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 No.1924[Reply]

A board based on 420chan's personal issues board. Any discussion of problems pertaining to motivation, social life, relationships, family issues, education/work experiences and personal problems is welcome here.

Shitposting will result in a temporary or permanent ban, and posting content that is illegal in the United States will result in a permanent ban. Illegal content includes but it not limited to explicitly illegal pictures, inciting others to commit illegal activities, and requesting others to aid you in the pursuit of illegal activities.

Shitposting litmus tests:

>Does my thread OP discuss personal issues by any stretch of the imagination?

If the answer is no, it's probably shitposting.

>Is my reply related to the OP, other replies in the thread or board discussion in general?

If not, your post is likely a shitpost.

Use your better judgement please.



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 No.1935[Reply]

Feel free to submit banners to be uploaded at the top of the board.

Dimensions are 300x100. Feel free to use the OP image as an example.

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 No.2425

>>2416

Added. Thanks!




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 No.2465[Reply]

Forgive me for drunkposting. I'm listening to a jewtube 90's music playlist and getting I'm getting emotional.

I can't stop thinking about how fundamentally different my perception of the world was as a kid. I suspect it has something to do with not judging everything. e.g. I remember as a kid learning to read, riding in the car looking out of the window at billboards and realizing that now that I knew how to read, I wasn't able to look at it as just shapes. I couldn't help but read any words that I saw.

When mystics or Eckhart Tolle whoever talk about enlightenment, are they talking about returning to this kind of state of no-judgement and have any anons experienced this as adults?

I used to be a healthy, effervescent kid, always curious, enthusiastic. Now, although I'm not diagnosed I'm pretty sure I have anhedonia/avoidant personality disorder. Is there a way to return to that state as default or somehow incorporate it into adult life?

 No.2468

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It's fine, I've been there. It doesn't help that relatively speaking, the 90s were such a magical time and everything has steadily degenerated since the turn of the millennium. I've felt this many times myself, and it seems to become more profound the older I become. I think it's normal for people to feel nostalgic as they get older, and to look back at those golden years with a fond sort of melancholy- especially when they were happier times. Adult life certainly can seem drab and meaningless in comparison, especially if you haven't got a lot going for you or much of anything to look forward to.

That's not to take away from your individual problem, but you should know you're not the only person feeling this way, not by a long shot. When I was younger I was happy, outgoing, brave and curious. Now I'm mostly depressed, introverted, fearful and distasteful of new things. I think one way to combat this is to deliberately seek out new positive experiences. Another thing that helps, for me at least, is going back and enjoying some of those old favorites again. You're listening to some great 90's music; have you re-played your old favorite games? Maybe re-watched cartoons/anime/movies you loved as a child? This can be a double-edged sword though, so be careful. I've heard that practicing meditation can also help to bring about this state of mind, or at least dramatically reduce the sense of alienation and 'otherness' we experience in day to day life.

It's particularly difficult, at least for me, since the modern world seems to be so increasingly narcissistic and materialistic. It makes it very difficult to really see the beauty and magic of being alive, of having the privilege to experience each new day. I believe exploring philosophy is also healthy; I've found that reading the thoughts and writings of some of the great minds of history really puts things into perspective. There is still a wealth of knowledge out there, and more to be experienced than one can hope to do in a life time. As far as seeing it with the same eyes as a child, this is largely dependent on each individuals ability to integrate their inner child and their higher self. I digress, as I realize I'm probably sounding very airy-faerie. I wish you all the best, and remember, you're not alone in this.


 No.2479

>>2465

Ye. I was a little antisocial turd back then, (Newgrounds + overprotective mom), but I had a semblance of inner peace. I don't see any way out, OP. Best we could do is move forward as people. Wish I had a better contribution but your feels are felt, OP


 No.2510

>>2468

>the 90s were such a magical time

Everything was a commercial in the 80s and 90s.

>everything has steadily degenerated since the turn of the millennium

It's been degenerating since a lot further back.


