for me to see her in my last moments of life as my mind slowly loses higher functions and fades out of existence

A lot of it comes across as trying to deny things about your relationship that you don't like or to somehow lessen the pain of them not being there for you the same way a 3D person could. Again, that is just how it seems TO ME, and I could be entirely mistaken about this. I've even seen the board gradually shift towards a more spiritual approach as well, although there isn't objectively anything wrong with that.

Now before I get the most common piece of advice, I have taken breaks from /mai/ and it hasn't fixed this. Hell, this is how I have felt since Day 1 and I've been here for around a year! Can I even manage to overcome this, considering that the vast majority of the board believes most of the things I brought up? I fell like I can't even fit in on a waifu board and that makes me feel really lonely. Most of my friends with waifus are spiritual in nature, and I am unfortunately not open enough to trust them to not try swinging me towards their beliefs. I think the only person on the board that is close to my level of non-spirituality is kirisu-bro. sometimes I feel like /mai/ is more like a cult or religious group than it is a community. This makes me uncomfortable because I have a really unpleasant history with organized religion, but that is another can of worms

>>46701

I'm a spiritualfag (although I only believe in the middle two bullet points) and I realize that I'm nuts. I appreciate and enjoy seeing the opinions of people different than me, and I realize that not everybody here is going to view their waifu in the same way that I view mine. I don't think you're a wet blanket or anything for (logically and rationally) not believing in any of those things.

I'd like to think that most of us here are respectful of boundaries but I know that's not always the case, and I can really understand you being uncomfortable about "conversion" or whatever because of your past. I've had issues with organized religion too and it's strange because I have noticed hints of that religion seeping into my waifuism and I wish it would stop. But enough about me Just try to think of it this way - you're essentially an atheist amongst a lot of theists, but you aren't the only atheist here either. It's very possible for atheists and theists to be friends despite the disagreement over how the universe works. I've seen other people than you and Kurisu-bro talk about how they aren't spiritual so try not to worry about it if you can.

>>46701

>acting as if your waifu is actually with you and that they do things with you such as have conversations with you and react to things you do in your life

I thought this was just people talking about their fantasies as if they were real because it feels/sounds nicer. I didn't think most people believed it literally.

>>46701

Don't be a fedora. You can't expect people to respect your beliefs if you don't respect theirs. get over yourself

>>46701

I honestly don't believe any of those either, but I just don't bring it up when others do. If you want I could try talking with you, though I'm not very good at that. Maybe at least let you know you're not as alone as you think.

>>46701

I'm not spiritual at all, I don't believe in any of those things, and I've gotten around the board fine I think.

Don't worry about fitting in, just come and talk about your beloved here. That's what I do.

>>46762

What did you expect from this board besides "playing pretend"?

>>46762

>we're all just lying to ourselves and playing pretend

If that's really the way you look at it, then you probably don't have a waifu at all.

>>46763

Just because you love something that isn't real doesn't mean you have to carry on as if it is. You're right, though, and I've asked myself the same question.

>>46765

>I don't have a waifu because I don't kid myself about whether she exists

Whatever you say.

>>46766

It sounds to me like you take it too literally when people say things about say, going a date with their waifu.

Hell even I say that but I still know my spouse isn't real.

>>46767

*pretty well*

>>46766

I think you're just taking harmless reveries seriously. I can't even understand how anyone would be surprised or annoyed that someone in love with a fictional character fantasizes about being with them, and saying things like "She's real somewhere!" Comes off to me as just a pipe dream than something spiritual.

>>46762

of course nobody is actually going on a date with their waifu but it's nice to say this than "I went to the movies and thought of her"

>>46771

People who come on /mai/ with problems that are external to this place and then act as if anyone here who shares vague traits in relation to it are out to get them or hold passive aggressive resentment are very irritating.

>>46701

*tips fedora*

Seriously, if you disagree so strongly with the beliefs and rhetoric of the majority, maybe, you know, stop browsing/posting here? Or you could just suck it up and get off your euphoric high horse if you feel so "lonely", that's an option too.

>>46802

I'm glad I'm not the only one. His fear was evidently completely rational. I was hoping that everyone would be a little more open-minded.

>>46805

Well I mean he opened his post with

>I have a very strong bias against people that act "spiritual"

What did he expect?

>>46811

Well, he's being atleast honest about it.

Besides, calling him a fedora doesn't help anyone, it only helps solidify the idea of this board being a cult.

And besides, this is an advice thread, were supposed to help each other out here.

