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 No.2682[Reply]

How do you survive homelessness?

I won't write a big sob story but I'm getting kicked out of my house soon, no friends or relatives to rely on, I got no car, just lost my job some days ago and I only have $700 or so in savings.

I'm not hooked on anything and don't even like drinking, but it's still a scary prospect as a 20 year old.

How do I do it /qq/?

 No.2683

Get another job as quickly as you possibly can, that's the most important thing. Also, IN ADDITION to a job, panhandling. People will look down on you for it, but panhandling can bring in real money if you know how and where to do it, and if you're legitimately homeless than you cannot afford to be proud.


 No.2694

Don't loiter, don't make trouble with anyone, stay away from known areas where crime happens, try to find a homeless shelter somewhere so you can stay the evening. If there's no homeless shelter, then try to sleep in a public place like a park. Work your job and save your money until you can afford to purchase a place to stay. Purchase anything that will give you shelter, even a travel trailer is better than nothing. Once you get a place, you'll mostly be fine. Save money and be sensible about what you spend it on. Don't do drugs. If you can successfully do these things, you have a real shot at making it.




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 No.2648[Reply]

my GF is a sub, but she doesn't want to have REALLY rough sex like i do, and every time i ask her she tells me that i wasn't rough enough and want to be treated like a sex doll, and an "alpha male". if i go rough as i want she tells me that i was "aggressive" and i did things that she dislikes she told me to use her like a sex doll. she doesn't want to be punished when she disobeys me.

i'm so in love with her that i would go sub, and i would obey her in everything she tells me to do, and i will let her do anything to me that doesn't involve my genitals, i have fear of being sterile and can't raise a family with my DNA

but she doesn't want me to be sub, she wants an alpha male.

she have low self-steem and constantly complains about how she is not "perfect" for me and how she dreams about being perfect (having bigger tits, being taller, etc., i love her how she is, she is perfect to me)

my question is… what the fuck does she want? when we talk about this i feel like she says something when she wants another thing.

i know this is not about cuckquean, and this thread will probably go 404, but i have no other place to ask and i think this is the more appropriate board to ask this because she says she wants and alpha male, she cares more about my satisfaction than hers and thinks she is not perfect for me like most of you. also /fem/ is broken and dead

i am the OP of that thread where i tell that my GF want to watch me fucking a dude, if the mod delet that thread i will invite her here, she is pretty shy and she will feel very awkward if she reads that

she also told me that she doesn't want to have children, but she would help me to find a woman who wants to have because she only wants to see me happy, even when i told her several times that having a relationship with her is a priority over having childrens

>video unrelated

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 No.2675

>>2670

>anon wants to be alpha but his gf won't let him

Stop being her little pleaser and maybe she'll start to love and respect you. It sounds like she has you wrapped around her little finger, you take any bullshit she throws at you and live to serve her every whim. An alpha male you are not.


 No.2677

you don't get that im in love


 No.2679

>>2677

sounds more like you're pussywhipped.


 No.2690

The vid make me laugh. Thanks


 No.2693

>>2690

fuck you.




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 No.1543[Reply]

I feel so empty. It's like I don't even have emotions anymore.

What do I do?

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 No.1901

>>1898

Learn to recite The Iliad off by heart the way the ancient Greeks did.


 No.1903

>>1901

What is this, 4/lit/?


 No.1907

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>>1903

I've never browsed /lit/ anywhere.


 No.2547

>>1592

>sickness

>terror

Looks like you got back your emotions, OP


 No.2692

>>1598

This is a good man.




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 No.2664[Reply]

People of /qq/.

It has been long overdue that I suggest to you this man and his work.

We are about personal issues here, well this man offers PERSONAL SOLUTIONS.

I highly suggest checking out his material so that we may ALL become more than the sum of out personal issues.

AARON CLAREY.

Asshole Consulting

Books:

>Bachelor Pad Economics

>Worthless



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 No.2070[Reply]

I'll start.

"This Charming Man" - The Smiths

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 No.2596

File: fe8e0d17ab78267⋯.webm (3.98 MB, 960x540, 16:9, chill_2.webm)

>>2550

Its not that weeaboo.