 No.2513

>ywn be in a monoethnic society where all major viruses and bacterial infections of transmission are eliminated by vaccines and first world, top tier sanitation habits of your fellow white men, women, and children

the 90s was literally the last decade of White Americana. Discovery Zone literally operated from 1990 to 1999.

It was a truly great time to be alive my man, I get drunk and listen to 90s hits too and nothing hits me harder


 No.2514

oh and OP you need to check out the Cum Town podcast (yeah)

It's comedians our age (late 20s to 30) who are CONSTANTLY doing in depth references to the golden age of the 90s. I know of no one else who captures the vibe of the 90s so well as them and they don't even try, it just comes out in conversation.

I recommend this to everyone reading who gets nostalgic about their 90s childhood




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 No.2158[Reply]

>kicked out of Brown for having sex in his dorm

>dad kills himself shortly afterward because his business tanked, probably because his son would likely be a failure in life too

>left with failing advertising company

>makes enough money to buy a couple of failed Atlanta radio stations

>sells everything to buy a cable tv station

>names it WTCG (for "Watch This Channel Grow")

>buys up rights to old televisions shows because they're cheap and constantly plays them as an alternative form of family entertainment to the limited channels during those days

>needs to have the channel classified at news, so airs fake news at strange hours in the morning that basically parodies the superficial talking heads of the day

>channel turns into a huge success

>develops Turner Broadcasting System (TBS), which would eventually grow to include CNN, TNT, HLN and Cartoon Network.

>CNN tanks, he loses large portion of his fortune and a grandchild in the same year

>to top it off, his wife leaves him too

>manages to recover and is now the second largest landowner in the United States (was the first until 2011)

>throughout the years founded the Atlanta Braves, created Captain Planet and has had a major influence on global politics through his donations to the UN

>all for a college reject whose dad killed himself

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ted_Turner

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 No.2454

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>>2443

No problem.


 No.2455

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>>2433

>Hitler is my spirit animal


 No.2480

a college reject whose dad killed himself

With a falling but whole Advertising company.

Also, lucky enough for his TV station to not tank, I bet he didn't had any vision and just saw the opportunity.

What about someone who has no cash on his pockets? who is stupid as a Mule, no talents whatsoever, short and ugly as sin is?


 No.2497

>>2480

You're thinking of philosophers. Here, have a few:

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Slavoj_Žižek

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friedrich_Nietzsche

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Otto_Weininger

https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/socrates/

The extant sources agree that Socrates was profoundly ugly, resembling a satyr more than a man


 No.2509

>>2497

>Nietzsche

>ugly




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 No.2498[Reply]

Why is it hard to let go of your bullshit past?

Mine's only trivial shit, nothing like the monumental problems a good portion of you lad(ie)s hold inside your mind.

Yet, my mind makes the most idiotic pointless thing, such as a person holding their eyes closed in conversation for more than a second as something that I should kill myself over.

It was worse in Senior High, I finally started to grasp my conscious mind as I neared adulthood, but made more mistakes that I am able to remember.

Why does my brain make monuments of molehills? I shouldn't feel this lost over such minuscule things, but attempts to train myself have yielded more moments to reflect on for suicidal considerations.

 No.2501

Don't go for suicide. It's not the answer.

Trust someone who knows.


 No.2507

Brains are weird. People will hold onto/linger over negative things more than positive ones on average, and while I'm not 100% sure on why I think it may have roots in survival. Remembering that bears can hurt you or acting weird get you ostracized from a social group is a bit more important than, say… remembering that sparrows are pleasant or that you can touch your nostrils with your tongue and you find it funny. The birds would be considered background activity while you keep a look-out for bears because bears are bad, and being part of a group is more important toward survival than indulging in hands-free nose picking.

If you live up in your head all the time or experience a lot of stress/bad shit, especially if you don't live a lifestyle that's balanced for a human animal, it can develop into a bad habit of fixation and behavioral problems. I think it's a similar function that causes people who experience severe anxiety disorders to elevate themselves into panic mode with increasing frequency over the course of their lives, until getting stuck in anxious hysteria loops is just the norm for them. Think of it like an animal trapped in unusual circumstances that develops a grooming obsession to the point that it starts licking and gnawing all of its fur off. Breaking out of bad looping behavior/mindset takes time, practice, and a lot of discipline and willpower, but it's far from impossible.




