>>136>You are not taking advantage of the fetish of the woman you love for your own sexual pleasure, even though you do get sexual pleasure from it. You are doing this to be a kind, considerate and giving lover to her, only because you know she wants and needs it.I disagree with this advice, even though I think the place it comes from is good and I used to hold the same idea myself.
I own a cuckquean. I can be kind, considerate and giving in my sex but far more often I am harsh, brutal and selfish - and not out of a desire to "give her what she needs".
The topping-to-serve-the-bottom mindset is seductive, but it can often be used to conceal a problem whereby an insecure top makes everything about his bottom and in the process shuts himself and his own needs out of his own mind. This quiets certain kinds of guilt and fulfils certain kinds of hidden contract the top has with himself, but I see it as ultimately dishonest and unproductive for everyone involved.
I fuck other girls because I want to fuck other girls and because I enjoy fucking other girls. I'm not doing it for her. I'm doing it for me. She wouldn't have it any other way.