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Who /lives2hoursaway/ from your city/uni here? It's a kind of hell only us know.

>Impossible to go to bars or other nightlife because you can't get home in time

>Very difficult to meet women because none of them want to take a 2 hour train to your house

>The commute fucking sucks. It drains your energy

>If you need to do something simple like return an electronics item you have to plan the whole day around it

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For me it's 30 minutes but even that's too much for me.



> believing Trump will actually do shit for infrastructure




It's great. I have the attention span of a 4 year old so the time sitting in the train allows me to actually do my reading.


Why not move into a small and shitty apartment?



welfare won't cover it in Aus unless you have a roomate

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And I was too busy getting high and playing videogames as a vain try to not think about it.

>Be me, a 21yo training to get in the army (since I was a fatboy younger and my condition is shit).

>Try not to die of hunger since parents can't give me much money.

>Get a job at the soccer stadium.

>The firsts missions were pretty easy, I was with my best friend, cooking french fries while flirting with my manager (I still can remember that perfect piece of ass…)

>Last Friday, a big game happen and they called me in need.

>Go to work, get my accreditation but nothing to wear it.

>Ask politely to the lady in charge, who told me they run-off of thread.

>Meh, go on anyway.

>Security guards ask for my accreditation, show them, doesn't want to let me in.

>Guess I can try to get something to put the damn thing as a collar.

>Try with my earphones, ask people if they where willing to give me one for money, ask again to the lady.

>The answer is no.

>Get pissed, go see the lady explaining the situation.

>She goes with me, the guards says no again, call out chief security (now, do you remember Obelix? Well, Imagin that, smaller, fattier and red like a fucking tomatoe)

>Obelix try to intimidate me by look me in the eyes.

>It could have work if I wasn't a head taller than him, but he did it anyway because of the two morons and since I'm young, the laws in this country give you the right to treat us like shit at work (France RPZ).

>Be silent while the lady and Obelix arguing.

>Then the bitch told the last phrase I've wanted to hear:

>"If you don't want to let him in, I will have to replace him by another."

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Aren't there other agencies? I dealt with a lot of shitty ones, more or less giving them the finger when they weren't there for me (9 out of 10 employment agencies suck). Shit happens, and if you can explain what happened, they can probably help you get another job; just lay off the drugs for testing, and learn from the mistakes.

Seems 50-50. You shouldn't have blown your lid, but you can't let anyone push you around. It's like that everywhere (some places are tougher to stand up for yourself because people know how to play the game of "throw the guy under the bus").


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There is, but 2 of them simply don't exist.

The other ones are not for what I'm looking, or way too far from me.

Later today, I will call them to ask if they have something other than in the stadium, hoping the weekend made them forget about what happen.

About drugs, I'm a professional. I smoke only when I'm home and the job done. BTW, I have not enough money to make an issue about it so…

How to avoid the bus?



You have to be aware of what's going on, watch whatever you do, and don't just blindly throw your trust and problems to people. When you have to stand your ground, be firm, but don't rage about it (that said, you'll have situations where push comes to shove where you might have to raise your voice or be blunt. This happened to me at one sleazy place I worked at). Don't be a yesman, yet avoid using the word no when asked to do something stupid (Make it sound like you'll do the task if it's retarded, but imply, ask, or indirectly explain how can it be done). I still make mistakes like these in my life, so I'm imperfect with this stuff.


not reading, sage, you deserve it and should kill yourself


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If you didn't read, you can go fuck yourself and eat a dick because your opinion mean very little to me.


Well, at least now I know that I'm not alone in that case.

Thank you anon.

Remember, we're all gonna make it.

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How do I get over her?

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didnt she make a video about liking trump and her family being hillary voters months ago and the channel she oaded it on was soon deleted after it was uploaded?




>when you know who the OP of this thread is and he's notorious



Notorious for what? Should I be concerned?


