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/crab/ here. According to claims, we no longer have a BO as of yesterday.

I'd like to nominate myself to temporarily take over as BO and enforce old BO's rules until further notice in order to protect anons from random shitposting/spam, unless another anon is interested in the job. I'm just posting this here so the other denizens of /qq/ are aware of the situation.

Captcha verification isn't appearing right now and the banner thread is stickied, so I'll post this here.

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A board based on 420chan's personal issues board. Any discussion of problems pertaining to motivation, social life, relationships, family issues, education/work experiences and personal problems is welcome here.

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When was the last time you cried?

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A week ago when I remembered how empty my life is currently.


I don't know the story here, but you need to bail, fast.


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I vented out to my mom about all the punishments and beatings my dad would give me for petty shit as a kid. I was very scary in moments like that and never knew what I was in for when my dad would call for me.

Sadly, my sis doesn't remember much of it and my mom wasn't around for much of it either and for my dad to tell me that it never happened straight to my face makes me want to beat the shit out of him. I got the strength to do so, but I feel it's unnecessary.

To feed me the bullshit that I never experienced hell in one form or another (especially when he caused most of it) makes me want to exclude myself in his life. I didn't mention the past contempt. I was honestly glad for it made me thick-skinned and more motivated to seek for strength.

At this moment, I didn't cry because of the experiences. Not even from no witnesses being around. I cried because one of the big contributors to my pain told me that my hardships weren't legit and made-up. That the beatings and unfair punishment I received were not real.

I don't see what drives someone to just straight deny everything like that. I defended this man multiple times recently. I listened through his sob stories, gave him advice on how to do better, and help him overcome his diabetes despite the shit he has done to me, my mom, and sister. But yet at the end of the day, he'll never get better and wonders why nobody in the household has no respect for him. Hell, as I write this down, I'm starting to feel my blood boil over how much time I've invested in him to keep him going, only for him to constantly disrespect me.

What the fuck did I expect?



Don't toss your pearls before swine. Even if they're family.



Thanks for that advice, anon.

That quote is beautiful.



No problem anon. We're gonna make it. :)

Sometimes you just have to give up on people. It hurts when it's family, but it's true nevertheless.

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>be me

>slaving away at uni

>got a shitty casual job, looking for a better one

>live at home

>skinny, but work out from time to time, could do more

>no friends mostly, but eh, fuck that

>browse 8chan

>"nice pics, anon, reminds me of that hot girl at work that flirts with me"

>okay, whatever faggots.png

>another thread

>"hey anons, what's a good show to watch with a girl coming over?"

>fuck this, I'm out.jpg

>commute by train to uni

>some nerdy fuck sits in row in front of me with cute blonde giggling all over him

>must murder everyone.gif

>spend day at uni, ignore crushing loneliness

>trying to study at the library, sexy girls galore

>make accidental eye contact with some babe studying biology and hold it

>she actually smiles

>fuck me, what is happening.jpeg

>walking back to train station

>some fat pajeet trying to talk to tall hot chick as I pass by, she's smiling

>must stay strong

>get home

>still want girlfriend, can't concentrate on actual work

>fuck my life.png

Anons, I need some serious help here. No /r9k/ or /mgtow/ stuff, fellas that actually get girls without being Chads.

How the fuck do you do it? Social circle would be easiest, but as I said, I don't actually have any friends and I haven't the slightest clue how to go about breaking into those circles. I did join a Latin dancing club at uni, but I usually leave after the sessions end because I don't know how to talk to anyone.

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In order to get a GF you have to improve your life first. In order to improve your life you have to go outside your comfort zone. Do some weed with some coworkers or go hiking once a week or aim to beat a PR at the gym. You can't get a GF when you're a sadcunt, so first you have to become happy, and when you're happy you'll have more confidence and grills will sense it and come to you for the D, anon.

Sauce: Was a fatass back in High School. I decided to get into shape my senior year, and even though I was still fat at the end of it all, I had a GF and three other girls ask me out while I was dating because it was the happiest I had ever been in my life. You know how I got happy? Lots of pain pushing myself to the limits and doing shit outside my comfort zone like being a male cheerleader for the girls' football games even though I looked autistic as fuck/felt stupid doing it.


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This, anon.

Just keep in mind that you should be wary of certain volunteer experiences as sometimes they're just looking for free labor. Animal shelters/Homeless Shelters/Church functions and such are usually good. Anything for a PTA or School is likely just them looking for free labor. If you feel mentally exhausted from socializing it's ok, but if you feel mentally exhausted from the work and dealing with your supervisor at a volunteer experience, get the fuck out immediately!