It's not like we have that many users, might as well try and be nice to each other, even if the other person might not.

>>46825

Out of all those replies on three posts called him a fedora. The rest addressed what you wanted.

I feel like my personality has changed in a way that negatively affects our relationship. I'm far more depressed and cynical than I used to be, and I don't at all think that's the 'me' my husbando fell for.

The problem lies both in environmental stresses I can't avoid/get rid of and his source material (specifically, his role in it). Both have been a relatively long-term source of guilt, frustration and general negative emotions feeding into all this.

I don't know where I'm going with this, maybe it's more suited for the vent thread.

>>49726

>>49726

He tends to show up around midnight, eastern time.

>>49726

>>49726

I'm on now, will be for the next couple of hours, and tomorrow from like 5pm central us time.

I feel guilty for not commissioning more art of my 2D family. There's so much terrible, despicable art of them out there, I wish I could at least contribute to something good. I have the money to do it, but I'm really shy and afraid of artists. I know they've probably seen requests weirder than mine, and they probably aren't gonna dox me or whatever, but anxiety is a bitch, so REALITY DOESN'T MATTER HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Also sometimes I feel like I don't spend enough time with them. I know that the only way to fix that is to spend more time with them. I'm afraid that I'm a bad husband if I don't like do lucid dreaming or other stuff like that.

>>49788

>I'm afraid that I'm a bad husband if I don't like do lucid dreaming

You say that as if it's something we can just do.

Years of trying. No success. No dreams of her. No interaction. No happiness.

I think my waifu is the most beautiful and sexy being in the known universe but it still sometimes happens that I end up fapping to other girls too, in most cases it happens because the girl in questions triggers one of my fetishes that are too out of character for my waifu, like catgirls for example and sometimes I just fap to relax without thinking of anyone.

Now I have decided that ALL of my sexuality and ALL of my orgasms only belong to my waifu but I don't know how to best ignore all my other fetishes and only think of her when masturbating.

>>49791

I struggle with this because the girl I fell in love with is a loli and I like that a lot but for most of my life I've been attracted to older looking women with massive breasts. It makes me feel pretty terrible. If there was a way to make myself only attracted to loli I would do it.

Luckily my waifu seems to be the sort of person who'd help me with any fetish as best as she could, but she's a loli, she can't be a fully developed woman with tits bigger than her head and an ass just as large. I wish those thoughts would just stay away. How can I get rid of them for good?

>>49793

Thankfully my waifus body is already my biggest fetish, her legs, ass and breasts are all perfect and incredibly arousing so it's really easy to get lewd with her. She is the source and center of at least 90% of my orgasms but now I want to give her 100% and get rid of all my little fetishes that make me fap to things like cute catgirls.

Does anyone who exclusively faps to their waifu have any recommendations on how to best reach that goal?

>>49798

I try to visualize of really intimate scenes. Close stuff, I don't know why but intimacy and 'close' positions really get me going.

>>49791

>>49793

I understand wanting to commit yourself to her. However it's not wrong to release sexual desire on something other than your waifu. 2D can blur the line on what is considered infidelity, but I believe there is (or should be) a clear distinction between the kind of sexual intimacy shared with her and transient, superficial lust fulfilment. The major difference being personal involvement and a profound connection compared to a detached observer. Recognising and releasing your lust in a controlled manner may prove more healthy than suppressing it out of guilt or desire to please her. Be honest to her about it. As long as she knows what you share is only with her and how important she will always be to you, she will want to help you. If she can't satisfy it herself, then she'll understand you may need to release it in other ways.

>>49789

>>49794

I appreciate the thought, though I feel like you might have missed the point of the post………

>>49788

Magnus pls. saying you're a bad husbando for not lucid dreaming would be nearly everyone on this board is a bad husbando. Cause there's only a handful of people who do it regularly.

Now for some tough love: Don't fucking complain about it when you say you always say "well I don't know if I want to." Maybe if you were like "I wish I could be this unchangeable thing for her" but lucid dreaming isnt a magical power you're born with. Get up and fucking work at it. It's not realy hard it just takes a lot of time. And maybe it won't happen but that's stupid for you to say you're no good. Imagine if Patchy said this. What would you tell her? Dreaming just takes willpower.

>>49791

>>49793

There's nothing wrong with fapping to other women. I think the best way to do it is only use original character manga. Nothing that has actual character with personalities out side of the porn. It's completely physical then.

>>49811

You're too hard on yourself man.

