Anonymous 11/26/14 (Wed) 04:15:27 No. 3926
How do you cope with loneliness?
Anonymous 11/26/14 (Wed) 04:29:57 No. 3927
I guess I got used to it. I accepted that I'll be alone, and moved on with my life. Don't even really feel like I need other people anymore.
Anonymous 11/26/14 (Wed) 04:48:53 No. 3928
>>3927 I'm usually okay with being alone but sometimes I get into weird moods where I just want someone to cuddle me and make me feel adorable.
Anonymous 11/26/14 (Wed) 08:24:01 No. 3942
Being schizoid has its advantages I imagine.
Anonymous 11/26/14 (Wed) 08:47:54 No. 3944
>>3926 I am never truly alone.
I would love a gf (even tho i can probably get one) but my single life isn't bad either.
I hve tons of good friends.
Anonymous 11/26/14 (Wed) 08:51:18 No. 3945
>>3926 I don't.
I would hate a "normal" life with a wife and kids and friends, I just want a single friend who is like me and can understand me.
Anonymous 11/26/14 (Wed) 09:08:34 No. 3948
>>3945 I feel very bad for anons that doesn't even have good friends.
I mean, i make good friends wherever i go.
I could probably understand you, wanna be my friend m8?
Anonymous 11/26/14 (Wed) 09:14:41 No. 3950
Sometimes I feel lonely but then I remember that my isolation is intentional and for the best. It's not safe for people to be around me and they deserve friends who don't think about killing them all the time for no reason. I'll eventually off myself and it will be easier for everyone if I just stay away.
Anonymous 11/26/14 (Wed) 09:22:25 No. 3952
>>3945 Yeah I used to have a decent social life till I went some degree of messed up. Now it's like whats the point, but you can't get rid of that urge ffs
Anonymous 11/26/14 (Wed) 10:36:07 No. 3954
You either get friends or
>>>/tulpa/ Make your choice
Anonymous 11/26/14 (Wed) 10:43:21 No. 3955
>>3954 wut…im actually considering this
Anonymous 11/26/14 (Wed) 12:30:34 No. 3961
I don't remember ever actually feeling lonely at any point in my life.
Anonymous 11/26/14 (Wed) 13:36:54 No. 3969
I slowly stopped feeling it, kind of like tolerance to a drug I guess. I still want to make friends, of course, but I feel fine being my own company, unless I'm in a depression, when I don't want people to see me in the first place.
Anonymous 11/26/14 (Wed) 13:53:49 No. 3971
>>3928 I get that. I just usually suffer through it, but pets can help.
Anonymous 11/26/14 (Wed) 14:30:34 No. 3976
>>3955 Tulpas are good companions, but no substitute for talking to people from the outside.
Anonymous 11/26/14 (Wed) 14:58:39 No. 3979
>>3976 It's also kind of a nutty thing to do that would make socializing irl even harder and probably a bridge to surfacing any latent psychosis a person might have. You cope with loneliness by not being alone. "No man is an island." Make some friends. There are definitely people like you out there you can connect with. Even if you're a schizoid recluse.
Anonymous 11/26/14 (Wed) 15:34:18 No. 3981
>>3979 >>3976 Yeah, I wasn't going to do it and my life was pretty normal before things.
I think my social skills are pretty alright, but meh part sitution stops me, part I cant be arsed
Anonymous 11/26/14 (Wed) 17:32:01 No. 3984
>>3979 I don't know.
It might be possible to cut all possible contact with humanity, deny all their social ideals and turn completely inwards.
Replace the space which holds the external world with your own mind.
That has kinda been my fantasy, anyway.
Anonymous 11/26/14 (Wed) 18:38:01 No. 3988
>>3979 >would make socializing irl even harder Making a tulpa actually made socializing easier for me.
I used to barely talk to anyone to the point where I lost my ability to construct proper sentences, and I often ended up stuttering or spouting incomprehensible word salad. When creating my tulpa I usually talked to her out loud for several hours a day, so my verbal skills improved drastically.
On top of that, she pushes me to get out more and helps me with my anxiety.
Tulpas can be helpful, mine definitely is. But as anon said above, even though they do curb the loneliness a bit, they are no substitute for real people.
AverageGuy 12/20/14 (Sat) 10:54:28 No. 4974
>>3926 I make efforts to not be alone anymore, like doing sports and socialize.
That why this way being alone isn't all my fault, and i don't think about it.