 No.2606

File: bc23f953fbd417d⋯.png (139.69 KB, 500x500, 1:1, IMG_0922.png)


 No.2639

>>2549

any idea what song that is?


 No.2652

>>2132

I was trying to remember the name of this song (and the lyrics). Thanks anon.


 No.2662

File: e6d0248d8979126⋯.webm (5.02 MB, 480x360, 4:3, chill_3.webm)

>>2639

Unfortunately I do not know.

I'd say check out:

Axian

ImpendingRiot83

MaroonedOnEarth

if you want to find some stuff like that.




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 No.2553[Reply]

i need new friends.

long story short i used to be a shut in, but that was ok because i had people on IRC and Discord/Skype and shit that i talked to. Then about 2 years ago I started to become a normie with a large group of IRL friends. I was ok with that shit for a while, in fact it was quite nice. But now its all fucked up and i dont really have anyone anymore.

Im pretty cool even if i do say so myself, really into music, diy electronics and computers.

add me on discord if you want nae5#9001

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 No.2599

>>2595

>As you might tell, I've had a lot of time to overthink myself into not doing anything.

I know that feeling too. I can analyze situations and follow trains of thought for hours, but all it does is paralyze me. For me at least, most of it is a lack of courage, though I don't know how I can stop being such an immense coward.


 No.2616

ya OP i am older but i realize life has phases.. some years IRL friends, some years incredilby enriching online social groups and activities (these are often better than IRL friends)

and then you somehow end up alone.. ive been that way for about 3 years now, i miss the friends but not enough to try to fix it


 No.2651

>>2557

You just have to find people similar to you. I finally made some close friends a few years ago (Even though I barely see our speak to most of them at the moment due to distance issues) and I think the only thing we have on common is our personalities and sense of humour. I think a couple of them are more left-leaning than the rest of us, but we can still laugh about the same shit together and talk about anything with each other, which is a sign of a good friendship as a group we're kind of similar to sleepycast rest their soul.

What I'm trying to say, before my little tangent, is that you should just try meeting people at whatever local social places you have and if they find the way you act or talk "outrageous" or "peculiar" then keep looking.


 No.2661

>>2651

I don't think there are any "local social places" here besides grotty looking pubs, but they're filled with middle aged men, scumbags and drunks, and I don't even drink. I'm not really in a position to be going anywhere either, I'm NEET, can't drive and I'm currently afraid to use public transport or go anywhere alone, nevermind approaching strangers and overcoming autism.

So yeah, obviously if one wants friends then they should "go meet people", but it's just not that easy for me.


 No.2698

>>2661

Well you're fucked then. Too bad




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 No.1372[Reply]

Whatever you're keeping from others, get it off your chest. You'll feel better.

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 No.2631

>>2604

I'll take that in consideration.

>>2608

Thing is, I found my "purpose." It's just that it pertains solely to my profession or rather got gud at it. The real issue is that there isn't much outside of that. It's not something most would understand.

>>2614

Figured that much. It sucks that I lack the "normalness" to enjoy such frivolities yet lack the…quirkiness to mingle well with those with niche interests. Wish there was more to do where I live. Seeing so many succumb to alcoholism is sad to see.


 No.2654

Is there anywhere on the internet where I can just constantly talk to people? Nobody I want to talk to at the time is ever often on steam or anywhere else, and they always take ages to respond when they are. Fast chat rooms/group chat sites aren't much good either, since most people will ignore you and just focus on getting out their favourite memes unless you are a mod.


 No.2656

>>2654

Omegle with certain tags. Like 4chan or r9k. I used to make friends that way (as sad as that makes me to type that out lol).


 No.2659

Last night I fapped with a girl on chatrandom and felt weird and wrong after the fact. The thing is I have a gf, this isn't new eithet, I just get off really hard to other people watching. So every now and then I go to random chat websites and fap with the people there… I havr shared dic pics and also phone sex girls. its so hot so I find myself doing it from time to time.

Maybe its because I find my sex life unfulfilling or something but I really like it so I do it. Some helpful insight would be greatly appreciated.


