/r9k/ - ROBOT∞

>actually had both parents

>"boo hoo I didn't get coddled"

>for some reason I'm treating this like a contest despite seeing men get fucked over everywhere for all kinds of reasons

>>116573

OP, I wasn't aware that having a hot MILF mom that still looks in her 20's was a parenting style.

>>116598

gee why would anyone think atheism is some kind of cool rebellion?

/pol/ are the biggest cucks alive

>>116611

>implying I'm fedorable

wew lad, I'm just agnostic

same here OP

think my parents just burned out or something and i was the fuckup kid.

they're christian though so occasionally they make some sort of transparent effort at "affection"

just working out changing my name, moving somewhere and dropping contact. might as well go all in

I feel like my parents were too involved, and they didn't do anything on OP's list except 1 and 2. I always wanted to be able to leave the house to visit a friend without them asking a dozen question about who was there and what we did. They were pretty judgmental and my mother always made it clear when I was doing something she didn't approve of. At the same time, I wish they were more involved in some places. I know very little about their lives before having kids.

>>116598

Reading this puts it into perspective though. I really appreciate that they never taught me about religion. The most my parents sheltered me from was violent movies and teen games. I thought they knew best and when my friends offered to show me R rated movies I refused. I'm still scared of horror films. Also they only let me play vidya for 1 hour each day.

I think my parents tried, but their idea of good parenting was to occasionally buy me things and never push me too hard. Their focus was on raising a happy child, moreso than a functioning adult.

my parents were overinvolved, ruined my life. too much praise will fuck you up

>get praised for being "smart" all of childhood

>never have to put effort into anything, it all comes easy

>act like a douchebag 24/7 because superiority complex

>high school fucks my shit up

>realize i'm not smart and have no idea what to do because i've never tried before

>parents discipline me for "not putting in enough effort"

>>116573

>Anyone else had the same experience?

Yep

>>116660

this post is the one that deserved those quads

>le blaming your problems on someone else life-meme

My parents aren't perfect beings either but they gave me a roof and spent lots of time with us and were generally pretty good.

Regardless, my brother "de-FOO'd" our parents and I'm stuck being the only child now. Fucking Stefan Molyneux bullshit.

Yeah, your parents are shitheads in extremely similar ways that you are or will be. But life is hard and they tried and so will you. Then your kids are going to write on the 4D image board of the future about how shit you were as a parent. Family is family.

>>116660

I have no clue what I'm doing with my life.

>basement dwelling leech

>rack disceprine

>wake up at midnight

>about halfway done with a book I checked out online from a library located a county away from where I live

>my internal monologue says "well I have no money for gas…I guess I'll walk"

>fill a mug with coffee, grab my cigarettes and walk

>three hours later I arrive at the library entrance

>surprised to see that the lights are on in the library at 3 in the morning

>parched because of the long journey

>wait by the door until I see someone, knock, and ask if I could fill my mug with water

>they politely tell me "no"

>I respond that I'll be finishing a book outside and that I'm sorry for bothering them

>two police cruisers pull into the parking lot

>questioned for an extended period of time for "scaring" the cleaning crew

>patted down and searched for weapons or drugs

>the entire situation confuses the shit out of the law enforcement officers, but they give me some bottled water fuck yeah

>decide to hitchhike back home after passing out in a field due to exhaustion

This is why I don't leave the basement.

>>116710

I just want my parents to try.

I want my dad to tell me I'm an asshole, or that I'm pathetic, or that I'm a heathen. I want him to get off of his holier than thou high horse and realize that I'm his son and that my idea of what a man should be is based off of his pretentious couch potato lifestyle.

Unfortunately the folks are getting to be very old, and sooner than later I'm going to be seeking work to afford supporting them as well as myself.

/edgelord

Every interaction I had with my parents growing up they were screaming at me about something. Either I didn't have enough friends or my grades weren't good enough or I spend too much time on the computer (which wasn't even possible because they wouldn't let me use it for more than an hour a day). I still haven't gotten over it, every time I'm frustrated or confused I can hear them screaming at me in my head over some minor bullshit. Sometimes I find myself yelling back even though I know they aren't really there, it's kind of schizophrenia except I know it's all in my head.

>>116710

Oh piss off.

The most important years to define you as a person is in the hands of your parents (or legal guardians whatever).

They have a direct access to your formation of habits, personality traits, behavior patterns and so on. And all they did was "try"?

It's like saying Fritzl was a good parent. He managed to feed his daughter enough dick and she grew up. With some scarring and shit, but the biological processes were nutured sufficiently. Like with many other kids.

It's like with those kids who can't even boil potatoes and are afraid of trying. You can't say that it's due to them being shit cooks, but because they were spoiled growing up. And who's responsible for that? Their parents.

Why do you think many young men look to charistmatic leaders instead of their parents? Because parents are shit, not masculine in the slightest.

For me, my father, is the most pussyfied person I know. Biggest coward I have ever seen, and I don't doubt for a second he would metaphorically throw me under the bus to "impress" (be on the good side) of a seller. He rather trust "experts" on everything then his own son.

And then mother shames me for not being "a man". Like a kid growing up with wolves should just man up and know what is correct behavior.

Peoples behavior is a direct reflection of their upbringing or as a result of some heavy soul-searching, introspection, meditation and blabla. You are not some blank slate when you reach the age of X and can re-program yourself instantly.

You're right, 760.

It takes such a massive, draining amount of willpower to get anything done towards breaking out of these shit habits, but we must know that we always can do it, it is possible.

One thing that runs through my mind when I'm faced with a choice that would lead to me bettering myself, or just sliding back and regressing further, "do I want to keep being a loser?

We cannot simply rest on our laurels and "coast" because if we're not advancing then we are sliding back into old ways and habits.

No half measures.

>tfw knew a girl in high school that looked like the girl in that picture

I had a crush on her but I barely knew her and didn't have the balls to talk to her

>>116660

>story of my life

Amen, brother.

>>116598

At least they didn't leave you addicted to porn and anime

>>116768

A big issue is that while you are bettering yourself, you are always doing it through the lens of a broken mind/soul/whatever, which will influence the outcome.

The whole idea of having a masculine role model is that he patches you up while you g et used to the new surface. The idea is that your soul is a metaphorical ball, and when it's broken, it has holes in it.

But when there's no real masculine figure who's willing to take you on, you have to look to history or media (Trump) and emulate as much as possible. It's not as optimal, but better then nothing.

It doesn't matter how much you try, your surroundings, and your internal self will hinder you all along the way. By having your parents allowing you (they might say they do, but their behavior says otherwise) admits that they are wrong. And if they are wrong with that, they might be wrong with other things. And the whole wall of "good by virtue" comes crumbling down.

Shit like "just going outside" is a mental challenge. And when I done it, it doesn't really matter. The next time will be just as hard, and I have to keep doing it. I can never rest -as you say- and be satisfied, since it means a two quick steps back.

External motivations is also important. Bettering yourself for the sake of bettering yourself isn't a sufficient cause. A gf or something, where there's a direct benefit for your genes is a cause.

>>116844

>implying

My porn folder is vast, and most of it is 2D.

>>116577

>big families

wow… this is absolutely true for both sides..interesting. (i am op btw)

>>116604

tbh pic not related FAM

>>116649

>I know very little about their lives before having kids.

i still dont know their birth dates, serious…