/cuckquean/ - Women Sharing Their Men

It's odd isn't it. I think it mostly comes down to people seeing it as unequal. They don't understand the emotional satisfaction on your side and just see it as the man getting what he wants sexually but the woman not getting the same.

I don't think most people understand cuckolding either, it has nothing to do with gender.

They will probably compare it to something like BDSM, but in that you will still get pleasure through physicality, though it will be more teasing and physical pain. It can be hard for someone to understand the concept "I get off by not having sex."

The ideology of power dynamics in relationships is also rampant. They cannot understand that a woman wants to be led by a confident man, and not because the man is a chauvinist power junkie or the woman is a useless piece of meat.

I wouldn't sweat the whole kink-community-not-getting-it thing. For a group of people who should, logically, be super open-minded, I've not been particularly impressed with most of what I've seen in this regard.

As for women who suddenly change their tune when your boyfriend brings it up, I think there's two possibilities for why it happens:

First, that they think it's abusive or exploitative in some way. People, both men and women, tend to start out with more sympathy for women by default. Not sure how much is a learned behavior and how much is innate. But people will often react to a situation that seems one sided against a woman in a way that they would not react when the genders are reversed.

It's a double standard that treats men callously and treats women like they lack agency, but it happens.

The second is a little more self-involved. There are some women who have their ego wrapped up in their sex lives. It's not that they don't enjoy sex, but there's more to the circumstances than just whether they like and are attracted to a potential partner. The idea that they can 'take' a man from another woman, even if just for a night, is important to them. This is why they are okay with, or even specifically attracted to attached men.

So when this man who has a girlfriend tells her that the girlfriend knows and is even enthusiastic about it, it loses the allure. She isn't making him stray from his woman with her sex appeal. In fact, there's not a woman who can, because seriously - what man would ever leave a woman who wants him to fuck other women?

It's taking away power that she thought she had, which is what this was about for her to begin with.

>>2773

I guess that's probably a lot of it. It took even me a long time to properly get to grips with and I actually have the fetish!

>>2773

Even BDSM is massively understood, but not in the way I thought it would be. My boyfriend reports that after he mentions he's a dom, more than one girl has asked him "so, uh, can you have normal sex too?". It's like the culture at large sees kinky people as burned out sensation-junkies chasing the next high and unable to get off on anything that doesn't involve a basement, a gallon of lube, three trannies and a ferret. Whereas we actually enjoy vanilla sex more these days, it's just that kinky sex is something that's massively satisfying in a different way.

But yes, I think the concepts of psychological, denial-based kinks are even harder to get across. Even many kinky folks don't really get it.

>>2827

I guess kinky folks are just like any other group of folks in that respect, right? But somehow it just strikes home more. I expect vanilla people to not get it. But I guess somewhere in my brain I expect the kink community to be "my people", so their non-comprehension actually gets to me. I'm not going to whinge about that too much more though.

The thing about the implicit power dynamic does ring true. Girls are automatically protected in some ways by our culture - even the ones who don't want to be - so men end up disposable and women end up packed in cotton wool until said women step out of line in a way that isn't expected. And I do know women who measure themselves solely by what they can get away with taking from other people and getting away with it in the open, like it's some kind of fucked-up reenactment of "daddy's favourite big sister".

I guess the sudden removal of the man-stealing thrill combined with the utter confusion of a women enjoying her man sleeping around combines to make a cuckquean almost intimidating in that moment? I don't see how it would be. I guess I can't really put myself in their shoes or I'd already know this.

>>2773

Okay, maybe it's just too much /pol/ speaking here but I'm under the impression we might be under attack by cultural marxists because of our traditionalist and "patriarchal" connotations.

>>2800

>it has nothing to do with gender.

I don't really judge cuckholding but I understand it has too much impact on male's pride and that it might actually be used as a propaganda tool against conservative values maybe even against the White race itself if /pol/ is right.

>>2828

>to make a cuckquean almost intimidating in that moment?

I don't think it's about being intimidating as much as it just removes the interest. Since the man's partner is complicit, there's no ego boost to knowing that she made him stray.

It could also be that this says something about the man's character and that she's intimidated by men who have power in their own lives, but it may be reading too much into it.

>>2859

That does make sense. It's just that the thing that was attracting her isn't there anymore.

My boyfriend looks at it with typical optimism: He doesn't want to sleep with a girl whose only attraction to him is that he'll cheat on his girlfriend, so by removing her attraction she's actually doing him a favour.

>>2772

> Some kinky guys do seem to understand but others seem to think it's some kind of elaborate bullshit test, that it's actually an open relationship and I'll jump on their cock if they're persistent enough.

The worst. The absolute worst. The absolute worst experience I've ever had with a guy like this is when I outright told him "I have no intentions of cheating on my boyfriend" and he refused to accept this and leave.

>>2899

They ruin it. Couple of guys like that happened across my own girl and now she doesn't want to touch the local kink community with a bargepole anymore.