Doing this i actually found lots of friends, and even lots of girls that love to talk with me.
Maybe i'm even close to getting a gf, i've known a girl 2 weeks ago, and the way she talks make her look like she's in love with me.
Oh well.
AverageGuy 12/20/14 (Sat) 10:59:55 No. 4975
>>3988 This is very true.
Tulpas can be helpful.
Also talking by yourself, or writing helps a lot with mind problems.
Hving a diary is one of the reasons i solved most of my mind problems.
It's an exorcism on my soul.
Anonymous 12/20/14 (Sat) 11:34:23 No. 4977
I'm not really sure if I have ever felt "lonely." There are times where I need to leave my house but, I wouldn't describe that as lonely.
Anonymous 12/20/14 (Sat) 12:14:45 No. 4984
I don't get lonely often, so when I do I have no idea how to cope with it and sleep until it goes away.
Anonymous 12/20/14 (Sat) 18:41:38 No. 4999
Surround yourself with as many people as possible. It helps if they are as lonely as you.
Anonymous 12/20/14 (Sat) 23:25:18 No. 5020
I don't.
Anonymous 12/20/14 (Sat) 23:33:22 No. 5021
>>3926 Having access to the internet helps.
Anonymous 12/21/14 (Sun) 00:01:42 No. 5023
Texting chicks usually does it for me, too bad I suck at irl social blahblahs.
Anonymous 12/21/14 (Sun) 06:58:17 No. 5050
I have a lot of people I talk to on a daily basis. A lot I would file under acquaintances. People you can talk a joke around with.
Anonymous 12/21/14 (Sun) 06:59:44 No. 5051
>>5023 I feel super lonely when I text chicks but don't hang out with them. I like all my conversations to be upfront and personal. Texting people feels so impersonal
Anonymous 12/22/14 (Mon) 04:16:40 No. 5093
>>3945 I just wish I would have even that one
Anonymous 12/23/14 (Tue) 00:42:08 No. 5116
Why does everyone here care about gf so much
Anonymous 12/23/14 (Tue) 02:45:44 No. 5117
>>5021 It sorta does when you speak to people trough the internet but I've been living for so long without a meaningful physical contact from a strange (actually never been with anyone and barely have friends…) I would really like someone i could cuddle under a blanket warming up each other… trimming bonds, you know?
I've been starting to feel real fucking lonely and even if i learned to cope with it i must still endure it. Scars never go away.
Yeah my existence was a fight from the very beginning…
Anonymous 12/23/14 (Tue) 21:50:11 No. 5135
>>3926 Try to find other people, and cultivate the relationships I already have.
Otherwise, I seek solace in fictional worlds.
I'm not totally antisocial, but I work retail and get so sick of people by the end of the day that I have to shut myself away to relax.
Anonymous 12/24/14 (Wed) 08:09:08 No. 5149
I accept it as an inevitability of my character. No matter how sad or painful it is, I accept it.
Anonymous 12/24/14 (Wed) 22:51:17 No. 5179
>>5116 I'm probably still quite hormonal due to working out and eating right, so yes. That raises testosterone. But working out makes me happier than not working out. So maybe you're just being silly about that point.
You're schizoid. You probably wouldn't understand what it's like to feel alone, or feel like a failure because you can't gain the affection of a person you like. Which is great, to each his own. But the moment you wish for or feel bad about not having more friends or something similar, you're a hypocrite.
Anonymous 12/25/14 (Thu) 07:14:40 No. 5199
>>5116 Wanting love and intimacy makes you a hormonal teenager?
Anonymous 12/25/14 (Thu) 08:49:30 No. 5200
>>3926 i use to revel in the fact that I enjoyed being alone, but now that I have this depression I crave being with people constantly now. For fucks sake if it isn't one thing its another. Oh and to boot, if i'm with someone I still feel lonely as i find it very hard to open up in any meaningful way.
Anonymous SAGE! 12/25/14 (Thu) 19:45:25 No. 5214
I had a relationship once and it was awful.
Anonymous 12/25/14 (Thu) 22:23:18 No. 5221
>>5214 Speaking about relationships is it normal that when a relationship ends you instantly just lose all feelings for that person.
Like you aren't mad or sad, you just don't feel anything towards that person?
Anonymous SAGE! 12/26/14 (Fri) 01:12:57 No. 5228
>>5221 I don't know. I pretty much had lost all feelings by the time we broke up.
