/r9k/ - ROBOT∞

No, it doesn't. On the other hand it can actually help you develop better personality, if you don't be a fucking pussy. For example homeschooling can make a man much better man.

Homeschooled teens don't drink a lot, use drugs or smoke. They are more healthy, less leftists, more respectful and have better taste in arts and media culture.

If you think that getting drugged at parties, and receiving tons of stds from whores is a good life, you are heavily mistaken. In the past people managed to make up in relationship with women without whoring in loud and overpopulated places. Its the times what changed, and it now produces worse humans.

>been socially awkward

> never really talked about sexuality, girls etc around parents

> so used to keeping it secret from my parents, it become taboo

> tfw even if I got over my anxiety and shit problems, I'd still be unable to take a girl home ( even if I was lucky)

>>115804

You have low opinions about yourself man. Find a hobby that you like, brag about it to girls. Talk more about things you can do best, instead of approaching girls with failure in mind.

You always lose if you feel like you are a loser. You must fix your mistakes, and overcome yourself. Get fit, read about politics, to show that you are in charge of your world views, and learn how to act more manly, don't try to act like a douchebag or a weak spirited man.

Always protect your views and be passionate about things that you adore. And visit to a lot of places, concerts, conventions and meetups without fear. If you will follow this you will probably find a better woman than you even expect.

Well behaved girls love perfectionists, who have plans for family life. And person who haven't whored his life on bitches can be a better perfectionist, than the one who did.

Because losing virginity with wife is the absolute honor that you can even achieve in relationships.

>>115811

>Hey girls! I build computers for fun!! :^)!!

Actually that's a respectable hobby.

>I tried but I'm stuck being skinny. After the noob gains I hit a plateau and I haven't broken out of it.

You shouldn't stop. Noob gains can get to good gains very soon, buy dumbbells with changeable weights, do various exercises with them and add more weight as soon as you feel you can lift more. Or even better - spend money on gym and ask professional trainer. Eat more food, especially meat, because your gains depend on what you eat. Its worth it. Or just ask /fit/, they know everything.

>I get anxiety just thinking about trying to socialize with strangers in a group.

You need to feel like you are at home with everybody. Like if everyone around you was your family. Its easier to understand it when see yourself in other people. And as soon as you do that, it will get easier to copy their behavior, if they are good people. Also exercising every day lowers anxiety greatly.

>I can't even do it with alcohol and that's supposed to lower your inhibitions.

Don't drink alcohol, it won't help too much. More to it, during hangover, if you drank while having anxiety, that anxiety will get stronger afterwards. For some people it was the source of anxiety itself, and they quickly became alcoholics to always suppress bad feelings such as paranoia and panic attacks they get from it. This is the most frequent reason why people get addicted to it. Also alcohol is bad for you when you are getting fit.

>It's a self fulfilling prophecy then isn't it.

All your problems are from your disbelieve in your own potential as a human being. You have to endure everything that comes to you as a man. You don't have a choice to believe that you are a loser.

You didn't even had all the problems that come after socializing. There are bigger problems to deal with after you get into society. Not completing the very first steps of the ladder to success is worse than being a cuck. Get yourself a motivation to hate your loser life, and change as if your life depends on it. Because it really fucking depends on it.

>>115854

These are strange times.

>>115812

Right now I'm going to school and delivering pizzas part time. My parent's can't support me forever so being NEET isn't really an option. Financially I think I'm gonna make it.

Socially I'm not making it. I still haven't made any friends at work or school. I feel like a stranger everywhere I go.

>>115792

This.

When I was a freshman, I had a pretty abusive relationship with this fucking awful human being. She basically cucked me before I understood what that was. I never said anything when she fucked other guys because it was never "official," and I figured it's normal for women to be weak willed and slutty. Whenever she'd beat me I'd just take it, because men don't hit women, they just deal. When she'd do everything she could to degrade me psychologically, I just powered through. Didn't want to be a sissy. I was full stockholm syndrome, she could do whatever she wanted and I bore it. Got to the point where I attempted suicide three times over the course of a year, only thing that stopped me was what little sheer will I had left. Took moving to a new state to break the psychological hold she had on me. To this day, I can barely talk to anyone where I used to be a social guy. Some days I can't eat, and most nights I sleep only three or four hours. It's been four years and she still pops up in my nightmares.

