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cfdbe2 No.8

Hey /sad/. I'm hurting really bad after fighting with my depression and alcoholism this past year. I somehow graduated highschool though, and n9w the only 2 people I coupd ever text about my problems are gone. We never coupd hang out because one of their parwnts were really strick and the other one lived 2 hours away. Now they don't talk to me and I feel like it's my fault. I only told one them I'm drinking… and it destroyed her. Why does no one care? Why does no one ever really stay with me after they've promised to never abandon me? What's…wrong with me?

57d53d No.13

Sorry to hear that, OP.

Don't blame yourself too much. They probably are just worried and don't know how to help. Keep reaching out to them; chances are that they're not sure how to make the first move.

1eef52 No.15

>>13
Thanks for the kind words anon. It's really tough having no one there at all for you you know? I got into an argument with one and she put me down and criticized me for how was feeling and how I was being "over dramatic", which I wasn't. And the other one has always been there and then not there. I'm kind of used to being alone with my demons even though it scares the shit out of me. And they've already tried to help me but just gave up. Even my councilor gave up on me. I guess I'm just not meant to be here. I've never really fit in even though I've had some friends. No matter what I did I didn't belong. It's almost like I'm a mistake or something. Like somehow I got through the filter at the beginning of life.. :/
And being a guy makes this 10 times worse. Girls when they're sad most of the time have a huge support group but guys always are left alone or outcast when they're sad. I just wish someone would hold me and tell it's gonna be alright…oh god…it hurts

57d53d No.17

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>>15
>It's really tough having no one there at all for you you know?
Definitely, man. I'm a shut-in loner myself and it's not much fun most of the time.

>I got into an argument with one and she put me down and criticized me for how was feeling and how I was being "over dramatic", which I wasn't.

Do they usually react like that? Is it possible that they're just having a bad day?

You're not a mistake, Anon. You just haven't found where you belong yet. Do you have any hobbies/interests that you can immerse yourself in? If you do and you're in school, maybe try to talk to someone in a class who seems to be into it too - I know it can be awkward and everyone says to just "go up to a stranger", but to be fair, most people are pretty flattered if approached.

>And being a guy makes this 10 times worse. Girls when they're sad most of the time have a huge support group but guys always are left alone or outcast when they're sad.

>I just wish someone would hold me and tell it's gonna be alright…oh god…it hurts
That feel. I know what you mean.

1eef52 No.18

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>>17
Thanky you man. Not really but her whole attitude suddenly changed and she turned on me and just destroyed me. I'm seiously at loss for words months later. When someone who you've been friends with since 3rd grade just snaps on you and shifts their whole attitude to "its all in your fucking head"…thats….thats damage that can't be undone. I'm a freshman at the local community college but I'm to afraid to talk to people. No one really ever likes me. I like people. But No one ever gives me a chance. In my senior year I took a tech class and got some really great friends but since I graduated they've dropped off the face of the earth. I like tech but my depression…I just cant find interest and meaning in life anymore. I just want to know what it feels like to have someone be like hey you look down wanna talk about it? Or wanna hang out and talk about not in public. Not a single fucking peraon has ever seen how fucking destroyed I am. I'm sorry for the rant

57d53d No.20

>>18
No problem, bro.

Unfortunately things like that happen for seemingly no reason; it's weird, but people can do things that are just plain confusing. Perhaps it's best just to let her go - there isn't much point in trying to keep someone around who doesn't want to be (I say that from learning the hard way).

Does your college have any clubs? I know how hard it is to talk to people, it's something I've always had struggles with too - isolation even when you're around others is awful. Have you reached out to those people from your old tech class? Perhaps they're just busy if they've gone off to school - perhaps they're even in the same boat.

>I just want to know what it feels like to have someone be like hey you look down wanna talk about it? Or wanna hang out and talk about not in public. Not a single fucking peraon has ever seen how fucking destroyed I am.

It's not much, but you've got this place. Believe me, it might take awhile, but you'll have someone if you put yourself out there - that's really the difficult part though.

>I'm sorry for the rant

Don't be. You can do it here. ==FOR FREE==

1eef52 No.22

>>20
I'm letting her go. It hurts but I guess I have too. The people in my tech class were juniors and sophmores. They're still there they just don't ever talk to me on facebook or text me even if I text them. It doesn't have any clubs unfortunately I eish it did. I'm not a suoer nerd or geek. I'm like the opposite. I'm not socially awkward unless forced into an awkward situation where I know people don't like me. This place feels like home man. Thank you

1eef52 No.23

>>20
And people usually like me. I can get along with anyone. But as soon as they get to know me they just drop off the face of the earth. It's fucking weird. I'm cursed or something. Because of that I only have one real friend I've known forever but I can't talk to him about any of this. It's just something I can't do. We're like family. I'm 90% sure he knows I drink heavily which kills me because I don't want to hurt anyone else…just myself.