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 No.2460[Reply]

>be 15

>find the love of my life

>he dies

>I still find myself turning to tell him a joke

How do I move on?

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 No.2483

How'd he die?


 No.2486

>>2483

There was a threat, a group of us went to destroy it and

He fell in battle.


 No.2500

>>2486

This sounds absolutely nuts. I'm sorry if my manner here seems a bit blase, but you have to tell us more.


 No.2504

>>2500

Righty oh.

Well.

It was during the war with the Yuuzhan Vong. They had creatures called Voxyn that were really doing a number on our side, so we had to take out the place they were being made.

We succeeded, but my boy was wounded in the side and it was that wound that killed him. I haven't been the same since.


 No.2505

>>2504

You are a serious faggot. Of all the RPing you could have picked you chose Star Wars?




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 No.2489[Reply]

I have looked up information online, but there does not seem to be any consensus on the idea.

For as long as I can recall, I have always had a sexual attraction towards the young and younger. I had no real idea of what my thoughts meant until I was becoming a teenager, and my lack of caring caused me to indulge in these thoughts often (by which I mean looking at unsavoury material, never performing such acts). Though I have never acted upon these thoughts as an adult (besides searching certain images of "models" on occasion), the fact remains that these thoughts are there, and I can't stand them. I feel intense regret and depression after relieving myself using those images. And even though I know it always happens, there are times that I simply stop caring for the sake of quicker gratification, just because I've become so tired.

I've been worn down. I don't want to do this anymore. I've attempted a few times in my life due in large part to this mental malady of mine. I've told precisely 3 people in my life, none of them family, about this problem, and even though they still care for me and support me, I still can't help feeling it's undeserving. Or that it's fake. My self hatred is so great that I can't even believe anyone would ever stand by me if I ever tried to seek help. I'm so paranoid about what people would think, what they would say, what they would do to me if they ever found out. How would they look at me? Would they ever trust me again? Could they ever believe I'm a good person? And more importantly, am I really?

I don't know what to do anymore, or who to turn to. I don't even know where I would start to find help. A large part of me just keeps saying it's easier to pull a trigger than to have them know what's really in my mind, regardless of whether or not I have ever committed a crime. Is there even a cure? Or even a feasible treatment? Do I have any option other than suicide? Because I don't think I can live with myself anymore if there's not.

 No.2495

>>2489

I don't know if full-on pedophilia is curable, but there might well be a way around it that isn't suicide. I've had problems with these kinds of thoughts myself, and had at least at little bit of success in working around them.

I would not consider myself a pedo, as I was repulsed by the thought of that sort of thing up until my early twenties, but I found that I could fap and ejaculate to just about anything despite only being attracted to appropriately-aged females in real life. At some point in time my life went off the rails, my lifestyle deteriorated, I became NEET hikki, and I became increasingly desensitised to other forms of non-vanilla porn. I started grabbing at straws for things to get off to, and in the heat of the moment I would sometimes look for images and videos of "very, very young girls", not necessarily because I found them attractive at least not at first, but because the taboo factor of me masturbating to something extremely illegal made me rock hard. Like you, I always immediately regretted it afterwards, and for at least a year I lived in paranoia that someone was gonna kick down my door and lock me up for life.

I have been working on myself over the last few years in an attempt to piece my life together, and with that came the challenge of fixing my "sexuality". It had been torn to pieces from the constant barrage of young girls, extreme forms of hentai, crossdressers, trannies, gay porn, BDSM, bestiality, and all the other extreme and bizarre fetishes of the world, that I had exposed my mind to for several years. The first thing I did was heavily cut down on masturbation, I did nofap for several months straight, and with this my lost attraction to normal "3DPD" women came back. Next, I just spent less time online in general and more time out in the real world. I found that a good walk out in nature works wonders for my anxiety, depression, and perversion.