Last year though I met a girl, she was pretty cool. Started hanging out, one thing led to another, and eventually we spent about every weekend for like a month cuddling different places. Never ended up going anywhere, didn't even get to first base, but I also spent next to nothing and we're still friendly. Thanks to her I can actually touch women again, and be close to them without flinching or constant paranoia of getting nailed when I'm not paying attention. Shit fucked me up though, If I ever manage to have a kid, I'm gonna be a nazi dad and never let my son touch a woman till he moves out. They're evil, especially the young ones.

>>115959

>>115843

>>115823

>>115817

>>115812

>>115807

>>115803

>>115793

>>115792

>>115783

>>115781

>Well, I don't know why I even bother because you faggot autists always shit on psychology as pseudo-science while circle jerking over "muh STEM" but here you goes anyway

At the love and belonging level the child needs others to love and to provide him with a sense of belonging. At this level, some sort of family stability is needed in order for the child to invest love in someone else. If his care giving parent dies or is incarcerated and he is placed in a series of foster homes, he may not attain the feeling of stability required for emotional investment. If it appears that no one wants to make a lasting commitment to him, he may be unable to love himself. This sense of belonging is threatened when parents divorce. And at this level, loneliness and social anxiety may become manifest.

http://www.naturalnews.com/024190_child_children_WHO.html

>In other words

You came from a broken home where your distant parents never fully emotionally invested in you due to either

>Single mother

>Drunk father

>Domineering mother, inadequate father

>Feminist mother

>[insert reason here]

As a result you were never able to be fully secure in yourself and willing to open up emotionally to others (besides the few close friends you may or may not have had who eventually left you behind). Women and your peers could sense this lack of confidence/self-worth/fulfillment/emotional security/whatever; and this further compounded the problem. Because you are insecure you have developed malignant narcisism and remain on a borderline paranoid constant vigil about any supposed attacks on your character and this leads you to live a very restricted life, constantly afraid and suspect of the actions of others.

And to the normalshits in this thread thinking they can dish out soap box advice, please stop. Your shit is neither helpful nor grounded in scientific study. You might as well just save us all some time from reading your self-righteous ramblings and just post "man up" because that is the extent of any normalshit advice that I ever see on here.

>>115965

idk about all that man. I'm >>115959 , I had a very stable family. My parents still love each other, they never abused me, my mom was loving and my dad did his best, even though I know before he had me he'd never emotionally invested himself in anyone before. Despite that, I'm still completely emotionally broken, I have crippling social anxiety to the point where some days I literally hide at school impulsively (I can't keep myself from doing it), and it's next to impossible for me to communicate normally with people 80% of the time.

I know I don't have autism, I've checked, and I have a few friends because I'm pretty charming when I do communicate. I am a bit narcissistic, and I go through friend groups about once a year so I do have some abandonment issues, but I'm fairly passive when it comes to people attacking me. I normally welcome it, because I'm incisive enough to shut them up in a few sentences and that feeds my narcissism a little bit in a nice way.

If that's adequate info for you to make a better diagnosis, I'd love to hear it. I'm terrified of opening up to someone real…

>>115979

I don't make diagnoses, my concentration was in research. However

>my dad did his best, even though I know before he had me he'd never emotionally invested himself in anyone before

and

>I have crippling social anxiety to the point where some days I literally hide at school impulsively

Leads me to believe you aren't being honest with yourself about the situation. Besides I never said it was ONLY a shitty home life

>[insert reason here]

wasn't just some fucking chan joke I put in for cheap laughs. If somewhere in your early development something else happened that destroyed your initiative/willingness to open up to people (or love interests more likely considering you have stated you have a few friends) that would also explain it. Maybe figure out what that was and find a way to come to terms with it. The empty chair technique is one way that comes to mind but you can look up other shit, it's all there for free on the net.

I was about to ask if you are sure you really open up to people instead of keeping them at a distance, but then i noticed

>I'm terrified of opening up to someone real

I really can't help you or anyone else on this board. It's outside of my sphere of knowledge. All I can do is make you aware of things, which itself is about as helpful as talking to your local bartender.

But if there is one thing I'd say its this; look up the spotlight effect. Also find a practice bitch. Literally just find some cunt who you literally give zero fucks about and don't care what she thinks about you. Then practice all of that dating shit you see normalshits and chads talking about on her. I can't stress enough though that you literally can't care about the practice bitch. Don't feel guilty because bitches have an easy ride in life and if nothing else she'll be happy for the attention. If you cannot find a practice bitch because you hold everyone else in higher regards than yourself. I don't know, lower your standards or something.

