/sad/ - Depressed

First off, I'd really try to cut down on the weed. Not that I have any issue with weed, but smoking every day to forget your problems doesn't do you any real good - and you know this.

As for your situation, at least be thankful that you're in school and employed. I've been isolated for about three years now in small town NEETdom. I'm not saying this to go "hurr I have it worse", but rather to tell you that it could be worse, and you need to prevent that for yourself since you REALLY don't want to be in my boat. Are there people at your job? I don't even mean girls, but guys who you can befriend. And protip: the more guy friends you have, the easier it is to meet girls. Do you ask them about their lives? I know you said that you're anxious in social settings, but you have to understand something (and I know it's not as simple as having a "eureka moment") - people like when they're the topic of conversation. Very rarely will someone go, "Ugh, someone asked me about me" - and the ones who do are usually overtly cunty to begin with.

As for the girl in your class, why not ask her to grab a drink on campus/popular place with students? Again, I totally get how it's not that easy, but again: most of it is in your head. Now sure, don't go up to her out of the blue and ask, since that might freak her out, so first you need to put your foot in the door somehow. Maybe find a way to sit in the seat near her in class, and in a casual way, ask her what's up, or better yet, acknowledge something about her (nothing creepy like "nice tits", but something like having the same phone, or commenting on something funny in the room, etc.) Again, people are usually receptive to conversation; life isn't like Mean Girls where every chick is just a raging cunt. As long as you're hygienic, and don't dress and look like a serial killer, you've got a shot, even if you don't think that you do.

>>1108

I'll never understand how neetdom can be a problem for some people. I'd give everything to be a lonely neet again, real world sucks ;_;

>>1108

Unfortunately my job is a family business so the only other employees are twice my age and I rarely see them at work because we have different hours. I sell things to customers and that goes well usually because I only answer questions about merchandise.

The bit about the girl is also kind of hard to do. I go to a community college so there isn't much of anything on campus, sure there are coffee places nearby and those may work too. Anyway,you also said I should try to grab a seat by her but the way our class is laid out she only has one seat to the right of her and a wall to her left. The seat to her side is always full with the same person and the seats nearby are empty too. I do show up to class early, usually before she does, and I could pick the seat next to her but I feel that she may find this worrying or strange and sit somewhere else. I could wait for her to sit down and then move but I may either freak her out or make the person who sits there quite upset (the person who sits in that seat is quite loud and willing to say anything on her mind in a non quiet voice.). I sometimes walk by her on our way to the parking lot after class (it is a night class) and we never speak, would something maybe work then? Idk though, I always found a subtle way to start with girls before but this time my hands are tied and I have to step up and make a move.

>>1110

I enjoyed it for about the first month or two; it was fun binge watching shows I had torrented, lurking the chans, and playing video games, but now almost two and a half years in, it's really, really depressing, and has been for a while. I don't really have any friends, and zero romantic/sex life outside of my right hand… at almost 23, it's just sad to me, especially when my peers are all either finishing college, starting careers, in relationships, or even having children… while I sit alone at mommy's house practically non-existent to the world. Add to the fact that living in a super small town makes it worse since you really can't do anything.

Anyways, this thread isn't about me, but that's why I hate NEETdom. At the same time, I just can't ever seem to get my shit together, so I think I'm doomed to be like this.

>>1112

Alright, so it sounds like the work idea is in the shitter.

>sure there are coffee places nearby and those may work too.

A coffee shop sounds decent enough. If you're going to ask her though, she's going to think it's probably a date - so you really better make your intentions clear if she seems to like that idea from her reaction. Something simple like saying that you think that's she's cute and that you wanted to get to know her would suffice; unless she's insane or a turbo cunt, she'll be flattered.

As for the seating in class, yeah that's sounds tricky. Probably best not to try anything with that, especially because of the autist/bitchy chick.

The part where you sometimes walk by her in the parking lot - that might have some potential. Why don't you - without dropping spaghetti - casually tell her to have a good evening on your way by? Maybe make this a bit of a routine and get some rapport going. Don't be dumb and expect her to profess her lust for your dong afterwards, but use it as an icebreaker to get on friendly terms. From there, she may even feel comfortable enough to ask you what you're up to, and you can improvise from there.