Despite all this, none of this actually managed to "undo" any of the turn-ons I had picked up in my degenerative years. All of these things that once-upon-a-time would have disgusted and horrified me, are still things that give mPost too long. Click here to view the full text.


 No.2502

>>2495

OP here.

That actually sounds a lot like what I went through. I've come across certain things that immediately sent the blood rushing downstairs, purely because of that weird thrill of it being taboo, but I honestly never cared except for the one obvious fetish. Pedo stuff isn't the only thing that works; it's simply the quickest route out after being so desensitized to sexuality in general. I've seen damn-near everything, too.

It may very well be that "taboo" aspect that attracts me to it, as well as other things. Either way, I'll definitely be trying some of your methods and thank you very much for your understanding and advice. It really does mean a lot to me.


 No.2506

You're wired a little funny and I'm not sure if that's curable without finding out where the wires got crossed and getting them "uncrossed" somehow. That brains change and develop over time doesn't make this any easier, either.

For what it's worth, I don't hate you for the way you are and I think the people who you've told are much the same way in that I get that you can't really help what causes you to pop a boner, but as you've never actually touched or harmed a child I've got nothing against you. You know it's wrong and are in control of yourself, and you also seem to want to find help. People will often jump to conclusions so it is indeed good to be smart in who you tell, but don't think supportive people are being dishonest, either. Hope you manage to work it out and find something that helps replace or remove the attraction for you.




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 No.1126[Reply]

I think I've been repressing some shit for years. I think I mayhave been sexually abused, or otherwise subject to emotion incenst, but I don't really know if what happened qualifies as such. If it does, then it would help clear up the issue, and

Around age 4, which is about the earlier time I have for clear occurances, when I would take a bath, my mother would monitor how much water I actually used. She limited me to about 1 inch of depth near the drain. The tub was a regular sized tub, so the water concentrated around the drain, but still, the water got cold pretty quick. She would sit there, directly opposite the tub, and I would I try to make a lot of suds and 'cover up', or maybe hide? I remember that I felt very uncomfortable. She would always "do her makeup" as she called it around that time. -she didn't wear any cosmetics- and every few days she would say "I'm not watching you."

Maybe around age 10, when I took showers and until until the age of 16, she would always seem to 'just have' to do certain chores while I was in the shower, like folding towels, puting hanger on the laundry, or to change her clothes, etc.

This happened every day, every single time, no exemptions. and she would always say the same line. "I'm not watching you."

This was a big 1980s bathroom, with mirrored siding closet doors. There was no angle at which the shower stall couldn't be seen. She had the entire day to do this shit. When I was sick and couldn't go to school [normally I was forced, but my sister always got to stay in… even if she just didn't feel like going] it became more and more evident that all she did in the daytime was sleep, smoke weed in the bathroom on the toilet/in her bedroom, and watch TV… for 7 hours.

But without fail, she would find that 15 minute shower-time window open to do something in the back bathroom. She wouldn't even knock. I could hear her coming from the sound of the door down the hall that had to be opened to go back there.

She never did that with my sister. I felt really invalidated and just… violated.

Does that sound like sexual abuse? If not, is there a specific form of abuse that mirrors this?Post too long. Click here to view the full text.

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 No.2490

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>>2481

>mother-son issues


 No.2492

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>>1126

You seem pretty autistic so let me give you some perspective here

Obviously she was a very uptight prudish person

She was trying to protect/prevent you from masturbation in the shower/bath

Same thing she was doing when she would force you to cover your eyes at the sight of nudity etc.

It was a misguided attempt at protection and overly sheltering but not abuse. Nothing you have posted so far is abuse.

Hot water is an expensive and limited commodity. Your parents had to pay a water bill and maintain a water heater and even mine did stupid shit like telling us how much water we could use in the bath and how long we could be in the shower. I'm pretty sure this happens to everyone.

(and for the record all parents say shit like "i had to clean [x body part] when you were little!")


