to all the actual autists here, i'm sort of asking how i can run down self-diagnosis without going the tumblr route. i don't want to waste my time getting my mother to take me to a doctor only for him to give me one look and go "son, you're not autistic, you're a lazy failure.", since this is a tl;dr fucking mess.
>>116715
>asperger people actually have "too much empathy" and then go onto say they are aspies but also empaths
this is one of the things that leaves me confused whether i'm a sperg or just a social retard with incredibly boring interests and focuses.
i have a lot of empathy in the sense that i care about other people, i know that being hurt HURTS and i wouldn't wish it on anyone, so i always paranoid think how to avoid hurting other people even if it means hurting myself. (it's also a useful defence mechanism to not be hurt since nobody feels like hurting you in vengance.), i'll call this caring empathy. in "empathy" in the sense of understanding other people and how they feel, i don't really have it. i know they can feel positive/negative/neutral, but i can't really share very specific emotions or even really think them through. i'll call that feeling empathy. (basically, the same word with multiple meanings.)
i don't know about putting myself in their shoes either. in HS i learned to paranoidly think through what other people might do (he's standing near me, he's chad, is he going to randomly hit me? should get ready to dodge), but i don't know if that's "putting myself in his shoes" it's also that i can't tell if i understand or not. i can understand the words strung together as "chad will hit you so that he looks cool to his friends", but i can't really get it on an emotional level or whatever (although that understanding is still sufficient to process it logically.)
back to empathy, i think when some people say they have too much empathy they mean too much caring, even though they're inhibited in feeling. (that's actual autists, not attention whores who regurgitate it.), at least that's how i rationalized it within the framework of "if i'm an autist…", but i might not be.
(obviously i don't think i'm an autist just on the basis of social skill deficiencies, but it's easier to cover "do these instantly disqualify me" than give my whole life story. stupid online tests tend to tell me i am, but then even facebook using stacies could game those to get a high score if they wanted)
>Now you get faggots all over the internet claiming it's not a real disorder because douche nuggets tarnish the word and make other people think it's a fake disorder
for the most part on chans, etc, they'd do that anyway because it gets a reaction (or because they just want to believe anyone can jus-b-urself out of problems, and if you hit a sperg kid enough he'll act normal.) few people actually believe it's not real, a bigger problem is people claiming to be autistic to get away with being an asshole, meaning real autistics are dismissed as just being assholes who lie (about having a real disorder)
>like ADHD
ADHD is real, just significantly over-diagnosed.
>>116988
for what it's worth, i don't consider anything advantageous/magical about being an autist, i just think there's an interesting number of things about my life that fit the bill, but i don't think it makes me super smart or anything (if anything it explains how i managed to fuck up the allocation of my average intelligence).
i did look at some tumblr blogs while trying to deduce the probability of it, but i gave up when i realized they're basically "start > move 1 place > go directly to self-diagnosis of autism" which is ridiculous. i don't know why i thought they might even TRY to be objective though, since denying that someone is autismgender on tumblr would probably get you lynched.
>medication
i thought there was no medication for autism? (point taken on therapy though.)