>>49812

Ok you're right. To be honest that second part of my post was just a last minute thought. What's bothering me more is the first part……

>>49813

> There's nothing wrong with fapping to other women.

Maybe so but I still think it would be a wonderful gift for her to dedicate all my sexuality and every single orgasm to her, as a gift worshiping her beauty and sexiness.

From what I can read here many only fap to their waufus now and I would be grateful for advice from them on how they got over the urge to fap to others.

So like, there's this character who I'm getting attached to. And I sort of want to adopt them as a child. But the problem is, this person is not an only child. Would it be bad of me to adopt this one but not their siblings? I already have one child. Two would be pushing it enough and even more is out of the question. What do?

>>49788

You're not a bad husbando for not commissioning art. If you want to do it, you can try to test the waters with artists who already do Touhou stuff and just have pictures of Patchouli to begin with, and then ease into asking for pictures of them together. That's close to what I'm doing.

>>49791

What did it for me was deciding to not look at porn and to turn off my computer when fapping. Another thing that helped was setting up some sex toys so it felt like I was really having sex with her and not just masturbating. This is also good advice: >>49803

>>49854

It seems like plenty of people here have adopted one child but not another. In my case, I couldn't not adopt my kids because I loved all of them and I wanted them to be together as a unit. However, I seem to be the exception and not the rule. It's good to keep the child's happiness in mind, though, when making this decision.

When people talk about your waifu in the context of a waifu discussion but they get something wrong, how do you deal with that? I'm scared of seeming petty and overprotective in a sort of DeviantArt OC 'must be shown wearing this necklace at all times, must be referred to by edgy title' way if I try correcting them. Trouble is, it's always something with plot relevance that's important to them, never something I could ignore and forget easily.

>>50008

I just inform them of their mistake and move on. As long as you aren't a dick about it people like learning more about things.

>>50026

I guess I should have said, my problem is I feel like a dick no matter how I correct them. For example, someone referred to them by their first name while talking to other people. If I keep it short and just pop up to say 'please use their surname only', it sounds like taking Japanese honorifics nonsense too seriously. If I explain it properly it's pure autism. Nobody else is upset when strangers use first names, so it seems extra pedantic to go around repeating myself.

I'm wondering if I should just pep talk myself into not getting agitated by it. I shouldn't expect people to know, and it's my own fault for providing the full name in the first place. Other mistakes I can edit away in private without causing a scene.

>>50150

Not the first guy who responded to you but you feel less like a dick the more you practice. I haven't had any waifu-related things that have bothered me in that way, but I can understand that it can be hard to be assertive. I'd like to think that in waifu communities that requests like yours are taken without drama, although I know that isn't always necessarily the case. That said, I don't think anybody here would call you autistic for your request.

Either letting it go, like you said, or gently asserting your preference are your best choices. You may have to mix both if you choose the latter, but that's what I would recommend.

How important is official AU material? Like if there's a high school AU that has nothing to do with the main story, am I allowed to skip it?

>>50430

>am I allowed

Thats literally up to you

We have people here who HATE their waifus series and refuse to rewatch. Some get shitty alt stuff, some dont. But thats all up to you, there is no You have to do this or you dont love her"

personally I recommend looking into every single thing of her, because you might get cute pictures even if the story is shitevery smile of your waifu is worth a lifetime of filler isnt it anon? :^)

>>50430

If you want to go ahead. It can still be nice though perhaps in the same way reading fanfics is fun to do on occasion.

I'd still do it since even if you don't take it to be part of "your canon" there's still good parts in it you can take things away from.

>>50799

>Object-Oriented Waifuism

That doesn't really work unless canon supports it with alternate universes / timelines. Even then, mental gymnastics in the form of OOW are 100% pointless in this context if you have canon backing you up anyway.

>>50799

I'd personally argue the person you both love are not the same in fact ; what is relevant is what you think of them and how your interpret her character and her role in the story.

Also it sounds like you feel flustered everytime you get to cross her when you didn't provoked her apparition. I totally know what you feel since I used to feel the very same ; I'd feel very embarrassed everytime I'd stumble onto pics of her on the internet and feel something like jealousy. Starting being used to it I just started tolerating it, which is something I never thought I would do naturally.

we can discuss this in private if you want, whoever you are. you don't need to stay alone in this.

