/sl/ - Second Life

>>5221
I'm going to preempt the inevitable here:

Internet relationships are, by and large, a terrible idea. There are a handful of exceptions, and I'm happy for yours, but the majority are terrible and will end poorly, and nobody should ever take a handful of exceptions as reason to believe that it will work for them.

That said, congratulations on your great fortune in being one of those few exceptions.

>>5227
Sadly I see this a lot, and I think the main reason this happens is because online, people tend to hide their true selves, and embellish things a bit. They try to be what they think their partner wants to be, and not who they want to be. This leads to bigger and bigger problems within the relationship, and when they learn they really aren't that person over time, it sours.

That's our strong point, to be honest. We've never really been afraid to admit to our own personal shortcomings to one another, and are able to step back and look at things from an objective viewpoint. It's odd, but because of this, we've only ever had like 2 arguments, one of them over me not spoiling GoT for them, by moral standpoint. Trust me, if you knew me this would be alarming in the least. I'm not known for holding my tongue

Thanks for the congratulations though, honestly I just hope some of you are lucky enough to be an exception to the rule like we are.

>>5221
I'm hoping one day the same will happen to me. I'm not to confident about the odds but one can dream right?

Essentially what happened to me; I went to SL pretty much just for porn reasons initially, years and years ago. One of my occasional fucks introduced me to a friend of hers, who I met by skydiving naked to them, so quite the first impression.

The previous friend she introduced me too turned into an awkward situation, so I took it upon myself to make a better effort and impression, not letting an awkward silence pop up, and we ended up meshing quite nicely.

Then after that, slowly over the next couple months, we talked, and fucked, more, found out more about their RL and being a trap, which kicked my curiosity in and pic sharing was done an we started to talk every day regularly on Steam, the first person from me "secret naughty life" to ever know my "normal" name/identity.

Fastforward 6, almost 7 years of literally daily talking and playing every multiplayer/mmo game under the sun together later, and I'm currently living with them in a committed, openly honest, and very happy so far, relationship and we both couldn't be happier.

Of course, we have a pre-discussed caveat that SL and porn isn't cheating so we both still pop on for friends and fun.

>>5268
It's pretty much the exact same thing with us, except the both of us just dropped off SL after a while. We realized above all else, we just wanted to be together.

I was also never a big fan of lewd, did from time to time, but always thought it was a waste of time for the most part. I was mostly on SL for conversation, and making money. Actually met my SO through a friend while I was trying to be a salesman, and hit it off immediately. *despite the fact I was totally trying to rip them off*

>>5231
I can vouch that most internet long-distance relationships end horribly.

I dated someone who was pretending to be someone else for four years who liked manipulating me. Stole creative things I did too. Mostly, the majority are liars or will lie to you in some way. I'm not quite sure if it's because people don't have confidence in certain things or just find amusement in it.

>>5277
As someone who gets in long distance relationships yet will never allow it to be anything more than that I can say for certain

It's the lack of confidence and the desire to keep the relationship where it is at instead of letting it die

Both of my relationships were started accidentally and through SL.

First one ended because the dude slowly went from cute and well mannered to a rude shadow the hedgehog edgelord.

Second one was was nice and helped me through tough bouts of depression and stuff, but when meetup plans fell through neither of us reacted logically and we kinda repelled each other apart.

I was later shown pastebins of his convos providing clear evidence that he's a compulsive liar and potentially a literal murderer. I guess you could question the authenticity of our relationship.

Don't do drugs, kids.

>>5221
Yes! I met my SO on SL through another friend at some random furfag sandbox.

We've been in a solid relationship for about two years now, and we both graduated university this year with our Bachelors degree. I credit the success I had in school during my final two years to him (and by large debate, vice-versa). I was able to score a pretty generously-paying engineering job, and he's looking at moving over here to work for the same company as a software dev.

I think we're both lucky because we were pretty genuine about ourselves when we met, although being younger, I lied about my age by one year for the first month of meeting him -- but yeah, that was cleared up pretty quick, safe to say he didn't care (and really, I don't think I'd care had he lied about his age by one year for any duration of time; it's really not surprising in the online realm). We started out in a closed-online relationship, but gradually over the first 10 months or so, we thought that was ridiculously stupid. Now we're in a closed relationship in RL, and on SL we fuck our brains out with whoever (it's generally with each other, but we stopped caring about shit we do on SL privately).

Needless to say, we're not living together by any means as we both live in seperate countries on opposite ends of the globe. We see eachother frequently enough in RL anyway, through trips and such -- his turn to visit me next trip (which is soon)! Once we sort out working visas, we'll be looking at getting him over here and possibly working -with- me, but that won't be happening for another little while - it's fun to think about for now any way!

It feels good to know that we're pretty well solidified as far as our relationship goes; we're both well-educated, have high-paying jobs at different ends of the globe. The best of it? I'm 21, he's 22. We're young and we've both got life figured the fuck out.

So yeah, that's my story.