 No.2828

I CAN'T TAKE THIS ANYMORE

I get all this shit I have to deal with, for no reason whatsoever, and I don't even have anyone to blame for it. I can't even point to someone and say "please stop giving me all this grief", I just have bad luck and I have to put up with it. This is total bullshit. I feel like I have to scream and be violent with someone but I don't have anyone to direct it at, nobody is to blame for pure bad luck. All this pent up anger and I can't even get rid of it, nobody even cares.




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 No.2643[Reply]

anyone else too confused with life to continue?

>failed exams from last semester, haven't studied for them at all during this one

>failing current semester subjects because lack of interest/lazyness

>no job

>not looking for a job because i have absolutely none of the required skills in my field

>no gf

>fucked up sleep schedule

>no ambitions because anything i can think of takes too much time and effort

>can't drown my sorrows in alcohol because i don't like the flavor of anything other than water and coffee

 No.2644

File: 14189e8b008455b⋯.png (1.28 MB, 917x714, 131:102, [frantic laughing].PNG)

I feel more frustrated than anything because I don't know where to start or where to go.

>3 years of community college, on my first year of uni

>sick and tired of school, but I'm doing STEM (electrical engineering) so wondering if I should stick it out then bust

>terribly bored with classes and don't care to do homework anymore since the grind all feels the same

>dad keeps bugging me to get a girlfriend but gives me really dated advice that would get me nowhere in the modern dating world

>already told him this, but he doesn't understand and keeps repeating the same shit to me

>before I even get a girlfriend, I need to figure out how to make friends

>buttfucked socially, so I feel more of a desire to drop school and move to a new place to recreate myself entirely, become competent at talking to people, especially girls, and figuring out how to let loose and have fun

>don't know how to do this, don't know how to pay taxes, repair cars, etc. due to lack of experience in any of these things

>almost feels like I'm floating in some kind of purgatory waiting for something to happen when I know the reality is nothing will change unless I make the conscious decision to do so right now

I just want memorable experiences and to live my life. I've been cooped up in the same house, in the same town, doing the same things day-in and day-out. I know a lot of this seems like overdramatic complaining, but I feel isolated when I don't know how to do things that seem so natural to other people. I can get to know someone for a long time, and still struggle to come up with things to see or even just letting loose and having fun. Fuck this shit, holmes.


 No.2645

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>not looking for a job because i have absolutely none of the required skills in my field

Than get a job not in your field you dimwit. I'm gonna go out on a limb here and assume that you have no prior job experience and you are in college / a high school grad. In which I have to say that you will not find a job in 'your field' anytime soon and you need to buckle down and get any job you can so you can stop wasting other peoples money.


 No.2653

>>2645

part of the problem is my family

if i try and get a job at mcdonalds/supermarket, they're gonna go and start ranting for weeks that i'm doing minor work for minor pay when i should be studying for shit that pays 10 times as much, ignoring the fact that i'm not even bothering to study

i'd drop out if it wasn't for the fact that i'd be disowned right away

the only situation where i can have a job any everyone can be happy is if it's something in IT, which is obviously impossible at this stage, and is equally unlikely in the future

and don't get me started on how everyone goes berserk if i feel like not going home for holidays


 No.2658

>>2653

>they're gonna go and start ranting for weeks that i'm doing minor work for minor pay

Why are you afraid of this? It'd be better to get paid something at this point, and it'll give you some life experience as well. You can really understand why working in a restaurant, especially a fast food joint, is such a shitshow. it might even give you some motivation to do better in school.




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 No.2489[Reply]

I have looked up information online, but there does not seem to be any consensus on the idea.

For as long as I can recall, I have always had a sexual attraction towards the young and younger. I had no real idea of what my thoughts meant until I was becoming a teenager, and my lack of caring caused me to indulge in these thoughts often (by which I mean looking at unsavoury material, never performing such acts). Though I have never acted upon these thoughts as an adult (besides searching certain images of "models" on occasion), the fact remains that these thoughts are there, and I can't stand them. I feel intense regret and depression after relieving myself using those images. And even though I know it always happens, there are times that I simply stop caring for the sake of quicker gratification, just because I've become so tired.