You don't have a choice in the matter: move on, hoping things will get better, or be stuck with the nonsensical thought of ever being around her again. Exes are exes, and things happen for a reason 98% of the time.

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Hello, qq.

Every morning I wake up, sad that I am not turning over to the right to sing "Heil dir im Siegerkranz".

My issue is exactly that; I want a Kaiser back in my fatherland of Germany. It is regrettable that the Kaiser and the Kings and Counts perished at the hands of political extremists of the past. I want to ask you, how can I make the Kaiser return?

I will pay for good answers.


You have to be the kaiser, anon. Gather an army and fight for what you believe in. If you truly believe in your cause then death should no longer be a fear.

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So I've always been told if I'm feeling suicidal I need to talk to some one about it. This is good advice. It's almost always helped. Just feeling the loving embrace of a friend, or family member really does a lot for my depression, and crippling self doubt.

The problem is what do you do when you've completely exhausted that resource? My family got sick of hearing about it a long time ago. My mom literally yelled at me at one point "ANON! IF YOU'RE GOING TO GIVE UP ON LIFE JUST FUCKING DO IT ALREADY." Idk if she was just trying that whole tough love thing, or if she is actually a bitch that has completely given up on me.

My friends are growing to be the same kind of situation. They aren't as blatant about it as my mother was, but it's fairly obvious to see they are thinking along the same lines.

I hold back talking about things a lot because I feel like I don't want to burden other people with my problems. I understand too. I don't like being around people in emotional pain either. It's draining, awkward, and completely kills the vibe. I don't blame them for being human.

So back to the question. What do you do when you're feeling like doing it, and don't have anyone to talk to about it? Suicide hotlines are so impersonal, and are essentially worthless. Same with a therapist. They literally just want my money, and are not concerned with my well being. I'm worried I'm going to keep all this shit bottled up for too long, finally decide to get too drunk one night in a fit of depression, and end up doing something stupid.

Btw I know it kind of sounds like it, but I'm not the emo type to constantly complain, and play the woe is me card just looking for attention. Although I'm fairly positive that's what people think is going on because I've been thinking about it for years now, and not done it. I'm coming to my wits end though. I just feel like such a bother. What do /qq/?

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>So I've always been told if I'm feeling suicidal I need to talk to some one about it.

This is shit advice unless you're absolutely feeling you're about to be overwhelmed with suicide and to attempt it. I often have suicidal thoughts but I rarely ever call the hotline.

Anyways OP I have primarily used IMAGEBOARDS to talk about it for years. That's been my outlet.

Now because of being big into philosophy I have an extremely positive worldview and the suicidal impulse only comes for awhile and very fucking strong but at least it's not the constant low-level depression.

Anyways OP take up raja yoga and start doing a meditation where you mentally put aside everything that is not yourself and you try to mentally experience death. This will reset you and bring enlightenment and contentment.



Basically I went from constant self-loathing, self-hate, depression, suicidal thoughts all the fucking time and hating every moment I woke up to achieving this transcendent state of mind in which I no longer sleep anymore and I get visions and see into the minds of others and feel the feels and intentions of others and when I make the effort to connect my consciousness with God by focusing on the attributes of God and his infinite mercy and love I am flooded with that love which then pushes out the negative shit from other people and I even direct that positive emotion to others to make them feel better as well.

Here is a very important prerequisite though:

You are not your thoughts, your emotions, your desire, your personality, your body, or anything that you HAVE.

Realizing this, you must understand that every thought, every emotion, every personality trait, etc. is something apart from yourself and then you must in a rational manner pick what you will let you in. In this way you can take in the positive influences of others and of God and block out the negative shit. You will become full of vitality and health doing this.




Not OP, but I am curious, what makes you so convinced there is a god? I don't believe or disbelieve in anything, so I'm interested in your take. I do think the lack of religion in our society is why a lot of people feel lost.


You mention drinking - alcohol is a depressant, so people who get depressed should avoid it completely.

You did not mention anti-depressants, which can help.