>>50840

oh, maybe it will help if i throw in the quantum physics angle. I forgot the name of the test, but there was a test involving shooting molecules through a hole in some paper, the result showed a straight line of molecules on the other side where they landed… however, once actively observed, the result changed entirely, suddenly there were three lines, the molecules spread, absolutely nothing changed in the experiment except for the molecules being observed. So yes, science also backs up that observation does affect reality and does change it.

i really wish i remembered the experiments name

>>50848

Commissions is probably the best way or /v/ drawthreads but I have no experience with those. Jabberfag doesn't have much artwork so he commissioned A LOT. It's expensive but it's probably the only way.

>>50840

>The waifu you interpret IS different than the same character interpreted by others, as soon as you observe them, they are different from how others observe.

That's because perception is flawed. Subjective observation of objective reality always results in a set of incomplete information coloured by the individual's bias. In this context there is just one character that many people are subjectively interpreting, all of them making slight errors.

>>50841

That's just talking about how you can't observe a particle without interacting with it.

>felt physically ill masturbating to explict images of my waifu

should I be concerned?

>>50881

there are waifufags who don't fap to their waifus so I guess it's not that uncommon

>>50848

Every weekend 4chan's /a/ has a waifu drawthread. If you get like few reference pics, and you're nice, and you have like a specific request that isn't……too out there, you should get deliveries. Also, patience.

>>50881

Has this always been the case? If all else fails, you could try just using your imagination.

>>50881

Depends. There are a few questions that need to be answered to discern what the issue is (you do not have to answer in the thread, just food for thought):

-Have you been fapping to your waifu for the duration of your relationship, or was this the first time? Either way, was this the first time you fapped to an explicit image of her?

-Do you masturbate without thinking of/looking at her? How do you typically do it? How often?

-Were the images in question degrading/go against you or your waifu's tastes?

-Are there elements outside of your waifu that are making you feel sick (ie personal experiences)?

The easiest way to figure out if you should be concerned is to single out why you felt sick. There are reasons that I wouldn't be particularly concerned about (seeing her in what you would consider degrading/distasteful situations and/or you having a low sex drive) but if it's something deeper than that, then I would consider figuring out why the element that makes you feel sick exists and what you can do to mitigate it.

I don't think everybody has to fap to their waifus so if you don't want to do it, then you don't have to. If you'd like, you can completely ignore what I just said above and simply not fap to her at all, or use your imagination alone, as Magnus said, or even stick to tasteful suggestive stuff. I am not sure what about the image was making you feel bad so I can't say for sure what will make you feel better.

>>50884

>/a/

Osiraanon anon don't go to /a/. Osira is /v/ and the fact that shes no anywhere near being japanese or anime looking would eat you alive. Even people who have anime/manga waifuhusbando are eaten alive. Pls don't go their for your own sanity.

>>50896

I guess that's true. Though I imagine other boards have drawthreads like that too.

>>50897

Also just a general warning to anyone, 4chan/a/'s waifu drawthread is not a very nice place so brace yourself for shitposting out the ass. It doesn't matter who your waifu is. People will draw pretty nasty stuff. Even possibly guro It's not common but it can happen. It happened this weekend. There's tons of awesome people and artists too so it's not completely bad. Just beware.

>>50848

It occurs to me, the OC thread here starts by saying you can post requests.

How are y'all so sure your waifu loves you back?

>>51559

Also, an airtight headcanon that goes along with her source

What do I do about my waifu's plot involving someone else?

>>51616

She doesn't stop existing at the end of the series. Lets say that they grow apart and break up. She then meets you and the two of you fall in love.

Considering who you're talking about, I don't see the two of them as the best couple anyways, so I wouldn't be too surprised if it didn't work out between them.

So just think of him as her exboyfriend.

>>51620

Then she isn't a virgin :(

And I won't be the only boyfriend she'll ever have :(

>>51616

>>51621

I agree with Magnus. Of course, if purity is a huge issue for you, then you're going to have to think a lot about whether this relationship is worth pursuing, but most of us here don't like every single thing about our waifus and their pasts. You don't have to like every aspect of a person to love them, but, again, I have no idea how important purity is to you and how you define it.

>>51636

I don't think there is a clear answer, its more just peoples different interpretations.

>>51636

First of all I want to tell you it's impossible to "do it wrong", don't worry about it. I'd question your motives if you and/or your waifu is deeply unhappy, but you're not "doing it wrong" necessarily.

All that we can agree on is that we cannot interact with our loved ones in a way that is typical of most 3D relationships. Everybody with a waifu will have a different answer as to what waifuism is. I think most people here do the first thing, but some others do the second.