I've been worn down. I don't want to do this anymore. I've attempted a few times in my life due in large part to this mental malady of mine. I've told precisely 3 people in my life, none of them family, about this problem, and even though they still care for me and support me, I still can't help feeling it's undeserving. Or that it's fake. My self hatred is so great that I can't even believe anyone would ever stand by me if I ever tried to seek help. I'm so paranoid about what people would think, what they would say, what they would do to me if they ever found out. How would they look at me? Would they ever trust me again? Could they ever believe I'm a good person? And more importantly, am I really?

I don't know what to do anymore, or who to turn to. I don't even know where I would start to find help. A large part of me just keeps saying it's easier to pull a trigger than to have them know what's really in my mind, regardless of whether or not I have ever committed a crime. Is there even a cure? Or even a feasible treatment? Do I have any option other than suicide? Because I don't think I can live with myself anymore if there's not.

 No.2495

>>2489

I don't know if full-on pedophilia is curable, but there might well be a way around it that isn't suicide. I've had problems with these kinds of thoughts myself, and had at least at little bit of success in working around them.

I would not consider myself a pedo, as I was repulsed by the thought of that sort of thing up until my early twenties, but I found that I could fap and ejaculate to just about anything despite only being attracted to appropriately-aged females in real life. At some point in time my life went off the rails, my lifestyle deteriorated, I became NEET hikki, and I became increasingly desensitised to other forms of non-vanilla porn. I started grabbing at straws for things to get off to, and in the heat of the moment I would sometimes look for images and videos of "very, very young girls", not necessarily because I found them attractive at least not at first, but because the taboo factor of me masturbating to something extremely illegal made me rock hard. Like you, I always immediately regretted it afterwards, and for at least a year I lived in paranoia that someone was gonna kick down my door and lock me up for life.

I have been working on myself over the last few years in an attempt to piece my life together, and with that came the challenge of fixing my "sexuality". It had been torn to pieces from the constant barrage of young girls, extreme forms of hentai, crossdressers, trannies, gay porn, BDSM, bestiality, and all the other extreme and bizarre fetishes of the world, that I had exposed my mind to for several years. The first thing I did was heavily cut down on masturbation, I did nofap for several months straight, and with this my lost attraction to normal "3DPD" women came back. Next, I just spent less time online in general and more time out in the real world. I found that a good walk out in nature works wonders for my anxiety, depression, and perversion.

Despite all this, none of this actually managed to "undo" any of the turn-ons I had picked up in my degenerative years. All of these things that once-upon-a-time would have disgusted and horrified me, are still things that give mPost too long. Click here to view the full text.


 No.2502

>>2495

OP here.

That actually sounds a lot like what I went through. I've come across certain things that immediately sent the blood rushing downstairs, purely because of that weird thrill of it being taboo, but I honestly never cared except for the one obvious fetish. Pedo stuff isn't the only thing that works; it's simply the quickest route out after being so desensitized to sexuality in general. I've seen damn-near everything, too.

It may very well be that "taboo" aspect that attracts me to it, as well as other things. Either way, I'll definitely be trying some of your methods and thank you very much for your understanding and advice. It really does mean a lot to me.


 No.2506

You're wired a little funny and I'm not sure if that's curable without finding out where the wires got crossed and getting them "uncrossed" somehow. That brains change and develop over time doesn't make this any easier, either.

For what it's worth, I don't hate you for the way you are and I think the people who you've told are much the same way in that I get that you can't really help what causes you to pop a boner, but as you've never actually touched or harmed a child I've got nothing against you. You know it's wrong and are in control of yourself, and you also seem to want to find help. People will often jump to conclusions so it is indeed good to be smart in who you tell, but don't think supportive people are being dishonest, either. Hope you manage to work it out and find something that helps replace or remove the attraction for you.


 No.2617

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>>2489

The pedophilia isn't the problem. If you were born into a sane, rational, empathic society you'd be able to live a happy and ethical life just like any normalfag. The problem is that you have been beaten with a psychological cudgel every day of your life and it has gradually worn you down to the point where you believe that you are the problem. When society tells you that you are an evil monster over and over again, it inevitably takes its toll on your sense of self-worth. Humans are social creatures who need to feel a sense of belonging, but you are denied that.