 No.2493

>>1126

I think that's what they make locks for.


 No.2496

>>2492

Never thought of it that way. Not OP but you're probably right. That should relieve OP's mind a little.


 No.2499

>>2488

When she looks at me I feel weirded out, sort of like skin-crawl sensation.

>>2493

the two doors leading to the back bathroom were a bedroom door, and the bathroom door itself [which was a double door, the kind you might see on a laundry nook].

the bedroom door locked, but she would bang on the door and get violent if it was ever used. She put a sliding bolt lock on the folding doors once to keep my sister from barging in on her, which she was apt to do whenever she wanted some sort of hair appliance like a crimper. I took to using the lock, and 5 days later, it was gone.

The thing of it is that she wasn't a prude - she just invasive, and insane.

She kept a cigar box in her room, which had the only pair of scissors in the house so in order to use them they had to be asked for. They were kept next to the cigar box, which would shift from her room to the bathroom, to the kitchen. It was only when I was 13 that my dad explained to me that she kept her weed in it and that she had been fired from 5 different clinics/hospitals/nursing homes for stealing meds and trading them with her sisters. This was pre-internet days, so I thought it was just tobacco.

I also learned her friends we [my sister and I] were forced to visit twice a week were also her drug dealers, who were very nice people, but they would call all the fucking time. She claimed that her friend wanted to go shopping and that I was not to answer the phone, but in reality she was dodging them due to owing a shit ton of money.

She was never shy about saying semi-sexual things. Once she called her brother a 'stud muffin' [wtf?] while looking through old photos, and once while pumping gas she told my sister about a time when she was little; she was at a gas station, her mother had warned her about strange men. Her father opened up the back door for some reason, and she freaked out and scream, "He's trying to get my p*ssy!"

I'm about 99% sure that no one fucking says shit like that to kPost too long. Click here to view the full text.




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 No.2013[Reply]

When was the last time you cried?

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 No.2427

>>2426

>the only way to prevent these problems seems to be ever increasing dosages

Which is absurd in itself because increasing doses makes it even harder to taper and eventually quit taking the medication.


 No.2478

Yesterday. I felt fairly sudden and crushing despair at the prospect of not being able to have a family and children of my own.


 No.2484

>>2478

Shiet, i do this three times a year. Terrible feel.


 No.2494

>>2013

The last time I cried was this morning, because I can't stop thinking about vore.


 No.2503

>>2494

I don't know why but I kek'd hard with this comment.

sorry dude




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 No.2448[Reply]

Hey /qq/, I really want to get into drawing furries, but I… just… can't.

If anyone out there is good at drawing, how did you get started without worrying that it will suck?

 No.2453

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Absolutely disgusting choice, but if you must, why do you have any expectations that your first drawings won't suck? Why shouldn't they suck if you haven't practiced much?


 No.2472

there's no way they won't. practicing means sucking at something for a long time before you finally get good. otherwise, everyone would be good at everything. just accept you will suck for awhile.


 No.2491

>>2453

>why do you have any expectations that your first drawings won't suck?

…Well actually I wasn't expecting them to not suck, I just wanted to know how people sleep at night knowing that they just drew something that makes them want to set themselves on fire.




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 No.2370[Reply]

Guys, how do I get to know a slightly autistic girl? I have no interest in these normie, snapchatting shopping queens.

 No.2373

Literally autistic or "autistic"?


 No.2375

"Autistic", so more like a nerd. Everything except normie is alright


 No.2376

Did you play ME: Andromeda recently?

Autistic waifus, the 3D girls are usually not that good.


 No.2487

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>>2376

Some 3D girls are good, not the biological ones though




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 No.1531[Reply]

I don't know why, but I hate current generation of people, fucking hate the new music, singers, movies, movie stars and popstars, everything seems too fucking faggy and shitty.

I tryed to accept everything, but I can't! I don't know, everything doesen't seem's to be as good as was in past……

Even the past gay singers look more straight then actually the current straight ones.

The woman look so bitchy and unnotural then were in past, everything is to damn facke and shitty.

