/sad/ - Depressed

I was in that situation in my last year of high school (2010). She was actually in to me as much as I was in to her. We ended up dating for nearly two years after she told me her feelings towards me. However, it did ultimately destroy our friendship and the relationship ended horribly; we haven't spoken in nearly two years, and I doubt that we ever will again - and for two different reasons, neither of us probably want to.

I can't really give great advice on this as I'm jaded as fuck, but you'd probably do yourself a favour to keep distance from her (?) since the likelihood of it ending far outweighs the likelihood of something good happening. With my situation, if I could have done it all over again, I'd have avoided my friend, made sure not to ever get close, and eventually drift away with no hard feelings.

>>1000

OP here

I think you're right. The bad definitely outweighs the good in the situation. I appreciate what you've shared as it has given me a look on the consequences. I'll probably steer clear from attempting a relationship with them.

This recently happened to me. I couldn't bare it any longer so I decided to slowly stop talking to her, we went from talking every single day to once every other week. It sucks. She was such a good friend, but I just couldn't take being that close to someone I was in love with when she would never love me back. When I'm with her I feel heartbroken, when I'm not I feel extremely lonely. I don't know what to do anymore, maybe I should just grab the old rope.

>>999

If I were you i'd do whatever you can to lose feelings for them. Loving a friend who potentially doesn't love you back is a one way trip to a fucked up mind.

>>1000

Fuck man 2 years? I'm jealous. I can't make a relationship last 2 fucking months.

Follow >>1002's advice.

>>1003

To be fair, she's the only girl that I've ever dated, and the only one who has been interested in me. If it wasn't for her, I'd almost certainly still be a kissless virgin at - almost - 23 years old.

>>999

Definitely can relate. But I chose to tell her and then we had a weirdly on-off two months with some great dates before she finally panicked and totally cut me off. Only God knows what she's doing now. Oh yeah, we've been friends for three years beforehand.

>>1011

Probably sucking all the dick she could lay eyes on.

>>999

This picture is so unrealistic I can't even handle my rage.

>>999

>>1000

YOU BOTH GOT GETS!

DON'T YOU FEEL ACCOMPLISHED?

>tfw you wouldn't mind if she cheated on you, because it means she still likes you enough not to dump you.

>>1030

It doesn't mean that she likes you. It means that she knows that she's got a limp-wristed cuckold who will be there to help pay the bills and ask her about her feelings after she comes home from getting fucked by a stronger male.

>>999

I say just tell her your feelings, but make it clear that you're still willing to be friends if she doesn't feel the same way. Send her an email or something.

If she rejects you and you need some time alone, tell her. Make it clear that you just need to ride out your emotions and that it's not her fault. None of this is her fault.

>>1099

>Send her an email or something.

Do not do this, OP. Either tell her in person, or don't tell her at all.

>>1100

Yeah always in person or she'll think you're a pussy and take the next guy who can fuck her over you no matter how nice you are.

>>1100

>>1101

Christ, you guys don't have any female friends whose friendships you actually value, huh. (Although reading OP again, I'm wondering if it's really a ladyfriend we're talking about.)

Regardless, this isn't about "getting da gurl b4 she fucks someone else and doesn't see how nice of a guy you are!!!". This is about treasuring a friendship, but not knowing what to do when those feelings stray into romantic territory.

The reason I suggested using email is because doing it in person makes it seem like you expect a yes or no answer, rather than talking it out and dealing with it until those feelings fade away (which'll take a bit if you don't pine, but will eventually go away).

>>1118

>Christ, you guys don't have any female friends whose friendships you actually value, huh.

No, I'm just not passive aggressive.

>The reason I suggested using email is because doing it in person makes it seem like you expect a yes or no answer

Yeah, because keeping it in limbo, and prolonging awkwardness is better than tearing off the band-aid where they either part, or figure out that it's mutual.

Jesus Christ, it's like 90% of males had their balls clipped off or something.

>>1119

>No, I'm just not passive aggressive.

What does passive aggression have anything to do with what we're talking about here?

>Yeah, because keeping it in limbo

Except it won't be if you're clear about valuing your friendship over a potential relationship.

OP doesn't want to lose his friendship, but OP's in love with his friend. Sex doesn't have any part in this equation yet.