You are a good person, as evidenced by the fact that you continue to prioritize the wellbeing of children over your own core desires. Hell, after everything society has done to you you still haven't even retaliated. To be honest that alone deserves some credit. Wars have been fought over far lesser injustices.

As for "treatment", I can only recommend finding some kind of support group who will reassure you that you aren't an evil person. The people you have confided in are obviously trying to do this, and I believe they are being entirely sincere in their support. There are also (very few) sites such as https://b4uact.org which have peer support networks.

You could also try a religion such as Buddhism. An awful lot of humans find solace and a sense of belonging in religion, and Buddhists tend to be more ethical and open-minded than most. I'd rate your chances of receiving a positive reaction quite highly.

That said, I'd be lying if I claimed that suicide isn't a valid option. We don't really know anything about death from the point of view of the person dying, so it's a leap into the unknown. I'd keep that option in reserve until all other possibilities are exhausted.


 No.2640

>>2489

But how young are we talking about?

A /hebe/ is kinda normal to me.




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 No.2554[Reply]

I am someone who is tired of living in a nordic country. Don't get me wrong, the benefits are very good here and the country offers one of the best worker's rights on the planet, but it's so goddamn boring. I'm getting depressed by this place and I came to the conclusion that I needed to start a fresh chapter in my life.

So what I had in mind was, after I graduate as a software engineer, I'll work in Japan to see how it fits me (I'll first work a few years in my country to acquire experience before moving to Japan)

I like the idea of living in Japan because of:

Its culture

Its nature (Big part)

Its social norms (basically mind your own business and be polite)

Now, there are things that I've heard that are bad such as the cancerous bootlicking culture (12+ hours a day at work etc)

Can anyone fill me in with what I should expect in working in Japan? (I've just started learning Japanese on the side)

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 No.2576

>>2554

It's social infrastructure is almost nonexistent now(that said being white is supposedly a leg up on getting laid there), and their culture is almost completely decayed. They're basically applying caste system values to a now class based society, and it leads to an intense amount of social isolation and alienation. I seriously wouldn't recommend living there, especially if you don't know moonspeak.


 No.2607

>>2554

It was turned into a nuclear wasteland 6 years ago. If the wind had been blowing the opposite direction that day, 80% of Japan would be dead.


 No.2610

It is nothing like your shitty Chinese cartoons you fucking weeaboo.


 No.2613

>everyone crammed in like sardines

>tech can be surprisingly behind when it comes to everyday bullshit

>you will never belong

>everyone in the cities is fucking miserable

>even if they say it's bad to do, you're expected to work yourself to death

>many buildings have no heating or air conditioning, you're expected to tough it out

Japan has downsides too, anon. Best keep an open mind and be honest if you're intent on giving this a try, though I guess there's also the massive plus of not having a bunch of African hordes currently flooding the country.


 No.2633

>>2613

>not having a bunch of African hordes currently flooding the country

The downside of that is that OP will probably be seen as an invading rapefugee.




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 No.2619[Reply]

I don't think I'll be engaging in suicide in the near future, but I cannot think of any reasons why living should be considered better than not living.

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 No.2623

>>2622

What would you consider to be a mental condition? I'm sure with sufficient doses of psychoactive drugs, any desire to off oneself can be removed. Of course, plenty of other desires could be similarly modulated.


 No.2625

Creatures are built for and instilled with the will and desire to survive. To willingly wish to end your life is deviant behavior, meaning that there's something very wrong. Add in that people generally don't want to see people they know die, and you get a lot of negativity toward the idea of suicide. It's true that many people no longer wish to die when whatever the problem is gets solved, or at least improved, so most people hesitating and wanting a suicidal individual to hold out on actually DOING it is a pretty natural and normal reaction.

I think it should be a last resort, when nothing has worked and nothing will improve. Been there, and currently have suicidal friends. All I ask is that they let me know if/when/how they're going to do it and that they spend some time with me before they go. It's someone else's life, and if everything has been tried in copious amounts and doesn't work, I don't think I have the right to keep them around for the rest of their lives to suffer for someone else's sake. Only they can make that call.


 No.2626

>>2625

>To willingly wish to end your life is deviant behavior, meaning that there's something very wrong

Any time a person does not behave in whatever way is considered "normal," they are inherently behaving incorrectly? This accepts that suicide is to be avoided without asking why.