57d53d No.24

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>>22
I hope that it works out well. Remember to keep an open mind if they choose to want to come back into your life; they could easily be in a bad spot in life, too.

Have you thought about making one yourself? I know THAT must sound terrifying, but you could use the opportunity to become a hub where other people flock to - I'm sure there are people there who'd like a club(s) but just don't have the initiative.

>This place feels like home man. Thank you


We home now, nigga

>>23
Do you think you may come off too strong at first with people? I know when you've been lonely for so long, it's hard not to talk too much/talk about heavy stuff with people since it's all there at the surface.

> It's just something I can't do. We're like family. I'm 90% sure he knows I drink heavily which kills me because

Can you not talk to him because he's closed off or because you can't feel comfortable about it? I'm sure he'd love to help you, if you're close. I know from my own life, it did me a lot of good to talk to mine; he was like my family, too. Don't vomit everything on him at once since it's sure to be overwhelming, but ask him to talk and let him ask questions.

>I don't want to hurt anyone else…just myself.

I know the feeling, but it's impossible to not hurt someone else in the process. It's not about THEM of course, but it's obviously something to keep in mind. You sound like a good dude

1eef52 No.28

>>24
I've only told 2 people ever and those were the two I mentiined earlier. I didn't put it all out there at once, because I know it's alot. I left alot out. When I meet people I don't know what it is I'm just me, no sadness or anything. And I'm pretty good at hiding it so no one knows. Like at parties I can make shit loads of friends but they always flake after a month or two. No reason given.

I just can't feel comfortable. Also it'd destroy him to know any of it.

I really hurt the only two people that tried to help. I jsut want to weld the door to my soul back up and let what's left turn to dust and stop trying to fix it to be honest. I've been trying for a decade to get better. My family life was ruff/awesome like a fucking rollercoaster. One minite parents are fighting next minute they love eachother. To concerned with themselves to see how hurt I was.

I just want to keep drinking until eventually my liver fails or I get alcohol poisoning and can just die and fade away.

I know I sound like an awesome dude. Thank you. I really have worked hard on this act called happiness, starring me.

1eef52 No.29

>>24
I'm sorry if I seem hopeless bro. I just get hostile when people try to talk to me and help me…I guess I'm just afraid of getting better if that's even a thing

57d53d No.30

>>28
>Like at parties I can make shit loads of friends but they always flake after a month or two. No reason given.
Don't blame yourself for that at all, Anon. Parties aren't exactly the best place to find long lasting friends just as bars aren't exactly the best place for chicks who are looking for the father of their future kids or how it isn't the best place for guys to find Ms. Right.

>Also it'd destroy him to know any of it.

Is it possible that this is actually true though? What I mean is that it could be a defense mechanism you've unconsciously got since you already don't feel comfortable.

>One minite parents are fighting next minute they love eachother. To concerned with themselves to see how hurt I was.

I'd look into getting a new councilor/therapist if possible. It sounds to me like that's the main reason you have problem getting close to others now - that's not because you're stupid or anything; it's because of how life was presented to you, unfortunately in this case. It's not your fault that your family is the way it is, but it IS up to you to stop the cycle: not for them, but for you.

>I just want to keep drinking until eventually my liver fails or I get alcohol poisoning and can just die and fade away.

I'll give you a protip: that's not a fun thing to go through and it's a lot harder than it sounds. I know the same feeling of just wanting to die; it's something that's always around for me, too. You've got to have beat it though - you can be happy. It's hard, but it's worth it when you get it.

>>29
Nah, man. It's cool. I'm from the internet - I have thick skin lel.

And it's totally understandable that you're afraid of getting better. Once you get so used to something, it's hard to imagine things changing; like Stockholm Syndrome in certain respects.

cd42d0 No.31

>>30
You're awesome man. I really needed to hear that.. like for real

57d53d No.32

>>31
I don't do this for nothing though, Anon.

I do it for free

cd42d0 No.33

>>32
You're an amazing peraon to do this for free for anonymous strangers on the Internet. Have some jlaw titties

cd42d0 No.34

>>32
==I'M OUT NIG NOG== see ya around. Keep on helping anons in this board, you are truely meant for this kind of stuff

57d53d No.35

>>33
Thanks, man. It's no trouble though; I just want a place for people to talk about their issues without having to worry about mods going crazy.

Thanks for the pic man, but I will have to delete it (just the file) - just don't want it here since we don't need this place ending up under any legal trouble even though I know it's unlikely.

57d53d No.36

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>>34
Later, breh. Come around any time.

Not that I like shilling, but feel free to bring people here if they seem like this would be a good board for them.

cd42d0 No.37

>>35
It's all good homie. I don't want that either. It was the only tit pic I had on my computer right now. Keep being awesome

cd42d0 No.38

>>36
I definitely will

57d53d No.39

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>>37
>>38
Thanks again. I hope things improve. Slowly but surely, if you work on it, you'll see progress.



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