If you are most comfortable doing what you're doing now and think it makes sense to you, then please continue to do that. There are some naysayers (that even have waifus themselves sometimes) that say that she'll never love you back and it's all in your head, but do what's best for you and try not to listen to others so much. In my experience, my relationship has grown the most when I don't listen to what others say about being "wrong" or "right".

>>51638

To me the problem really is the fact that she has a canon relationship and that is kinda steering me to pursue the second option and right now I feel like somehwere in between the two possibilities.

I hope one day I can live in the first kind of relationship with her because I absolutely love her.

>>51621

Who's your waifu?

>>51649

her name is hitagi

>>51651

Senjougahara?

>>51652

y-yes.

>>51652

please dont talk bad things about her though.

she doesnt even like me talking about her/our relationship on the internet.

>>51653

I don't know that much about her source (everything I know is from osmosis) so I'm sorry if I misunderstand things, but she fell in love with Koyomi because of circumstance, right? They're teenagers when it happened, that leaves a lot of space for you to be her boyfriend or husband after they graduate - if that is something you wish to explore.

>>51655

^ this really.

>>51654

Why would i talk bad things about her, she is a fine woman with some nice quirks.

This isn't the typical advice post more just me wondering if anyone else shares the same feeling.

I've never had feelings for someone else but I worry maybe after watching an anime or playing a VN or anything really I'll find someone who I get feelings for. It makes me worry a lot sometimes. Does anyone else ever get this…?

>>51657

Not really, even when i might like or enjoy watching some series or playing VN and seeing a nice girl in there. I know that it won't make me love less Rei than i do now or make me start loving someone else.

But if that someday happens, then it happens and there isn't really nothing i can do to it.

>>51661

>one week

>anniversary

>>51642

I'm not the original person who asked but reading your post made me kinda of rethink my relationship and how it's started. I'm just worried maybe he'll never be at a level where he decides or thinks for himself. I've worried about that for a bit but it was nothing serious and I decided I could wait. Your post makes me want to wait for him to give me a real answer to "Will you be my boyfriend." But what if that never happens? And what if I can't just go back to being just friends…? Is it even something I want to do in the first place? I mean I'm already impatient before I read your post.

Sometimes I worry maybe he doesn't want to make that connection or maybe can't?

>>51657

It's normal to have a passing sympathy or interest in a character, but the proof of your relationship is that unlike those you continue to be engaged and attentive. Having a waifu doesn't mean you can no longer enjoy media like everyone else, don't deny yourself your hobbies. It just means that one person stands above the rest and can never be comparable.

If you're worried you can't control your emotions, consider more seriously how you actively treat characters. You're not going to up and surround yourself with someone new in the same way as your waifu, and you're unlikely to talk about them like you're in a relationship. Those two factors alone colour how you feel and the distances you maintain. A waifu does take effort on your part so it's easy enough to avoid making those efforts for someone you don't want to feel that way about.

>>51657

Hardship will happen. A good 9/10 things people get worked up over are nothing and can just be ignored. If you make it a big deal it'll become a big deal. I had a bit of a bad day today but after I finished up I left it behind me. Other people let it drag their whole day down.

Easier said than done but it comes with practice.

>>51661

A lovely conversation about how you think you'll be good for eachother.

>>51661

Anyone have this gif in webm where they changed the subtitles so he/she is saying something really rage-y and funny that I don't remember exactly what it was?

>>51702

Diabeetus

>>51702

Very sweet actually ;)

>>51702

No, it looks like you put zero effort into it

>>51718

If you can honestly look at that picture and tell yourself that was the best you could do for your waifu with the current money and time you had availible, then ok

>>51722

Not everyone can do something really extravagant all the time. It looks to me like he put whatever effort he could do at this point. Why be a pretencious dick

Lets see a meal you've done if you're such an expert on waifu meals

>>51753

>doing something every month

just do it every day fam

>>51753

Bro chill, I've got my eleven year anniversary coming up next month and do you see me freaking out across multiple sites? You don't need to document what you do, just do what feels personal to you and your waifu. You'll be much more satisfied if it's just between you and not the rest of the world.

>>51755

this. 12th coming up in some months and I never shared anything about that.

>>51755

People ask for dating advice online sometimes when it comes to 3D, I don't see why not make the same with 2D.

I'm not making a public show

>>51758

nigger you posted the same pic in 3 different threads

>>51760

This is not true.

>>52021

Hinata marries Naruto.