It's good you want to improve your life. If you can try and find her on social media maybe (this girl you like) and have a conversation with her there. I mean she may think you creepy but as far as I see it you have nothing to lose. IF you don't have social media then just try and build up enough courage to talk to her. Being in group projects with them and shit in school helps. I know it's hard talking to new people I feel it to but you just have to try..

>>1113

I don't know how to tell her good evening without loosing my spaghetti, mainly because I have never spoken to her before and I feel like saying that to her would make things strange considering she doesn't even know my name.

>>1115

I would look her up on social media but I don't know her name, I would also prefer to not make her uncomfortable before we have even spoken in person. I know I have to grow a pair and talk to her but I just don't know how to start a conversation.

>>1116

>mainly because I have never spoken to her before and I feel like saying that to her would make things strange considering she doesn't even know my name.

Think of it like this: if she came up to you tomorrow and said "Hi", or told you to have a nice day, would you be freaked/weirded out? It's unlikely. She - and most people - would have the same reaction. It's not like you need to come up with some brilliant plan where you approach her at a 45 degree angle after taking EXACTLY sixteen steps towards her before uttering some poem worthy of Poe… just as you're walking by - assuming she's not super distracted by headphones or another conversation or something - act like a normal human being.

>>1117

I feel like I can say hi no problem but after that I draw blanks. I have no idea how to start a conversation with her. The class is very cut and dry so there is nothing to really discuss about class really.

fuck meet new people.

been friendless since 2012 but been a shut-in neet since 2010.

what have i been doing to make friends?

>reading chatlogs

you do not even have to talk unless you wanna input something.

only school/work forces you to have friends.

am not telling ye to just you know what but try to just be a spectator or a person that is in the background.

if ye wanna just give up - ye better have food and stuff near ye.

this is coming from a couch potato who mostly reads chatlogs and chans.

>>1122

You're an inspiration to me Anon.

>>1121

OP here, I wrote that message but forgot to put OP in the name of anyone was wondering.

>>1113

You know what the difference between your life and mine is? You hate your life, but you don't have to do anything that you don't want to do.

I have to go to work 8 hours every day minimum. If I don't work, I have no money and can not afford to keep living. My parents can not support me and I am not fucked up enough to get NEETbux.

Being a NEET sucks because you have no friends and no prospects. Now imagine if you had no friends or prospects and you had to spend 1/3 of your day doing something you hate five times a week. Now compound that with those 8 hours affecting the other 16 hours of the day - commuting, laundry so I don't get fired for smelling terrible (because that's literally the only reason I do it), showering, making lunch for myself, maintaing my shitty car so that I can get to work, getting to bed on time so I won't be miserable the next day, etc.

I can't feel that much sympathy for you because you are suffering the same things that I am but you get the respite of never having to do things you don't want to do, which is something that I and everyone else deals with on a daily basis.

>>1168

No idea why you feel the need to complain to me about my life compared to yours. You're literally complaining that you're apart of the real life working world while not having much going on; yeah that sucks, but it's hardly like either one of us can claim that our situations are akin to fighting in the trenches.

>you don't have to do anything that you don't want to do.

Glad to know that I don't have to basically to everything short of shitting for my elderly mother who is about as mobile as a 60 year old former offensive lineman.

>>1173

If I was you by this point i'd stop talking to everyone. I'm slowly slipping away from my friends but I say 'we should hang out sometime' etc to not make them suspicious of anything. Some people are best left solitary and you seem like one of those people. (No offence) If I was you i'd stop talking to your ex.

>I know I shouldn't but I don't have too many other options to talk about my thoughts and feelings with others.

I usually get on I could help you out here or you can just post here and talk on here. Quit talking to your ex man she doesn't care. I bet if you wait a week without messaging her she wont message you within that week and if she does it's to complain to you about how she's not sucked enough dick this week.

TL:DR? Don't talk to people who don't care. So don't talk to anyone.

>>1174

I think if I stopped speaking to everyone I would kill myself. I barely speak to anyone now and it makes me loathe existence already but having some semblance of a connection to others somewhat helps keep me grounded to reality.

>>1177

Suicide is probably a shit ton better than this shit.