This is wrong on so many levels.
>OP wants to be tenderly loved
>By someone on fetlife
>Goes on a BDSM playdate
>Without discussing his partner's kinks in depth
>Without agreeing on a safeword
>Hard liquor on a BDSM meetup
>OP doesn't find this suspicious at all, plays along
>"No" is not a safeword
>The guy threatens OP with a knife
>He is fully aware that OP knows his address and his fetlife profile
>OP is prone to panic attacks
>Somehow his anxiety issues don't affect him when he drives to an unknown place in a stranger's car
>Guy forcibly drugs OP with disassociatives
>Then sends OP to the bathroom alone and intoxicated
>The guy abuses OP for a few days
>He just releases OP with all the evidence against him, including his address, possibly his car's number plate, probably a phone number, a social media profile and the messages between them, not to mention his DNA
>OP just sleeps off a badly torn rectum that was abused for 3 consecutive days, without bleeding out or getting a serious e-coli infection, without any medical attention for about a year
One of the main goals of fetlife's existence is to sort out people who don't play according to the rules, making the community safer, and it's members easier to trust, which is the very essence of every sub-dom relationship. Yeah, lets just undermine that with a BS story. People who use BDSM as an excuse to daterape get weeded out after their first time TRYING to pull off shit like this.
I think the story went down somewhat like this
>OP wants someone to baby him
>He's clueless about BDSM but fetlife is his best bet due to his kink and financiaPost too long. Click here to view the full text.