Another good option are temp jobs. I work the Broncos and Rockies games every year two Sundays a month getting paid $15/hour direct cash, and it puts me in contact with all kinds of cool people I would have never known otherwise.


>Had dates and relationships

<Most of them went to shit because nothing cliqued, or one of us really fucked it up

>There's a coworker I liked, but she told me she has a boyfriend

<See her leaving with another coworker she fucked, and heard about/saw her getting flirty with other guys

<Last date I had from PoF was a horrible disaster, and made me swear off online dating

<Made me realize if I wasn't a depressed loser, maybe I could have been with said coworker

<Depression and shitty life experiences that happened to people I cared about and myself change my dating views, crippling me socially and mentally (struggling with wanting to be with someone, or avoid contact out of work or buying necessities)

How do you get back into dating, swearing off online dating for the rest of your life, or get over shitty things that cripple you (depression, life experiences)?



Get a waifu, it's better than 3D shit


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Go to Burning Man next year, do acid and get laid with one of those hot Californian chicks that comprise the typical population of such gatherings.

On a more honest note, I'm half-serious. All those "degenerate" festivals that give /pol/ a heart attack are actually great places to lose your virginity as long as you are not stupid about STD's and all that shit. And not everyone there is a drug-addled liberal hippie, so you don't have to mix with that crowd if you don't want to.

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I've been a hikikomori since 2010, the year I dropped out of high school.

I have not had a single social encounter with anyone other than my mom since.

I no longer feel loneliness per se. I hate everyone even more now than I did back then.

But, seemingly unlike many people with my condition, I haven't completely outgrown the desire to converse. I'd still like to talk to people. Just not normies, not women, not even 8chan users, really. I post once a month now or so because I just can't stand your "culture" and most of your interests. Jojo's bizarre adventure is a piece of shit. Pokemon is a piece of shit. Pulp fiction is a piece of shit. You all own cellphones and half the posts on this board are about girlfriends. Etcetera.

I digress, I'm going off-topic.

What I'm getting at is I want to talk to people that hate almost everything and only leave their house once a week like me.

I don't know why. I don't know what we'd even talk about. I just want to try it.

Trouble is, I am an outlier. I am talkative when family gives me the chance. My social skills never depleted somehow even despite my constant isolation. I guess they are an inborn trait for me. Not the case for many of the fucked up people I have spoken with over the internet. They were always quiet and left me hanging so I gave up. And that was when I was lucky enough for them to agree to talk to me at all.

It's a paradox. I wish to speak to fucked up people, but how would I find them when they do not post and I do not post. We are not active on the internet, that is what separates us from the rest and also from each other.

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>They all hate the hikikomori lifestyle and strive towards some ideal life, I don't know what, they don't want to be normies but they are unhappy with their situation. What would be in between that would sate them? I do not know.

I will tell you for me personally it is another world, imagine a society that had different ideals than the one we currently have, they want to be normies in that world, not normies in this one. You can better yourself from a hikki to become a normie of this world, that's possible but not usually desirable. While it's possible to change a big portion of the world in your lifetime it's a monumental task that isn't practical, obviously we regard people who do this as "legendary".

Maybe a better way to phrase that is, they want to be the majority not the minority.

>I am surrounded by human beings right now, the hateful freaks I wanted, and it's not working out.

I don't know what you expected to be honest.



Leave some contact details, you sound like an interesting specimen. Before you refuse me on the grounds of being an 8chan poster, I'll have you know that I've been away from it for over a year.


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I am freak extraordinaire.

Hit me up at kik: Average6uy or Discord: Brutux #1106

This is extended to anyone and not just op.



hello I am OP. This is for Discord.


If you don't have a Discord, I don't know. Oh well.


kik requires a phone, I really doubt that you're as big of a freak as you think you are.



Lol you almost 35-40 nigga. Sort your shit out m8

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>Just turned 27

>live with parents


>have always been a social retard and very anxious around people

>only had one girlfriend because she basically did all the approaching

>low self esteem in addition to the anxiety

Lately have just been feeling depressed about the lack of a social life / girlfriend / being fat, yet I find myself in the same spot I was six years ago. The fucked thing is, subconsciously I may not even want things to change. How the hell do you get out of this trap?


You find a solution, you be sure to let me know



You need a psychiatrist and a dietician. Everything else will fall into place.