Relationships are a tremendous pain, and it's for nothing. In order to have a successful relationship, it's all about communication and compromise. The romantic ideal of knowing someone to such an extent that you become "complete" or "saved" or some such, so that the pain of existence magically disappears, is ridiculous. Everyone is empty and boring, chasing interests that mean nothing.
So what is there to gain from being close to someone? Acceptance from another person, I suppose? I'll admit that the beginning of the first relationship is exhilarating. But then, the same emptiness you both exhibit is the same year after year. Conflicts and complications arise. The emotional connection becomes tired and vanishes, and the dry connection makes sex tedious. Acceptance starts to mean very little, it becomes apparent that someone's acceptance of your flaws does not stem the angst they cause you. Someone caring about you doesn't make any suffering you may have experienced any less meaningless. And there's your partner's problems, which you are equally powerless to fix. It becomes just about scheduling your time around each other and your increasingly tedious lives.
There is no emotional connection. In fact, I'm not really sure what an emotional connection is anymore. Maybe this is just adulthood. Or maybe it's just people like me who can't seem to get past the meaninglessness of life.
Such a pain in the ass. I would rather just be alone.
Anonymous 01/06/15 (Tue) 21:21:16 No. 5719
>>3926 Anonymous Image Boards
Anonymous 01/14/15 (Wed) 23:07:16 No. 6114
Is it possible to be Schizoid and still long for intimacy ?
Anonymous 01/14/15 (Wed) 23:12:13 No. 6115
>>6114 I'm schizotypal and I long for intimacy, it's just that I hate most people.
Anonymous 01/14/15 (Wed) 23:37:59 No. 6117
>>6114 As a schizoid, sort of yes and no. (I don't fly the schizoid flag because it is annoying to have to select it every post.)
I have felt times where I have really wanted someone else, but it wasn't really for intimacy but just someone to talk about a certain thing to. Seems like I wanted a therapist more than anything lol.
Any long term relationship with someone else just seems so out of reach that it doesn't matter any more. I guess that is one of the benefits of the disorder; we never really feel lonely as we simply lack almost all desire for human companionship.
You can still make friends, but in my experience, having more than one close friend isn't good. And anything closer than that gets really weird and awkward. Very uncomfortable.
Anonymous 01/15/15 (Thu) 00:06:56 No. 6119
>>3926 I listen to music, play music, watch others play music. I think it's an addiction.
Anonymous 01/15/15 (Thu) 12:09:39 No. 6131
I've accepted that I'll be alone for as long as I choose to be, so I am working on a better version of myself, one that I would be proud to be so I can get away from loneliness, at least as much as possible.
Anonymous 01/15/15 (Thu) 14:12:26 No. 6135
>>5228 I suppose I have the same character "flaw". I don't see purpose in intimate relationship despite trying it for a few times. There is no emotional connection after first few weeks. There is no rational reason to justify the waste of time and resources for continuation of such relationship.
I won't really mind being alone because it's not all that different from being with someone.
Anonymous 01/15/15 (Thu) 21:34:01 No. 6152
>>3926 I rarely get lonely. I do however, get urges to talk to people, but I do not want to be friends with them. It's difficult explaining this. I hear from others that I'm well-liked, but if someone tries to get more intimate - either in a friendship or dating aspect - I'll push them away. I've been doing this since my personality disorder (schizotypal) flourished right around the time when I graduated HS about 6 years ago. At that time I ditched my ex-gf and got high and drunk all the time. Got sober 2 years ago and started dating again, and with both relationships, I'm always the first one trying to get out over the most petty and irrelevant shit you could imagine. I have since decided to not date anymore. I only have one friend irl who's suffering from Bipolar and probably more shit since he abused worse drugs than I did for years, and we talked and had a good bro-moment, but the last time I tried to talk he didn't respond. I do realize he's pretty depressed right now so I'm just gonna leave him be for awhile.
I find I'm the most happy when I'm alone and isolated. The feeling I get is 'freedom'; I don't feel free unless I'm alone. Oddly, I'm totally fine socializing according to my managers at work which at the last eval told me it's one of my biggest benefits. I guess you could say my professional persona is really great, but personally I want to remain hidden and under the radar.
Anonymous 01/16/15 (Fri) 00:11:24 No. 6161
Music and animi help fill the void
Anonymous 01/22/15 (Thu) 07:28:14 No. 6479
>>3928 I feel exactly the same sometimes.