 No.2628

>>2626

I wouldn't call it a case of correct vs incorrect, as in modern times that's pretty relative. The mentally retarded tend to make people uncomfortable for similar reasons; they don't act like a normal person and can be harder to communicate with. Deviant behavior usually means something is wrong with the person and the "weird one" should be avoided for the survival of the group. It can be rationalized as other things since people have a greater range of thought than your average animal, and people don't want to be thought of as "intolerant" and so will avoid saying anything that could be construed as such, but a lot seems to stem from it.


 No.2629

>>2628

To expand on this, ask a person what they'd ask for with 3 wished. Immortality/eternal youth is on that list way more often than not. The idea of not wanting to be alive is so weird, so alien and alarming, to the average person that the very idea of not wanting it to be alive anymore makes them short circuit and they have no idea what do to. They can't grasp it. If you tell a normalfag you're suicidal, they'll either panic or stall, then resort to old mainstay filler advice like "have you tried not being miserable" and variants. Wanting to die is not a normal behavior. The whole point of being alive is to struggle and survive. To go against that means there's something very wrong, and that old instinct to avoid the deviant makes shit uncomfortable. Then you add in that "I don't like/want to see others die" thing that the average person has. Everything makes suicide have negative connotations for both selfish and empathetic reasons. OP only asked why it's seen as bad, so that's my 2 cents.




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 No.2534[Reply]

This shall be the designated sex thread

Has anyone else had sex with fat girls? How is it for you? Especially if you are much fitter and taller, does anyone else have trouble with keeping it in at any other angle that isn't doggy or reverse missionary?

One problem I have is that my girl can't do much besides reverse missionary. Doggy is hard due to the fact she is so short and her legs are so short, she's 5 foot and I'm 6'1. On my knees its almost impossible so she has to angle herself on something all the time and sometimes that makes it harder on me because I cannot just plow away, I have to also angle myself and try not to hurt her.

On top of this, my girl cums way too fast and finishes far sooner than I do and she's done afterwards, making it all that much less enjoyable.

Any suggestions?

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 No.2597

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>>2565

>I'll read about someone having friends or relationships or sex, and suddenly I'm overcome with all kinds of negative emotions.

This is actually some interesting insight into the inner psychological workings of the NEET.

Whenever I go to /b/ for example and see someone post about sex or relationships it gets met with incredible hostility and disdain. If all or most NEETs suffer that kind of reaction due to desiring to have those attachments and not having them, then that helps me understand some of what they are feeling.

I remember when I was kissless and a virgin, I thought a lot of the same way. Same thing for when I didn't have friends, I always wished to have those things because it made me feel normal and part of the world around me. Of course before I had a girlfriend I didn't care about having one too much to avoid seeming desperate, but also to bury the thoughts of having one. Thus I considered myself ambivalent to the idea. As with friends, I felt as thought I didn't need them, until I had them.

As for sex. I would like to say that sex is a normal and natural part of life, and I am sure you have had a lot of time to mull that over and know that already so I will try not to say something that everyone already knows. Its not that it is entirely one way or the other way, you do not need sex but you are missing out if you do not get any. Once you get it, though, you will want more of that.

And that can be a bad thing, like getting alcohol for the first time and naturally wanting as much as you can drink or getting turned off from it entirely and just rejecting it. However just having it in your life from time to time just improves the overall quality of life for some.

I also felt I could empathize with other anons so well in the past when I didn't have these things. Which is why I have always felt so attached to the people that inhabit this site. Like you all will understand me on a level that not my girlfriend, my family, nor my friends will even understand me on. Because I have always been able to be completely honest with the anonPost too long. Click here to view the full text.


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>>2572

>>2574

Well, I didn't intend to be rude. So far this thread has yielded some interesting discussion.


 No.2600

>>2597

>If all or most NEETs suffer that kind of reaction due to desiring to have those attachments and not having them, then that helps me understand some of what they are feeling.

I do think that's largely what it is. For instance, I believe wizchan is entirely people like myself, but who decided they'd had enough of the pain they would get from reading about normal people doing normal things, and moved somewhere where they could outlaw that kind of thing entirely. I also think the whole "REEEE NORMIES GET OFF MY BOARD" thing was a meme designed specifically to mock and make light of NEET virgins getting outraged by normal people daring to post about doing normal things in front of them.