>I go through friend groups about once a year so I do have some abandonment issues, but I'm fairly passive when it comes to people attacking me

I can empathize. One way you might consider trying to break those habits is through some sort of self imposed behavior modification program using the techniques championed by Skinner and his minions. You know shit like snapping your wrist with a rubber band when you passively accept an attack or giving yourself a cookie when you stand up for yourself/retaliate.

If I guess right. I'd say the two subjects are probably linked. Find a group of friends, things go well for a while, someone starts attacking you for whatever reason, you distance yourself from them to avoid the "pain" (we'll just say pain because its easier than the behaviorist phrase of adverse reaction to stimuli). In this sense the constant moving from group to group is a learned behavior to minimize the negative stimulus by removing yourself from the situation. Only way to change things is if you manage to change the payoff matrix for the reward/punishment outcomes through your own self imposed system. Again this is something that you are going to have to figure out on your own because you know your life better than I do.

And please for the love of god when you read through what I just wrote remember that when I give specifics like "snap your wrist with a rubber band" I am giving an example, in most cases an exaggerated one meant to be humorous. Only take the general statements at face value.

>>115964

>"genderfluid"

>"pansexual"

>>115964

>genderfluidity and pansexuality

you sound like a fucking faggot, dude

>>116046

>>116058

Lay off.

>>116085

I suggest you work to improve yourself and seek treatment for your abnormal sexuality. It will improve your quality of life and help you feel better.

>Sexual Deviance, Second Edition: Theory, Assessment, and Treatment 2nd Edition

>$30-$60

>ISBN-13: 978-1593856052

>ISBN-10: 1593856059

>kissless handholdless virgin at 22

>everyone else that I know, including the disgusting ugly slob, has had at least one gf before

>faking it until I make it

>seeing happy couples everywhere hurts

>>115965

>Abraham Maslow

Oh look, a kike. Just like the one who created "inferiority complex", who was a jew born in poor family.

This stupid hierarchy doesn't work for intelligent people. Man can reach "self-actualization" top of this chart without eating a lot, sleeping, living in a fucking home and having money, having anyone to talk to and certainly without being respected.

You think you are smart for using psychology, but in reality you all fall for jewish propaganda, made by the same people who embrace cultural marxism.

>>116314

>Muh Jews

>Muh homeless greek philosopher from 2,000 years ago proves that everyone can become a self actualized well adjusted member of society

You need to lay off /pol/ for a while faggot. It seems to have sapped your ability to form your own thoughts or make coherent statements.

If you have such a problem with jews that you literally can't use any of their ideas or inventions without being triggered you can always look into the work of white psychologists like Carl Jung (completely insane theories mixed with mysticism but a genuine Nazi sympathizer), Carl Rogers (he was a christfag so I'm sure that deserves some /pol/ bonus points), B. F. Skinner (TRIGGER WARNING: ATHEIST!!!), Gordon Allport, or Wolfgang Köhler (TRIGGER WARNING: Ethnic German who didn't support the Nazi Regime ;_;).

>You think you are smart for using psychology, but in reality you all fall for jewish propaganda, made by the same people who embrace cultural marxism.

Fuck off. You are one to talk. Your mind has become so fucked with /pol/ propaganda that you think every last Jew including the ones trying to learn about the human psyche are collectively part of a vast conspiracy. Guess what retard, they have about as much of a hand in that conspiracy as you or anyone else here has in the cis white patriarchy conspiracy that the feminists complain about. Which is to say none. The only people that can commit conspiracies are the ones with enough money, power, and friends to occupy high positions in government. Your everyday joe blow whatever his race, has virtually no say in how things go down.

You want to bitch and moan, fine. But try to contribute to the discussion and provide something beyond "hurr Jews durr".

Don't think people need all that there psychology mumbo jumbo. Then give an alternative (something better than your half-assed example). I really doubt you can though, because all people like you are good for is complaining and nay-saying without ever actually doing.

Oh yeah and before I forget. Great example of a self actualized well adjusted person. Being a homeless beggar who jerks off in public should be the high point to which all of us strive. Maybe back in the day being a edgy philosopher was a legitimate lifestyle but these days the market for it has been cornered thanks to blogs and homeless shelters.