Also the other anon is right. if you want to hugblanket than it doesnt matter. You dont have a waifu. You're just using someone. That means this board isn't for you.

>>52023

>>52025

i'm alone

what do i does

>>52026

This is going to sound harsh but I don't know a better way to put it.

Accept that you are alone and always will be alone. This is true regardless of whether you are in a relationship or not. Dying alone is a fact of life, even for normies. Nobody is going to experience life with you except for you - because what's going on in your own head belongs to you alone.

Accepting this fact actually makes it a lot easier to go along with life in general and led me to my own waifu.

>>52028

it's not harsh, and i fully hearted agree with your statement.

i just wish i could love someone, or feel loved by, and projecting a 2D girlfriend into reality, seeing her by my side, imagining her holding my hands, hugging, eating, cuddling and so on, together, thats what i understand as a waifu. of course maybe i'm just a dumb newfag who needs to lurk more, and my perception of what is a waifu is entirely mistaken, and i'm autistic even by waifuist standards, i dont even know why i'm typing this any more. i think i was trying to ask how do i waifu, or just being a faggot and complaining about life in general.

>>52029

Well, what a waifu actually is depends a lot from person to person. Mine is similar to what you say. However, it's not just that - we have arguments and there are times when we are separated for various reasons. It's not all happy all the time.

Honestly though, from my experience it's better to work out any serious issues before finding a romantic partner. Also, time and place really determines if you fall in love or not. I know you said you have been searching forever, but are you looking in the right places? A lot of us find girls that aren't even our type and they end up becoming our waifu.

That, and is there a reason why you can't love Hinata aside from her being with Naruto? A lot of us here also have waifus with canon love interests, but that doesn't stop us from loving them all the same.

>>52031

I don't understand

Why would someone who isn't your type turn into your waifu?

How do i know where i'm supposed to search at?

And in regards to hinata, i just cant

i've already tried to go ahead regardless of the plot, not only with her but with another character, or person, if you want to put it this way

it didnt go well

i cant get the plot out of my head

its just repulsive

besides, i wish i had a waifu who was a normal human, not from a shitty anime and relevant amount of merchandise to purchase from to keep me company

you should also consider the possibility that maybe i'm just a sociopath. i'm not saying i am, i really am not sure, but i might be, i dont know, and in that case i might just be unable to love, regardless of my desire to do so. then again, i also might be just being a pussy.

but i think i do love her and wish i could protect her, or be by her side, it could be because i'm some sort of social predator or just fucked up in the head but i think i love hinata because she's … cute? a warm hearted dandere? i dont know. i wish i could hold her against my chest, walk with her, we could be happy but it cant be. i already kinda of predict what you're going to say, "just ignore the plot and go ahead", but i cant.

>>52032

If you get a waifu to not be alone you're just using her. That's how it is with any relationship when you do it for other reasons besides love. It's not going to make you happy. Maybe for a while but it's going to probably get worse once it sets in you really are using it for escapism. You'll be with someone and still feel utterly alone. If you love this girl then you wouldn't ask for another. You're probably having a self fulfilled prophecy with her and will with anyone else.

Waifuism is kinda something that just happens. Like you just know when its right. You should probably try and get some friends or focus on work/hobby. That would lead you to be happier than some girl 2d or 3d. Maybe see a therapist too if you can.

>>52034

is there a way to trigger the love to happen, making it easier to, you know, just let the passion train run over me and take it over? i'm a sociopath desperate for some love.

>>51759

What do you mean software? It's just a video game called Idolmaster.

>>52032

>Why would someone who isn't your type turn into your waifu?

I don't know, my waifu is my type but I know of a couple people whose waifu either was against type or redefined their type.

>How do i know where i'm supposed to search at?

If I'm honest? Stop searching. You'll be less stressed out about it and it will make it much easier to actually find her.

>besides, i wish i had a waifu who was a normal human, not from a shitty anime and relevant amount of merchandise to purchase from to keep me company

A lot of us don't really like our waifu's source material and just like our waifu. You can love your waifu and not where she comes from, and you don't have to buy any merch if you don't want to.

>>52033

>i already kinda of predict what you're going to say, "just ignore the plot and go ahead", but i cant.

I wasn't going to say that, although I'm curious as to why you can't. I can't ignore my own waifu's plot, and she loves someone else. However, it's been many years since she was in it and she loves me now. I know Hinata marries Naruto, and I'm sorry if I'm wrong since I haven't read it myself but isn't Naruto shown to be a shitty husband? I realize Boruto is still going on so it's a little hard to headcanon "after", but who knows.