It's like everything's changed and still changing in a bad way. Am I the only one who feel this way?

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 No.1619

>>1617

I do, however, have morals and values. I keep myself to a strict code of honor when dealing with other people. There's nothing I can do about the state of society or people, I learned a long time ago that since I can't change society as I am now, I can change myself. Worrying about a pipedream that everyone will just wake up from the fantasyland they've been conditioned to live in is futile for me. As you can see in this thread, it would seem that many people are waking up from the matrix. I see it more and more each day. I occasionally check out Google trends to see what the general consciousness is, and it is obvious that more and more people are becoming fed up with the left. When I can't do for others, I know I can do for myself. Create the ideal world within my own life that I'd like to see in others. Get /fit/, get smart, read books, attain wealth, an education, a wife and children to instill these values in. Ubermensch is the ideal man who creates an ideal world within his own life, and outwardly, it changes inches of the world outside mine. The more people who can relate to and practice Ubermensch, the more the world can change.


 No.2456

>>1619

>Ubermensch is the ideal man who creates an ideal world within his own life, and outwardly, it changes inches of the world outside mine.

This is exactly what I mean, and I'm happy to hear it from you. Too many times I've heard people use the idea of the ubermensch to justify solipsistic behaviour, and I'm happy to see that you've not strayed into that line of thinking.


 No.2482

>>2456

>>1619

That's not what an ubermensch is, that's just a particularly strong man. Ubermensch is some apocryphal shit bordering on science fiction.


 No.2485

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>>1531

Just wait for the robots, you can focus on hobbies instead of wageslaving and have a robowaifu/husbando to fulfill those needs. Also implants. So stop with the le wrong generation XD shit, yes it sucks right now, but it's about to surpass anything we have had in our history


 No.2508

No, you're not. Avoid the top chart songs and shit on the radio since it's all the same bullshit pop garbage by Sheneequa, Beiber, and Tyrone and they all sound the same after a while. Some movies are okay if you know where to look, independent film festivals are full of surprising gems. I hate to use the term, but "sheep" shit panders to the lowest common denominator and will always be the most mindless drivel that attracts the most eyes and vacuums up the most money. If you don't want to rage and lose brain cells, you should almost always look elsewhere.




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 No.2437[Reply]

Does anyone else feel like they’re stuck in quicksand?

I just want a good enough job that I can move out and start a life for myself. I’m 22 years old and I’ve only managed to have two jobs in all five years since graduating.

I’m an introvert and I know that severely hurts my ability to get part time work. Sales and retail are literal hell for me. I tried to tough it out but I’ve found that instead of magically transforming into this social butterfly that normies expect me to, I become violent, bitter, and standoffish. I make my own corner and recede into it.

I left my last job after they continuously cut my hours to the point I was only working one day a week. Getting there nearly cost as much as what I made in a day so I decided to cut my losses and leave.

I get accused of being lazy and entitled by older people while putting out hundreds of job applications a week. They tell me go to there in person, ask for an application, etc etc. I do this and I just get told to apply online.

A lot of the cushier retail jobs like Walmart, Sam’s Club, Home Depot, and Lowe’s seem to have a hiring bias against young people. All these same people screwed my the recession close ranks around each other an then look down on us for being lazy, entitled, and having unrealistic expectations.

I’m lazy and entitled for not getting the jobs they screw me out of. Then I’m lazy and entitled for being miserable in a food service job that doesn’t even cover car payments. I logged all my job applications in a spreadsheet and my mom didn’t even bother to look at it.

I’m starting to grow bitter. My world view is growing increasingly jaded and cynical. I find the riots happening on campuses and in ghetto neighborhoods refreshing and annoying. Amusing because I get to see the older generations reap what they’ve sown. Annoying because all these groups—BLM, ANTIFA, etc. They’re all corporate tools. They’re rebels without a cause and most of them don’t even realize it.

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 No.2440

Have you looked around for any manual labour work? The pay is usually pretty good and the work is honest, even if it's a little grueling.