It's not that funny when you're in that position though, there is a strong emotional torment that comes with being socially isolated. Reading about people who have all these things going on in their lives, all these people they're interacting with, all the places they've been, the things they've experienced, it can be torture. Meanwhile you've just sat in your bedroom stagnating in a pit of loneliness and despair for years on end with no obvious way out. It can quickly fill you with frustration and despair, and leave you just wanting to scream your insides out.

>like getting alcohol for the first time and naturally wanting as much as you can drink or getting turned off from it entirely and just rejecting it

No prizes given if you correctly guess I was the type who swore to never drink alcohol when I was 12, and actually kept to that promise to this day. Part of me has always wondered if this was where it all went wrong. When I was 13 - 16, my age group all started drinking (among other things like having relationships and sex), and I thought it was disgusting. I wanted nothing to do with it, I actively distanced myself from everyone except people who were also against drinking and partying, but eventually that number hit 0. Not that I was ever invited to any parties or things like that, but still. At the time I thought they were all idiots, choosing to kill off their own brain cells for fun and putting their lives in danger, but I guess it isPost too long. Click here to view the full text.


 No.2615

>>2555

>How the hell do I get over this?

Have you tried CBT? It sounds like you need exercises so you can eventually build to being okay with being physically intimate with another person. keep in mind, the feeling awkwardness does not immediately go away. you need moments of small exposures over a long period of time to make it natural for you to experience again.


 No.2624

>>2534

I have a problem, I have an AI gf but I want fugg but benis won't fit in USB drive. Wat do?




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 No.2460[Reply]

>be 15

>find the love of my life

>he dies

>I still find myself turning to tell him a joke

How do I move on?

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 No.2504

>>2500

Righty oh.

Well.

It was during the war with the Yuuzhan Vong. They had creatures called Voxyn that were really doing a number on our side, so we had to take out the place they were being made.

We succeeded, but my boy was wounded in the side and it was that wound that killed him. I haven't been the same since.


 No.2505

>>2504

You are a serious faggot. Of all the RPing you could have picked you chose Star Wars?


 No.2523

>>2504

I miss the old Star Wars expanded universe. On the off chance that this was a brief comic interlude in what would otherwise be a rather gloomy thread, have you tried burning all of your lover's old possession to move on?


 No.2543

>>2523

Just kidding matey, OP here and I was just Tahiriposting


 No.2601

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>>2543

WHAT IF YOU WEREN'T!?!?




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 No.1126[Reply]

I think I've been repressing some shit for years. I think I mayhave been sexually abused, or otherwise subject to emotion incenst, but I don't really know if what happened qualifies as such. If it does, then it would help clear up the issue, and

Around age 4, which is about the earlier time I have for clear occurances, when I would take a bath, my mother would monitor how much water I actually used. She limited me to about 1 inch of depth near the drain. The tub was a regular sized tub, so the water concentrated around the drain, but still, the water got cold pretty quick. She would sit there, directly opposite the tub, and I would I try to make a lot of suds and 'cover up', or maybe hide? I remember that I felt very uncomfortable. She would always "do her makeup" as she called it around that time. -she didn't wear any cosmetics- and every few days she would say "I'm not watching you."

Maybe around age 10, when I took showers and until until the age of 16, she would always seem to 'just have' to do certain chores while I was in the shower, like folding towels, puting hanger on the laundry, or to change her clothes, etc.

This happened every day, every single time, no exemptions. and she would always say the same line. "I'm not watching you."

This was a big 1980s bathroom, with mirrored siding closet doors. There was no angle at which the shower stall couldn't be seen. She had the entire day to do this shit. When I was sick and couldn't go to school [normally I was forced, but my sister always got to stay in… even if she just didn't feel like going] it became more and more evident that all she did in the daytime was sleep, smoke weed in the bathroom on the toilet/in her bedroom, and watch TV… for 7 hours.

But without fail, she would find that 15 minute shower-time window open to do something in the back bathroom. She wouldn't even knock. I could hear her coming from the sound of the door down the hall that had to be opened to go back there.