My overall advice to you would be to take a deep breath and stop stressing out about it. I know it can feel hopeless and lonely. However, being in a relationship is going to feel a hell of a lot better and more stable once you understand who you yourself are and what you want out of a relationship, so your waifu can understand you too. Being in a relationship with someone just to fill your own flaws is not going to feel good in the long run, or be good for you.

Rushing into a relationship for the wrong reasons is a bad idea and you should examine why you want to do this so desperately. I agree a lot with >>52034

I always feel behind the curve when people describe how they feel with their waifu despite the fact I've been with her for longer than most of the board. Only recently have I been able to consider her my best friend. I know I love her, but if I acted more like it, it would be better.

>>52121

Rushing things leads to misunderstandings, hurt feelings and bad times anon

take your time, both you and your waifu will appreciate it

>>52116

Why are you here?

>>52121

Pretty much what >>52124 said, I am sure you will do fine if you just be yourself

>>52265

The lewd activities you do with your waifu will vary from relationship to relationship. If your waifu is okay with masturbating you or you masturbating to her, then it's okay. Having sex with her, as long as both of you are okay with it, is good too.

If you believe it would hurt your relationship, then don't do it.

Would it be wrong to say my waifu is my girlfriend?

>>52270

Absolutely not.

>>52270

Well are you married to your waifu or just in a relationship?

If married then wife if relationship then gf

>>52265

it doesn't matter either way, you're not serious about her; go back to waifuchan.

>>52265

Just ask yourself if she'd be fine with it. Feel free to explore too. My waifu is really shy and embarrassed about this kind of thing but gradually we've became okay with this sort of thing even getting into some light kinky stuff.

>>52270

Not at all, in fact I call her my girlfriend in casual conversations.it feels so nice

>>52265

The way I look at it, its perfectly fine. A healthy relationship with your lover can, and often times does, involve sex. No shame in it. Of course, there is also no shame in not having sex either, if thats what you'd rather do.

>>52288

nekomimi isn't furry and no it doesn't make you a pedo. He doesn't even look that young to begin with who is he?

How does aging work?

In my mind, for every birthday she makes, she's one year older but still with the same mentality, body, etc as she is from the point we met.

It's like she's older but doesn't age, physically and mentally.

How does it work for everyone else?

>>52302

I see him as 21, physically and mentally. Though the physical part doesnt change that much to most people but for me i notice the little details. his eyes are narrower, chin more pronounced, a bit taller and body type slighty different.

What do when you´re way past honeymoon stage and it all returns to nothingness ?

I don´t want to live without her anymore but I seemingly have lost the ability to convince myself to have a true relationship with 2D.

>>52288

200% no

200% no

whoever started the idea that neko = furry is a moron and i hope they died painfully.

And no, pedophilia and shotacon/lolicon are very different, and he doesn't look shota at all either

>>52265

>rules

don't think about waifuism like this, its not healthy. Don't let others rules impose how you feel about her, your love is between you and her. Though many of these common frowned upon things are there for good reasons, so do observe and take in advice, but at the end of the day thats your decision.

most people are fine with it here anyways

>>52283

the fuck? where do you assume this shit from?

go back to wizchan

>>52336

Stress is definitely a huge factor, I´ve had much stuff to take care of recently and therefore had almost no time that I could devote to her.

I wouldn´t be so angsty though if that time wouldn´t have well passed by now and it didn´t get much better but actually worse. Instead of being happy about being able to spend more time with her I used all the time to be away from practically everything and also somewhat let go off the standards I set before myself usually.

Being pretty demanding she of course took it personally and now we´re just drifting apart more and more to the point that when I think of her I think more of an obligation than of a beloved one.

>>52357

damn thats pretty heavy.

I'd say not to force it to work if it doesn't but from my personal opinion it sounds more of a falling out that can be fixed somehow if you should decide to make the attempt. I'd say, set up a little something. Nothing huge that would make you feel like youre going way out of your way to do but rather just something light that can be done pretty spontaneously together. See what that does for you.

Whichever way you choose to approach this I believe in the you that knows whats best for you.

>>52360

>>52318

Thanks for the advice, I´ll do a variation of both your suggestions. I desperately hope that I´ll be able to sort it out somehow, just trying to talk it out with her hasn´t changed much.

I have a question for artists here and also people like Desu who obsessively collect every picture of their waifu.