 No.2447

>>2439

I tried this. Didn't get anywhere with it. I doubt I could have followed through with it if I did.

Generally lying on your resume for anything but a food service job is a bad idea. Their automated background checks will easily catch you in a lie.

>>2440

I'm in shit physical shape for a multitude of reasons. I know that's not an excuse but part of the big problems I have now is due to being out of shape. I'm in debt now due to repetitive stress injuries on my last job. If I got a job on a construction site or something like that I'd very likely hurt myself and end up costing myself more money down the line. I'm trying to take better care of myself, but it's rough. I've been fighting depression on my own for over a decade now. Basic hygiene and keeping my room clean feel like monumental tasks. I try to stay optimistic. I have an exercise routine and an itinerary of shit I need to get done daily. Putting out and logging job applications. But sometimes the despair gets to me. I'm just carrying around a lot of pent up rage and resentment with no outlet.


 No.2458

>cover car payments.

You best be talking about gas, car insurance, oil and other maintenance things like that nigger.

Because if you're paying car loans then you are one stupid motherfucker.

I bought a 98 Honda CRV for 2500 bucks, got in a car accident that fucked up both doors on the passenger side, endured a hailstorm that broke the very back window on the passenger side and made dents all over the car and fucked my windshield (which I had to replace) up. I got it when it was 170k on the odometer and now it's up to 280k.

I do not give a shit if it gets stolen or breaks down.

That is the kind of car you should have.

Onto job matters though. Go work at Papa Johns but only if you're not a shitty driver and you have less than 3 accidents on record. Or any pizza place really. All I had to go in and they asked if I was looking for work, threw a hat on me and gave a topper. I was walking home with 100 bucks more or less in my hand at the end of the day.

That's if you just want to get started though. Its bare minimum but its good cash and easy for someone with a lot of time on their hands.

You could also go do apprenticeship stuff like suggested by another anon on this board in

>>>2365


 No.2459

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>>2458

screencapped because why not.

Really good advice.


 No.2477

>>2458

Yeah no, I'm not an idiot. I wanted to buy a cheap used car but I wasn't making enough to cover the cost of maintaining it. I couldn't save because my mom was taking money away from me and my hours were cut during the busiest part of 2016. So I was only making a few dollars a week. I don't even have a car, or a license. I'm working on getting a job close to home so I can get those things in a couple of months.

>>2459

That is good advice. I already had a plan set out for a career. I want to get a job in IT as a sysadmin or a NOC technician. I was working on getting certifications until everything went to shit. My biggest problem right now is not having a car or license. I'll save that advice for later when I can get those things.




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 No.2053[Reply]

I'm not a shut in neet, I have a full time job, in decent shape, and while not attractive, certainly not ugly. yet I just can't talk to people. I have no friends, no love life, and it bothers me to no end, yet I can't help but be quiet as hell around others, which I know makes things awkward as hell, other people probably think I'm weird or a freak or something.

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 No.2374

>>2367

Sure, I never said it was easy. I just hoped I could reframe the situation for you so you can see how fucked up the whole thing is, and maybe compel you to bolt from that place as soon as you can. And that certainly does not involve paying off your father's bullshit demands.


 No.2412

>>2053

It's fucking easy, just pretend to be interested in people's mundane little lives and keep the conversation going by asking questions which cannot be answered with "yes" or "no". Respond to their comments by relating it to something in your life with a similar theme and pretending to find it interesting. People love talking about themselves and you'll seem like a likable sort who shows genuine interest in their concerns and passions. The real trick is to do this without feeling nothing but boredom inside.


 No.2422

>>2374

Maybe someday, I really want to leave, but I need to plan how to make it work. Thanks for the advice, i will keep it in mind. You have been really helpful and I really do appreciate it.


 No.2434

>>2412

>The real trick is to do this without feeling nothing but boredom inside.

I still can't make it past this one.


 No.2467

>>2412

I would do that, but I can't initiate conversations with people, and they don't do it to me.




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 No.2352[Reply]

I have no one to turn to for help but to this mongolian cable knitting board, /qq/.