Do some cardio. Estar by doing 5 minutes and grow from there. Run, if you can. Ride a bike if you can. Swim. Try to surpass your own records and keep pushing. You'll feel better about yourself and ypur anxiety will go down.

That's the first step


terytytrt >rtgergtergter

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Is this board active anymore?

I want to ask for advice regarding my relationship with my parents.

To put it shortly, I can't really talk to them about anything, not because they have ever treated me badly or whatever, but it's just because it feels terribly akward for me. I just don't understand where this comes from, it happens to a lesser degree with other family members too. I stil live at home because beautiful third world economy, even though I'm saving to move out ASAP. This situation makes me feel ashamed.

Has anyone had to deal with this before? What could be the issue?


-Not sure about the activity of this board.-


>What could be the issue?

You likely have an introverted personality.

Nothing wrong with that.

Are you wanting to talk with your parents about why you can't talk with your parents about advice?



>Is this board active anymore?

It was pretty dead for a while, but it seems to be active again all of a sudden. I can't complain, I've always really liked this board.

>Has anyone had to deal with this before?

I have. I never used to talk to my mum, in fact I don't think I had a real conversation with her until I was in my twenties. A couple of years ago, after realising just how utterly socially retarded and autistic I was, I made a concious effort to respond to her in greater detail than simple grunts, to ask questions relating to what she'd said rather than trying to kill the conversation as quickly as possible (not because I'm rude, but to escape the inevitable awkward silences brought about by my social incompetence), and to speak in a more emotive / less monotonous voice.

After a while, I managed to build up my ability to connect and interact with her, and now we have a much better relationship for it. As a bonus, it also helped improve my ability to talk with other people as well. God knows I still have a lot of room for improvement, but it's night and day compared to how I was a few years ago.

So you could try doing something similar; slowly bringing down the barrier you put up around them, adding a few more words than you'd previously use whenever talking with them, and trying convey that you enjoy talking to them through the tone of your voice. It'll sound completely artificial and forced to you at first, but with a bit of practice it'll become a natural part of your character.



>Is this board active anymore?

As active as most boards on this site.

>Has anyone had to deal with this before? What could be the issue?

A lot of things. Maybe you're afraid you'll disappoint them, maybe you just don't like sharing secrets with them, maybe it's too awkward for you.



Active enough to still get long-winded replies which is kinda the point.

Just level with your parents. It will make you feel better. They're not going to disown you or feel bad about you unless you really duck things up.

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>tfw addicted to video games

>never done anything else in my life

>realise I'm a boring person

I never asked for this

how can I stop vidya

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whacha tellin em to play vidya for?



Act like the person you want to be.


>several gfs in highschool

>left home at 17 to go to uni

>met a cute tomboy there

>graduated with honours

>engaged to the tomboy

>job in my field after neet for two years

>work whatever hours I want

>play vidya and drink on my days off

>sex on the weekends

>still get paid much more than I spend

>still want to die

I feel like I've done everything right but still somehow failed.



Would you say anything in your life right now is challenging for you? Depression often starts to creep in when people have easy, effortless, no-pressure lives, so if you feel like you're just breezing through it all, you may need to turn up the difficulty setting for yourself.

The old saying "life is about the journey, not the destination" is very true. We do well when we're working towards something, and everything starts to fall apart when we're stagnating.



Find something you have to do and make it mandatory. Something that once you start you can't finish it.


Sounds like you're having a midlife crisis. Do what >>3138 says

Go out adventuring from time to time. Urban exploring, innawoods, anything that gets the blood pumping. Alternatively settle down with this girl and start a family.

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Any good way of dealing with depression and self-hate that doesn't inbolve seeing a doctor or therapist? Preferably one that involves little to no other human interaction?

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They actually told me to live my life. To get a better job so I can live my life. I just take family very seriously, so I want to do whatever I can for them.



Your number one fear is disappointing your parents, you're selfless towards them to the point of completely neutering your own life and well-being, and yet you're actively ignoring their good advice and clinging onto them like a child? The irony of the situation is that your refusal to listen to their good advice is perhaps the only reason you might in any way actually be a burden or a disappointment.

Come on lad. It's time to put some change into your life, because what you're doing now is doing you no good at all. There's someone in your family that needs your support far more than your parents do, and it's you.