Lastly, you may be finding the wrong kinds of therapists - try to find a cognitive-behavioral therapist, who will focus on your thought patterns and specific depressant behaviors. Any therapist who treats you should be able to explain what their strategy is and how they will help you get well, Aimless dwelling on negative aspects of your past won't do anything good.



>what do you do

sleep. if you just woke up, go for a walk or even better a jog in some place that isn't too populated (a forest preferably if you have some around). i used to just run when it got to me and i couldn't sleep. just tried to outrun it. it helped most of the time. you can also try thinking about things if you can't sleep like why you're feeling this way, what you could do to make it better and try to slowly do those things too. just thinking about it can be so draining you might just fall asleep in 30 minutes even if you can't sleep at first. by "slowly do those things" i don't mean you need to change in a week. just try to strive towards some kind of change that might eventually make you feel better. personally i had to change my outlook on most things. i don't mean changing outlook about factual things like finding jesus or making yourself believe some logic defying shit. had to just learn not to look at things from such a negative pov since the way you experience life is purely subjective. it took me years to get a hold of and above my depression. now, if i'm not tired i can sometimes just bring myself out of it when i notice i'm starting to sink back down which is huge if you ask me.

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A place for crying


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So, I'm having a serious fucking life issue right now, and I could really use some advice.

I just started my own 8chan board, and 49 out of the 50 times I've tried changing the stylesheet, it won't save, and the one time it did, it wasn't applied to the board.

What the fuck am I doing wrong here? Is there some kind of nuclear activation code required to get CSS to fucking work on this site?

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I'll post a link if I get the CSS working. Right now, it's like an uncarpeted house, and nobody is getting in.

Do you have any idea on how to get CSS working?



Lol I know the last thing about computer science. You know this is 8chan right?


Check out my CSS B.O. kun: http://pastebin.com/i8LarQ34

It takes about 15 minutes and a browser/cookies reset (close firefox and open it again) for any new CSS to appear.


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This is where you apply the CSS btw, not the options thing which only does it locally.


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Also you must hit "Save Changes" afterwards and then not try to make any changes for awhile until the CSS loads. Also make a few new posts on the board to make the board force-update so the new CSS will appear.

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My dumbass mom told her boss who she trusted about my disciplinary problems when I was younger. As result he decided to start fucking with me. This guy used to fuck me in my sisters room and then he would force me to beat off in my sisters room; because I'm gay. I fought back once, then threw me in the psychward. Then I started waking up in jail.

My mom is a dumbass Republican who decided to work for a Democratic politician.

Now I'm about to get fucked over because I have emotional problems and they decided my "boypussy" isn't good enough anymore. How fucking convenient right?


>Dumbass republican who went full Democrat

Not to make humor out of your situation, but by chance, is your mom Megyn Kelly?

But really, ever considered looking into any sort of fraud that happens within the company? Ruin that business of you can.



This post is so randum XD

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My personal issue is I do not like to study anymore. I want to graduate and start working already. I have one semesters to go.

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What's your major anon? If you don't mind me asking.



I felt that same way at the last semester, but I tanked through and made it, and now I'm at a job that pays decently. The allure of working is strong near the end, but graduating is much more important and a much better option. It's just one more semester, and maybe some additional bureaucratic bullshit to get your degree, and that's it. Just hang in there anon.


Stick to it, I joined the trades when i realized i had two more years of school.

Worst mistake of my whole life.


I hate working. I miss academia.


Why dont you like to study anymore?

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I need a personality. I'm a diagnosed(by multiple psychiatrists) psychopath so I really don't have anything but a conflicting veil I use around people.

So I wanted to ask you guys for advice on personalities you like, or if you know something about this, maybe help?

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It's a pretty good book I'm not going to lie, but the problem I have now is meeting people. I don't meet very many people in a week.



Become a prostitute. You'll meet lots of people. As you get better at charming people, you'll be able to earn more money.



Great advice lol



Okay I followed your advice and now I have AIDS. What's the next step anon?



