/mental/ - Mental Health, Illnesses and Disorders

In a way you don't act on those feelings, and that's commendable. They still deserve an explanation.

It could be borderline. But then again it could be many things. The answer is a clear yes, it could very well be due to a disorder.

>>4308

I do see a specialist but for my anxiety and dedepression. I could bring it up and see her opiniom although it is something embarrassing for me to bring up…

The feeling is quite intense, and I lost a good relationship because of it. Since then I distance myself immediately

>>4305

I'm sort of the same way OP. Except my jealousy kept me from even ever having a relationship. Like in grade 8 where I really felt good around this girl, and she was obviously into me but I couldn't act because the feelings turned to disgust when I thought how she had a boyfriend (and a ache covered greaser at that) before me and I had seen them french kiss, and expected that she wasn't a virgin. Fast forward to the beginning of the current semester. See this girl who is my type (blonde, ladylike mannerisms, pretty face). At first I act naturally and smile when I see her because well- I like her style?- She smiles back, flirts with me- but then I get her Facebook and it's clear she currently has a fuckbuddy from high-school. He was obviously and 'alpha' as in asshole and his face pissed me off. From then on, there really was no hope. I can't really easily/naturally play the teasing slightly sadistic alpha that most women respond sexually to, and I can't stand being used as an emotional tissue anymore. I'm either really sweet, a zombie, or a fucking demon.

Anyway you should be happy you can at least get partners OP, although it is much easier for a woman.
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So what triggers your jealousy? In my case it's when I'm made to feel powerless / sexual inferiority. But it quickly changes to disgust and hate.

>>4388
I don't have such an intense feelings when meeting some one but like yourself as soon as I talk to them I ask a series of questions about their character and past. I don't think ex partners are an issue though. I try not to ask because I have a habit of comparing and competing with them. I'm lucky to have dated mostly virgins, except on my first occasion in which I would compare myself till the point of feeling disgust at him or seeing him as a degenerate note I was a virgin and he had multiple partners, otherwise I wouldn't care
I would tell you not to judge too quickly. Not at least before talking. Then again I'm not one to be giving advice…

Out of curiosoty, have you tried talking to a virgin? Lets say this girl is a virgin but has kissed and had a relationship, would you still be discugsted?

In the end it all comes down to inferiority. I think that is where jealousy stems from. You may think I'm lucky because I dated but I have been cheated, verbally,and physically abused over years. When your self esteem is low you put up with a lot I want to get over my jealousy because I feel like I'm letting my bad experiences win and missing out on good ones.

GOOD LUCK ANON!

I don't understand jealousy-fags. I can understand being clingy and the whole self-esteem thing. But understanding and honesty trumps being territorial.

Try to be open and honest about your problem. If a conversation is making you uncomfortable, try and tell the person to talk about something else (make sure they know about your problem first). Be around understanding people and try to be understanding of others. If it is too intense, have a fun time with said person and try to forget what you were jelous about. Think about the good times you are having. Mindfullness also works wonders.

It does sound like you're insecure. You might have BPD.

>>4610
Its part of an inballance of power. When you are made to feel week, you don't want to feel that ever again. Simple things like someone talking about their previous relationships can bring feelings of weakness back. It is very painfull for the sufferer.

>>4615

Thank you so much! It may sound like an obvious thing to do for most people, but during the time you feel jealous you just can't think straight.

I agree that jealousy comes from the fear of feeling inferior… To me it's almost like a competition, it never ends even if you win the person of your affections. It is very tiring and stressful so I avoid any person I have feeling for.

>>4610
well, it's pretty much the same thing as letting a shady guy near your safe

except in that case the safe has a will of its own and pretty much a part of your soul inside

anyway, back to the point, don't just go brooding in your corner, if there's a problem in your relationship, talk about it, that's the best way to fix things

i find the idea of "love beyond sanity" pretty exiting, i know i'm pretty much like a moth attracted to open flames, but that won't change my tastes

>>4796
Are you a grill or at least a very cute/affeminite boy? I could be your creepily affectionate lover. I hope you like letters written in my own blood. Do you like it. Please tell me you like it. Please tell me you like me. Why don't you like me. I'll kill you if I can't have you.

>>4797
>Are you a grill or at least a very cute/affeminite boy?
nope, sorry, i'm a (not too bad looking) guy and into girls
and i do have a small blood fetish…