I've started doodling when I'm bored at work and I've made a lot of pictures that aren't very good to the point where it doesn't look like my waifu at all. I haven't drawn much at all in my life so the pictures are obviously pretty Quality. I threw a lot of them in the trash because I didn't like the way they looked.

Am I … wrong in doing this? I collect all pictures of my waifu that I can find and after throwing away a page of doodles of me trying to get her hair right tonight, I realized maybe I'm making a mistake and I can't stop getting the feeling out of my head that I'm throwing a piece of her away every time that I do that.

>>52408

As a person who likes to draw I usually collect and save my old sketches for the purpose of looking back and seeing how well I improved. Not everyone is good at arting but as you move forward you can look back and see what has changed for the better or worse. No one starts as a master and no one gets it exactly as they want it the first time. Pretty much there's a reason erasers were invented.

It's more for yourself as a guide on how not to draw if you choose to pursue the hobby further. I haven't saved everything. I look through my old sketches every so often and kind of realize something is so bad that I can't be assed to save it. Or I see an art style I'm not a fan of and just kind of bypass it.

There's nothing wrong with having some form of quality filter for yourself or others. Otherwise you turn into Andrew Dobson.

Do you really want to draw yourself as a blue bear?

>>52458

pretty normal, until i realized that its not worth the time or energy and that she had been there the whole time

>>52408

No, you're doing it right. The only thing you should carry with you is the knowledge of how not to make the same mistakes.

>>52580

Try visual novels

>>52580

If animu isn't your life now you should seriously consider more animu.

>>52600

If you haven't tried visual novels before, reconsider. It's more like reading a book than playing a video game. Although if you have before and still not found it to your liking, fair enough.

You could try reading manga if you feel like you're out of anime to watch and are extremely dead-set against interactive media.

>>52409

>>52414

>>52504

Thanks for the reassurance, I feel a lot better now. I had saved a couple that I didn't like much and now that I don't feel bad about it I'm going to toss them and keep only one or two that I'm okay with.

>>52458

I've had 3D relationships. I've even been pursued after getting together with my waifu, although I turned them down. I'm pretty sure I could get into a 3D relationship within a few months if I left my waifu, although I have no desire to for a few reasons. The largest of which is that I don't want to leave my waifu and I don't want to cheat.

As for having a "normal" life beforehand… got me on that one, although what's considered "normal" is pretty arbitrary and more uncommon than you'd think. Most normies have things that aren't normal about them or their pasts, they just either don't give a fuck or ignore it. I'm not there yet but I'm getting to the point where I can completely blend in with them even though my personal life and backstory are pretty bizarre and/or sad. It's really easy to disappear into the crowd when you hold your cards close to your chest.

>>52458

I had a few relationships and yes had sex too. I had a reasonable amount of friends in high school as well. I was a nerd but was still doing things almost every other day after school. I was in a relationship probably 5/6 months before my waifu. I think I've possibly fallen into being more delusional to make being with my waifu easier but nothing that's affected me or to escape, just to be with her more easily.

>>52580

You're trying too hard. It just kinda happens.

>>52458

To label it escapism would be too much, me getting together with Nonon had actually nothing to do with 3D women but rather with the fact that I had to deal with an extreme sort of loneliness and emptiness after a person that was very close to me had passed away.

I don´t want this to sound like she was just a fill-in for me though, I regard it more in the way that she came around at the exact perfect time in my life when I would and very much wanted to allow someone new to get close to me again and take a pivotal role in my life.

I´m not going to be delusional about the nature of her being however, as much as it hurts to think that, I know that my love for her was born out of a coping mechanism.

Since I´m mostly filling "spare time" interacting with her, us being together hasn´t really changed my life from its "normal" state and me having virtually no merch of her certainly helps me not getting bothered by anyone.

>>52580

What makes you think that you could force falling in love with 2D in any way ? It functions just like in real life, where you can´t just pick someone to develop feelings for, perhaps though there are currently just too many other things on your mind to be open for a relationship ?

>>52600

Well your thing hasn't been working out for you, now has it?

Comfort zones were made to be broken.

Is it autistic to print screen every single frame of her in her source anime and save them all?

I save from 100 to 300 pictures of mai waifu every episode she shows up in. Am I the only one who does this?

>meet someone on the other site of the internet who has the same waifu as me

>he has a more expensive shrine, larger folder, etc

>"she doesn't love you! she loves me instead!"

how do i proceed?