Already? That's bad luck man.

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My personal issue is that there is too much anime and I can't catch up on it all. I wish japan would stop producing anime for a year so I could catch up on everything.

Another personal issue is that I saved the thumbnail of this image and not the full size like a retard

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You can never have too much anime.


3-episode rule and/or going by synopses should save you a lot of time here.



What is the three episode rule?



Is there even that much good anime?


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I've run into similar problems in the past. I've found the following things tended to help the most:

1) Stop watching seasonal shows. Most shows that come out seasonally are trash, but if you get in the habit of watching shows as they air, you're likely to pick up too many shows along the way that aren't really going to be worth your time. If there's a show in the spring season that looks interesting, try and wait until the spring season is over (or ideally after the summer season is over) before investing your time. By that point, the general verdict will be out in regards to what shows were worth the time and you'll be confidently able to trim the fat.

2) Know when to drop a show. Too often people feel compelled to finish a series once they've started, even if they're no longer enjoying themselves. I find that the number of episodes it takes for a series to reveal itself as worth continuing tends to follow something similar to a bell-shaped curve for standard deviation: 68% of good shows will display apparent worth in 3 episodes, 95% apparent in 5 episodes, and 99.7% apparent in 7 episodes. Prioritize that time as you feel appropriate.

3) Anime is entertainment first and foremost. If you're taking the approach of "I have to watch X list of shows by Y arbitrary time," you're missing the point. The "classics" will be there forever if you ever want to get back to them; your goal should be to enjoy what you're watching today above all else.

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Often i feel lonely but when i am with people or even friends which i somehow have i just hate it, i can't stand being around people but i still have do it to not go insane, anyone else have this problem?

Literally nobody i enjoy being around, not family not friends not strangers.



I feel this way often. I get really lonely, invite a friend to hang out with and then immediately regret that decision and want to be alone again. I can't really explain it. Maybe it has something to do with anxiety? I really don't know.



That feel is the fucking worst. It sucks ass to not be able to connect with anyone, whether it be in person, vidya, forum, or imageboard. Not sure if it's the fact that I don't actively try to impress (I.e say shit they want to hear) everyone at all times or if I have a warning label on my forehead saying "Avoid this fucker. He's a complete waste of your time." It's getting very old.

Currently trying to create a Tulpa to deal with it. Just to have company. Self-induced schizophrenia or anomaly, you be the judge, but it should help illustrate how far this shit is getting.


When I was around, I didn't "hate" my friends, but they always seemed to have these inside jokes that I wasn't in on. Always played third wheel, or 4th wheel on a tricycle, or spare car tire. Nothing like never having had a best friend.



Wow man. Never tried to make a Tulpa before. Post how that goes on here though. I'd be interested to hear about it.



>Currently trying to create a Tulpa to deal with it.

Ouch, I'm so sorry anon that you are suffering through this. As a /christian/ I'll pray for you.



Not sure if I wanna hijack the thread but I'll share some things about my personal social experiment. At the moment, I'm in the creation process. Going for a diagnostic approach where I ask explain everything.

These things take time, as I'm only 3 days in, but I may notice some "thoughts" that weren't mine that . So far, I can assume that the tulpa-to-be is somewhat daring but has a degree of compassion.


I have faith in the Jesus too . Thanks, but there are others more in need of blessings than I.

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My personal issue? I can't help my friends with their personal issues.

Most people I meet can move on from their problems. But once in a while I'll stumble upon a wonderful person I simply can't seem to help, no matter how hard I try.

I talk to them, try to perk them up with some light conversation, but their life experiences have left them with a dearth of confidence, which makes them constantly accentuate the negative. They worry and obsess over the smallest things, just as I did when I was stricken with anxiety and depression. And because they can only see the worst facets of life, just getting them to smile is a Herculean feat.

I want to see them succeed, but my best effort just ain't cutting it. So I'll turn it over to the experts: How do I help someone who's given up on life?




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