I'm a 28 year old autist who got my Master's of Science last May in geology, and have been looking for a job since. I don't think I'm doing it right. I keep getting told to apply online, but I never hear back from anyone. I've tried "networking", but they tell me to apply online, then I wait a week and call back, and they say they don't want me because I have no field experience. I tried to get an internship during my grad school, but the same thing happened then as is happening now. I don't know how I'm supposed to get my foot in the door to get experience. I've done lab research for nearly 9 years in university. Did I pigeonhole myself into an academic career? I didn't even want to be in university that long, and I fucking hate it here. Just someone please either give me a job or tell me how you're supposed to get one, because I'm ready to kill myself with no challenge, health benefits, or vertical movement in my current $12/hr job. I can't start a family on this shit.

It feels like there's some kind of in-joke that I'm not getting with fucking job searching and networking. I don't even know what to do about networking, everyone keeps telling me to use linkedin and I even made a skeleton FB page for myself with normie memes about cats and shit so they can spy on me and think I'm not a paranoid autist. I don't know what else I'm supposed to be doing. My husband has been riding my ass hard lately, he says I should be doing more and he'd be doing so much more than me if his parents had given him the opportunity to go to university. But when I ask "what else should I be doing then?" he tells me he doesn't know and that I should know, because I have the degree, not him. I don't know, however. I don't know what the fuck I'm doing or what I'm supposed to be doing or what I'm supposed to know so I can know what I'm doing.

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 No.2362

>>2357

>Im talking about local or regional power companies like conEd or xcel.

Now this can be the ticket. I'll shoot some resumes around. Do you know if the waste management or water utility sectors would be looking for geologists/stratigraphers, or would they mostly want hydro?

>>2358

I wish it was the fun kind, but it's mostly been the "hurry the fuck up and get a job with benefits why aren't you doing more to get a job I expected more from you" kind. It's clear that he's getting antsy and wants kids, but we can't without genetic testing for some pressing family medical problem. We need insurance first.


 No.2382

Most Geology jobs are in Oil and Natural gas. Both of those industries are highly cyclical and in the shitter right now. Try government and if all else fails, go back to school until the market improves. I would also think local civil engineering companies would have need for a geologist.


 No.2402

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>I'm a 28 year old autist who got my Master's of Science

>Just someone please either give me a job or tell me how you're supposed to get one, because I'm ready to kill myself with no challenge, health benefits, or vertical movement in my current $12/hr job.

>I even made a skeleton FB page for myself with normie memes about cats and shit so they can spy on me and think I'm not a paranoid autist.

>I don't know what the fuck I'm doing or what I'm supposed to be doing or what I'm supposed to know so I can know what I'm doing.

>I can't start a family on this shit.

This is what I fear most in life.


 No.2463

>>2352

Also "apply online" never worked for anybody. You need to find and meet the right people in person. 80%+ of professional jobs come from referrals. It is still who, not what, you know.


 No.2511

>>2463

>You need to find and meet the right people in person.

Recently, we had a job opening where I work since someone needed out on medical leave. We found someone via standard resume who had followed basic procedure and so had them in training. However, some other guy had met the manager previously and handed him a resume in person. A few days later he started calling in, demanding to speak with the manager and wondering where his job was since he'd spoken to him in person. It's what you're supposed to do, right?

Middle management took down his concern and phone number, and told me to deliver the note to the manager since they weren't sure if he was still hunting for positions. The manager was pretty stressed when I found him, I delivered the message with an explanation, and he threw it straight into the trash without even looking at it, replied that, no, he wasn't looking for any more new people and had explained it previously to others. The position was taken, and by someone who hadn't come in to schmooze the boss. Didn't help that one of those job aggregator sites like Monster and Indeed had picked up the job opening and so people thought it was still up and we're still getting applications.

I'm not saying don't try, some of my best job offers have come from doing just that, just be aware that it doesn't work for everywhere and it most certainly doesn't guarantee you a job or even a foot in the door. Things have to line up correctly.




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