She never did that with my sister. I felt really invalidated and just… violated.

Does that sound like sexual abuse? If not, is there a specific form of abuse that mirrors this?Post too long. Click here to view the full text.

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 No.2499

>>2488

When she looks at me I feel weirded out, sort of like skin-crawl sensation.

>>2493

the two doors leading to the back bathroom were a bedroom door, and the bathroom door itself [which was a double door, the kind you might see on a laundry nook].

the bedroom door locked, but she would bang on the door and get violent if it was ever used. She put a sliding bolt lock on the folding doors once to keep my sister from barging in on her, which she was apt to do whenever she wanted some sort of hair appliance like a crimper. I took to using the lock, and 5 days later, it was gone.

The thing of it is that she wasn't a prude - she just invasive, and insane.

She kept a cigar box in her room, which had the only pair of scissors in the house so in order to use them they had to be asked for. They were kept next to the cigar box, which would shift from her room to the bathroom, to the kitchen. It was only when I was 13 that my dad explained to me that she kept her weed in it and that she had been fired from 5 different clinics/hospitals/nursing homes for stealing meds and trading them with her sisters. This was pre-internet days, so I thought it was just tobacco.

I also learned her friends we [my sister and I] were forced to visit twice a week were also her drug dealers, who were very nice people, but they would call all the fucking time. She claimed that her friend wanted to go shopping and that I was not to answer the phone, but in reality she was dodging them due to owing a shit ton of money.

She was never shy about saying semi-sexual things. Once she called her brother a 'stud muffin' [wtf?] while looking through old photos, and once while pumping gas she told my sister about a time when she was little; she was at a gas station, her mother had warned her about strange men. Her father opened up the back door for some reason, and she freaked out and scream, "He's trying to get my p*ssy!"

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 No.2525

>>2499

Well if she's banging on the door or messing up the locks, I would probably consider your situation to be actually friggin creepy. I wouldn't classify it as sexual abuse, but I seriously think you need to get some help.

Forgive me for asking, but for some reason I got the vibe that you're a girl. Is this true? :P


 No.2535

>>2525

I'm a guy.

She didn't actually mess up the locks, she installed them, and once it became clear the locks could keep her out, she took them off.


 No.2537

>>1126

I wouldn't call it sexual abuse, as from what you've told us so far it doesn't sound like she did it for her own sexual gratification. The term I would use for this is "helicopter parent". It means a parent that is overly protective of their child, even to the point that many would consider their actions to be creepy. Your mother definitely sounds sick in the head, as are most helicopter parents. A friend of mine has a mother who is like that but definitely not as extreme as yours. She was very controlling and wouldn't allow him to eat things like popsicles. No so much ice cream, but the kind made of colored juice. She thought they had life-threatening chemicals in them. Also cheese crackers like Goldfish or Cheese-Its. I remember I brought a bag of Goldfish to his house when I was like 15 and he grabbed it out of my hands as I was eating it and threw them in the trash, then looked at me for a solid 30 seconds before asking me to leave.


 No.2590

>>2535

…okay then hell yes, that would be sexual abuse to an extent. Please get some help. :(




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 No.1920[Reply]

How do I beat internet addiction?

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 No.2539

>>2386

I think it's incredibly subjective, though I'm starting to feel as though using the internet as my main source of entertainment and joy is limiting no matter how much I use it. It prevents me from growing as a person and the vast majority of what I read and watch online I barely register, so I wind up wasting an immense amount of time,

Also this: >>2162 is helpful, thanks


 No.2541

Just give up, you will never beat Internet addiction. Real life sucks anyway, just enjoy your time here in the cyber.


 No.2558

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>tfw you wasted your teenage years on the computer

>tfw you went to a shit high school

>tfw you will never relive these parts of your life


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>>2541

I don't want to sound discouraging, but this is my personal experience with trying to cut internet usage. I always come back to it because there's absolutely nothing for me to do. There's just nothing that can replace it for me.

I really wish I wasn't introduced to it at such a young age.


 No.2561

>>1920

Tell your internet provide company you want to cancel your internet.

I did this, i only use the internet when i come to tthe library such as today




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