I've got an older sister. When we were younger she was the bullheaded, brash, and emotional one. This was in complete contrast to my own lack of outward emotion and tendency for passive observation. To illustrate how core those are for me, I popped out of the womb quietly, staring at the people watching and aiding the birth while hanging onto my umbilical cord…at least that is what my parents say.
In life, my sister, four years my senior, was the one with the lead…and she seemed to fall into all the pitfalls: Emotional outbursts throughout her school life, drugs later on, got impregnated and hitched at 19 without our parents knowledge.
Now, not to say that I do not have my vices, but I handily avoided her mistakes…only to fall into my own pitfalls, which are mostly related to a lack of drive and an abundance of cynicism and paranoia.
We aren't particularly close, but we'll do what we can for each other when help is required.
At present, my sister is a hard-working and persistent individual dealing with her past mistakes, but she lacks a certain backbone in regards to her husband's lack of responsibility, impounded by the fact that she is the breadwinner for the family and lacks the time and energy.
But I hardly know her in the end given our current emotional and physical distance, and I am not sure I'd want to be closer…it feels like it would be improper.