In all honesty, my life doesn't really seem to matter. I don't have any goals, ambitions, or dreams outside of helping my parents. Well, maybe to some day find a nice wife, get married and have kids. However, I sincerely doubt that'll ever happen anyway so I can just forget about that.

I wonder what i'll even do when I do help out my folks and they pass away after living their last years comfortably. At that point, i'd have nothing really else to live for.



>my life doesn't really seem to matter

It doesn't seem matter because you haven't made it matter, in fact you've rendered it almost completely redundant. You did that on your own when you made a decision to live as mommy and daddy's little helper, despite them wishing you would live for yourself instead of for them. You have the ability to create a fulfilling existence, but you're actively choosing not to at this point.

>maybe to some day find a nice wife, get married and have kids

That's a good goal, and the only thing stopping that from ever happening is you doubting yourself and continuing on the same path. Don't just automatically shoot down any possibility of a positive outcome, that's the only way you'll guarantee that these things will never happen.

>At that point, i'd have nothing really else to live for

Right, and a situation where you end up feeling like you have no reason to live is obviously a bad one, so it's time to come up with a better plan.



While anon in >>3125 is abrasive, they are right.

Meet people.

Network at work.

Take some classes at the local community college in a hobby/personal interest.

Join clubs, go to the gun range.

These are just examples based on recent posts.

Write down ideas that will make you happy.

Do a decision tree for each idea based on the benefits and expenses for those ideas.

It's all your choice, like everything in life.

If it seems hard, that means the reward is that much sweeter.

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>be me

>be 11

>puberty is about to start

>really want to be a girl

>can't be because i'm male

>always hang out around female family members and friends, never had a male friend for more than 4 months

>haven't developed sexuality yet or seen porn so it's not a weird fetish

>neglect this anxiety

>wait a year

>anxiety is inescapable

>talk to parents about it

>they're hostile as fuck and say the internet brainwashed/indoctrinated me

>they don't believe in doctors and only take homeopathic medication

>my mom has PCOS and tried to cure it with a gluten free diet so that's probably why i was born fucked like this

>gender dysphoria was apparently created by big pharma

>i repress

>i find /pol/ at age 12-13

>i call everything i don't like degenerate

>i am an absolute asshole to everyone on the internet and real life

>i still have a bad reputation for it and i completely accept that

>my life is at rock bottom

>the house looks like /r/neckbeardnests and my parents are ready to disown me

>be me

>be 14

>realize that i only use pol/cringeanarchy/what have you to make myself look better than others by comparison

>thought i was saving the world from liberal degeneracy but i was actually just being a faggot

>bone structure is now unpassable

>clean myself up

>talk to parents again about dysphoria

>they roundaboutly accuse me of watching trap porn

>say tPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

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That is perhaps the most vile thing I've ever seen.


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same kind of thing in pic related. i feel terrible for this person actually.



Are you implying I'm a vile person for posting it?

I just want to know that if he mutilates himself this is what he will have to live with.



Before you try converting to being female, have you considered trying to build up your proper sex hormone?

I remember an anon that posted about how his lifelong friends was getting into the transgender quagmire and fixed him by taking him to the gym and helping him eat properly. His friend was low as shit on testosterone for whatever reason.

You might be the same. Switching genders involves going against the very foundation your body is built on.

Granted, there can be genuine cases for it, where someone has a biologically female brain in a male body or vice-versa.

But before going down that path, try working with the foundation you already have before trying to uproot and destroy it.



Who knew cutting your penis off in exchange for a gaping wound was a poor idea. I all honestly though I do feel bad that we live in a world that tells these people that getting mutilated is normal.

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I'm a graphic designer with no programming skills whatsoever. How would I have to proceed in order to make 100 dollaridoos a day for a year in the internet?

That's the amount of money I would need to keep a NEET lifestyle for another year.

Any and all advices are welcome. Also anyone needs anythig graphic design related?



Shameless self bump in le dead board


Have you tried all the go-to online freelance markets?

>teespring (t-shirt designs)

>fiverr (marketplace)

>maybe even facebook

You need to spread your work around to as many income sources as possible. This minimizes how much work you need to receive from each source, but it also maximizes your total income.

Try sending cold letters to local businesses who look like they could use new graphics for their website. Of course have some basic portfolio available for them to review if interested.



Makes me wish the business I was trying to start would take off so I could hire anons and help them.



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/qq/ a couple of days ago I had a 6 hour masturbation session for the first time(my longest session I have ever had before was about 3 hours with no side effects). Soon after my head started hurting and I felt like crap. The headache lasted the whole day and into the next day. It's been about a day or two since and I only been sleeping about 3 hours.