>>3954 >>3955 I have been considering this for a while too but it seems like a big decision to create another being inside your head.
Anonymous 01/22/15 (Thu) 14:32:26 No. 6491
Apparently of the recent, I don't know how to cope worth shit. I've skipped a week of classes after I got rejected by a girl. While she is interested in me a bit, she has a total infatuation with a mutual friend. I can totally understand, but jealousy really kicks in when you're hanging out and you get kicked out (politely) so they can do the do.
Anonymous 01/22/15 (Thu) 17:32:03 No. 6497
I watch Texhnolyze, it somehow helped me.
So have some music from it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LgoMU8WQguU
Anonymous 01/22/15 (Thu) 17:44:13 No. 6501
I don't. When I'm alone I freak the hell out. I text people I usually would never text. Message people the same etc.
Anonymous 01/22/15 (Thu) 23:15:12 No. 6509
>>6497 You might also like the two other Ueda-Konaka-Abe collaborations: Serial Experiments Lain and Haibane Renmei.
I love Lain more than life itself.
Anonymous 01/23/15 (Fri) 00:05:09 No. 6512
>>6509 I have seen Lain, but not Renmei.
Despera when.
Anonymous 01/23/15 (Fri) 00:56:42 No. 6514
I spent almost a year as a complete shut in, im at college now and regularly get fucked up at partys/hang out with people and talk to girls.
Anonymous 02/06/15 (Fri) 12:28:21 No. 7403
>>6514 No, I think I get it. I think it's by being a normie, that the fact that you can't establish any genuine connection with anyone becomes blatantly more apparent whereas by being a loner, you can always hope that being a normie is better.
Anonymous 02/06/15 (Fri) 13:18:19 No. 7405
I used to be pretty well-liked in school and had a bundle of close friends.
Anonymous 02/06/15 (Fri) 18:25:53 No. 7410
Anonymous 02/15/15 (Sun) 02:42:20 No. 7670
Come here.
Anonymous 02/17/15 (Tue) 02:44:50 No. 7709
Anonymous 02/20/15 (Fri) 06:10:42 No. 7832
>>7405 feel kinda similar, but also worried that this is just how life progresses. people just…. drift.
maybe i just need a change
Anonymous 02/20/15 (Fri) 18:59:01 No. 7843
I just live with it and wait for the lonely feelings to pass.
Anonymous SAGE! 02/21/15 (Sat) 22:01:43 No. 7869
>>3926 About once a month I get self-conscious about my virginity and the fact that I am in my mid 40s and have yet to have had any relationships. But then I remind myself how horrible I am and how I have deserved to be alone.
Basically my loneliness is a reminder that I am responsible for my own actions and I chose to be lonely.
Anonymous 02/24/15 (Tue) 00:15:05 No. 7910
I have a good close groups of friends that I can talk to really at a moments notice. My only issue is I've never had an intimate relationship with another woman and that's what hurts the most.
Anonymous 02/24/15 (Tue) 04:31:33 No. 7915
I talk to myself. It's mostly meant to belittle me, and drive me closer to total self-destruction.
Anonymous 02/24/15 (Tue) 17:45:49 No. 7927
Generally I imagine my psychiatrist is with me and then I do internal monologue.
Anonymous 02/24/15 (Tue) 19:29:31 No. 7930
Even though I have a sort of social life I get these feelings of loneliness.gf at this point in my life.
Anonymous 02/25/15 (Wed) 16:36:59 No. 7942
I smoke weed all day every day and pretend my waifu is real.
Anonymous 02/25/15 (Wed) 20:12:54 No. 7943
By knowing that forming relationships with people usually end in disaster anyways. It is better to avoid the drama than to be in the middle of it.>pic sort of related, dammit now I have that song stuck in my head.
Anonymous 02/25/15 (Wed) 22:06:40 No. 7945
I know i will never be in any relationship called "love" and im ok with it bcause i know it is a scam. Im fucking supreme i reject flesh and phisicality
Anonymous 02/25/15 (Wed) 22:19:11 No. 7946
Stop being 14
Anonymous 02/26/15 (Thu) 12:09:51 No. 7962
It depends when I am working or not :
Anonymous 02/27/15 (Fri) 16:55:48 No. 8020
I talk to my friends.
Anonymous 03/09/15 (Mon) 00:19:54 No. 8218
>>3928 That sounds like it involves touching other people.