Anyone ever been through this?

How mich did I fuck up my brain?

How long should I refrain so my brain can heal?

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So, I'm willing to bet you edged yourself for 5 hours, 59 minutes and 30 seconds and then masturbated for the remainder. It's a blood pressure dip because of your cock retaining a constant flow of blood. There's a reason doctors tell you to report an erection last more than four hours and it's not from the Viagra.

Take a couple of Tylenol and give your dick a rest. You'll be right as rain on a few days.


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>mfw I thought I was fucking up bad when I'd spend an hour a day masturbating to porn

I am outskilled here.




What are you, 14 y/o?


Wow can't believe my thread is still up.


No drugs, just mother daughter bbc porn. Shit is cash.


>Call a doctor and make a hormone check, you may have some imbalances that are causing high libido.

I really appreciate the concern, but I am pretty sure I just have a naturally high libido.

>Issues in other areas of your life maybe causing you to compensate the stress with masturbation.

Yes, I deal with a lot of stress. Porn is my only vice and I really can't and don't want to put in the effort to change my circumstances.

>And finally, you didn`t fuck your brain in any way, nausea and depression may be because of feeling of guilt and dehydration or an unbalance diet.

Thank you for the affirmation. :)

>Get a girlfriend m8

It's complicated.


>12 hours

Exactly 12 hours or do you take breaks?


Yeah I was edging. Thanks for the viagra tidbit. Very interesting.


Don't worry bud, you're golden. Keep doing what you're doing.






What do you take me for, some sort of wimp?

I once edged so hard over several days that there was blood in my pre.

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27 year old KV here, never had a gf, been a waifufag for years now. After some recent events I wanted to try dating one last time before just giving in to eventual wizardhood. I don't really want to meet girls through coworkers, and I don't go out to bars or anything, so I'm considering online dating. Anyone have any experience with it? I'd be looking for an actual relationship. Random hookups aren't appealing to me.

Anyone been in a similar situation too?

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Without rubbing it in, I actually went on one of my worst date[s]s[/s] a while ago. Let's just say I'm grateful I'm never seeing her again.

Online dating sucks. I recommend just trying to get out there in Meetup groups, events, or even trying to talk to coworkers be careful with coworkers even if you're not gonna date them. If you insist on sites, at least try Okcupid (It's getting worse because libtard sjws are taking over the site, and they keep removing useful features). Plenty of Fish is called Plenty of Failure for a reason, Meetme is full of creepy fags and creepier sexual predators (the owners are douche bags, and I knew someone who hated working with them), and you should never pay money to get laid let alone rejected online (Which was why I never used Match). Eharmony is joke. One of the best pieces of advice I got from a guy was paying money to get laid on a dating site is pathetic.


I met a few exes off of Myspace, Okc, and Meetup. The ones with high, unrealistic standards are just as fucked as the OP because they're going to die lonely for being cunts about selecting a partner. I call them the "Fuck me Pumps" based on an Amy Winehouse song. You don't want a "Fuck Me Pump" because she'll make your life miserable (they come in all shapes, colors, and sizes btw). You want someone who gives a shit about you, will be there for you, and actually has more girlfriends than guy friends (because she might have fucked one or two for the hell of it). Interests are a 50-50 thing, but she should at least tolerate your hobbies and passions if you're not being a fucktard about them.

>Also, there are lots of girls who use dating sites to get free dinners. They agree to go on a date with you just to eat at a nice restaurant and then they completely ignore you.

That's why you do something cheap like coffee, and if she's willing to pay, let her. Not all of them are out for a free dinner. You can do things without blowing a shit load of money.

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I actually got a girlfriend off of OKcupid once. I broke up with her because she was suicidal and annoyingly dependent. Man was that a mistake

Since then I've used tinder and OKcupid occasionally, people are only on Tinder to feel good about themselves and only very very few people are willing to have a conversation, and those that are high inflated expectations.

That's basically the summary of it: constant validation from tons of incels on dating sites inflates women's egos to stratospheric levels. Congratulations on contributing to this problem boys. At least OKcupid was decent 5 years ago, but especially after the "tinder revolution" very few people are on these sites for a relationship, but for the express purpose of ego masturbation.



A lot of you NEETs start off with the wrong mindset in the first place. If a big titty gamer girl with a fat ass and her own income suddenly dropped into your life, you wouldn't know what to do. So instead of being a dog who chases cars, do this:

Make friends.

Make a shit ton of friends.

Have a crew you only drink with. Have a crew you only game with. Have a crew you only do sporting events and outdoors shit with. Your universe will open up immensely and there will be numerous women youll be able to talk to.

Also, dont whine about not putting in the work while expecting some shit to magically happen.



>Make friends

Not OP, but I've been stuck on this part for a good 8 or 9 years now. Being literally friendless while NEET-hikki appears to be a social death sentence, or at least it seems that way.



Average looking guy here with a decent job, a house, a nice car I owe nothing on, and several good non-creeper hobbies. I've been doing the online dating thing on-and-off for about 5 years now. I've tried Match, Eharmony, Tinder, and Bumble. I experimented a bunch; writing and rewriting my profiles, carefully selecting photos, had friends (both guys and girls) give feedback and even swipe for me. Online dating works like this:

>make profile

>go through thousands of profiles

>many profiles are shit like sjw feminists or landwhales

>of the "not shit" profiles only a very small percentage of these get to the conversation stage

>only a very small percentage of conversations make it to the date stage

>the few dates you manage to get go nowhere

Online dating straight up doesn't work and it's a huge waste of time and money. Your chances at success are extremely low even for the "above average looking" guys.

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>be me

>in my early twenties going on mid-twenties

>live at home


>cannot summon motivation to apply for jobs and when I do, I inevitably get passed over

>study IT at uni

>completely suck at it and hate the subject with a passion

>fail repeatedly at subject simply because of laziness and lack of motivation

>plus I'm behind everyone else in terms of knowledge

>still must do it because my parents are relying on me

>reputation is down in the drains, everyone thinks I'm a loser/liar/asshole

>no friends whatsoever and I'm pretty sure the ones I "have" only stick around because I've known them since childhood and our families are friends, not because they like me

>no girlfriend ever, never touched, kissed or fucked a girl

>skinny as fuck, try to exercise and still skinny

>do martial arts couple of times a week, literally the only joy in my life

>have good imagination, try to be creative

>suck at art, can't write too long without being bored, and how can I even try music?

I'm really just contemplating ending it right here and now. I used to think that I couldn't do that to my parents, my friends and my loved ones because it'd break them. Now I'm convinced that they'd all be better off without me. I don't think I'll ever climb out of this hole. It's like there's a demon in my head that won't let me up. I can't fight it.

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1) Maybe ask some others in your club if they want to catch up and do (club related activity) at (x time and place), without doing it directly through the club? Making new mates takes time.

2) >>>/fit/, read the sticky, etc.

5) Have you already implemented all the usual normalfag responses to this question? Haircut, shave, brush your teeth, hit the gym, take 6 gorillion showers every day, etc.



>1) Maybe ask some others in your club if they want to catch up and do (club related activity) at (x time and place), without doing it directly through the club? Making new mates takes time.

I dunno, seems a bit too direct for me, but maybe I'm just not used to it. It just seems like everyone else is able to get on and immediately become buddies from the get-go, talking and doing stuff outside of club hours, but I'm still mystified as to how to get into it. Probably just need to get up and fucking do it, I guess.

>5) Have you already implemented all the usual normalfag responses to this question? Haircut, shave, brush your teeth, hit the gym, take 6 gorillion showers every day, etc.

I've got rather good hygiene and in terms of looks, I'm not actually bad looking (I've had some pretty hot girls show open interest in me in the past, I just usually failed to capitalize on these opportunities because I chickened out) although skinny. I'm more on how to create these opportunities, because I can't just wait for a girl to start blatantly flirting with me.




Dudes… I was like you one day. No motivation, no friends, no job, no nothing. I grew tired of myself and simply decided to stop lamenting and do something about it.

I convinced myself I was a secret agent or some shit and my mission was trying to pass as a normal human being amongst other humans. It fucking worked.

I'm employed, living by myself, fit and with a qt 3.14159 that does anal.

Weird things happen when you stop feeling sorry for yourself.



Have you considered doing a double major associates degree in Network Security and CISCO networking?

It's more of a "trade skill" field but it would let you find employment and is much more motivating with lab work and such.

Sauce: Electronics Tech who is getting his CISCO certs next year.


Saging this as not to derail the thread.


>Electronics tech

Does that mean hardware level technician?

Since you are getting CISCO certified, does this mean jobs in the hardware levels are getting tight?

Or are you diversifying your resume?

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